The Mail-Journal, Volume 23, Number 29, Milford, Kosciusko County, 16 July 1986 — Page 7

Community Corner

3 from county named state achievement winners

Three Kosciusko County youths were among 41 4-H members from 31 Indiana counties that were named state achievement winners Monday evening, June 30, during the second session of the 68th annual 4-H Roundup at Purdue University. flw fl KATTI STROUP 4-H Dog Care Champion More than 2.000 youths attended the three-day program in the Edward C. Elliott Hall of Music. The 22 girls and 19 boys singled out as "Hoosier Champions” in a particular project area were from an honor group of 177. Noble County had three winners in four project areas — one being a double winner, while Kosciusko and Putnam counties each had three winners. Boone. Greene, Johnson, Parke, and Porter counties each had two state champions and 21 other counties had one winner each. Kosciusko County winners include: Dog Care — Katti Stroup, 16, r 5, Warsaw An eight-year 4-H member. Katti is the daughter of

Humanly Speaking —

Observations on marital breakdown

By I.EN SMUCKER. Ph D Bowen Center Psychologist Implied in some marriage contracts (perhaps quite a few) is an unspoken pact or bargain. The wife pledges herself to be responsive to the emotional/physical needs of children and her husband in exchange for economic security and protection. The husband pledges himself to provide food, shelter, and protection in exchange for the domestic, emotional and sexual services of his wife Both are. to some extent, stereotyped products of a well oiled religio-cultural factory. The wife has been trained to look out for others; the husband to look out for himself On paper, the husband would probably say, “It looks like a reasonably good exchange” while the wife would probably say. “It looks less than satisfactory but I have to take what I can get.” Now the bargain may have "worked" in the past but it does not fit the two career marriage of the present. The rub comes when each partner demands more of the other than the original implied factory warranty. The wife not only wants her husband to provide economic security and protection (including auto care, yard work and general house maintenance) but also to relieve her of countless domestic chores and to give more time/attention to the children as well as other related family responsibilities ( family reunions, special holiday gatherings and social events). She would also like more participation in the promotion of family and religious values and rituals. She would like for her husband to be more appreciative of her. more sensitive, more understanding, caring and loving — in short, to "give her a break.” The husband not only wants his wife to provide the domestic and family services noted, but he would like to be relieved of feeling ultimately responsible for economic security and physical maintenance. Why can’t she con- s tribute more to car care; why does she continue to come to him with her problems, her insecurities; why can’t she be more self reliant, more self sufficient? In the process of playing out her role (in doing for others) the wife tends to lose herself — needing more support In the process of playing out his role, the

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Mr. and Mrs. James Stroup. She will be a senior at Tippecanoe Valley High School this fall. Project sponsors: Ralston Purina Co., Purina Dog Foods Group, and the Indiana State Fair Board. KißSßtau ' AIMEE ANGLIN 4-H Horse Champion Horse — Aimee Anglin, 18, r 5, Warsaw. She will be a freshman in animal sciences at Purdue University. Aimee is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Dan Anglin. She is a 10-year 4-H member. Project sponsors: American Quarter Horse Association, Indiana Quarter Horse Association, and the Indiana State Fair Board. Plant and Soil Science — Todd Roberts, 17, r 3, Syracuse. A nineyear 4-H member, Todd is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Ronald Roberts. He will be a senior at Wawasee High School this fall. Project sponsor: The Quaker Oats Co. The State 4-H Achievement Record Program is part of the National 4-H Awards Program.

husband (in developing selfreliance. independence, power) loses others — the riches of a truly intimate relationship with wife and children. Each partner experiences increasing discontent with the other until a fairly dramatic event may occur such as an affair. physical abuse, excessive use of drugs or alcohol, separation or actually filing for divorce. This “event ” changes the focus of attention from dissatisfaction with the other to a crisis in the marriage itself. This may be the time when the couple seeks counseling — perhaps for quite different reasons. For example, if the wife has had an affair, the husband may now be willing to seek counseling (even though his wife may have pleaded with him before to do so) in order to save the marriage. Obtaining counseling maybe very difficult for the husband because this violates an important principle, namely, self reliance and solving one’s own problems. The wife may agree to Area bankers receive diplomas Several area bankers received American Institute of Banking diplomas and certificates at the annual Student Recognition Banquet. The South Bend chapter of AIB hosted the event at Century Center which honored those students who participated in banking courses as well as those who earned diplomas or certificates Jeanne Gardiner from State Bank of Syracuse was awarded a foundations of banking diploma. The American Institute of Banking is the largest educational division of the American Bankers Association, offering basic banking and functional skills programs at the local level through AIB chapters. Students may work toward diplomas in general banking, commercial credit, consumer lending and mortgage lending. Certificate programs are available, with certificates for customer service skills, securities services skills and supervisory skills. Diplomas are earned after completing from 18 to 25 credits and certificates require 12 to 14 hours for completion.

To participate on the state level a member must be 15 to 19 years of age within the current year. All awards are based on 4-H records compiled over the years. Each youth maintains his or her own Achievement Record Book, chronicling participation. I v 'jfl \ *- • fl Hit.,. .. TODD ROBERTS 4-H Plant/Soil Science Champion The record books are judged by the State Record Judging Committee, composed of three extension agents from each of the 10 extension areas in the state. This committee selects three to five members in each project area, and these selectees become the state “honor group.” One Hoosier champion is then named from the selectees in each project area. Records of each state achievement winner are entered in the national competition this fall, with most state winners receiving a trip to the National 4-H Congress in Chicago. The 4-H Congress this year is December 6-11.

counseling out of her concern for others, namely, sensing, (perhaps for the first time) her husband’s vulnerability, insecurity and previously undisclosed dependency on her. In other words, she may want to see that he will be cared for (which is again part of her role as caretaker) in the event that she proceeds with a divorce. If the marriage is to survive, it requires renewed commitment and the development of more effective communication and conflict resolution skills. If a decision for divorce has already been made, counseling can provide a means for working out the dissolution with as much integrity for all concerned as is possible. The Bowen Center offers counseling services for couples who are experiencing marital distress. A well qualified staff of psychiatrists, psychologists, and counselors are available by calling 267-7169 or 1-800-342-5653 On health WASHINGTON - The nation got a health-awareness report card carrying a better grade than in yesteryear. People are getting better at using seat belts, checking their blood pressure, using smoke detectors, avoiding stress and accidents and not driving after drinking, said the privatelyfunded study released recently.

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WED 50 YEARS — Mr. and Mrs. Clair (Kie) Musselman, r 1, Milford, will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary July 18. .Musselman and the former Elizabeth (Betty) Davis were married on July 18. 1936, at Millersburg. He is retired from Weatherhead Co. and she is retired from Syracuse Rubber Co. They are the parents of one son, Terry, and have one granddaughter. Mr. and Mrs. Musselman will spend the day with family and there will be no special celebration.

ATTEND CONVENTION — The staff of Sunrise Photography, r 1. North Webster, will be involved in Professional Photographers of America National Convention in Anaheim. Calif., this week. Along with taking individualized workshops and clinics to better themselves. Julie Dußois. pictured, will be sharing her experience to fellow professionals with a speaking engagement Sunday morning. Others involved in clinics and workshops are Dennis Dußois. Michelle Lippe. and Julie's children. Thaddeus and Clarissa. Angie Wall honored at baby shower A baby shower was held for Mrs. Dave (Angie) Wall. North Webster, on Saturday afternoon in the home of Esther Dunning at Waubee Lake. Hostesses were Jodi Scarbeary. Kathy Bartman and Mrs. Dunning A total of 14 were in attendance Prizes were won by Norma Earle and Andrea Hutchin son.

God’s Children Reunion Popular singing group from North Webster will be holding ten year reunion July 19-20. If you are a past member or know someone that has not been notified please contact: M. Lynn Gray 219-834-4720

Legion Auxiliary installs officers The Wawasee American Legion Auxiliary installation of officers for 1986-87 will be held on Tuesday, July 22, at 7:30 p.m. Present officers remind members that dues must be paid before being installed. New officers will be: Linda Broekers, president; Susan Myrick, first vice; Margaret Nichols, second vice; Ella Dora Wogaman, third vice; Elaine Darr, corresponding secretary; Betty Broekers, recording secretary; Rose Calbeck, treasurer; Ann Schrock, chaplain; Lorree Mench, historian; Donna Conder, sergeant-at-arms; and Betty Broekers. Deb Miller and Grace Eyer, executive committee. The Wawasee American Legion Auxiliary reminds its members of the fish fry every second Friday. Use socks To prevent crushed* collars on shirts when packing for vacation, place socks in the ring of the collar.

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Mrs. Ritter guest at baby si lower Mrs. Butch (Terri) Ritter of Bonar Lake, Syi acuse, was guest of honor at a bi by shower given by Mrs. Tonck. Hewitt in the Hewitt home at Syracuse on SunI day afternoon, J uly 13. Games were played and a door prize was won by Miss Sueann I Worthman. Punch, mints nuts and a cake decorated with a baby bootie, also made of cake, was served after Mrs. Ritter opened her shower gifts. A total of 13 people were present including Mrs. Ritter’s mother, Mrs. Donald (Bonnie) Chilcote of Warsaw. The guests were from Syracuse, Kimmell, Warsaw and Fort Wayne. fl fl i 881 z ' 1 fl 1 |r t ' SEPTEMBER WEDDING — ’ Mr. and Mrs. Virgil Zimmerman of Milford announce the engagement of their daughter, Patricia Sue. to Spec. 4 Michael B. Emel, formerly of Minden, Neb. The bride-elect is a 1983 graduate of Wawasee High School and a 1486 graduate of Indiana Vocational Technical School, where she majored in early childhood education. She is presently employed by Westlyan Day Care Cent er in Fort Wayne. Spec. 4 Emel is the son of Donna and the late Clitus Emel of Minden. Neb. Graduating from high school in that town, he went on to enlist in the United States i Army. Spec. 4 Emel is presently stationed at Fort Bragg. NC. A September 20 wedding is being planned.

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New treatment BOSTON — Babies with sickle cell anemia should be given daily penicillin pills to prevent blood infections that are the leading cause of death among young victims of inherited disorder, a new study concludes.

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More visiis BOSTON — The high cost of caring for people with many symptoms but no apparent disease can be reduced substantially if they visit their doctors frequently, a new study concludes.

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