The Mail-Journal, Volume 26, Number 34, Milford, Kosciusko County, 7 October 1987 — Page 3
Obituaries
Former Syracuse musician dies in California Sunday
Marvin (“Rocky”) Stone, 69, 30265 Carmel Rd., Sun City, Calif., 92381, died Sunday, Oct. 4, 1987, at 6 a.m. California time. Death was of an apparent heart attack. Stone moved to Syracuse from California in 1965 and then moved back to California six months ago. Stone was a musician who got his break in 1937 when he started doing stage shows with cowboy star Gene Autry. In 1939, he played backup for Tex Ritter in a recording session. He went on to become a well-respected stringartist, especially for his fiddle playing, traveling throughout the West Coast. He was guitarist with the Rocky Stone Trio. He retired from his professional career in 1957. Stone was a member of the Living Gospel Church in Nappanee. Surviving are his wife, Claudine Gose Stone of Sun City; one daughter, Mrs. Susan Davis, California, and four grandchildren. He was preceded in death by one brother. Services will be held tomorrow, Thursday, at 1 p.m. in Sun City Bible Church with burial following in the Veterans National Cemetery, California. Evans Brown Mortuary, Sun City, was in charge of arrangements. Ira Shue Leslie Ira Shue, 67, r 2, Leesburg, died at 2:15 p.m. Wednesday, Sept. 30,1987, at 2:15 p.m. in Rush Memorial Hospital, Rushville. Death was unexpected. He was the son of Sherman and Catherine (Davis) Shue and was born on December 4, 1919, in Oswego. He married Marjorie Geiger on June 13, 1943. She survives. Shue had been a lifetime resident of the Oswego area. He was a member of the First Baptist Church, Oswego, a Navy veteran of World War 11, member of the Warsaw American Legion, and a charter member and past president of the Mid-Lakes Lions Club, Oswego. In 1982, he retired from the Dana Corp., the old Weatherhead Co. in Syracuse, after 30 years where he had been a tool grinder. For more than 20 years, he and his wife were coowners and operators of Shues’ Curiosity Shop in Oswego. Surviving with his wife are two sons, David Shue, Warsaw, and Greg Shue, Oswego; seven grandchildren; and one brother, Ray Shue, Warsaw. He was preceded in death by three brothers and two sisters. Services were held at 10:30 a m. Saturday, Oct. 3, in the First Baptist Church, Oswego, with Rev. Roy Mickley, pastor, officiating. Burial followed in the Oswego Cemetery. Titus Funeral Home, Warsaw, was in charge of arrangements. Memorials may be made to the First Baptist Church, Oswego.
Hospital Notes
Goshen TUESDAY, SEPT. 29 Admissions James R. Stoliker, r 5 box 122, Syracuse Richard D. Smith, PO Box 184, Milford Dismissals Janine E. Smeltzer and infant son, Carl Eugene, 513 S. Main Street, Syracuse WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 30 Admissions Gerold L. Boger, r 1 box 18, Syracuse Rhonda E. Becher, r 2 box 573, Syracuse Christopher Ousley, r 1 box 256-J, Leesburg Dismissals Rhonda E. Becher, r 2 box 573, Syracuse James R Stoliker, r 5 box 122, Syracuse Jennie Linville, r 1 box 6, Milford THURSDAY, OCT. 1 Admissions Jerry Brandon, PO Box 133, Leesburg , Dismissals Wuthrich, PO Box 487, Milford FRIDAY, OCT. 2 Dismissals Gerold L. Boger, r 1 box 18, Syracuse Jerry W. Brandon, PO Box 133, Luann ß Huff, r 1 box 139, Syracuse
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Ruben Schmucker Ruben Schmucker, 79, r 3, Beach Rd., Nappanee, stepfather of Homer Miller, Milford, pressroom foreman of The Papers Incorporation, died Friday, Oct. 2, 1987, at 5 a m. at his home. He had been in failing health since February. Born in Nappanee on October 9, 1907, he was the son of Jacob and Elizabeth (Yoder) Schmucker. His first marriage was to Mary Rink on August 27, 1927. She preceded him in death on March 8, 1968. On June 26, 1971, he married Polly Miller. She survives. Schmucker had beena lifetime resident of the Nappanee area. In 1946, he started and still operated Schmucker’s LP Gas Store west of Nappanee. He was also a member of the Nappanee United Methodist Church. Additional survivors include one daughter, Mary Lou Truex, Nappanee; one gon, Clifton (Butch) Freel, Albuquerque, N.M., one stepdaughter, Mrs. Walt (Betty) Ferrell, Foraker; four additional stepsons, Walter Miller and Vernon Miller, Nappanee, Andrew Miller, Bremen, Lloyd Miller, New Paris; two grandchildren; one greatgrandson; and 15 stepgrandchildren. Five brothers and one sister are deceased. Services were held Monday, Oct. 5, at 10:30 a.m. in the Nappanee United Methodist Church with Rev. Nancy Schoff and Rev. James Willyard officiating Burial followed in the South Union Cemetery, Nappanee. Thompson & Yoder Funeral Home, Nappanee, was in charge of arrangements. Memorials may be made to the Nappanee United Methodist Church building fund. Viola Homes Services will be held tomorrow, Thursday, at 2:30 p.m. in Brenneman Memorial Missionary
Christopher M. Ousley, r 1 box 256-J, Leesburg MONDAY, OCT. 5 Admissions Bert L. Plew, PO Box 129, North Webster Joseanne Jernigan, r 1 box 31, Milford KCH MONDAY, SEPT. 28 Admissions Roy C. Spry, North Webster Dismissals Marlena G. Harman, Leesburg WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 30 Admissions Brenda L. Green, Leesburg Dismissals Roy C. Spry, North Webster THURSDAY, OCT. 1 Admissions ’ \ Carol J. Gamble, Leesburg Jennifer A. Wentworth, Leesburg FRIDAY, OCT. 2 Admissions Marlena G. Harman, Leesburg SATURDAY, OCT. 3 Admissions Dorothy I. Gary, North Webster Dismissals Jennifer A. Wentworth and instant son, Leesburg SUNDAY, OCT. 4 Dismissals Brenda L. Green and infant ton, Leesburg
Church, SR 15, Goshen, for Mrs. Viola Homes, 65, 628 Pringle Drive, Goshen. She died Monday, Oct. 5, 1987, at 8:15 a.m. in Goshen Hospital following an extended illness. She was born on August 9,1932, in Elkhart County, the daughter of Mose and Goldie (Miller) Mast. On October 23, 1976, she married Walter A. Homes. He survives. Mrs. Homes was employed with the former IXL Co., and for 10 years with Steury, Inc., and was a member of the Brenneman Memorial Missionary Church. Surviving arc her husband; one daughter, Mrs. Dan (Shirley) Lung, Syracuse; three sons, John Mast, Syracuse, James Mast and Paul Mast, both of Goshen; a stepson, Paul Homes. Goshen; eight grandchildren; one stepgrandchild; seven sisters, Mrs. Burl (Ella) Warren, North Webster, Edith Avery and Mrs. John (Dorothy) Blackport, both of Syracuse, Mrs. Charles (Mary) Defreese, Grand Rapids, Mich., Mrs. Randy (Lillian) Oaks, Elkhart, Mrs. Carl (Evelyn) Pendill, Nevada, Texas, and Irma Yakim, Goshen; and six, brothers, Tobe Mast, Goshen, Perry Mast and Eli Mast, both of Syracuse, Leßoy Mast, Ligonier, Lloyd Mast, Bristol, and Alva Mast, Lakeland, Fla. Friends may call today, Wednesday, from 2-9 p.m. at Yoder-Culp Funeral Home, Goshen, and from 1:30-2:30 p.m. tomorrow at the church. Rev. Marvin Engbrecht and Rev. John Blosser will officiate at the service. Burial will be in Pleasant View Cemetery. Jean Gregory Mrs. Jean Gregory, 55, r 1, Pierceton, sister of Mrs. Denny (Lucinda) Bowling, North Webster, died at 7:25 .p.m, Sunday, Oct. 4. 1987, in
MILFORD Man IN GOSHEN HOSPITAL Richard Smith, Milford, was a patient in Goshen Hbspital since Tuesday, Sept. 29. He was released this morning, Wednesday, Oct. 7, after undergoing treatment JULIE HEPLER HASSURGERY Julie Hepler, Syracuse, under went surgery yesterday, Tuesday, Oct. 6, in Kosciusko Community Hospital. She will remain in the hospital the remainder of this week and is in Room 427. Births WENTWORTH, Evan James Mr. and Mrs. Steven (Jennifer) Wentworth, r 1 box 121, Leesburg, are the parents of a son, Evan James, born at 9:18 p.m. Thursday, Oct. 1, in Kosciusko Community Hospital. He weighed six pounds, two ounces, and measured 19 inches long. Evan James has a sister, Allison Jane, four. Maternal grandparents are Mr. and Mrs. Mahlon (Patricia) Jacob, Walkerton. Paternal grandmother is Jane Wentworth, Pittsfield, Mass. Paternal greatgrandmother is Alice Helliwell, also of Pittsfield. COQUILLARD son Mr. and Mrs. George (Mandie) Coquillard, 113 W. Carroll Street, Syracuse, are the parents of a son born Sunday, Oct. 4, in Goshen Hospital.
Memorial Hospital in Fort Wayne. She had been in ill health for one and one-half years. She was born in Allen County, Ky., on February 3, 1932, the daughter of Adam Dewey and Mary (Meador) Brown. On June 5, 1951, she married Wendel Gregory. He survives. For more than 25 years, she owned and operated Jean’s Beauty Salon in Oswego. She was a member of the First Baptist Church, Oswego. In 1953, she moved from Tucson, Ariz., to the Warsaw area. Surviving with her husband and sister are two daughters, Mrs. Linda Sausaman'and Mrs. Ken (Brenda) Collins, both of Warsaw; four grandchildren; three additional sisters, Mrs. Harold (Betty) Gregory, Gallatin, Tenn., and Mrs. Frances Slone and Mrs. Joyce Barrett, both of Scottsville, Ky.; and one brother, Donald C. Brown, Columbia City. She was preceded in death by one brother and one sister. Services were held today, Wednesday, at 1 p.m. in Titus Funeral Home, Warsaw, with Rev. Roy Mickley, pastor of the Oswego First Baptist Church, officiating. Burial followed in Oswego Cemetery. Margaret Nine Graveside services were held this morning, Wednesday, at 11 a.m. in Oakwood Cemetery for Mrs. Margaret Nine, 77, 321 North Cedar St., Warsaw. The mother of Mrs. William D. (Linda) Haney, Syracuse, she died unexpectedly at 8 p.m. Sunday, Oct. 4, 1987, in Kosciusko Community Hospital. Mrs. Nine was born in Hicksville, Defiance County, Ohio, on June 22, 1910, the daughter of Thomas and Sarah (Gilbert) McCalla. On December 24, 1929, she married Ralph Nine in Hicksville. He preceded her in death on July 7,1964. She was a member of the First Baptist Church, Warsaw, and the Senior Citizens, both of Warsaw and Pierceton. Also surviving are two sons, Russell L. Nine. Claypool, and Donald Nine, West Palm Beach, Fla.; one brother, Forrest McCalla, Newton, Kan.; seven grandchildren; and six greatgrandchildren. Officiating at the service was Rev. Lester Young. Chamness Funeral Home, Warsaw, was in charge of arrangements. Charles E. Hand Charles E. Hand, 89, r 9, Warsaw, stepfather of Betty Jean Hall, Milford, died Monday, Oct. 5, 1987, at 3:30 p.m. in Mason Health Care Center. He had been ill for two weeks. Hand was born on June 25,1898, in Bourbon, the son of William and Lula (Fribley) Hand. He married Minnie Helbling in 1919. She died in 1942. On June 18,1966, he married Grace Eherenman.
GREEN son Mr. and Mrs. Bradley (Brenda) Green, Leesburg, are the parents of a son born Wednesday, Sept. 30, in Kosciusko Community Hospital. Cards Os Thanks We wish to express our thanks to our many friends and relatives for their prayers and other expressions of sympathy and love during the Illness and passing of my husband, Lloyd Hunter. We also thank Pastor Walden for his comfort in our hour of need. Donna Hunter And Family
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She survives. A resident of Kosciusko County most of his life, he was selfemployed, member of the Warsaw American Legion, and a veteran of the US Army in World War I. Surviving along with his wife and stepdaughter are four sons, Ferdinand Hand, Waldron, Ark., Leon Hand, Fort Wayne, Bill Hand and John Hand, both of Warsaw; two additional stepdaughters, Mary Lou Smith, Warsaw, and Judy Anil Cumberland, Akron; one stepson, Robert Eherenman, Warsaw; 11 grandchildren; and 19 greatgrandchildren. He was preceded in death by one son, one daughter, and one stepson. Friends may call today, Wednesday, at McHatton-Sadler Funeral Home, Warsaw, from 2-4 and 7-9 p.m. Services will be held there tomorrow, Thursday, at 2 p.m. with Rev. David Colgan and Rev. Mike Basden officiating. Burial will be in Rice Cemetery, Elkhart.
Humanly speaking —
Should I spank my kids?
By RICHARD E. RUHROLD, PH.D. Staff Psychologist Bowen Center Many parents struggle with the question of whether or not they should make use of physical punishment. There is much debate today as to whether the old rule “spare the rod and spoil the child” is an appropriate way of thinking about attempts to shape children’s behavior. In the nation of Sweden it is against the law for a parent to strike a child, and there is a growing trend in this country toward limiting the use of physical punishment at school and at home. These changes come hand-in-hand with a growing awareness of just how commonplace is the physical abuse of children in the United States — including Indiana! It is nqt a violation of the laws of our state for parents to spank their children, assuming that the parent uses restraint and is “reasonable” in the use of this kind of punishment. “Reasonable” is usually interpreted by Child Protective Services authorities as spanking used only occasionally and limited to the use of mild force applied with an open hand to the buttocks and leaving no bruises or other marks. Hitting any other body part, such as the face, head or back, greatly increases the risk of seriously injuring a child. Also, parents who decide to use spanking, would do well to limit themselves to one blow only. If we give ourselves permission to strike more than once, it makes for an increased risk of losing control. One blow becomes two, two become three, three become four, and the results can be rather ugly. Assuming that a parent is capable of limiting himself/herself to using physical punishment in a manner consistent with these guidelines, there
I THANK MY FRIENDS for all their prayers, cards and calls during my surgery. Also thanks to Dr. Smucker and Dr. Strycker, Rev. Dale Kuhns and John Perry. And a SPECIAL THANKS to my family. Charlotte Wise WE THANK YOU! The family of HOWARD KREIDER would like to express our thanks to all of you who have shown your loving concern and expressed your sympathy during the illness and at the passing of our beloved husband, father and grandfather.
WOODS PARKING NEAR TIPPECANOE LAKE — Damage to this car was estimated between (2,500 and (5,000 as a result of an accident at 11:15 a.m., Oct. 1, on CR 300E, one half mile north of Oswego. John Christian, 38, Syracuse, received a bump on the head and was treated and 'released at Goshen Hospital. He lost control of his vehicle which struck a tree and mailbox owned by Joe Yoder, r 2, Leesburg, and careened into the woods where it struck a tree. (Photo by Glen Long)
are still other issues that ought to be considered in deciding whether to use spanking. Children who are victims of physical punishment tend to become increasingly aggressive themselves The child becomes angry when hit, just as any adult will become angry if struck by another person. The angry child may act-out this anger through aggressive behavior or by becoming more and more stubborn and uncooperative. It is important to be aware that in the act of spanking, the parent, whom the child most likely admires and imitates, becomes an example of violence. The child most likely views the situation this way: “My daddy hits me, so when I hit I’m being just like my daddy.” Physical punishment has been shown to be ineffective at limiting undesirable behavior. Often the child does not stop the bad behavior, rather she/he learns how to do it without getting caught. The, child may become quite adept at avoiding this painful punishment, by lying, for example. In short, physical punishment may bring about more problems than it cures. In addition to the problems described above, some children become quite fearful and insecure, and they can come to feel badly about themselves. All of these problems become especially acute when physical punishment is used frequently or when it is severe or abusive. After thinking about these ideas regarding physical punishment, many parents may find themselves wondering what they should do instead. There are alternatives, but all involve making a commitment to learn new approaches and to attempt to become positive and creative.
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Perhaps most important is that they try hard to put greater energy into encouraging and rewarding good behavior. The child cannot be both bad and good at the same time, so if one spends more time encouraging good behavior, bad behavior will become less frequent as a result. In this case, the parent may find less and less need to use punishment. Many studies have shown that children respond much better to encouragement and rewards for good behavior than they do to being punished for bed behavior. In general, one needs to spend more time teaching kids by talking to them, explaining what they did wrong, and how they could do better next time. Consider granting the child a greater voice in making decisions that affect him/her. If the child has had something to say about the decision, she/he is more likely to abide by it. At times when one feels that punishment is necessary, there are alternatives to spanking. Consider temporarily revoking a privilege, imposing a brief grounding, sitting the child down for 15 minutes. Attempt to be creative and always keep the child’s best interests in mind. While childbirth comes naturally, good parenting does not. Good parents are made not born. There is no role more difficult, that involves greater responsibility, nor any role that can be so potentially rewarding. One can learn, and improve the level of parenting skills. Fortunately, there are many community resources available to help do this. Consider attending a Bowen Center workshop on effective parenting or contact a mental health professional. Read some books from the public
library on being a good parent. Also, the Department of Public Welfare has many helpful programs that can be made available upon request without charge. Call the Bowen Center for more information or to make an appointment, 267-7169 or toll free, 1-800-342-5653. United Methodist Church news The United Methodist Women trom the Mi i f ord United Methodist Church will meet at, Nancy Newcomer’s home on Thursday, Oct. 8, with Caroline Wilson serving as assistant hostess. The focus of the program will be a pledge service led by Mary Duncan and Vi Miller will conduct the installation of officers. Each lady is asked to take six cookies to be delivered to shut-ins. The UMW annual conference meeting will be at Kokomo High School on Saturday, Oct. 10, beginning at 8 a.m. The Worship Committee will then meet at the church at 7:30 p.m. on Tuesday, Oct. 13. Hospitality time after worship service on Sunday, Oct. 4, was hosted by Bob and Marilyn Brown. Tomato topping Toss seasoned bread crumbs with butter and use for a topping for tomato halves. Broil until tinged with brown.
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