The Mail-Journal, Volume 26, Number 35, Milford, Kosciusko County, 14 October 1987 — Page 14

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THE MAIL-JOURNAL — Wed., October 14,1987

Bus n y /A jfl ’ K 1 fIL »-. 1 jfl Ju fr JN& laXjtl Dflfl SALUTE TO WORKING WOMEN — The Warsaw Business and Professional Women are accepting names of ‘Outstanding Working nuiiuH. The search is eonntj'-'vHc and the eeieeted person will proceed to the state level. The "Outstanding Working-Woman' will be selected at a meeting to be held on October 20 at 7:30 p.m. in the First United Methodist Church in Warsaw. Committee members are shown. Seated, left to right, are Olga Butler and Charlotte Morts. ' Standing, left to right, are Ruth Hutchersin. Dora Jane Engle and Beth Hold. Not present for the photo were committee members Lee Fraughiger and Pauline Holderman.

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Everyone who likes the idea of throwing away tax deductions for interest payments stayed to have their picture taken. — - : - , -j ; '■ ' .' • ■ ■ ' ■.■ ■ ■■■ ■■’ ' / ■ ■ ■■ ■ ' .■ | ■■ ••- e Everyone else is applying for a Home Equity Line of Credit at Lake City Bank. Tax reform is eliminating interest deductions on consumer loans. And there aren’t too many people who like that idea. But Lake City Bank has the answer... Home Equity Line of Credit. Not only does this line of credit let you access up to SIOO,OOO, but under the new tax laws, the interest you pay can be tax deductible. ( You can buy a car, take a vacation, make home improvements - anything you wish any time you wish - just by writing a check. There are no annual fees. And because you may be able to deduct your interest payments, having a Home Equity Line is more sensible than having an auto loan, a vacation loan, and a home improvement loan. Check with your tax counselor. Then fill out the coupon below and we’ll send you your Home Equity Line of Credit application. Or call 267-6144. It may be the last application you ever need to fill out! ] Please send me a Home Equity Line of Credit application. ] I Name h I I I Address I .City/State/Zip I <v I Return to Lake City Bank, P.O. Box 1387, Warsaw, IN 46580 ] Qake City Bank Warsaw • Mentone • Milford • North Webster • Pierceton • Roann Silver Lake • Syracuse • Wabash • Winona Lake Member FDIC 115th Year Equal Housing Lender

Winners at Indiana State Fair

The following Kosciusko County 4-Hers won awards at the Indiana State Fair in August: Garden — (green beans) Chad McClintic, white; (carrots) Chad McClintic, blue; (eggplant) Sharon Gerencser, blue, merit, Eric Toetz, blue, merit; (kohlrabi) Michelle Demske, red; (muskmelon) Rodney Shepherd, red; (round large watermelon) Michelle Demske, red; (white onions) Michelle Demske, white; (yellow onions) Rodney Shepherd, red; (peppersmango type) Sharon Gerencser, blue, Chad McClintic, red; (pumpkin, zucchini, cocozelle or similar varieties) Michelle Demske, red; (tomatoes, red-for canning-red ripe 5) Chad McClintic, blue; (tomatoes, red-for market-pink ripe) Sharon Gerencser, red, Rodney Shepherd, white; (potato, white, long-type) Rodney Shepherd, white Columbia Sheep — (ewe lamb) Penny Williamson, seventh; (pair of lambs) Penny Williamson, fifth; (yearling ewe) Penny Williamson, fourth and fifth; (pair of yearling ewes) Penny Williamson, third; (sr. ewe showmanship) Penny Williamson, third Hampshire Sheep — (ewe lamb) Marta Helter, 12th and 16th; (pair of lambs) Marta Helter, ninth; (yearling ewe)

Presentation to be made by Dr. Cross

To help women understand the need for screening and early detection of breast disease, Dr Richard Cross, a Fellow of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology, will present “Stand Ready to Defend Your Health", an informed discussion on breast disease. The presentation will be Monday, Oct. 19, at 7:15, in the REMC building, 523 S. Buffalo, Warsaw. Breast disease is one of the most common conditions among women today. This year, it is estimated that approximately 114,000 women will learn they have breast cancer, one third of them under 50 years old. Other women will find they have fibrocystic disease, or “lumpy breasts” — normal for them, but an important factor to be aware of. For many years, the rate of deaths from breast cancer has remained stable. However, with the new methods of early detection and screening, these statistics should be going down. In an effort to help women understand the why’s and how’s of screening. Dr Cross will give an audiovisual presentation of the modern methods of screening, including

Marta Helter, fifth Oxford Sheep — (ewe lamb) Darren Kline, 11th; (jr. ewe showmanship) Darren Kline, third Rambrouillet Sheep — (ewe lamb) Susan Brubaker, sixth and seventh; (pair of lambs) Susan Brubaker, fourth; (yearling ewe) Susan Brubaker, eighth and ninth; (pair of yearling ewes) Susan Brubaker, fourth; (sr. ewe showmanship) Susan Brubaker, first Western-type Colt and Gelding — (56” and over-exhibitors born ’6B, ’69, ’7O) Britton Harmon, second Western Pleasure — (jr. animal 50” and under 56”, exh. born ’73, ’74) Charity Trump, ninth; (under 56”) Tim Carpenter, sixth; (costume historic personality theme) Tim Carpenter, second Western-type Mares — (under 56”-all ages) Tim Carpenter, ninth; (56” and over, 3- and 4-year-olds) Britton Harman, third Shorthorn and Polled Shorthorn — (steer) Mike Bishop, 17th In the open class divisions, the following Kosciusko County residents received awards: Holstein Fresian — (intermediate) John R. Stookey. 10th, (summer jr. yearling) Jack and Darla Stookey, first; (jr. yearling) John R. Stookey, second. Jack and Darla Stookey.

mammography, followed by a discussion with the audience. .Prom 1965 to 1975, 57,000 men lost their lives in the Vietnam War In the same ten years. 330,000 women lost their lives to breast cancer Discussions and presentations such as these are rieciened to help women reduce

A hike up Diamond Head

| By BERNIECE DWYER The most famous landmark in the Hawaiian Islands is Diamond Head —a dormant volcano on Oahu. It lies on the southeastern edge of the famed Waikiki beach and resort area of Honolulu. Because of its prominence, it serves as a point of direction — one is either going toward Diamond Head or away from it. On its crater floor of 729 acres are Honolulu's Civil Defense headquarters and a military installa tion. The Clean Air Team, an environmental volunteer group, sponsors a hike to the top of Dia mond Head each Saturday morn-

11th; (cow 5 yrs.) Jack and Darla > Stookey, second; (aged cow) j Jack and Darla Stookey, first; (dry cow aged) Jack and Darla Stookey, first and second; (dry • cow, 3or 4 years old)) Jack and I Darla Stookey, fifth; (sr. best i three females) Jack and Darla Stookey, fifth; (jr. 2-yr.-old cow) I John R. Stookey, first, Jack and Darla Stookey, fifth; (cow 2 yrs.) ■ Jack and Darla Stookey, fifth and 10th, John R. Stookey, seventh; (cow 3 yrs.) Jack and Darla ; Stookey, seventh; (cow 4 yrs.) i Jack and Darla Stookey, fifth Indiana Holstein Classes — (intermediate heifer) John R. Stookey, eighth, (summer yearling) Jack and Darla Stookey, first; (jr. yearling) John R. i Stookey, second; (cow 2 yrs. jr.) John R. Stookey, first, Jack and i Darla Stookey, fifth; (cow 2 yrs.) Jack and Darla Stookey, third and eighth, John R. Stookey, fifth; (cow 3 yrs.) Jack and Darla [ Stookey, fifth; (cow 4 yrs.) Jack and Darla Stookey, third; (5 yrs. aged) Jack and Darla Stookey, second; (aged cow) Jack and Darla Stookey, second; (aged cow dry) Jack and Darla ’ Stookey, first and second; (dry cow, 3-4 yrs.) Jack and Darla Stookey, second; (sr. three best females) Jack and Darla Stookey, fifth ; Tractor Pulling contest — (7000 modified class) Steve Hettier, - Claypool, seventh; (9000 . modified) Steve Hettier, 13th

their own risks of being one of the statistics The presentation is jointly sponsored by Dr. Cross and the Warsaw American Association of University Women For additional information contact Sylvia Ryan 269-5228 or Vera May Felts 267-4508.

ing —a distance of 760 feet. There were about 50 tourists on this Saturday morning, and we were divided into two groups. The trail up the slopes of the volcano zigzags and hairpins for almost a mile. A railing is welcome because the crumbling lava and rocks make for poor footing. The flashlight, which we were told to bring, is used for underground passages. One person on the way down gave me a good bump as we met in a tunnel. She apologized in the dark. A lookout platform beneath the summit permitted me to rest and enjoy the view from this point. The trail continued up a steep 99-step stairs, followed by a spiral stairs in a vertical tunnel. The reward of this challenging climb is a 360-degree view and a badge which reads “Official Diamond Head Hike —1 Got to the Top." The 99-step stairs was lowered by helicopter several years ago. It is evident the engineer who placed it never intended to climb it! Going down was as difficult as the climb up. One had to choose each step and hang to the railing to check one's momentum. Thanks to my sturdy Niki’s, I reached level ground with all limbs intact. This is one thing in Hawaii I never intend to do again!

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Tough love: Not a quick fix

IBy CARLA GAFF Staff Writer

“She’s a nice little child, until you c-l-o-s-e the door at home,” stated an anonymous parent affiliated with the local Toughlove group. “I feel like she’s just on the edge of trouble. ” TL is a support group started by Phyllis and David York of Pennsylvania to help parents cope with children on drugs and alcohol. The Wawasee group was started 3 r 2 years ago and meets every Thursday evening at 7 p.m. in the Lakeland Youth Center. The group has attempted to start satellite programs in Warsaw, South Whitley, and Angola, and is currently holding a number of special programs in conjunction with National Toughlove Month School administrators, doctors, ’ rehabilitation administrators, > police, and others serve to inform the group and participate during ' meetings. “Some people think it's a quick fix,” commented TL advocate 1 Sandy Cobbum. “They cbme for awhile, get temporary help and then leave.” : The group is an anonymous I group for parents and guardians only, adolescents and children > are excluded Members discuss i the things they have gone through and may suggest things that have > worked for them. i “We’re not counselors or experts on this,” commented San j dy, “but we re willing to explain what has worked for us, and hope I that others can glean something from it that will help them in , their situation.” , The national group distributes pamphlets, books and self-helps to members all over the United s States and has 10 specific beliefs, B which Ore: Family problems have roots and supports in the . culture; parents are people too; parents’ material and emotional II resources are limited; parents and kids are not equal; blaming I keeps people helpless; kids' behavior affects parents

parents behavior affects kids; taking a stand precipitates a crisis; from controlled crisis comes positive change; families need to give and get support in their community in order to change, and the essence of family life is cooperation, not togetherness. The Wawasee group affects families from all over the county and often has persons from Warsaw, North Webster, Milford, Goshen, Leesburg, Mentone, Fort Wayne, Nappanee, and Ligonier in attendance. There are generally 20-40 persons present, with close to 100 members. The local group has members with children suffering from definite substance abuse problems, as well as members who are simply available to offer moral support as concerned citizens. Many parents have already gotten assistance from the Big Bother/Big Sister organization, Youth For Christ, patrol officers, pastors, counselors and many others, but have found that they still are unable to keep their child out of the drug scene. Taking a stand is the essence of TL and it is very difficult to do because it goes against what society’s “experts” have told people to do, commented York in his book entitled, ‘Toughlove.’ In recent decades parents have been taught to listen, to be open, to talk to their children, to be understanding and to be very conscious of how their children are feeling. However. TL experts now state that society has taken this “childcentered” approach to an extreme. Many children raised with such an approach do not listen to anyone, are closed, don’t talk to or understand their parents, and are only conscious of how they, themselves, feel. Advocates claim, this in turn has created a society with many self-centered, self-indulgent, selfish and lonely children and has also caused many parents to be at the end of their ropes as they find their children out of control. A recent national level poll showed 66 percent of all high school seniors try an illegal drug before they finish high school. Forty percent of all seniors report that they have done some heavy drinking during the last two weeks, while 33 percent of all seniors regularly abuse drugs. The drug most often used is alcohol, then marijuana, while stimulants are next in line. The poll also noted that teenagers in America have one drug related accident every five seconds and that the average beginning age for substance usage is 12>/ 2 years. Substance abuse has no respect of race, age, religion or financial background. It happens in twoparent and single parent families all over the World. Many parents have taken their children kicking and screaming into drug rehabilitation centers — left them there for six weeks - carted them home and found them to be using drugs again within three months. “I don’t think a person should

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go into a rehab center for a month or six weeks, but should go in until they’re cured;” commented local TL member Tom Prickett. He went on to explain that there are now rehabilitation centers that actually keep people until they’re cured no matter how long that may be. He also said the cost may be no higher than other centers. Generally rehabilitation center help can be turned in on one’s insurance, although a maximum amount is set. But even though a parent may take his 01 het child to a center, he or she may still find the assistance of Toughlove extremely beneficial, and most centers recommend a TL group to parents. “One of the neat things about Toughlove members, is that we’re always evaluating our situations and making changes, and then improving on them,” said Prickett. Anyone in the area needing more information may call Sandy Cobbum at 457-2249 or Tom Prickett at 457-5422. Grandparents to revisit schools Schools across the state will be hosting special activities for grandparents and other senior citizens as Indiana Grandparent Week is celebrated October 19-23. Sponsored by the Indiana Department of Education, the program encourages schools to invite real or proxy grandparents to visit the classrooms for exchange and sharing between young and old. Superintendent of Public Instruction H. Dean Evans said, “I encourage all schools in Indiana to open their doors to grandparents and seniors to permit them to see firsthand what is happening in today’s classrooms.” “When the young and old have the opportunity to interact and spend quality time together, the experience leaves a lasting mark on both lives,” Evans added. “It is important that all Hoosier youngsters become more aware of the physical, mental and emotional changes experienced during the aging process.” The chief state school officer noted Grandparent Week is an excellent opportunity for educators to emphasize that senior citizens have a wealth of knowledge and experience to contribute to the learning process. Evans said, “This well-spring of knowledge should be tapped and shared with school children of all ages, not only during Grandparent Week, but throughout the school year.” Governor Robert D. Orr called on communities and schools to honor, involve, and learn about their senior citizens and to recognize the potential of their impact on education as he proclaimed October 19-23 Indiana Grandparent Week.