The Mail-Journal, Volume 29, Number 21, Milford, Kosciusko County, 4 July 1990 — Page 15

Rev. Walden to give seminars on grief

By JULIE MOORE Staff Writer

Mid-June marked a difficult time for Rev. Jerry D. Walden of the Wawasee Heights Baptist Church. What would have been Walden’s 16th wedding anniversary fell on the day before Father’s Day. A two-car accident claimed the life of the young pastor’s wife and

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ROAD TO RECOVERY — Rev. Jerry Walden stands in the entrance of the Wawasee Heights Baptist Church near some of the plants he received after the death of his wife and three children. (Photo by Julie Moore)

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their three children along with two other teens on March 10,1989. “Every time you turn around there’s always something to remind you. It’s hard to put away the memories and put things into perspective,” said Walden, nearly 16 months after the accident. Yet as the pastor recalls, it wasn’t the death of his wife and children that caused his deep grief as much as it was the sever-

APOSTOLIC CHRISTIAN MILFORD Jesse Beer, Nelson Beer Will Schleler and Walter Steffen, Ministers . Morning Worship 10a.m. Afternoon Worship 12:15p.m. FILADELFIA EVANGELICAL SPANISH ASSEMBLY OF GOD, SYRACUSE Bi Lingual Services Pastor Domingo Melendez Sunday School 9:30a.m. Sunday Worship 11 a m and6:3op.m. Wednesday Bible Study 6:30 p.m. AWANA Clubs Wednesday 6:30 p.m. CALVARY BAPTIST CHURCH « (Armstrong Road) OSWEGO Roderick V. Smith, Pastor Sunday School 9:30a.m. Morning Worship 10:30a.m. Sunday Evening Worship 6 p.m. Wednesday Prayer Meeting 7 p.m. AWANA Clubs Wednesday 6:15 p.m. Word of Life Club Wednesday 6:15 p.m. FIRST BAPTIST CHURCH OFOSWEGO Rev. Gary Coby, Pastor Sunday School 9:30a.m Worship Service 10:30a.m. WAWASEE HEIGHTS BAPTIST CHURCH (Across From High School) Jerry Walden, Pastor Jim Rodgers, Youth Pastor Doug Smith, S.S. Supt. Sunday School 9:30a.m. Worship 10:30a.m. and6p.m Mid Week Wednesday 7p.m. AWANA Clubs Wednesday 6:30 p.m. BETHANY CHURCH OF THE BRETHREN (US6) F. Wayne Lawson, Pastor Morning Worship 9 30a m. Sunday School 10:30a.m. Wednesday Activity Night 7:30 BETHEL CHURCH OF THE BRETHREN MILFORD Verne H. Leininger, Pastor Arlle Waggy, Bd. Chm. Sunday School 9:00 a. m Worship 10:00 a.m. grace Brethren church LEESBURG Jeffery Hoffard, Pastor Dennis Reed, Moderator Sunday School 10 50a m. Morning Worship9:3o a m. Fellowship 10:30a m. Sunday Evening Worship 6 p.m. Bible Study, S.M.M. & Boys Club, Wednesday 7p.m. NEW SALEM CHURCH OF THE BRETHREN (900NA200E) Robert Rice, Jr., Pastor Sunday Bitile Study 9:30 a.m. Worship Service 10:30a.m. Evening Worship 7 p.m. Bible Study, 7p.m. Wednesday

ing of his relationships with them. “I was at home visiting with a friend at 7:30 in the morning and they already had passed away,” he said. The pain came when “a police officer walked up to me and said, ‘Rev. Walden your wife and all three of your children were killed in an accident this morning.’” Walden, who admits pastors receive very little formal training in giving care to the grieving, returned to the pulpit one month after the accident and found many people willing to listen. “The reason you become functional again is that you don’t want to hurt any more,” said Walden.

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BIBLE SCHOOL GROUP — Milford First Brethren and Milford United Methodist Church will combine in a Vacation Bible School at the First brethren Church July 9-13 from 9 to 11:30 a.m. Children ages three through sixth grade are eligible to participate. To preregister children, call the First Brethren Church office at 658-4382 in the mornings. Each summer several young people from the Brethren churches work in various Bible schools and camps. A group of four young people from the Brethren Church’s National Crusader Teams will help with the vacation bible school in Milford. Using the scripture 1 Peter 5:10-11 as their guide, the team named themselves Steadfast. From left, captain of the team is Paul Sluss from Roanoke. Sluss will be a sophomore next fall at Ashland University in Ashland, Ohio. Tony Price, Charlene Evans and Tiffany Flickinger fill out the group. Price, from New Lebanon, Ohio, will be a freshman at Ashland University. Evans, from Lathrop, Calif., will be a freshman at Delta Junior College in California. Flickinger, from Lanark. 111., will be a sophomore at Ashland University.

CHURCH OF THE BRETHREN NORTH WEBSTER Ralph R. Smith, Pastor Morning Worship 9:30a m Sunday School 10:30a.m. CHURCHOFTHE BRETHREN SYRACUSE Philip Shankster, Pastor Sunday School 9:30a.m. Morning Worship 10:30a.m TURKEY CREEK CHURCH OF THE BRETHREN GRAVELTON Kenneth Swank, Pastor Church School 9:30a.m. Worship 10:30 a.m. SAINT MARTIN DE PORRES CATHOLIC CHURCH SYRACUSE Father Richard Urbine Saturday Mass 5 p.m. Sunday Mass 7a.m., 9a.m., 10:30a.m. Confession — Saturday 4 p.m. Holy Days - Vigil Mass 7 p.m., 7am and 7 p.m. OUR LADY OF GUADALUPE CATHOLIC CHURCH (4th And Main Streets) MILFORD Bro. James Linscott, Administrator Sunday Mass 10:30 a.m. FIRST CHURCHOF CHRIST SCIENTISTS (175 N. Detroit) WARSAW Sunday School 10 a.m. Sunday Service 10 a m Wednesday 7 p.m. GOSHEN FIRST CHURCH OF CHRIST SCIENTIST Service 10:30a.m. Sunday School 10 30a.m. Wednesday Service 7:45 p.m. Reading Room open Monday, Thursday and Friday, 11a.m. to3p.rh. BIBLE CHRISTIAN CHURCH NORTH WEBSTER Lonnie Nichol I, Pastor Sunday School 9:30 a m Worship 10:30a m. & 6p.m. CHRISTIAN CHURCH MILFORD Chris Mahan, Senior Minister Brian Wilcox. Youth Minister Sunday School 9:05 a m. Worship 8 am. 10:15 a.m. Wednesday Bible Study 7 pm. NORTHERN LAKES CHRISTIAN CHURCH Located 14 cottages east of the Tip pecanoe Country Club, EMS 35, Country Club Lane, Lake Tippecanoe Thorpe and Karen Mitchell, Pastors Worship Services Sunday 10 a.m. & 6p.m. Wednesday 7 p m.

“The pressure gets so great it breaks down the walls.” Since then, he has concentrated his doctoral studies on grief and has conducted many seminars to help people better understand what a grieving person is experiencing. In fact, he plans to hold a series of 10 seminars on grief for the community this sumimer at the Wawasee Heights Baptist Church. The seminars are to begin in July and will be conducted along with the regular Sunday evening worship at 6 p.m. “Grief is a process of dealing with’® broken relationship in a manner pleasing to God,” said Walden. Pleasing God means ac-

CHURCHOF GOD NORTH WEBSTER Stephen W. Fouts, Pastor James Davey, Associate Steven Clarke, Associate Men's Prayer Breakfast 6 30 a.m. Worship Ba.m. Sunday School 9 30 a.m. Worship Celebration 10:45 am Evening Service of Praise 6 p.m CHURCHOF GOD SYRACUSE Ron Bruce, Pastor Paul Yeager, S.S Supt Sunday School 9:30a.m. Morning Worship 10:30a.m. Junior Worship 10 30a.m Evening Worship 6 45 p.m ALL SAINTS' EPISCOPAL CHURCH SOUTH SHORE LAKE WAWASEE Vicar: Rev. David L Hyndman Holy Eucharist: 9a.m. FIRST BRETHREN CHURCH MILFORD Paul Tinkel. Pastor Church School 9:15 a.m. Morning Worship 10 30 a.m BYC Sunday 6 30 p.m Mid Week Worship 7 p.m. - FREEDOMCHAPEL NON DENOMINATIONAL (Corner Syra/Webster Rd. & 1000 N) SYRACUSE Ray Shanklin, Pastor Sunday Worship 10 am Wednesday Worship 7 p.m. GRACE BIBLE CHURCH SYRACUSE Dr David R Haifley Pastor Sunday School 9 45 a m Morning Worship 11 a m Sunday Evening Service 7 p.m Wednesday Evening Service 7p m JEHOVAH S WITNESS KINGDOM HALL (East Papakeechie Lake Drive) Sunday Public Lecture 9 30a.m Watchtower Study 10 30 a m Tuesday. Study of Prophecy 7 30 p m Thursday, Ministry School 7pm '’ ■ ’ ■' • . CALVARY LUTHERAN CHURCH (111 W Or ange St ) CROMWELL Laraine Sundin, Pastor Sunday School 9am Worship Service 10 a m GRACE LUTHERAN CHURCH (200 E Main St.) SYRACUSE Richard Dunning Pastor Worship 9:15 am Sunday School 10 30 a.m. TRINITY LUTHERAN CHURCH MISSOURI SYNOD LIGONIER Don Fischer Pastor Divine Service 9am Sunday Schoo’ & Bible Class 10 20 a m

ceptance without harboring anger or questioning faith. “Pleasing God is coming back to that proper relationship with Him.” Because grief is a process, it takes time. “Recovery is coming to the point where you say ‘I don’t understand it, I don’t like it, but I will accept it,”’ said Walden. “The key to coping is being honest with yourself and honest with how you really feel." People falsely believe if they don’t acknowledge the pain it will go away. “If you hurt, you hurt. The best thing to do is get it out in the open, deal with it,” and continue.

MILFORDCHAPEL Mennonite (East Catherine Street) Arthur Hershberger, Pastor Amos Ramer, Deacon Sunday School 10a.m. Worship Service 11 a.m. Sunday Evening Service 7 p.m Wednesday Service 7 p m DEWART LAKE COMMUNITY FRIENDSCHURCH (500E and WON) DEWART LAKE Lou Herchenroeder, Pastor Sunday School 9 a.m Worship 10a.m. (Quaker Hall) Kids in Christ Youth Group Thursday, 7pm WAWASEE COMMUNITY CHURCH OF THE NAZARENE Ron Blake, Pastor Church School 9:30a.m Worship 10 :30 a m Evening Worship 6pm Wednesday Prayer Meeting 7pm ROCK CHURCH INTERDENOMINATIONAL (1 3-A & 1050 N, E. Lake Wawasee) Rev Sarah M. Tuttle, and Dr Gary M Tuttle. Pastors Morning Worship 10a m. Evening Worship 7p m Wednesday Bible School 7 p.m SALEM COMMUNITY CHURCH (1 ’ j Miles Southeast Os Wilmot) Pastor Kurt B. Church Sunday School 9:45 a m Morning Worship 10:30a m Sunday Evening Service6p.m Prayer Bible Study Wednesday 7 p m BURR OAK UNITED METHODIST CHURCH Lawrence Byrnes, Pastdr Sunday School 9 30 a m Worship 10 30 a m SYRACUSE CALVARY UNITED METHODIST CHURCH (SR 13 South) Dr James J Babbitt, Pastor Kim Conrad. Church School Supt Sherry Leedy, Youth Worker Church School 9 30 a m Worship Service 8 30 a m and 10 40 a m fx - CLUNETTE UNITED METHODIST CHURCH John Bell. Pastor Sunday Schqol 9 30 a m .Worship Service 10 30 a m HASTING ISLANDCHAPEL UNITED METHODIST CHURCH Gary Lewis, Pastor Kendall Biller, Supt Sunday School 9 30 a m Worship 10 30 a m Prayer Meeting Wednesday 7 00 p m.

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BUILDING FOUNDATION — Ron Schwartz, front, and Steve Brunjes from the Milford United Methodist Church help rebuild the foundation of an old miner’s cabin in laeger, W.Va.

Milford United Methodists join Appalachia service

Five members of the Milford United Methodist Church joined the Appalachia Service Project Work Camp in McDowell County, West Virginia, on June 10-16. The local group included Amber Brown, Cheryl Brunjes and her son Steve, Ron Schwartz and his daughter Julie McMichael and Rev. Ben Whirledge. The group helped rebuild the foundation of an old miner's cabin in laeger, W.Va. and lived at the local elementary school during the weeklong stay. And, in the mean time, they also built a relationship with the family who lived in the house. Months before their planned departure, members of the group began preparing for their trip to the Appalachia region. In February, Whirledge attended a regional workshop where he learned about the culture and the socioeconomic situation of the peoples of the region. In the town of laeger, coal mining is still the primary industry, and the unemployment rate is near 30 percent. Whirledge said the workshop is designed to help those assisting in the project develop a “Christian attitude toward service." Beyond the workshop, the fivemember group conducted four

UNITED METHODIST CHURCH LEESBURG Pastor Don Shanks Morning Worship 9:30 a m. Church School 10 30a m. UNITED METHODIST CHURCH MILFORD Ben Whirledge, Pastor Dan Brown, Lay Leader Church School 9:15 a.m. Worship 10 30 am. UMYF Sunday 5 30p.m. Bible Study Wednesday 7 p.m MORRIS CHAPEL UNITED METHODIST R. I, PIERCETON Rev. Christine Newman Jacobs Bob Wine, S.S. Supt Ron Campbell, Ass't. S.S. Supt Sunday School 9:30a.m. Worship 10:30 am. UNITED METHODIST CHURCH NORTHWEBSTER Pastor Richard Taylor Worshipß-30a.m. and 10 45a m. Church School 9 30 a m Senior High Youth Group, Sunday. 6 p.m. SAINT ANDREW'S UNITED METHODIST CHURCH SYRACUSE Rev. Richard Bunnell, Pastor Church School 9:15 a m Worships 30 & 10:25a m UMYF Sunday 6 30p m. Communion Wednesday 5 45 p.m Bible Study Wednesday 6pm SOLOMON'S CREEK UNITED METHODIST CHURCH Harold North. Pastor Worship 9am Sunday School 10 a m SYRACUSE UNITED PENTECOSTAL CHURCH (Corner Harrison & Pearl St ) Ronald Cox, Pastor Sunday School 10 a m Praise and Worship Sunday 6 30 p.m. Bible Study, Thursday 7:30 p.m WAWASEE LAKESIDE CHAPEL Harlan Steffen. Pastor Mark Pfeister, Supt Sue Ganshorn, Primary Supervisor Worship Service 10 a m Sunday School Ham b ' * - WAWASEE COMMUNITY BIBLE CHURCH ; MILFORD Tom Speicher, Pastor Sunday School. All Ages, 9:30a.m. Morning Worship 11a m • WORD OF GRACE ' FELLOWSHIP CHURCH (CR3OOE A Rook stool Rd) Allen Giant, Pastor Worship Service 10a m. Bible Study, 7 p m. Wednesday

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study sessions before heading off the the mountains. The study lessons taught the local travelers about the culture of the people of Appalachia and their historical background. Group members also boned up on its basic construction skills before departing. The Appalachia Service Project provides home repair in the mountainous region of Kentucky, Tennessee, Virginia, and West Virginia. Five adults staff a center for the summer in each county where service is provided.

Homecoming at Webster UM

Homecoming Day will be observed at the North Webster United Methodist Church on Sunday, July 8. The preacher of the day will be the Rev. J. Artley Leatherman who had been the pastor from 1943 to 1946. He is now retired from the West Michigan conference and resides in Northern Indiana. A potluck dinner will be held at noon. Guests at the dinner will be other former pastors of the church. During the afternoon, members of the church will conduct tours through the partially completed new church facilities

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These adults go into the community, find homes that need work and make all the arrangements including purchasing supplies and bringing them to the construction site. The program continues for eight weeks with a new group of 60 to 70 volunteers participating each week. It’s structured for youth to come with adult leaders who have construction skills. “It gives young people the chance to experience being in service,” said Whirledge.

being constructed on Epworth Forest Road. Leatherman will preach at both morning services at 8:30 and 10:45 a.m. The Sunday School hour is at 9:30 a.m. Rev. Richard Taylor is pastor of the church. Sayers to speak Wawasee Community Bible Church, Milford, will be holding its father-son banquet on Saturday evening, July 7, at 6:30 p.m. Guest speaker for the event will be former Chicago Bears’ running back Gale Sayers.

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