The Mail-Journal, Volume 22, Number 10, Milford, Kosciusko County, 6 March 1985 — Page 14

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THE MAIL-JOURNAL —Wed., March 6,1985

It happened . . . in Syracuse

!• YEARS AGO. MARCH 5.1975 The Syracuse town board will continue to operate as a four-man board until the November election, it was noted as an item of final business at the town board’s regular meeting last night. The Jay Peffleys of Syracuse Lake are back from a three-week southern vacation including stays in Texas and Mexico. Miss Kathy Rae Berkey became the bride of Michael Dean Kauffman in the Benton Mennonite church on Saturday, Feb. 22. The bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Donald Berkey of r 1 Syracuse. The bridegroom is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Kenneth Kauffman of r 4 Goshen. Mr. and Mrs. Vernon R. Neterer r 4 Syracuse will celebrate their golden wedding anniversary at an open house on Sunday, March 9, from 2:30 to 4:30 p.m., in the First Brethren church, corner of Walnut and Locke Streets, Nappanee. Negotiations between the negotiating team of the Lakeland Community Educator’s Association and the management team of the Lakeland Community School Corporation, scheduled for next tuesday, March 13, are sure to hinge around salary hikes and fringe benefits. 20 YEARS AGO, MARCH 4,1965 Clerk-Treasurer, Walter

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How to help a hurting friend

I just stood there helpless. My friend’s husband was terminally ill; he was slipping into a coma , and could no longer talk to her She was hurting so badly, she could only sob. Actually, there have been a number of times when I’ve felt totally helpless to comfort a friend who was facing death. When my friend’s husband was dying, when another friend’s daughter was killed in an accident, when a co-worker’s son committed suicide — to mention just a few. Those who have lived through such crises say that “just listening” is what they needed most. Someone said, “Few people know how to care for the emotional ailments of others, or indeed their own. They may be ' good at nursing physical ailments — fluffing pillows, preparing meals, dispensing medicine — but when it comes to emotional pain, they are at a loss. If they can’t cure it with chicken soup, they try to quiet the person, thus putting an ,end to their mutual anguish and discomfort.” I’m certainly not discounting what physical care can do to express love. We need both — physical and emotional, or spiritual care. Those in pain need the sense that someone is “with them,” that they are not alone. This sense is shared by a hug, a touch on the hand, an arm around the shoulder. “Just go ahead and cry; you have something to cry about.” One of my friends is particularly good at asking a question which makes me feel that she wants to know my feelings — no matter how painful they are. She can say, “I know that I’d be hurting if that happened to me,” or something similar. I’ve seen her comfort many with that same openness to listen. Some “Don’ts” For those of us who want to befriend our children, or our neighbors, or our friends in a time of crisis, there are a couple of “don’ts.” Don’t take sides. Taking sides changes the focus from hearing your friends’ feelings to making a judgment.

Calnon after presenting the board the bills from Lane-Northern Company for the work recently completed on the town’s wells, read a letter froin the company, explaining the work they did, at the Tuesday evening March 2, meeting of the Syracuse town board of trustees. A pink and blue shower was given on Tuesday, Feb. 23, far Mrs. Steven Lee at the home of Mrs. Ron Moore at Syracuse with Mrs. Robert Whitehead as cohostess Mr. and Mrs. Elmer Stucky will celebrate their golden wedding anniversary with an open house from two to five o’clock Sunday afternoon, March 14, at their home, 418 south Lake street, Syracuse. The Syracuse License branch now located in the Syracuse Hardware will move to 107 N. Huntington street, one-half block north of the stop light. They will be in the new location on March 15, according to an announcement by Mrs. Max (Mary) Ganshorn, branch manager. 30 YEARS AGO, MARCH 3,1955 Mr. and Mrs. Orvil Klink will leave at the week end for Chicago. Mr. Klink on business and jnrs. Klink, who has Bernice’*s Beauty Salon, to attend the Midwest Beauty Show at the Sherman Hotel 3 days, Sunday,

Don’t become angry yourself. Becoming involved in the problem doesn’t allow you to feel with the person who’s hurting. Don’t try to distract the person. I remember with regret saying to my children, “Oh, find something else to play with, and you’ll feel better.” That belittled their feelings and made the hurt worse. Don’t offer consoling platitudes like: “God works in mysterious ways” or “It’s probably for the best.” These may be true, but they only confirm to the hurting friend that you don’t feel with them at all. Don’t tell your friend how you’ve been in worse crises or how you coped Don’t offer advice or solutions. Each person needs to express feelings — without judgment — and without the pressure to do something. There may later be a time when your friend asks for advice; at that point we can listen again, and help him or her identify possible choices. I’m not a counselor, nor do I want to make counselors of others. But I have so often wished to express my love for my friend in ways which are truly caring — that I’ve tried to learn more about what a friend can do for a hurting friend. “Listen,” “help to release feelings,” “accept,” and give opportunity for a friend to make his or her own decision — with your interest and support. These are things any of us can learn to do. For a free leaflet on "What Can I Do?." write to Margaret Foth. Box 22. Harrisonburg. Virginia 22801. Car louvers are stolen Mark Curry of r 2 box 113 Syracuse reported Thursday, Feb. 28, at 9:44 a.m. that someone stole the louvers from the inside of his car’s back window either on Tuesday night or during the day, Wednesday. He told Syracuse Police they could have been taken while he was parked at home or at work and were valued at SIOO.

Monday and Tuesday. . Mr. and Mrs. Robert Grimes, Marilyn and Richard of Frankfort, Indiana and Mr? and Mrs. James Hann and cindy were Sunday dinner guests of Mr. and Mrs. Dale Grimes. Mr. and Mrs. Eugene Slabaugh of Nappanee spent Monday evening with Mrs. Slabaugh’s parents.

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Mr. and Mrs. Emmet O'Haver of Syracuse. Mr. and Mrs. Lyle Seiffer of Nattie Crow Beach Wawasee have returned from a first Florida trip and report 90 degree weather. It must have been like “Old Home Week, " for they were -guests of Mr. and Mrs. Forrest Galloway, Clermont, and enjoyed

visiting the C.G. Etters (Says Etter looks fine), the Bud Cresswells, and the George Mellinger, and were enthusiastic about the orange groves and fishing. 50 YEARS AGO. MARCH 7.1935 Mr. and Mrs. J. O. Kantz and Mr. and Mrs. Tom Truex of Nap-

panee spent Sunday afternoon with Maggie Butt. Mr. and Mrs. Sam Rasor and great-granddaughter spent Sunday afternoon with Mr. and Mrs. Will Mallon. Mr. and Mrs. Russell Stout and family of Akron spent Sunday with Mr. and Mrs. John Stout and Mr. and Mrs. Ray Meek.

Captain and Mrs. Harry Tetlow of the CCC camp have rented Miss Katherine Rothenberger’s property on Huntington street. Mr.* and Mrs. John Fear of marion spent Sunday with Mr. and Mrs. Lewis Fear who lave moved back to their home on Huntington street. Dr. and Mrs. Garnett Latham

plan to move to the firmer Nathaniel Altland home, as soon as the sale of household goods is completed Saturday. Mr. and Mrs. Carl Weaver are moving to the Warren Colwell property next to the library, from New Paris. Mr. Weaver plans to open a cream station in the Snavely building.