The Mail-Journal, Volume 26, Number 33, Milford, Kosciusko County, 30 September 1987 — Page 16
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THE MAIL-JOURNAL — Wed., September 30,1987
It happened ... in Milford
10 YEARS AGO, SEPT. 28, 1977 An option to purchase has been signed by the chairman of Leisure Living Apartments, Inc , and a Milford property owner, to obtain a site for future senior citizen housing Monday the agreement was signed by Paul Reith, chairman of Leisure Living Apartments, Inc. and Marguerite Quandt, sighing as the power of attorney for property owner Pauline Barclay. Mrs Barclay is a resident of a nursing home. Proposed for the site <2.83 acres) are 24 units of housing for senior citizens. J. Duane Beals, former pastor of the Bethel Church of the Brethren. Milford, in 1972-76. received his PhD from the University of Notre Dame last August 5. Pastor Beals resides in Fort Wayne with his wife Charlotte and daughters Susan and Jolynn. The Milford Cub Scouts held a school round up last Tuesday night at the Milford fire station They are in the process of reorganizing the dens and starting a Webelos den John Rouch is the cub master. The Milford Area Development Council (MAD) has already taken steps to firm up its Com munity Christmas program, and to have Santa Claus make his annual appearance. Becky Doll told MAD members the circus was a huge success, not so much from a financial point of view, but that it provided good, clean entertainment for the community’s youngsters. Dr. and Mrs. Christopher Bar- t bour of Chicago were guests of Mr. and Mrs. Cleveland Shuder. Grace Retirement Vjillage. Winona Lake, and Mrs. Berniece H. Dwyer of Milford, over the past week end. 20 YEARS AGO, SEPT. 27, 1967 Milford street and water commissionei Marian Decter stated Monday that it is against town ordinances to burn leaves on the asphalt streets of Milford. T/Sgt. Beverly W. Knepper, stationed at Rein Main air base, Germany, was recently selected as NCO airman of the year in the European Audit division. Sergeant Knepper is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Wilbur Knepper of Milford and is a career man in
It Was Only A Tee Shirt
rßy BETSY HENRICKS j Guest Feature Writer Sunday night. Jessica laid out her clothes for kindergarten the next day: a red plaid dress, navy blue tights, ruffled panties, sneakers and a yellow rubber band for her ponytail. By morning, the only item which still looked fashionably acceptable to her was the rubber band. She wanted jeans — the ones with a crayon applique on the left hip pocket, socks with a rainbow on the cuff, plain panties and, above all, her pink tee shirt. It lay tangled in a soggy mass of pre-soaked, but not-yet-washed clothes downstairs in the Maytag —a good hour and a half from clean and dry. “How about your kitty shirt 9 ” I suggested pleasantly “It looks great with those jeans." “No way." “You're really disappointed the pink one isn't clean," I said, and gave her an understanding hug. “Would you like to wear your blue shirt like Megan's instead?’’ Megan, already in second grade, represents to our daughters the height of chic “No way. 1 want my pink tee shirt. How come you never wash my clothes? I hate you. I’m gonna get another m other! ” The morning lurched downhill from there. She didn't want strawberry yogurt for breakfast, despite the fact she had picked it out herself two days before, carefully transferring each carton from shelf to grocery cart to check-out counter. “You know I hate this stuff," she growled. “It makes me puke. " Five minutes later, we exchanged ultimatums. Jessica: “If 1 can’t wear my pink shirt, I won't wear anything! How do you like that? 1 ’ Me: “That’s your choice, but if you aren’t dressed in 15 minutes (I set the timer), you'll miss school today.” That sobering alternative v precipitated a brief lull, followed by some semi-rational conversation. “How come my crayon jeans got washed and my pink shirt didn’t?” \ I explained about light and dark laundry loads and even threw in a funny story about the time I washed my own jeans witll a pair of pink panties, turning them a yucky gray. She considered that for a while, and I thought perhaps “conflict resolution” had actually occurred in
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the USAF, having enlisted in 1951. Mr and Mrs. John Hare of Wawasee Lake honored their one-year-old daughter, Tammy, at a birthday party on Tuesday, Sept. 19. The birthday celebration was also for Tammy's grandmothers, Mrs. Stanley Scott, r 3 Syracuse, and Mrs Bettie Har? of-Milford. Both their birthdays were last week Mrs. R. A. (May) Dewees is proudly showing off a large green and white pumpkin that she has displayed in _the of the May Stores The pumpkin was given to the Dewees by A. C. Knobel before he left for Florida on Monday fnorning r—7- — MiSs Mary Hollar, daughter of Mr and Mrs. Clayton Hollar of Milford, was the honored guest at a bridal shower given by Mrs. R. E. Slabaugh and Mrs. Ron Baumgartner in the Baumgartner home Thursday evening, Sept 21 Miss Hollar will be married to Max Duncan on Saturdayevening, Oct. 14, in the Milford Methodist church. Mr and Mrs Robert D. Brooks of r 1 Milford are the proud parents of an 8 pound, five and one-half ounce son, Robert Eric, born on Thursday, Sept. 21, in the Goshen hospital. A new 50-star 3x5 flag was hoisted on the new flag pole in front of Kosciusko Lodge 418, F. & A M , at Milford late Saturday afternoon. The new flag was presented to the Milford Masonic lodge by U, S. Senator Birch Bayh. 30 YEARS AGO, SEPT. 26, 1957 Saturday 's heavy rain caused a backwash of rain water in the old school building which has covered the basement floor and the gym floor, it was revealed this week. Workmen from the Milford Electric Shop were busy two days early this week cleaning out the lines. Mrs. Hazel Lentz and daughter Helene, enjoyed eating spring mushrooms in September this year. Last week they found three good sized mushrooms in the back yard of their East street home. Mr. and Mrs. R. E. Slabaugh were dinner guests of children at Howard’s restaurant Wednesday evening, Sept. 18, in
our house at 7:45 on a Monday morning. But it wasn’t resolution, just recess. “I still want my pink shirt,” Jessica snapped as she went back to gagging on her yogurt. “And if you don’t make it be clean right now, you have to take me to McDonald's every day for thirty hundred years." No deal. She grumbled through hair brushing and jacket zipping. During the ritual farewell cuddle with her beloved cat, I heard her whisper, “Mommy’s mean. She let my favorite shirt be dirty.” In the car, Jessica’s anger projected itself into a battle with her sister over who would sit where, then subsided into grim silence for the 10-minute ride to school. * Now, I understand my child may fuss about yogurt for breakfast and pick a fight with her sister when what she’s really ticked about is not having a particular shirt clean and ready to wear. But, I went on to worry she was mad about the tee shirt because she felt its unavailability proved I didn’t care about her; that my mothering was woefully inadequate, leaving her basic needs, from clean tee shirts to love and affirmation, unmet. Parenting has never been cinchy, but the current flood of information about the disastrous, long-term effects of negative parent-child interaction can make being a mom or dad downright scarry. In an effort to root out the cause of a problem, I sometimes magnify it, rather than help my daughter solve it. On our way from the parking lot to her kindergarten classroom, Jessica began to skip. “Oh. well,” she said cheerfully, ”1 guess I’ll wear the pink tee shirt tomorrow.” I assured her it would be clean by then; and with a warm, contented smile, she kissed me goodbye. Drivingjhome, however, I con-tinhed-'to berate myself for her behavior., pondering whether 1 had done something to provoke such outrage over a trivial (to me) unwashed tee shirt. I wondered what I should have done differently that morning to ease her frustration, and what I should have been doing differently since the day she was born to
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honor of their 25th wedding anniversary. Present besides the guests of honor were Mr. and Mrs. John Yeater, Mr. and Mrs. Don Boyd of Hollywood, Fla., Mr. and Mrs. Roger Graff, and Larry Slabaugh. The Stanley Scott family is moving from the Earl Wolferman house west of Milford where they have lived temporarily, to the house east of town on the Charles Schultz farm. Mr. and Mrs. Frank Beer, Jr., and Miss Esther Beer spent an evening at Centreville fair. Mrs. Jesse Miller was hostess to the Busy Bee club Friday night, with Mrs. Harold Bleile as co-hostess. Election of officers was held: President, Mrs. Guy Fisher; Vice Pres., Mrs. C. R. Shuder; Secy., Mrs. Delbert Moneyheffer; Treas., Mrs. Neal Cory. 50 YEARS AGO, SEPT. 30, 1937 The Milford high school senior class elected the following officers: Pres., Robert Rassi; vice pres., Charles Purdum; sec., Betty Chatten; treas., Margaret Vanderveer, and sponsor, Mr. Young. The band elected the following officers: Pres., Betty Chatten; vice pres.. Charles Purdum; sec., Maxine Callander, treas.; Helen Graff, librarian; Arthur Kline, reporter; Frederick kline, drum major, Beryl Jones. John Biller, Richard Hollar and Alonzo Haney attended the Great Lakes Exposition at Cleveland; Sunday. All schools in the county will be dismissed on Thursday evening in order that they may participate in the School Day activities at the county fair. Lewis Buhrt, Goshen, Herman Lutes of Nappanee and families visited the Paul Buhrt family Sunday. Phonrl & Brown will take their steam shovel to the Everett Buttrick marl pit southeast of town where they will remove a lot of marl for Mr. Buttrick this fall. Archibald Baumgartner, who has been employed by the St. Joe Ice Co., at Elkhart, this summer, returned Thursday to Ann Arbor, Mich., to resume his studies in the university there.
better equip her for coping with minor disappointments. I scanned our shared past for clues to the underlying significance of the morning’s tee shirt incident. Then a traffic light up ahead of me turned red. My foot hit and brakes and, in a rare moment of clarity, my wondering stopped as abruptly as the Ford did. All of a sudden I knew what Jessica had known in the hallway at school. This was no big deal. It was, after all, only a tee shirt. Relieved, I laughed out loud at myself. I realize things aren’t always - what they seem. Sometimes a child’s angry outbursts indicate genuine emotional disturbance; and sometimes annoying behavior is symptomatic of deep psychological wounds. Those “sometimes” need to be taken seriously indeed. But some other times, things are what they seem. A temper tantrum over a tee shirt, rather thah implying some emerging personality disorder, might be simply a tantrum over a tee shirt. Wisdom lies in knowing when to probe beneath the surface of an incident, and when there’s probably nothing beneath the sur face to probe for. Jessica is barely six years old, - and she badly wanted to wear that tee shirt to school. When she couldn’t, she felt disappointed and angry. It was not, in retrospect, such a complicated scene after all. And I think the way I handled it was, if not exemplary, at least, okay. I acknowledged her angry feelings as she expressed them in several ways and gave her time to grow beyond them. To her credit, she stopped stewing before I did. My husband and I have spent a good deal of money on various books and counseling sessions which encourage mental and emotional health, promote selfunderstanding acceptance, and which advocate good communication skills and effective parenting. It is money, and energy, well spent; and I am grateful for all we have learned. I am also grateful tor occasional red lights and for a six-year-old teacher whose lessons are priceless.
NEW ZONING REGULATIONS EXPLAINED — Steve Snyder, attorney, explained some of the new zoning regulations that have become effective in Kosciusko County to members of the Wawasee Kiwanians on September 26. The regulations have an effect on property owners in the county due to the numerous lakes in the county. A recent action by the federal government makes a Flood Control Ordinance effective. A building on Lake Wawasee is to be three feet above the established lake level. Very few properties can meet this requirement unless they are on a hill. If an owner wants to add a room to his existing home, a variance must be obtained and is a one time variance. If he wants to build another room or addition in a year or two he cannot get another variance. On Syracuse Lake the requirement is two feet because of the size of the lake. These regulations, made by Congress, effect the county, because there are over 100 lakes in the county. The second ordinance relates to lot sizes. The county requires 15,000 square feet for a lot on which a house is to be built. Snyder gave an example where on Lake Wawasee the lots are narrow with average size being 7,500 square feet and very few if any can meet the 100-foot frontage on the road. The third ordinance with which he discussed related to subdivisions. Permission to sell lots has some strict regulations, some of which make subdivisions costly. The fourth ordinance related to mobile home parks. A tract with more than five mobile homes is a park and must meet some stringent requirements. Snyder said the county is trying to find its way through these regulations with interpretations of the regulations. Shown in the photo are Max Goodspeed, Kiwanis member; Herschel Wells, president; and Snyder. Leaf-line begins Oct. 1
A 24-hour, fall-color hotline, free travelers’ packets and a children s writing contest are being offered by the Department of Natural Resources to make this season the best ever for fall foliage viewing, announced Jim Ridenour, DNR director. BiBeginning October 1, the DNR will provide leaf-line reports telling travelers where to see the best leaf colors, as well as exciting fall events statewide. Experts from the DNR’s Forestry Division collect detailed information from state parks, forests", reservoirs and fish and wildlife areas, and relay this information to the special phone line in Indianapolis twice a week. “Leaf-line has proven to be tremendously successful,” stated “Thousands of Hoosiers and out-of-state visitors call the number to get the latest information on hotspots for viewing Indiana's beautiful scenery.” In addition to Leaf-line, the DNR is offering free, fall travelers’ packets containing the 1987 Recreation Guide, state highway map and a brochure explaining how leaves turn color. The travelers' packets can be obtain- „ ed from the DNR’s Division of "'Public Information, 612 State Office Building, Indianapolis, IN 46204. Psi lota Xi to sponsor 11th Christmas Bazaar The Psi lota Xi Sorority, Theta Sigma Chapter is sponsoring its Uth Annual Christmas Bazaar on Saturday, Nov. 7. The bazaar will /be from 10 a m. to 4 p.m. in Carnelot Hall, North Webster. The bazaar will feature numerous craft persons from the tri-county area who will be displaying their crafts.
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Children, ages 12 and under, are invited to enter the DNR’s 1 )rop Us a Leaf-line Contest. Entrants should send their most colorful autumn leaf, along with an essay of 100 words or less on why trees are important, to Leaf-line, Division of Forestry, 613 State Office Building, Indianapolis, IN 46204. All entries must be received by Oct. 31, 1987. The 10 best entries will receive a free, one-year subscription to Outdoor Indiana magazine, and their essays will be published in a future issue of the magazine. "A Hoosier autumn means breathtaking landscapes of reds, oranges and yellows that change with every turn in the road or trail,” Ridenour said. “These are sites that should be seen by everyone.” Leaf-line can be heard by calling 317/232-4002. The call is not toll free. Gwen Dewart hostess for reading circle The Columbian Reading Circle met for the first meeting of the 1987-88 year at the home of President Gwen Dewart. The 12 members present received their new program books for the year. Following a short business meeting, the evening was spent socially. The next meeting will be October 12 at the home of Phyllis Sorensen with Eudora Hurd leading the program. True “A cocktail party,” someone observed, “is where they spread sandwiches and smear friends.” — Roundup, Fallon, Nev.
Church news Flowers in God's house adds to the services
(By CARLA GAFF Staff Writer An inviting atmosphere often helps people relax and feel at home almost as if they suddenly realize they fit in. This type of atmosphere can be brought on in a number of ways; though, kind /words, soothing tones, welcome hearts, or even flowers and candles. At the North Webster Church of God, a person can easily feel welcome and at ease though the pleasant, carrying attitude which is shown by the people to each other and God’s house. One of the obvious ways the people of the church show their appreciation is by taking excellent care of the building and placing plants, flower, candles,.etc. around the church. “We try to change the flowers and the arrangement in the front of the auditorium every month,” commented church secretary Fran Bowser. “Sometimes we have people from the congregation who want to do something special in remembrance of a loved one, or for an anniversary, so they create a special arrangement for in the front of the church.” She went on to say that the church has a former florist, Mary Ellen Caley, who normally creates special arrangements each month. Often the flowers and candles portray a holiday or a season. During the Easter season the church normally has fresh lilies, and poinsettia at Christmas time, with real plants or flowers on Mother’s Day also.. “We don’t believe in doing anything real elaborate or costly,” explained Pastor Steve Fouts, “but do feel the ar-
Money, bike, outboard among items stolen
Syracuse Police were kept busy last week, with various incidents of theft and vandalism being reported. Among the thefts, Sea Nymph Inc., South Seventh Street, discovered Friday afternoon, Sept. 25, that a 30-horsepower outboard was stolen from the premises sometime after August 31. The motor was valued at $1,512. Thelma L. Reed, Milford, reported an incident of property damage at 11:30 a.m. Friday, Sept. 25. Reed was traveling south on SR 13 when a railroad crossing gate struck the windshield of her 1976 Dodge as she passed over railroad tracks. Reed claimed that the railroad crossing light had not been flashing when the incident occurred. No damage estimate was given. A boys turbo BMX bicycle was reported stolen from the front yard of the Phillip Kuhn residence sometime Saturday evening, Sept. 26. The bike is valued at S7O and the case rev mains under investigation by
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rangements make things look nicer.” The church has been taking extra consideration with flowers and plants for sometime, with Mary having assisted in the area for a little over a year. Generally silk flowers are used, and often flowers, plants and containers are taken apart and used in
' TH I J A I ITTI E BIT OF WARMTH — raking just a little bit oi extra time to make sure the Lord’s house has a few extra touches such as flowers, plants and candles, can add just the right touch of warmth. Pastor Steve Fouts, shown here, was caught in action as he prepared for song service at the North Webster Church of God. (Photo by Carla Gaff)
Syracuse Police. An incident of criminal mischief was reported at 3 p.m. Monday, Sept. 28 when James Lough discovered the rear tires on his pickup truck had been cut while parked at the Padlock-Er Mini Warehouse, 113 Wood Street. No damage incident was given. Various objects were stolen from a Wawasee Community School bus sometime between 4:15 p.m. Monday, Sept. 28, and 6:50 am. Tuesday, Sept. 29, while it was parked on West Palm Drive. Taken were one Johnson mobile radio, valued at $679, and one mounting bracket, $lO. A heat console panel, valued at SIOO, was also broken. The case remains under investigation.
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something different the next time arounu. The warmer atmosphere brought on by living and decorative plants and flowers creates a special friendly, worshipful attitude and, “the beauty enhances the altar, and the service and the Lord,” explained Mrs. Bowser.
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