Saturday Evening Mail, Volume 10, Number 47, Terre Haute, Vigo County, 22 May 1880 — Page 1

THE MAIL

A PAPER FOR THE PEOPLE.

SECOND EDITION.

MARKERS are not to be despised. One who enters a room in an awkward manner, or moves about awkwardly, is at a disadvantage. One who eats with his knife, drinks oat of a saucer, and violates other little proprieties of good society, may have merits which will counterbalance these minor defects, but these merits would have an easier and more complete conquest were it not for the defects in the manners. Schools for teaching grace of motion, how to walk, bow, enter or retire from company, hew to address the opposite sex, and what are the rules or customs of good society, have a place, even an important place ia education. But they cannot make a true gentlemen or lady. A jeweller can polish and beautifully set a diamond, but, after all, it is the nature of the diamond itself that gives chief value to the completed article. The same polishing and the same setting would not mako a diamond out of an ordinary stone. Paste is paste and diamond Is diamond, change the settings how you will. Manners are to the gentleman or lady what polishing and setting are to the rich stones. A dancing master oan make a paste gentleman or lady, but not a genuine one. Manners, after all, are not the essential of true politeness or oourtesy.

THERE used to be an old fort where Chicago now is. The small garrison in it was driven out by the Indians, who pursued the inmates and overtook some of them. Among the prisoners was a white woman, the wife of an officer. She was brought in nearly exhausted and of oourse terribly frightened. An old Indian squaw watched her opportunity and secretly gave her a cup of tea with a smile and a gesture indicating kindness. Thus she did the best she could for the comfort of her guest. The real courtesy or politeness of her deed was not destroyed by the fact that she stirred the tea with her finger. Her manner of stirring the tea might have been Improved, but the deed was one of true oourtesy.

POLITENKSS is in very little

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gettlug soiled by jail way travel for is not much worn on the oars. In fact it is wonderful how like swine at the feeding trough some so-called respectable people can behave among strangers. The rule seems to be that one whom I do not know has no rights which I am bound to respect.

COURTESY is not apt to smell of the kitchen, for the woman who is most agreeably polite among her guests in the parlor, lays all this aside when she goes out to direct the servants In the kitchen. Auy old dress, in which a woman would be ashamed to be caught, will do for kitchen wear. Ditto manners.

Tins contrast between the elegant dress worn atsn evening party and the slovenly one lu which the same person appears at the breakfast table the next morning, is not greater than the contrast between the manners at the party and at the breakfast. The contrast between society manners and home manners is often greater than between society dress and homo dress. And yet of all places in the world whore politeness would add most of pleasure to life is the home circle. But a man who will not allow a woman in society to pick up a fau, will allow bis wife to do all sorts of disagreeable drudgery while he sits in his slippers. A woman who will not accept the smallest favor from a gentleman in society without the most graceful and grateful acknowledgement will take a favor from a husband with an air which says "We are married and its his business." Young men snarl at their sisters, even their mothers, and are all honey to women who have no claim upon them. Ditto sisters toward brothers. More politeness at home would sweeten life wonderfully.

TBB Mail does not propose to rend its linen or occupy much space with that |300 bribery case. There's been enough of it—too Biuch—in the papers already this week. The substanoe of it Is that Patrick O'Sulllvan gave Councilman Harrison his note for f300, payable in case he secured the election of Richard Duunigmn as City Attorney—or, as 0*Sullivan puts It, to electioneer for him. It la dearly shown that Mr. Duonigan was not a party to the transaction that O'Sulllvan, to pat it mildly, was hardly accountable for his action*— though he object* to the statement that he was drunk—and that Mr. Harrison Indignantly spurned the ofter, as an honest man abould. Perhaps Ida virtue oonld have been made sufficiently apparent without taking the sote, *but such was the ad toe his friends gave him, and he followed it. It may be that there la some one behind CSSullivan pulling the strings, but this has not been shown, and until it Is, much of the hullabaloo is unnecessary.

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Susan Perkins' Letter.

TKRRE HAUTE, May 21,1880.

MY DKAB JOSRPHINE—This is the season of the year when every one who owns a horse and vehicle of any kind takes advantage of the beautiful May evenings to take a ride. Terre Haute boasts of a good many horses of fine blooded stock, I believe, but the carriages are not many of them particularly elegant. Most of them are comfortable, roomy, family carriages or neat pbeetons. I believe there is only one conpe in town, which is enough to give that one a reputation for style and exclusiveness whieh all the common pbsetons and commoner buck boards envy as only the common and low in life can envy. Sunday afternoon and evening seems to be the time when everybody drives. The vehicles from the livery stsbles are in constant demand, and may be seen gayly rolling along, filled with pleasure parties, or, perhaps, young men with their pretty sweethearts. Spring wagons, which during the week are made to run for delivery wagons and so forth, are rubbed up on Sunday, an extra seat put in and the family, which includes mother, father, and untold children, pack in and proceed to the country for an airing. At the same time probably one may see dashing by the fine horses and carriage of some wealthy aristocrat with two or more vacant seats!

That reminds tne of a remark I beard the other day. The author of it was a pretty, well bred young lady who is in moderate circumstances, and who is, as she expresses it, "too poverty stricken to own a horse and carriage." "How I wish I were rich," said she, "then would have a large, elegant carriage, and every evening I would take to ride some of the people who are too poor to. ride any other way." Was it not a pretty thought, Josephine? And yet, when I think of It calmly and dispassionately, when I look among my friends who are poor, I wonder how many of them, if suddenly promoted to riches, would do that! I am afraid not very many. They would fully intend to do it, but when the time came they would remember that no one took them riding when they were carriageless and horseless, and would go and do likewise. Yes, Josephine, it is a lamentable fact that the happy owners of horses and carriage* do not as a general thing wear, out those luxuries in the service of their less fortunate friends. And the higher up we go on the social ladder the less generous do we find people in this respect. The owner of a spring wagon or buck board is much more apt to take his neighbor's family to ride than is the owner of a coupe or landeau. Young ladies who have pbsetons generally want company, and invite their friends to accompany them. Too often these friends have carriages of their own and so a benefit is not conferred on them. I know a lady who is refined and educated, but she is In reduced oircum stances and earns her living she seldom if ever has the opportunity to enjoy a refreshing drive. Now, how nice it would be if some evening as she Bits oareworn and listless from a hard day's work, some one of her friends would drive up and invite her to ride! Why it would bring the color to her cheek, and elasticity to her step, besides giving her something pleasant to think of for a week to come. But such a thing seldom happens. Her rich friend will take some other friend who can ride at any time or leaves a vacant seat in the carriage. I do not think this is due so much to selfishness as carelessness. The wealthy become so accustomed to luxuries of every kind that they forget that others bare not the same benefits. Do you remember, Jose phine, when old Aunt Betsy used to tell us that "true refinement was born of a generous heart"? There was a good deal of truth In her old fashioned Ideas, and I often think of her and her quaint way of putting things. She always insisted that we should think over our actions of each day before going to sleep, and if we had performed one generous deed or spoken kind word which had been needed, then our day's work was a success.

Why is it that I so often breik out In such a solemn strain? I think my education has been negleoted, and if It bad only been properly attended to I might have made a good missionary, or at least the president of some soroais! Aa it Is I am compelled to waste all of my innate inspirations on you. (Then! I have been dying to get off that phrase for some time, and now I feel relieved.)

You should see the Japanese parasols that infest this town. Last summer, a few. of the belles who take the lead In introducing new fashions appeared upon our streets with this very peculiar sunshade. The natives gased with awe and astonishment at the Innovation. Probably there were not a dosen Japanese umbrellas to be found in the dty last summer, but with the hot rays of King Sol this season oomes a perfect inundation of the paper parasols. Use school girls carry them theservantgirls carry

them so do the lsdiee of African descent, and common nobodies who do not move iii the frigid regions of the first circles of society. It is needless to cay that the belles alluded to above have religiously refrained from carrying Japanese umbrellas this season, and now keep the sun from injuring their delicate complexions with costly silk parasols, edged with thread lace or handsome fringe.

I understand that some of the HigW School boys felt slighted, last week, because I did not mention some of them more particularly instead of devoting all of my time to the girls. Now, if they were a little older they would be gallant enough to say that too much time could not be devoted to girls! It was on account of their age that I did not say more of them were they a little older they would be adorable, and if a little younger would make delightful pets. But they are neither one thing nor the other, and must give up thoughts of present triumph in the hope of some day becoming great. Just think! Each boy in that High School may look forward to some time being a candidate for Councilman, or even Mayor! while the girls must calmly expect nothing except the hope of some day making a good match! Remember that, boys, and forgive me! If I had only thought of it in time, I might have described the costumes of two of the boys who had their plotures taken some time ago. Their cestumes were quite stylish, and fitted them beautifully, but strange to say, as 1 met them crossing Main street on their way home, I did not recognize tfem at the first glance! Good-bye, my dear Josie— Write soon to Yours, SUSAN.

ABOUT WOMEN.P

The spring suits of Chicago women are mostly for divorce. The simpler a girl dresses the better she looks, says an exchange. This properly explains why ballet dancers have so many admirers

Some females haVd just been tested in Kentucky for the manufacture of illicit whisky. This is the first recorded instance of a woman keeping still.'

Miss Sarah G. Bagley, of Lowell, Mass., was the first female operator ever employed in the telegraph service. That was in 1846. The profession now numbers thousands of women. "A young lady in Pen Yan, N. Y., Vears twelvb diamond rings oa ioe finger." She should also wear a gold band around her head to prevent the crack in her skull from becoming any wider.

A lady tells something whloh ought to have remalnid a secret with her sex. It is that a woman, in ohoosiag a lover, considers a good deal more how the man will be regarded by other women than whether she loves him herself.

A bold, bad man in Kokomo recently broke up a oburch sociable, at which, oonundruma were being given, by asking why women are like flowers, and then, after everybody had given it up, replying that they shut up when they sleep.

A woman at Allenville, Ark., conspired with a drug clerk to give her bus band poisOn as though by mistake, instead of a substance which he habitually bought. The plan was to let the msn die, and then the widow was to sue the clerk's employer for damages. "Promise me, my darling, that you will wear this always next your heart!" he said, as he handed her his picture in a locket. She replied that she was oh! so awfully sorry, but that Indeed her health should always be the first consideration, and that until her cough got better she would have to wear it outside of her lung pad!

Mrs. John M. Paul, otherwise known aa "Miss Belle Oook," of California, who was to ride the twenty mile race on horseback next September at Minneapolis, Minn., with a prominent female rider of Minnesota, was attacked by a robber a few days ago at her home. The robber wounded her with two pistol shots, and then struck her on the head with a pistol, leaving her for dead.

A lady guest at* Baltimore hotel, last week, decided to have a nloe little dinner all by herself, and hern la what she called for, served in oouraea: Soup, baked shad stuffed, boiled mutton and caper sauce, spring lamb and mint sauce, chicken with egg sauce, turkey with parsley sauce, roast veal, stewed kidneys with champagne sauce, chicken pie in country style, oold veal, cold mutton, mashed potatoes, spinach, lettuce, asparagus, cabbage, apple pie, rhubarb pie, punch cake, sponge cake, baked tapioca pudding, vanilla ice cream, English walnuts, crackers, rice snowballs with cream, apples, coffee.

Should a girl enoourags'iaore than one fellow at a time An exchange has received answers in the affirmative, among them the following: Yea, because (1) from a number of aparka ahe is sure to get aflame (S) with several hearts in her hand die is sore to play her cards well (8) by «nemuraging the many she tests the courage of the one

she abould have more than one string her bow and more than one beau to atring (5) no young lady could bly wish her lover to remain sin(6) it looks so shabby to have only spoon (7) it is only fair that the girl •hould have some choice in the matter (8} the advent of a fresh adventurer tends to bring the others out (9) the eompetitive market is the best for all iftyestors. %Ket and Pet Woods of Marion, Ohio, warned their father that if he took a second wifa they would exterminate her. ftp disobeyed. The girls armed them^M^es with revolvers on the night ef the iprriage, broke open the door of the al chamber, and fired several shots the darkness. They missed their mother, however, and slightly nded their father.

HE BETTER WORI*D. JOBS,

PASTORS

AND PEOPLE.

choir of an Advent church at eton, Miss, dress in crimson robes, oody and Sankey are to pay for the ion of twelve Creek Indian girls eNorthfleld Seminary. telephones come into use for spreadsermons. the man who passes the ribution box will need a horse and age, Denver preacher told the waverers i|i his congregation that they were like feman between two dog fights, unoerwb whloh to take in.

New York city has twenty-six Presbyterian churches—exactly the number it had thirty years ago, when the population was half a million souls. IpftThen the eloquent Bishop Simpson, offbe church, first entered

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ministry, he was, from bis bashfulalmost unable to but he to forget to be simple, to impress the truth upon his hear-

cently, a petition was presented to Legislature of Rhode Island in beof the Free Religious Society, of Vidence, asking that its minister ||bt be allowed to solemnize marges as other ministers do. The petiwas rejected on the ground that the ty in question did not believe in a

The Congregatienalist punishes the People who come late to church, It sfcjrs that they are only pirti'ally sanctified, and that the doors ought to be looked on them. Then It proceeds to call them brazen-faced loiterers, and to add that they are coarsely constituted and inoapable of reverence. Perhaps this seems a little hard on the thoughtless creatures who idly saunter into ohuruh when the service is half over but every minister knows what a persistent perplexity these persons are to him, and bow glad he woald be if they would be if they would mend their evil ways. Loiterers may be cured of their bad habits, if taken in hand when young. For a mature loiterer there is no remedy but locking the door.

The Rev. Thomas Armitage, at a meeting of the Baptist ministers in New York, the other day, struck at the root of a clerical evil—the making of pastoral calls. He characterised the custom and practice of professional calling as "ingrained laziness," and a love of gossip and scandal which had of late years been productive of gross immorality, and brought many clergymen to shame and the church into disrepute. He denounced the general topics cf talk on such occasions as scandalous and demoralizing, and leading directly into temptation. He asserted that preachers had no business with personal or family confidences of either sex any more than a merchant has, and that this gossiping business took the ministers away from their Bibles when they should be doing their own proper pastoral work. He insisted that the only proper people for clergymen to make pastoral calls upon are the old and the sick of the parish who cannot go to church, and the poor who may be in need of bread or clothes. The remarks were regarded as sensible, and containing the right kind of advice.

Says Robert Collyer: The wisest and the most thinking man among us, believe that we are entering on the moat prosperous times ever seen in these states, ip this is true all will ahare in the prosperity, and many of the young men in this congregation will in time be come millionaires. The temptation to narrow down the sympathiee in order to grow rich while we neglect God ia great, and I want to plead that we shall not fall into this snare. Young men ought to think of taking to themselves wives and rearing families, as if such things were near at hand instead of being in the distant future and young women ahoold baye other thooghla than of ailks, jewels, balls and parties. A man doea not want to marry music box, and young women ahoold prepare tbemselvea for good American wives. Another reaaon why people are not rich toward God is the idea mea entertain that they ahoold leave large provisions tor their fsmiliew. It is better for (he

laces, Ribbons, Gloves, Fans, Parasols, Jewelry, Buttons, Trimmings, &c.,, to Please Everyone, lit CENT STORE. IP«

children that they should build up their own fortunes. Rich men's sons are not likely to be worth more than their fathers gave them. The wealthy young American goes to Paris or London, gets a lot of veneer and looks down on all American institutions.

LITTLE SERMONS.

It is better to need relief than to want heart to give tt. By trusting your own soul, you shall gain a greater confidence in men.

No work begun in earnest, and followed up with quiet perseveranoe, oan fail ultimately to command suocess.

Some people are never content to hear any allusion to the good deeds or the bright sayings of others without calling attention to some corresponding exploit of their own.

Our follies are our most effeotual instructors and the strongest resolutions of manhood flourish best in that soil in which the extravaganoes of youthful hopes have found a grave.

A small man in a big place makes a great deal of noise because he rattles about awfully, and if he tries to fill the big plaoe by inflating himself, the consequences may be disastrous.

Never tell people of several faults at once. You will profit them nothing, but discourage them greatly. Rather set their faults gradually before them, as you see that they have courage to bear the sight with advantage.

When hearts are filled with holy affections, and home is happy, then do the young dwell in a charmed cirole, whioh only the naturally depraved would seek to quit, and across whioh boundary temptations to error shine out but feebly.

When you speak evil of another, you muBt be prepared to have others speak evil of you. There is an old Buddhist proverb whloh says, "He who indulges in enmity is like one who throws ashes to windward, whioh come back to the same place and cover him all over."

The more stpiot and severe and suspicious persons are precisely those who are most often deoeived. Suspicion is so rarely directed aright, that cunning is more than a match for it and oppresion ever begets cunning, which is the dwarfed and deformed cleverness of the slave.

Life has its romance, and to thlg it owes much of it dharm. It is net tl»at every woman is a heroine, and every Individual history a novel but there are scenes and Incidents in real life so peculiar, and often so poetio, that we need not be indebted to fiction for the development of romance.

FASHION'S FANCIES

Japanese fans play an important part in decoration, and are used in all shapes and sizes, from tiny flat fans to open-and-shut ones as large as oan be bad. These last are opened to the fullest extent, and fastened above a picture on the wall. A novel use for small sizes in closed fans is as cornices. For these they are opened and placed alternately up and down in a succession of alternate A's and V's, and fastened with gilt tacks.

Japanese parasols in large size make every pretty fire-place ornaments. The parasol is opened wide and the handle cut off short enough to allow it to fit close against the gate. The handle is then made fast, and the effect is both pretty and novel. Small parasols are utilized as lamp shades. For this purpose the oover atone is used, the handle and inside frame being taken out from it. The top Is cut off until the shade will pass over the top of a plain poroelaln shade. When the oover is once on it fits neatly, and looks extremely well with the light shining through it.

Lambrequins for window rills, made to match tint on the mantel, are a new Idea in draperies, and when the sills, are wide, is is the case in most old bowses and qome modern ones, are very ornamental. Brackets of plain wood covered with satin, or with doth of almost any description, are much liked and are very effective. These are not new, but of late they have been Improved fay the addition of quilted backs on a cardboard foundation fastened to the wall, to show off china, etc. Sometimes there is a band of velvet to edge the quilted satin. The bracket itself ia merely the ordinary kind, covered with satin. Dark red or rich blue are the favorite colors. White quilted satin ia meat effective for lining glass china cabinets, and tables with, and for sowing off the flash tints of delicate colored china. In a royal collection in England the best china is shown off on a background of white satin.

Cabinets for brio-abrac are a furore. Tbey are of all sizes, from the tiny corner cupboard which holds at most two or three treasured pieoes of china to the large Queen Anne cabinets, in which behind locked plate glass doors are antique jewels and race curiosities, too precious to be risked within reach of thoughtless fingrs. Specimens of china cape and saucers, small vases, crackle

glasses, porcelain figures, large and small, all these are among the presents which friends make to each other on ordinary oooaalons, while for bridal presents ohina takes rank with the richest silver ware. When a precious bit of china is shattered there are experts who mend itosrefully, after which, though past use, it may still take its plaoe on a bracket or in a cabinet of brio-a-brac.

PARALLEL OF SEXES. There is an admirable partition of the* qualities between the sexes, which theAuthor of our being has distributed to each with a wisdom that challenges our unbounded admiration:

Man has science—woman has taste/ Man Is strong—woman is beautiful. lf Man shinea abroad—woman at home. Man prevents misery—womau relieves* it.

Man has a rugged heart—woman air" soft one. Man has judgment—woman has sensl*, bility.

Man is great in action—woman inf suffering. Man is a being of justice—woman anjj^ angel of mercy.

Man talks to convince—woman to persuade and please. Man is daring and oonfident—womant is diffident and unassuming.

THEY ALL DO IT. V'

A few weeks ago President and Mrs* Hayes went to Mount Vernon, and passed the night there, sleeping in the bed formerly oooupled by George and Martha Washington. A great deal of fun was had when the fact got out, but the oustodlan of the property at Mount Vernon says that it is the usual thing for presidents to do. Linooln, Grant. Johnson, Buobanan, Pierce, Filmore and Tyler, he says, have all slept in Washington's bed, and he supposes that other presidents have, but that is as far aa his memory runs. Some of the presidents named occupied the bed several nights during their term of office, and President Pieroe was in the habit of going to Mount Vernon to pass the night very often during the summer.

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SUMMER TRIPS TO EUROPE. New York Letter. A great many people who could never afford the trip to Europe before will go this season. The great prosperity whloh set in last fall will cause the exodus this year to be greater than ever before. More than 1,000 passengers left on Saturday last in six steamers. Nearly all are of the wealthy class, and safo to spend anywhere between 91,000 and 910,000 apieoe before they return. I understand that not a stateroom can be bad on any of the steamers of the three prinoipal lines during the month of June all being booked ahead, while one favorite line, I am informed, has its whole saloon accommodation engaged right up to the end of the season, it is safe to say that more American money will circulate in Europe this year than ever. j- S

A MYSTERY OF THE HONEYMOON. The courtship, the engagement, the oeremony are over. The bridegroom hands his bride into the carriage, and the honeymoon begins. Now observe one of the most singular facts in the whole history of courtship, a fact to which there Is no known exception: The bridegroom never oan recall the first words spoken by him to the bride In that carriage. Why? This question bae been asked a hundred thousand times, and never satisfactorly answered yet. Some attribute the'forge^umess to joy some to confusion some fanpy the words are of such an extremety romantic nature, the man finds it more consistent with bis dignity not to recall them. The answer is none of these. It is much more prosaic and praotial. The secret of forgetfulness is that be has already Said to her everything he oould think would Interest her. everything that does interest him. His conversational resources are exhausted, and he has nothing to say. Instead of an important speech, be utters some dreamy commonplace, throws himself back into the cushion, devoutly thanking heaven "the thing is over." Thus, before the honeymoon is five minutes old, the bridegroom breaks down.

A FEW HINTS FOR THE SEASON. Throw old bottles, oyster cans, broken dishes and so forth into your neighbor's yard. He's no man if he can't pass 'em along to the next.

Borrow a wheel-barrow, rake, hoe. made

Mid

whatever else you may need

through the Summer as soon now as you can, so that the owners will forget to whom they were lent. A man who buys a wheel-barrow when be can borrow one will never be chief financier of a life insurance company.

If ene of the gate hinges is missing, take the other off and throw it away. It is better to have agate on no hinges than one hinge, and it is cheaper to throw away a binge than to buy one.

Spring is a good time to crawl under the house and find the missing shears, thimbles, butcher-knives, silver spoons and pail coven. A great many families get rich by bunting up tbinga which the cat has lugged out of the house during the Winter.

The seassn his arrived when seven or eight stoves oan be dispensed with In the average dwelling-house. Any man who oan kick strong enough to break a horse's leg can kick over a stove. That's the easiest way to get'em down. Stovepipe, properly made and put up, will, fall when the stove does.

Some folks take op carpets and beat them In the Spring. Others wslt until Fall and then beat the carpet stores. Every family can take its choice, tbie being a free country.

Tax way to grow old is to be econom­/• ics! of life. If it be carelessly squandered in any way it cannot last so long as it otherwise might. Overwork kills a few. Overworry kills foore, because It is more depressing and exhausting, the indulgence of the appetites and passions Is still more fataL Men who eat more than tbey need, drink more than is good for tbem, and indulge in other kindis of riotous living, spend life as tbey spend money. ... ... ,....„