The Mail-Journal, Volume 27, Number 35, Milford, Kosciusko County, 12 October 1988 — Page 7

Community corner

Brenda Greater, Sean Naish are married on September 17

Brenda Greuter, Milford, became the bride of Sean Naish, Warsaw, at 2 p.m. on Saturday, Sept. 17, in the North Webster United Methodist Church. Rev. 0. Rex Lindemood, pastor of the church, performed the doublering ceremony in the presence of 150 guests. The front of the church was decorated with arrangementsurf carnations and daisies interspersed with baby’s breath. Marilyn Nulf, North Webster, . provided the organ music. , Patty Workman, Syracuse, Was matron of honor. Bridesmaids were Jackie Greuter, Leesburg, sister of the bride; Teresa Schrock, Syracuse; and Leslie Miller, Warsaw. Flower girl was Leah Bennett, Waterloo, niece of the bride, and Ryan Greuter, Avilla, nephew of the bride, was ring bearer.

r • Seniors hear piano selections

Milford Senior Citizens met Sunday, Oct. 9, in the Milford Community Building. There were 44 members and guests who enjoyed the meal which was followed by the afternoon’s entertainment. Mr. and Mrs. Dan Eckelbarger of Goshen played dual piano selections of many “oldies and goodies’’ to everyone’s enjoyment. “Happy Birthday” was sung to Mrs. Bob Groves, Milford; Harold Wantz, Dewart Lake; Elsie Free and Henry Biller, both of Milford. Biller is 93 years young.

Meals for older Americans

Meals for Older Americans are served each day at the following locations: The Scout Cabin, Syracuse; the Pierceton Community Building; Mentone Community Room in the fire station; the Retired Tigers Center, 320 W. Main, Warsaw; Free Methodist Church, Winona Lake; and the Church of the Brethren, North Webster. Meals for Older Americans is for persons 60 years or older and is a chance to meet new friends and enjoy hot, nutritional meals. The sites are opened several hours each day including noon for programs. Meals for Older Americans is not associated with welfare but is for the promotion for better health for the older population. Donations are accepted for the meals. The site directors request all persons planning on attending the meals to make reservations by 1 p.m. the day prior to attending. Phone 457-2631 for Syracuse transportation and reservations. October 13-19 THURSDAY — Pear nectar, Primary Moms plan party Primary Mother’s Club met Monday, Oct. 3, in the home of Myra Christner. There were 12 members present and one guest, Ellen Longenbough. The Halloween party will be held Oct. 22, at 2 p.m., in the Boy Scout Cabin. There will be games, and refreshments. Members will be advised by the contact person as to who the family will be for Thanksgiving and Christmas baskets. Fund raising chairperson, Linda Hickey, showed the project of family bread dough trees and encouraged members to get orders in. A workshop followed with refreshments and fellowship. The next meeting will be Nov. 7 at 7:30 in the home of Pat Farber.

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“Happy Anniversary” was sung to Mr. and Mrs. Robert Groves in observance of their 54th wedding anniversary. The new slate of officers for 1989 are Erma Chambers, president; Alice Coburn, vice president; Bernice Kreider, secretary; and Don Ahrns, treasurer. Cards were signed and sent to members in the nursing home and to Edith Baumgartner in Goshen Hospital. Darlene Miller, Milford, and

Baked chicken quarter, mashed potatoes and gravy, seasoned carrots, soft dinner roll w/margarine, lemon pudding, milk, tea, and coffee FRIDAY — Cranberry juice cocktail, lemon baked cod w/tartar sauce, baked potato w/sour cream, coleslaw, cracked wheat bread w/margarine, angel foodcake w/fruit topping, milk, tea, and coffee " MONDAY — Peach nectar, barbecued pork ribette on bun, potato salad, carrot gelatin

LOUISA'S letter ••

Dear Louisa, When we were first married we fell in with a group we considered very smart. We did all sorts of things that we were taught not to do as children. We thought our parents were old fashioned and didn’t know what was happening in the world. To make a long story short, we came to our senses in our forties and stopped drinking and going to wild parties. But it may be too late. Our chickens seem to have come home to roost. Our two teenagers are completely out of hand and they are ruining their lives and reputations by the way they are living and when we talk to them they remind us how we acted when they were small. What can we do? Distressed — 111. Answer: The best way in which to rear good citizens is by example. Os course there are some children who overcome neglect and parental guidance by hating what they see and overcoming such a home'* life. The only advice I can give you, is to impress your children of the regret and disgust you have for

Best man was Steve Miller, Warsaw. Groomsmen were Tony Greuter, Milford, brother of the bride; Alan Compton, Pierceton; and Karl Psorzkie, Warsaw. Ushers were Rob Richardson and Pat Rozland, both of Warsaw. Immediately following the ceremony, a reception was held at the American Legion in Warsaw. A catered dinner was provided for the guests, and music was furnished by the Clearwater Country Rock Band. Teresa Naish, Warsaw, sister of the groom, was in charge of the guest book. The bride is a 1985 graduate of Wawasee High School and is employed at Zimmer. The groom, a 1985 graduate of Parkersburg High School in West Virginia, is employed at Peabody’s ABC. The couple is now residing at 1919 E. Market Street, Warsaw.

Arloine Schomaker of Greencroft, Goshen, will be hostesses for the November 13 meeting of the Milford Senior Citizens. In fashion With the air becoming brisker, one can sense a touch of fall is not far away. Thoughts turn to sweaters and the styles and colors are unlimited. The mini skirt is giving way to the walking shorts suit. Jacket and shorts features a multicolored button-front vest and rayon shirt.

salad, raisins, milk, tea, and coffee TUESDAY— Tomato juice, cannelloni w/cheese sauce, tossed salad w/red cabbage and Italian dressing, whole wheat bread w/margarine, pineapple, milk, tea, and coffee ’ WEDNESDAY - Caterer’s choice juice, pork loth roast, mashed potatoes w/gravy, steamed broccoli, rye bread w/margarine, applesauce, milk, tea, and coffee

your mistakes. Keep on living as you should and it may make some difference before too long. Louisa Address letters: Louisa, Box 532, Orangeburg, SC 29115. Lockheed workers ill BURBANK, Calif. - At least 160 Lockheed Corp, manufacturing workers, many believed to be involved in building a top-secret fighter jet, have become sick, spawning a whirlwind of questions that begin with the materials used in the plant. ■ • ■ PLANNING MARCH WEDDING — Mr. and Mrs. Edward R. Bogart, 812 S. Front St., Syracuse, announce the engagement of their daughter, Sheila Marie Bogart, also of Syracuse, to Andrew Robert Reed, son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert E. Reed, 122 W. Main St., Syracuse. The bride-elect is a 1986 graduate of Wawasee High School and is currently attending Indiana-Purdue Fort Wayne. She is majoring in restaurant and v hotel management. The bridegroom-elect is a 1984 graduate of Wawasee High School and to employed as truck manager of Showalter Buick GMC, Goshen. A March 4 wedding to being planned in St. Martin de Porres Catholic Church, Syracuse.

■HF f \ -J j**Wh*. < r gm - ■ ISJE Ml * a ■B ■ VUi HHHHHMb JHKHRHHHHH|ME ; ' / ■■■ GENERAL FEDERATION OF WOMEN’S CLUBS LEADERS — Local and area members of the GFWC/IFC (General Federation of Women’s Clubs/Indiana Federation of Clubs) met Saturday, Oct. 8, at the Kosciusko County Fairgrounds in Warsaw for the 13th district 78th annual convention. Approximately 75 women attended the session including representatives from Kosciusko, Elkhart, Fulton, St. Joseph, Marshall, Starke and LaPorte counties, according to Norma Rush, Kosciusko County Federation of Women’s Clubs Secretary. Rush commented that the annual event is a review of the past year and a preview of the upcoming year for the IFC. Pictured in the front row, left to right, are Mary Ruth Swarts, GFWC Indiana Federation of Clubs President; Virginia O’Hair, GFWC/IFC 13th district president; and Janet Davis of Syracuse, Kosciusko County president. In back are Mary Ruth Hinshaw of Warsaw, past county and district 13 president; Norma Rush of Syracuse, Kosciusko County GFWC/IFC secretary; Vivian Kayler of Leesburg, honorary IFC state president; and Doris Gardner of Warsaw, vice president of GFWC/IFC district 13. (Photo by Scott Davidson) 7

Humanly speaking —

Are you a listener?

IBy DAVID L. ROGERS, M.DIV. Director Os Human Resources Who are the people that make listening easiest — those at home? At work? Persons of the same sex? Or the opposite sex? Authority persons? Friends? What happens to block listening — anxiety? Boredom? Anger? Hurf? Jealousy? Criticism? Depression? Fatigue? Excitement? Indifference? There is value in exploring listening difficulties. Some weeks ago listening and expressing were discussed in this column. Additional reflections and guidelines on listening can help communication and strengthen relationships. When listening breaks down misunderstandings, hidden agendas, unresolved conflicts, false assumptions can become overwhelming and can cause deep problems. A word that has meaning in supporting improved listening skills is “empathy.” Empathy means “walking in the other person’s shoes” or getting inside that person’s experience in order to view from his or her perspective. This is not passive but involves attention, respect, trust and interest. Donald Tubesing who has provided insights for dealing with conflicts and for working in crisis has suggested a process that improves relationship through listening. It is called Stop, Look and Listen. STOP TALKING. Don’t compete for attention and stop worrying for the moment about personal feelings. Be quiet, put aside judgments and individuals expec-; tations. Approach the person or a topic with an open mind. Stop and take a deep breath letting go of personal agenda for the moment. Focus on the other person. LOOK: Look the other person in the eye. Show interest in what is happening and get involved in the conversation. Be aware of verbal and nonverbal expressions. Observe and explore without interpeting or judging. Consider the person’s viewpoint. Look at the world through his or her glasses. New feelings and perceptions can be gained. LISTEN. Listen to the person’s words, listen to the body language. Sense the meaning behind the message. Listen to feelings that come through verbal expressions, but also through silences. Reflect on what is heard and tell the other person what is beard. Ask whether this is accurate. Feedback perceptions, “Is this what you mean? Is this what you were feeling?” This gives the other person a chance to say‘‘Yes” or “No.” Be free to examine the times when listening is difficult. Often it’s when one is under pressure from more than one source. To listen well means that one must do some work internally, or it may mean that one must say “I’m having difficulty concentrating now. Let’s set another time to talk.” Think about the skills that are necessary. Tubesing summarizes — show interest, reach out, focus on the partner and respond. One of the beautiful things about listening is that a person who Well def ined Some folks are like blisters — they don’t show up until the work -Tribune, Chicago.

listens well usually receives the same gift from his or her partner. Are you listening!

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Wed., October 12,1988—THE MAIL-JOURNAL

Burritos demonstration for Gamma Sigmas u "

The Gamma Sigma Chapter ESA club members met September 21 in the home gs > Kathy West to year. Linda clones* presented a program on how to make wet burritos. The Burritos were later served to the group. A jewel pin ceremony was held for Shari Lambert, Deb Carlson and Monica Lambright. The annual nut sale will begin soon as will the sale of the candy wreaths. Money from these projects wills go to St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital. New officers for the 1988-89 _year will be: President — Kathy West; vice president — Cyndi Thornburg; recording secretary — Chris Kline; corresponding secretary — Sandy Cobbum; Ladies ertjoy breakfast Breakfast was enjoyed at the Oil Lamp in New Paris on Saturday morning, Oct. 8, with the compliments of Mrs. Elmer Haab and Mrs. Andrew Kammerer. Those in attendance were Mrs. Louis Rassi, Mrs. Richard Hunsberger, Mrs. Frank Beer, Mrs. Michael Reuter, Mrs. Walter Wuthrich, Mrs. Eli Gerber, Mrs. Landon Kasbaum, Mrs. George Lehman, Edna Lehman, Esther Getz, Edith Baumgartner and Tammy Schrenk.

treasurer —Jenny Lewis. The next scheduled meeting xwill be October 19 in the home of Deb Carlson.

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