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Vol. 19.—No. 24

THE _MAIL.

A PAPER FOR THE PEOPLE.

Notes and Comment.

Now it has been decided that marriage to not a failure tbe young man oan go ahead and marry his beat girl in the good old-fashioned way.

Kitty Everest, of Atchison, KanM refused to give up her lover for fl00,000 in clean cold caah ottered by her father. That's the sort of girl to tie to, boys.

It is now thought that J. 8. darkson, of the Des Moines Register, will have a place In Harrison's cabinet. Another editor and another Bible name! Next.

Amelie Rives-Chandler has began to deny some of the absurd stories told of her in the newspapers. Thus does the shrewd Amelie get a doable amount of free advertising. _____

General Harrison has shown as remarkable a talent for keeping still since the election as he did for talking before that event. Tbe President-elect is a suooess in whatever role be undertakes.

Nearly Christmas and no loe or snow of any consequence yet. Pity the sorrows of tbe poor coal man and the starving plumber! What will they do for a Christmas dinner if this thing keeps on

About nine-tenths of the men wfco want offices are proving thnt t* \v old chums and school-mate.-Harrison. Ben must have hart ful big circle of acquaintances

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was a boy. It seems only yesterday that Congress adjsurnod and here it is with us again. Fortunately it can only last three months this time and that will be quite long onougb to tight over the battles of the l#te campaign again.

A dire calamity is threatened literature in that Amelie Hives-Chandler may not write another story for two years. But Mr. Howells will go on forever and the land of the free and tbe home of the brave will manage to survive.

Besldos having natural gas and the President-elect, Indianapolis h«fcpae of the survivors of the immortal stk hun* dred who madetho famous charge at the battle of Balaklava, Indianapolis could probably have "the earth" Just now for the asking.

Indianapolis now claims a population of fully 100,000 and doubtless tho claim Is not exaggerated. That Is not as many as' Chicago or Philadelphia has, for Instance, but It Is enough to make a good stxed city. In fact a city of 75,000 or 100,000 population is a pleasanter and morally healthier place in which to live than (n a larger one. The seeker for a desirable place to make his home in would have to hunt a long time to find anyiking superior to the Hoosler Capital.

One of the novelties proposed for tho neat Inauguration Is a batalllon of women bo march In the procession. Far-ofl Colorado promises to send fiOO more or leas "fair women" and other States are counted on to furnish their quotas. Tho Mall b*a always favored and still favors tho advancement of women in every proper way, but it is not disposed to indole this project. Women could be better employed than in tramping the streets of Washington on tho 4th of March next. Let that part of the inaugural ceremonies be omitted.

No business in the mercantile line looks more invlUng and seductive to the outside world than keeping a drug store. 1Y put up cheap compounds for big prions, handle aromatic bottles with deft, bejeweled fingers, and wrap up dainty parcel* In vari -colored paper—all this looks very pretty and genteel. So much ao that yonUK men In search of nice easy places have rushed into "drug*" as the next thing to counting greenbacks behind a bank counter or punching tickets on a railway train. To make the highlycolored picture complete the idea prevails that the drug business is immensely profitable as well as Intensely beautiful. •There

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thia opinion once than there is now. Some prominent druggists In Chicago have been giving their experience and agree that "drugs" is wry much overdone. The big department stores which keep everything from a toothpick to a farm wagon have made a big exit in the fency goods and toilet articles of which the drag stores formerly had a monopoly. The latter, according to these gentlemen, have to resort to Cindy, soda water and cigars nowadays In order to m«ke ends mee£. It Is in this in most other lines of business—there Is general complaint that money is no more to be made as in the earlier days. Competition is sharp and margins are close. Is the country getting over-pop-ulated or what Is the matter.

"Once give a woman the idea thai she is literary by puWishing something she writes,** says the Chicago Herald, *1mnd *he will never be good for anything etoe while she will positively hate boosekeeping."

Tbe city council at Its meeting last Tuesday evening reconsidered the action at the former meeting on the street ear franchise, and the time was shortened to twenty years, which with the ten years yet to run makes the franchise extend thirty years Instead of fifty. While It would have been more business like for the council to have demanded some written pledge as to oertaia Improvements 'and reforms the street oar company propose in return for this valuable franchise, there ia|very general approval of the final action of the oouncUL While the affairs of the company are in the hands of the present owners, oar people have nothing to fear, bat It is la tbe event of change of ownership, perbsps to foreign parties, that there shoakl be some security for fullfllment of verbal promises. .a

Police court grows larger as the weather grows cooler. For the past week or more there have been numerous oases of drunkenness and vagrancy. This city has no terrors to the vagrant. He knows that when he comee he will be treated royally. In the event he falls Into the hands of a policeman he is sent to jail where he can look from the cage over the placid waters of the Wabash. The next morning in police court he ia relessed and told to go his way rejoicing. He is fed and kept at oounty expense and, in fact, the offloe of Sheriff is feathered by tbe pay reoeived for boarding such prisoners. Perhsps in theee days when great promise is made of improvement in nearly every direction, the time «y come when a work house will be ^Wished and this city cease to be the trtunp's delight.

The irregularity in succession of one member of the board of county commissioners, which has been a source of dispute for some time, is again to be taken Into court. Judge Black denies the right of newly elected commissioner Flnkbln er to his seat on the board, claiming that his term of office does not expire by decision of tbe Circuit court In the case of Sparks vs. Black. As Mr. Finkbiner was armed with his certificate of election, Judge Black had to give way on the board, and sit in the background until the matter is decided in oourt. Both sides are preparing to appear as soon ia possible*. Judge MoNutt will represent Judge Hack, and Mi*. G. "W. Faris, Mr. Finkbinor. The board was Republican and thus Mr. Finkbiner was given his seat.

The annual meeting of the charity organisation society wss held at tbe Presbyterian church on Sunday evening, and according to the usual custom no services were held in a majority of the other churches. Quite a long programme of addresses and music was rendered, and a very interesting part was the annual report of the society's work for tho yesr by Mr. L. P. Alden. Among interesting statistics were the following: Whole number of cases dealt with during tho year (139 number of residents 212 non-residents 427 meals served st the Friendly Inn 1011 lodgings furnished 500 receipts from various sources $781 disbursements 1780.

Before benediction wss pronounced cash subscriptions amounting to $153.10 were received, which added to donations previously received made a financial start for the year of about 9500*

At half past eleven o'clock Wednesday morning a small company assembled at the home of Mr. and Mrs. J. R. Duncan, on south Sixth street to witness the marriage of their accomplished daughter, Miss Flora Lee Duncan, to Mr. John B. Aikman, formerly of this city. After an elegant luncheon Mr. and Mrs. Aikman, with the best wishes of a host of friends, left on the afternoon train for St. Louis and Denver, going thenoe to their home at Leadvllie, Colorado,where Mr. Aikman has a responsible position ss head clerk of the Arkansas Smelting Company. _________________

The Gas Company has abandoned the long search for gaa. At a depth of 2^85 feet the drill struck some kind of poisonous water. Tbe water is very warm, equal to ninety-five degrees Fahrenheit. The poisonous qualities are shown by the fact that the water turns all metallic substances green, the same as solution of copper. No such stream has ever before been found In drilling for gas.

Judge Msck has been engaged during the week in setting down caw*, and now has all of them fixed for trial. His docket is well cleared of cases. New business generally disposed of mors rspidly than old. There are on the docket a few old cases which the court has been endeavoring to dfopoee of.

There are two murder cases on the criminal docket. The ease against Galloway has been set for Dr~xnber 30th, for the killing of Doily PhL-ps it Third and Ohio streets. Dr. Givens will he tried a week from Monday lor the Oentsrrille murder. Ia the latter case there will be considerable interest.

An interesting program of exercises has been pr srod for'Vi VlfoOMUtj Sunday Sdu~. convent!—., which meets in tbe Congregational church nextTneedsy morning ait oVIoclu,, ...

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AINME BOYS.

A Woman's Chat.

BT BxamrnA BUWWT.

The Detroit Free Press recently expatiated at length upon the weighty problem, "Why don't the men do more marrying?" The conclusion arrived at waa, J& that the girls are too shiftless and extravagant, so that a man with ^a moderate inoome cannot aflbrd it. The conclusion is for tbe moet part a false one. There will always be lovemaklng and marrying until the end of time. The human heart Is so constituted and nothing can change its inclinations in that direction. Bat that girls are growing more Independent and. thjl they do not hold themselves so oheap ss fifty years ago, to also a fact.

I have In mind a very delightful household, In which there are three daughters. One to a doctor, a noble woman, whom any man might be proud to marry. One is a teaoher, commanding a salary of fl,fi00 a year, a brilliant and beautiful giri of twenty-two. The younger one to a fine musician and organist In one of the large churches of the city. All of theee girls had an ambition to be self supporting, to develop the talent they possessed, and to let marrying take care of itself. They have never been husband seekers, and can afford to wait till the right man comes along

Here Is the cue to the mystery. Almost every svenue of labor is now open to women. They have just begun to realise how much better it is to make their own giving, to enjoy their own freedom, than to marry Just for the sake of marrying—thus making a purely business transsctlon of it.

What man would dare to ask one of the girls I have named, to marry him just to keep his house in order and mend his linen, he to give her iu return, bread and butter, shelter, a few clothes, and maybe a dollar a month to spend as she chose? Why, even my kitchen giri says she won't marry until she comes across man who is thrifty, capable and who wants her because he loves her. She haa a bank aooount that many a man might envy and oan have a good home in a good family as long as she chooses, so why should she marry unless to better herself In some way? As women grow more independent, the standard of marriage grows higher. Few daughters of the next generation will be taught thai a woman's chief end is to marry. A good fashion is coming in vogue, the fashion of strong, cultured and self sustaining womanhood. But the old fashion of love can never die, and with the two fashions, we shall have less mockery in marriage and more happiness in tbe home.

Someone has started the question, "Shall women propose?" Hssn't she always been doing it? if not with her mouth, with her eyes, her sctions, her sighs and glanoee? There are precious few men who are not sure of a "yes" before they ask the final question. There area great many who are sure of a yes who never ask it at all.

If a girl and her mother want a fellow, it Is pretty hard for him to keep from being captured. The old fabulous story that the maiden flees and the man pursues, may be very pretty and poetical. It is just thajfther way nowadays. Id fact, the girPwho wants to marry for the sake of marrying has to do a good deal of pursuing in order to gain her point. Young men are getting more scarce every year. In New England each of them has fortunes to choose from as well as blue blood.

So many young women, too, have better salaries than tbe young men, It seems but right that they should have the privilege of popping tbe question.

And then, with their smoking, chewing, drinking and fast living generally, men are deteriorating, while women, with their dress reforms and physical culture are ooming up in the scale, so that it will soon be a sort of farce for a puny, cadaverous little fellow to ssk a broad chested, deep lunged, strong backed woman to marry him, which which will mean—-to take care of him.

So Lord Saulsbury to In favor of woman suffrage, and has actually said so, in' the hearing of all the world! What a windfall to there, my country-women. O, the day to ooming—and the men cant help it—when we will have it all our own way. Intellect wins always. And are not the women of America and England fast over-reaching the men intellectually? Isnt It a fact that the girls are getall the advantages of our schools, and that nine-tenths of tbe boys quit school at sixteen? In my circle of acquaintances are mariy young men and women. The boys have money making on the brain* And not by alow and honest means, but they want to be in the "Board of Trade," to speculate, to grow rich in a fabulous way without having to work very hard. The girls are contented to go leisurely through school, and then tq, work for a reasonable salary and to lift within their means. In politwd matters women have been maldqg ^themselves a strong power in America, especially in the last campaign. Andtin spite of the newspapers, a prejudice^ in spite of alt tbearguments crocslvalw against women voters, th' time will come whan they can they want to..

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TERRE HAUTE, IND, SATURDAY EVENING, DECEMBER 8,1888. Nineteenth Year

[From Frank Leslie's.] THE PHANTOM BALL.

You remember the hall on the oorner?. Last night, ss I walked down-street, I heard the sound of music

And tbe rhythmic beat and beat In time to tne poising motion Of lightly trippingfeet.

Ad I tarried and entered the doorwayIt was yean since I bsd been there Yesrs. and the world is different,

And pleasure hss met with care. But again I was hearing the music And watching the dancers fair. And then, as I stood and listeaed,

Tbe.music lost its glee, And instead of those merry wslt There were ghosts of the "Used to Ghosts of the pleasure-seekers

Whoienoe had danoed with me. Oh! 'twas a ghastly picture— Oh! twas a grewsome crowd, Each bearing a scull on his shoulders,

Each trailing a long white shroud, As they whirled in the danoe together And the music sobbed aloud. -As they danced their dry bones rattled -,«&k»a shutter In a blast And they stared from eyeless sockets

On msas they circled past, AnffthfEpiusle that kept them whirling Was anmeral dirge played fast. Some of theflnwori their face-cloths,

Others were rotted awsy Some had mould On tTlj.tr garments, A And some seemed dead but a day— Skeletons slL but I knew them «As friends wap

I had once been gay.

Beauty and grace and manhood. And thia was the end of all Only their phantoms

In the ghostly skelei— And the musts ceased—and they vanished iI came away from the, hall.

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Ella Wheelef Wilcox

TOLLS HOW HUSBANDS SHOULD TREAT THEIR WIVES.

WHAT WOMEN NEED TO MAKE THEM HAPPY.

Written for The Mail—Copyrightedl If I were asked to define the meaning of a successful man, I should say a man who haa made a happy home for his wife and children. No matter what he has not done in the way of achieving wealth and honors, if he haa done that he to a grand success. If he has not done that, and it is his own fault, though he be the higheat in the land he is a npost pitiable failure.

I wonder how many men, in the mad pursuit for gold which characterises the age, realise that there is no fortune that can be left their families so precious as the memory of a happy home

I heard a daughter say, with bitterness, one day: "I never knew a happy hour in my childhood. My father was so cross and severe ho crushed my mother's spirit and destroyed our youth. Nothing can ever recompense me for that." What a memory for a daughter to carry through life! It is no uncommon case. I have known several men who were objects of terror to their families. Laughter ceased, mirth was silenoed, callers intuitively took leave, when the master of the house approached. I wonder what suoh men live for? I can imagine no honor than can compensate for the loss of love of those nearest to us.

I think more American men than women marry for love. Yet there are fewer good husbands than good wives, take the land over. In many oases the wives spoil good husbands by foolish nagging and illiberal faults, which I have already mentioned in a letter to wives. Now I want to talk to the husbands, and I hope they will cut out this letter and carry it in their pocket-books, and read It aloud as often ss they have my advice to "Women as Wives."

If you married a beauty and a belle, or a very popular young lady even, you no doubt felt highly elated over your conquest, and it was your intention to make her happy. But perhaps you did not realise that an extra exertion on your part would be necessary as time rolled on. Ardent lovers too often and too quickly become indifferent husbands, not indifferent in heart, maybe, but indifferent In action. The girl who has been sought, and admired, and praised by a crowd of enamoured swains during' her single career cannot help feeling heartaches and repinings if she to unnoticed or neglected ss a wife. It will not do to let her take It for granted that you still care for her, or still admire her. You must tell her so sometimes—tbe often er the better. It may seem foolishness to yon but It to often a matter of life and death Import to a wife—a few fond, admiring words from a husband's lips. It will not coat yon anything, and it will make her happy. Praise her discretion, her good sense and her dignity, and tell her that these qualities are dearer to you than her beauty, and£mark my worda, she will strive to deserve your praise with renewed ambition. If ahedoea not she will be very light weight indeed. See to It that no man pays your wife sweeter oompliments or appreciates her beauty or *forth mors than you do. There are men who stand ever on the watch for pretty and neglected wivea, ready to whisper words of coca passion snd pity in their ears. Be on yoor that your wife does not find such a relief from the neglect or faultshe receives at home. If you married a girl fqjU of sentiment romance, it will require something eflbrt on jenr part to malm a successful hoabaadand to keep her happy. 8$&'fglnot he satisfied to settle into

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prosaic and commonplace domestic life She will not be happy in hearing you only talk of bills and economy, no matter how excellently you take care of her, or how good a home you provide for her. She will want a little sentiment mixed in, and, although you may feel it unnecessary now that you are married, it will be worth your while to do a little love-making oooasionally. Tell her that she is the best wife in tbe world, and you are sure no one else on earth could make you so happy a* she has done. You have no idea, being a man, how much joy such words bring to a wife's heart.

There are women who may laugh at this idea, and deolare that they do not want their husbands to talk suoh sllliness to them. They are the woman who married for homes, however, not the ones who married for love. If your wife gave you the natural warm, romantic passion of her heart, she will desire and appreciate a oontinuanoe of your luve-making after marriage.

Few of us realise the great benefit of endearing words in our homes. I have seen a oold, formal, loveless household transformed by tbe advent of one demonstrative and affectionate member into its midst. She talked the love she felt for all those about her, used endearing and affectionate expressions in her daily conversation, and this habit, laughed at, even sneered at, at first, became contagious, and with tbe use of the love words the love came. We cannot useoa\hs without becoming profane we cannot use slang without becoming coarse, and we cannot use affectionate words without beoomlng affectionate.

Let the husband who is in the habit of speaking words of stern or formal command to his wife begin to practice a little in this line. When he would say, "Come here Mary!" let him compel himself to say, "Come here, doar wife," and, as sure as he is a man, not a brute, his heart will feel a softening and tender emotion toward that wife as he speaks the words, and her own will thrill with happiness. It costs so little to do these things, and it gives wonderful dividends.

If you come home and find something out of place in the house, or not to your liking, do not let it be the first thing you mention. Try and find something to praise and appreciate, and then speak of the matter that displeases you and ask to have it attendended to. I have seen wives tolling hard all day to get the house in order and the table spread appetixingly spresd for her lord's return and when he came home I have heard him find fault because a child's shoe or toy bad been allowed to lie unnoticed in the hall, the poor wife felt as if her whole day's labor w»s unappreciated, and her slight negligence alone noticed. How much better if he had praised the clean windows, the shining silver, the wholesome food, the neat toilet of liis wife, and then spoken of the shoe in the hall. Yet if he should find that shoe in the ball every day for a week, it would necessitate a serious talk, in which ho should try and make his wife understand that a neglected request over a trifle can easily spoil the whole happy effect of a home-coming for a man.

If you marry a woman who has no dowry of her own, you would save a vast amount of unbappiness and final expense by placing an allowance each mouth in her hands. Decide how much you can afford to have her use upon herself, or upon herself and the children and house, and let her know that it will be cheerfully given to her each month on a certain day. No man con realize the mortifying humiliation it is to most women to be obliged to ask for money or to have their Dills looked over and criticised. Tbe happiest and most economical households I know to-day are those where the wife has her regular allowance and pays her own bills. It teaches her economy and self reliance, and gives her a sense, of independence that of itself creates happiness and content.

I know the widow of a million to-day who tells me that all her wealth can never remove tbe scars of humiliation left by the memory of her early years of dependence, when she wss obliged to ask her husband for two cents to buy an yeast cake, and to explain what she wanted to do with tbe two cents he grudgingly gave. Dependence like this sears a woman's heart and turns natural sweetness of disposition into gall. No matter bow small your inoome give your wife a portion of it, with tbe understanding that she to to depend upon that for her personal needs, and that she must govern her needs accordingly.

If your wife is inclined towards reckless extrsvsgance, this will be tbe best method in the world of curing her of it. TeU her that she must depend upon the monthly sum you set apart for expences and that If she exceeds It one month she must save it from the next allowance. Talk quietly and earnestly with her tell her that all your labor to for her sake, and that yon depend upon her assistance in keeping out of debt snd makings fortune of independence, and that It will require mutual self-sacrifice and prudence. If she is any kind of a reasonable or sensible wor*fu, this will tsmpJishJkr mom toward making h«r

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you desire than scolding or parsimony. Do not make light jests about marriage, or talk even in sport before peopleas if you were sick of your connubial bargain. These things always hurt a wife's feelings, however she msy hide the fact. If your wife begins to fade with the years, or the tax of motherhood, do not be forever raving oversome fresher face in her hearing and making little jokes about having lost your heart to anew charmer. It is not good taste and cannot fail to wound the heart already sad with the consciousness of her own waning personal charms which have been sacrificed in your service. If you have been a man popular with ladies, you will find it hard to deny yourself lover-like attentions to them after the novelty of your married life haa worn off. But whenever you are about to take a liberty of this kind, stop and ask yourself If you would be willing to have your wife reoelve the aame attention from some«other gentleman.

If you would not, then it is your duty to deny yourself. The moment you take one liberty with the opposite sex you would not allow her, that moment you have crossed the dividing line between right and wrong, and you have lowered your standard of manhood.

If a woman is worth choosing from all the world to marry, she is worth sacrificing some follies and pleasures for. Ard the happiness that comes from a pure and loyal marriage, and the mutual respect and esteem it produoes, outweighs the cheap ploasures of common fiirtaax gold outweighs and outlasts iti t. think sometimes of your wtfi" "lire, and plan to give your famil,) ill. jcuadlonal treat.

If you are In modest circumstances and trying to save money, remomber that you go about among men and mix with the world, while she stays at home with the children. It will not oost you ono tenth the amount tbe pleasure it will give, if you plan to take them to a theatre or entertainment once a month. Let them have this to look forward to, and do not spoil it all by scolding afterward over the expense.

I knew a man who tabooed theatres and society because it all "oost money," aud he was determined to become rich. He acquired a large fortune, but his oldest daughter ran away from home to escape its cold monotomy, and his unhappy and spiritless wife lost all ambition iu her isolation from her kind, and ho was ashamed of her when his large fortune eventually plaoed them among the rich men of the town.

To tbe groatly Increasing army of club husbands I would say, Do not pass evory evening in the week at the club. Try and arrange your affairs to stay at home once in a while, and if you do stay don't yawn and declare yourself bored to death. If you have a wife who cannot entertain you alone by books, or conversation, or cards, take her out calling on your friends once a week, let us say. I know a good many wives who would be satisfied and happy to receive as much attention as this from their husbands, who in reality live at their clubs and offices. One evening out of six or seven is not much to sacrifice for her pleasure, and you do not want to„ make her feel that you are bored by that evening either.

Women need love, praise, appreciation, and pleasure as much ss flowers need the sunlight and, as a rule, the best wives are the women who recclve considerate kindness and attention from the rightful source—tbe husband. If you are not quite satisfied with your domestic life, my dear sir, think over what I have written, and see if you cannot better tbe situation by beooming a better husband. Find less fault, praise more, use endearing words, give your wife an allowanoe, take no liberty with other women you would not grant her with other meo, give ber some social pleasures, and, If she does beoome a model and happy wife on this diet, she is not worth worrying about.

ELLA WHKBLBB WIJUXX.

THE ART AMATEUR

For December is tbe finest number ever published of this excellent art magazine. Two charming colored plates are given —a woodland winter landscape with a man and dog trudging homeward just as the sun hss set, and "Hearts are Trumps," a dainty young woman in an evening dress of blue tulle, playing cards. Hie black-and-white designs include a beautiful female head for plaque decoration, a large and striking composition of "Shrikes and Blackberries," an admirable thistle design for a carved panel, an orchid decoration for a plate, a Royal Worcester vase decoration, a charming figure design—"Tbe Music Lesson"—after Wstteau, for tapestry painting, and fine embroidery designs for a cushion and a piano stool. Articles of mpecial interest are those on "A Model New York Home" (finely Illustrated), Louis Quinze decoration, art work In Jade, gifts In painted china and photographic Christinas cards. Flower painting, tapestry painting. Royal Worcester decoration and wood serving are among the practical topics particularly dUcoseed. Amsteor photography receives much attention, and the varioun editorial departments are vigorously maintained. It Is a marvel that so much can be given for the small sum of thirtyfive cents. Montague Marks, publisher, 28 Union Square, New York.