Saturday Evening Mail, Volume 19, Number 26, Terre Haute, Vigo County, 22 December 1888 — Page 1

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CHRISTMAS is bore Wind* whittle rihritl. ley and chill, Little care wo Utile wo fear Weather without. Sheltered about The mahogany tro®. —Thackeray.

"LONG A FORK I KNOWKI)."

BY JAMBS WIUTOOMB RILKY.

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Jea' a Utile Wt o' feUsr—I remember still— Uat to cry fer CbrtsUnsm like a youngror wtlL %ar«h o' JiOjr*« no*hta' lofcl—K«r Tear** alaH a

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ThU happy day, whoeo rte*t» wn Khali **i not through eternity: Thii h4r day, when rhrtot the ww,

Took on Hint oar humanity. —{Ftioobe Carey. Hut th# «unthat rtlM In ileh«n

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Notes and Comment.

A Merry Christmas to you all And as Tiny Tim said: "God bless us, every one!" ______

Beautiful store windows, beautiful faces gazing within, and beautiful missions of love, make the world beautiful at this season. _____

Francis Murphy has made some 2,000 Prohibitionists in Indianapolis. Can the Prohibition party make as good a showing as that?

The Panama canal scheme seems to be in a very bad way. In case of colapse Col. Thompson's fat salary of $25,000 a year will be cut off.

Col. Quay has come and gone and be hold the wiseacres seem to know no more than they did. It is hard to get any secrets out of that quiet house on North Delaware street.

The ruin, disgrace and flight of a young clerk las week, the "black sheep" of most worthy family should be a warn log to many young man lu, this cjty travelling the same road.

ANew York paper says that between the gamblers and the society men, it's hard to name the best dressed men Gambling must be as lucrative in Goth am aa It Is in Terre Haute.

The happiest people in all the world just now are the children. At present they are enjoying the pleasures of antici pation. On Chrlstman may they all en Joy the pleasures of realisation.

Moody tells a reporter that he finds Western people much easier to get at than Eastern people. That is also the opinion of the bunco men. But the Western people are sometimes harder to get away from.

Over 2,000 school children in Chicago have sent In Christmas stories in oom petition for prises offered oy the Dally News. The committee (which includes Prof. Swing,) will have a pretty hard picnic reading them all over and pick ing out the best!

It Is announced with indignant em phasis that the the supply of natural gas at Indianapolis has not begun to give out and is In

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danger of doing so. Glad

to hear It, A town that can furnish President ought to be able to manage little thing like natural gaa.

The wives of the Justloee of the Su preme Court have agreed th return the culls of strangers hereafter only by card, In Imitation of a rule adopted by the la lies of tho cabinet. By the way, how would it do for all ladies everywhere to return all oalls by card only? Many would be glad to do so.

Certain gentlemen near to Gen. Harri son have it on the beat authority that Mr. Blaine will be in the cabinet and certain other gentlemen who are "very near" to the General have the best rea •ons for believing that he will not be In the new President's political household Meantime both the gentlemen concerned maintain an eloquent alienee.

Judging from the quantity of announcements, denials, conjectures, suspicions and general poliUcml goeslp that I* being sent out from Indianapolis these days, one can hardly refrain from the suspicion that the correspondents are industriously making hay while the wan shines, as they must contemplate permanent eclipse after March 4th.

A rather meek looking man made remark yesterday evening: "I «hou. like to hay that ornament for my taoth-er-in-law, pointing to a china image of an old l»«ty engaged la knitting. And there the laugh came In, for the fig evidently represented an old lady ing her own tmslnes*. Pw mciLst*-in-law! They are not resjwwlhi# tor their positions and generality do wot enjoy then.

L«oa Bailey will not he coatflmed as

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District Attorney In place of Mr. Sfellers, that is as good as settled. Besides being disgrace to the administration the appointment looks like an insult to Gen. Harrison in the face of Bailey's slanderous and lying utterances during the campaign. Bailey Is a pot-house politician of the worst type and is totally unfit for the important position to which the President has appointed him. The Senate will not confirm and ought not to do

Afty all. when one comes to think of there are not many h6mea. There are, of course, innumerable places that go by the name of homes, called so for want of a better designation, or because everybody calls the place where he eats and sleeps home tut when you come down to real sober fact, homes are comparatively scarce.

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A home is the refuge place from the storm, the fret and worry of life. It is place where the husband oomee to a sanctuary, where smiles and loving words answer his smiles and greeting. It is a place where the wife reigns in her benignity and grace not, it may be, the grace of outward beauty, or cultivation, but of true womanhood, where she receives honor and love even as she gave them both. Itfs a place, or should be a place where children are happier than anywhere else in the world, because there are tho choicest words, the brightest looks and the kindest acts. Siicta are not the majority of homes as we find them.

TERRE HAUTE, IND., SATURDAY EVENING, DECEMBER 22,1886.

How does it happen that when you see a real home, a light, pleasant spot where everyone seems to bo happy, where if husband and wife have misunderstandings, r.o one seems to know it, where laughter and smiles are peculiar guefctp why does it strike one as peculiar ai& noticeable? Simply because there are so few of them.

What a pity it is when a girl gets married she Immediately settles into the routine of her daily life witharfeeliug cf gratitude that there is no danger of her joining the vast throng of^.unmated maidens, and with an easyjfeellng of rest that, now that she Is married, the necessity for making herself charming and keeping up her knowledge of things In general, aside from housekeeping and home duties, Is at an yid, says an exchange. What a lamentable mistake alio makes, and wQV' sadly she often realize her error when It is too late to retrieve^ her loss. What waslt won her husband? Was it slovenly habits, or Ignorance of what was happening in the world, or because she was dreadfully out of practico as regards painting and music? Alas it was none of these, but exactly the reverse No girl can afford to forget, after marriage, what she already knows, nor to neglect in any way keeping up that knowledge. Music probably suffers in this respect mere than anything else. It is so easy to leave off practicing and so easy to forget, but It is a fatal mistake to neglect anything which will make home attractive, and keep your husband by your side.

The reports of the ministers' meetings in New York City, to Improve church attendance, are not wholly pleasant reading. One crank spent nearly a whole session In abuse of the Catholics while an evangelical pastor who gets 110,000 a year tbonght everything was in pretty good shape now. There was Uttle, if any use for alarm. The final outcome is that an appeal is to be made to the women to organ late mission work and a committee of twenty-five was appointed to digest plans for more efficient and aggressive religious work, especially among Immigrants. But the committee does not *eem to be composed of women. Is not the Church overdoing the matter of piling the burdens on the other sex, while the talking is done by the males and the official positions held by them solely and exclusively:

ABOUT WOMEN.

A Mrs. Smith, of Grand Rapids, Mich., was recently severely injured by the sudden closing of a folding bed on which she was reclining. She was completely shut in by the bed, and it became necessary to pry it apart before ahe could be released.

W. S. Gilbert likes to design the dresses of the women in his plays. He says: "Wihor bustles, Improvements, tightli^ng and all such abominations, and I think that woman's drew should fall in natural folds to the figure.

Mrs. Harris, of Topeka, Kan., deserves immortality for the simple fidelity to facts in the face of an o'er sentimental world. On the simple granite shaft ahe had erected above her husband's grave la cht—eled the truthful legend, "Died of I ritun Tremeoa."

There la quite an unimpeachable Fifth are. New York, girl who stops horse ears I stages by whistling at them. If ahev. has to »**uri on* «f these vehicles abet pa carc dy at:: 1 curb, lifts one hand in a gtwefnlly lasy signal to the driver, and then ju.kei* 1' red "T!'••«, si whkh -v- nr.it* a sht»u nr*r».- 4 li.i* i-vi»e so de-

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Women as Wives.

DOBS MARRIAGE LESSEN MAN'S RESPECT FOR WOMAN?

EUa WheeUr Wilcox's Intereitmg Answer —Are Happy Marriage* Scarce*—How Wives are to Blame—Beetles* «nd

Cruel Extravagance Wives—BeasOHS Why Men Seek JBtyojfmetUs Away from Home—A Word to Yottng Brides— A Spirited Article of Advice that Wives Should Read. Written for The

Mail—Copyrightedl

The query propounded in this paper jtjay seem |like heresy, and shock my readers at first. But I am compelled to ask the question, by my observations of and conversations with married men and women.

Everybody is used to hearing the expression that "Really happy marriages are few and far between." Nobody thinks of denying the fact. I heard lady of largefacqualntanoe say, recently that she oould number on the fingers of One band all the truly mated husbands %nd wives she knew, and I find that Jtaarried oouple of even a few years' ^standing, who manifests a pleasure in and a preference for each other's society are everywhere such objects of surprise and comment that it indicates their rarity. Divorces are vulgarly common and jests upon the infelicity of the married state are passing into proverbs.

Name over to yourself your ten most intimate friends—people whose home ::nd heart life you know ask yourself candidly how maijy of those ten bus uids would not gladly go back to their bachelor freedom were it possible to do

In spite of the hue and cry mised against Dr. Dix's sermon on society last winter, he told the truth when he said our cities and towns (and he might have added the country places) are full of men who lead double lives.

Men walk to the oommunlon-table and partake of the sacrament beside their legal but unloved wlvee, and a few hours later they revel in the lawless affection which some other woman gives them iu stolen secrecy. Often they do not even strive to hide their Immoralities from tho world, or from their wives

Now, so long as we all know that this unfortunate state of affairs exists about us, let us diacuss the causes

It cannot be possible that all these men ntand at the marriage.altar with the de liberate' intention of becoming bad or unhappy husbands. They must antlcl pate haplness in the new life and let us try anddiscover through what paths eludes them.

In the first plaoe, it is my constantly increasing conviction that, after the marriage voyrs are taken two-thirds of the power necessary to the creation of an endurlngly happy home lies with the wife. It therefore follows that twothirds of the fault is hers where the home becomes a failure.

I know this statement will anger and antagonize my own sex to an alarming extent, but it is my honest belief and most be expressed. I beg my sister women to read this article to the end before they condemn me.

I would classify the failure of wives in their duty as follows: First. Those who lack liberality of mind. Second. Those who complain and find fault. Third, Thoee who are selfishly wasteful and extravagant. Fourth. Those who are petty tyrants and "naggers." Fifth. Those who lack tad.

Now, If a wife has love, patience, good temper, beauty, and accomplishment, yet any one of thoee five faults above mentioned may serve to ruin her home and make her husband "wish he were single again." A wife's love should be as liberal as the love of God. She should study the dally habits of her lover before she marriee him, and then she should allow his life to run as nearly it ia possible in thoee old channels of pleasure without trespassing upon the honor or purity of the new relation, you marry a man who has a life filled with flirtations, clubs, cards, and races, do not demand of him the sacrifice of anything bnt his flirtation*. That you have a right to demand, but leave him his clubs and races, with no more restriction than he felt before marriage. Add to thoee pleasures which be has so long enjoyed the happineas of a perfectly ordered home and the sweetest and most loving welcome when he returns to yon that it is possible for a man to receive. No matter if you are obliged to peas good many lonely hours to cultivate this liberality, it will repay yotfere long Eight man out of ten will appreciate this spirit of generosity, and will in return plan for the comfort and pleasure of the wife.

I know a woman who always aits np until her husband's return at night when he goes to the club. He Is fond .of a skilful game of carda, and he has never been known to return

n.^« i^,«id^ »och an airof g»tles eoaplaeettcy, that the astonished wit-j eotaplains of ahead whs, and looks neoees are not apt to regard it as in the k.?r. with :*-t eye of a msrt fT least valgar. has troyed his enjoyment lb i*ia

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pleasure and given him no attractive side of herself at home to lead hiai to abandon it. His friends laugh over his nervous, reckless manner at the club, and make light jests about the cause, and one more black mark against matrimony is set down by the male sex.

It is foolish to expect a husband, who has entire acoess to his wife's society, to make the same sacrifices to be with her for an evening that the lover makes, who is only admitted to the loved one's presence for an hour. It is no indication of any lessening of love if he sometimes goes out and leavee her at home. A jewel may be very precious to us, even if we do not always wish to wear it in sight and gaze upon its brilliancy.

Some women seem to marry with the idea that "wife" means "interferer." They set themselves to work st once to revolutionize the man's whole life, and demand attentions which, if they exercised a little gentle patlenoe, would be gladly given. I have seen wives who laid plans for almost every hour of their husband's leisure time. Now, no man likes this. It Is natural for them to be the planners and directors, and the wife who In all ways strives tf* cater to her husband's tastes and coin fort will find him planning for her happiness erelong Nothing touches a man of any feeling quicker than to see that his wife yields her wishes to his, and gives up with ready sweetness in small matters. Psy attention to any wish of hie, no matter how trivial and foolish it may seem to you, and respond to his requosts cheerfully, not sullenly, and in a little while you shall find him the most reasonable and thoughtful of men. Ofcourselam not writing of brutes or bullies, but of men with hearts and heads.

The woman who saveB up her household worries and her bodily pains and aches to entertain a husband with on his return home, drives a sure nail in the collln of conjugal happiness.

True marriage means a subjugation of self, and a loslngof one's selfish feelings in love for another. Every man Ought to have the certainty that he can And peace and rest from all strife and fret in his home. Every husaand ought to feel when he turns the key to enter his own door that he Is sure of a sweeter welcome and a more cheerful and restful atmosphere than he has found outside of it. If each wife would make this the leading re*olve of her life, the wo» ,4 would be revolutionized.

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I once heard mah say two hours after

his return from a month's absence from1

home: "I have beard more fault-flnding and fretting since I came back than In all the time I was away," and I did not blame him that ho went out and banged the door behind him. I heard another man say onoe: "This is my first rest since I left home. I began to feel rested as soon as 1 opened the door. An hour at home pays me for all the wear and tear of a week outside."

Surely thoee words repaid that wife fer the hours she had borne of loneliness, worry, and small vexations. They paid her, too, for keeping the fact to herself that she was suffering with fatigue and neuralgia.

Had she given her husband a long dissertation on these troubles. It would have ruined his pleasure and In no way benefited her.

If you aie ill enough to need specially oonsiderate'treatment or attention, tell your husband, and he will bestow It almost invariably, for men are, as a rule, very tender-hearted and sympathetic toward a woman's suffering blit the complaints that are talked of every hour in the day cease to excite any sympathy and only serve

to worry and annoy the

listener. During the last two months two cases of reckless and cruel extravagance in wives have come under my notice. One man, the kindest of husbands, was suf fering from temporary embarrassments finances, and begged his wife to economise for a few months in their methods of living. She grew hysterical and ac cosed him of parsimony and meanness threatened to go home to parents, and refused to discbarge any of her servants or to relinquish any of her accustomed luxuries.

The other wife insisted upon moving into a larger boose than her husband felt able to keep op, and finally, having gained her point, deliberately ran him in debt *400 worth of new furniture 8nch women do not deserve the name of wife. They have the mercenary spirit of the mistress, who only cares for money.

The wile should be the first mate of the ship of matrimony. She should not only assist fn steering the craft through financial gales, hut she should be ever on the watch to avert danger, and her fine Instincts should tell ber when to tack or lower sails, without waiting for orders from the captain.

The petty tyrant or nagging wife is, perhaps, the most hopeless case of all. The most trivial oeurtesy or attention he abows another woman arouses a nasty phase of jet' in l^ nature, and she renders her- and her bushand hi ht^^utd co antly. 8be is forever referring to the time when he was a lover, and "treated her different," forgetting I hit in those days she studied ittric* mm and now rh« at"-?M» to him. She oomp. is be

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"never makes oalls" with ner, and she finds fault with all his friends, and is never suited with anything ho brings home to her. 8he wants to go out when he wants to stay at home, and rice wsa, and entertains her company by talking of his faults and shortcomings in his presence, and yet she wonders that he he does not seem to love her as once he did! She is never satisfied with her seat in the railroad car when they travol or with her apartments at the hotel, and if she ever yields to his tastes or wishes in anything, she is fotever telling him afterward that her way would have been better, and that his way has caused her endless annoyance. Such women need the iron hand of a veritable master who would control them by force. They crush out all tenderness and respeot for the sex in a man's heart, and render home about as attractive as a swarm of mosquitos do!

Tact is a necessary element in married life. It may seem very cunning to a lover if you dash a book or newspaper out of his hand, and ask him to talk to you. But It will only serve to annoy or anger a husband. Do not intrude yourself upon a husband and ask to be petted when he wants to read his papor, or when he Is worrying over his account book, or when he is talking business with some friend. Do not complain to your husband that he la cold and changed if he is not in a state of fervent love making every hour of the twenty-four. Remember that love Is like tho sun—it has its dawn, its afternoon, Its cool evening hours, as well as its high noon. Do not demand high noon the whole twen-ty-four hours. Be patient and cheerful through its seemingly cool evening and oven chilly night hours, and believe the glorious sun of true love is shining still though veiled from you, and wait tllV the noon hour comes again, as it surely will. Respond to tho first look or tone of love in ybur husband, and do not got cold and show resentment of tho hours or days when ho has seemed to be occupied with other thoughts than you. raiiso him freely for every kind act or wof.Slie gives you. Do not act as If they were your right, but take thorn as precious gifts, to be received with gratitude. Praise for attention is tho most delicate reproof for neglect. Try and never rendbr yourself ditagrcpaMc 1 your manner* or aotions In presence of your husband..

No matter if he does not seem, to notice it, he will remember it when absent from you, and it will ttot make him ea^c«

er to return to you. Let him find nowhere outside of his home a woman so agreeable and courteous and winning aa the one he loft in it.

Study his moods as you would study the most difficult piece of music, the deepest mathematical problem, or the most Intricate stitches In needlework, and make It the aim of your life to lend yourself to his varying needs, as water shapes itself to any vessel Into which It is poured.

I once knew a woman who gave years of ber life to studying tho moods of the insane, that she might be ablo to lead them out of their mental msses into the light of reaaon. She accomplished miracles. Surely a wife ought to bo possessed of as great devotion toward her husband as this woman felt for unfortunate humanity.

There are scores of unhappy households to-day which might become havens of peace and rest for the perturbed souls within, if the wife would set about the study of her husband's needs, moods and foibles, with an aim to strengthen and help him In every emergency with all the love, patience and charity which this woman gave to strangers. Surely tho test Is worth tho trial.

To the young brides who shall read this article let me sum up my ad vice, and beg them give it heed:

Do not attempt to deprive yonr husband of any honorable pleasure which he enjoyed before he married you. Be willing to pass some lonely hours tbst he may enjoy those old pleasures, snd he will soon reward you richly for your unselflshness by planning to please you.

Alwsys give him a more cheerful, and pleasant, and affectionate greeting than he can find elsewhere, snd be will soon grow to think home the best plaoe on earth.

Take pains to gnard the expense from careless extravagance, and show a consideration for his purse, and he will become liberal with yon and treat him in private Mkd public with delicate respect, and prove to him that you believe he never means to hurt your feelings or yonr pride, and he will strive to live worthy of your ideal of him.

A patient course of this treatment will turn any one, save a very poor specimen of a man, into a good husband—one who will respect all women more instead of less for hsvlng married, and one who will regard his former bachelor life as only the anteroom of real existence.

Remember that marriage Is greater benefit to woman than to man, snd that she Is less able to live ber life happily, single, than be is. Therefore it her duty to mr--i more sr~r1ftc*s than be after marri Once u^w your willingn^ and erfttlnese in making sserif *, and yoo will find that few are demanded of you, and that all you make are appreciated.

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