South Bend News-Times, Volume 31, Number 72, South Bend, St. Joseph County, 6 March 1914 — Page 4

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LACK U M ) 1 1 K ST A N I I N i . I think Helen most to blame though Warren has his share of ."horteomings. I don't bdieve they exactly understand etch othr. Helen is all tho time Fhowini; her love ami thi hecms to tire Warren. He seems to loe her as much as she does him. but he doc not belong to the type of man that demonstrates his love all th- time. He only does so on rare occasion?. They will have to learn to djut themsehes to one another. For married lire is not a path of roses. Nr yet a path of thorns. Its mixed with rain and sunshine. And sometimes terrible storms. Vet many and many a man and wife, have traveled through lif together, and peace and happinesH found at last; thought they encountered stormy weather. Mil. KLOKENCK F.BEKLEIN.

Helen and Warren. Thev are

her affection for Warren, but be Interested in whatever he Is inte-ted In, and tr.y and be a companion and an equal in very way. Warren should be more thoughtful of Helen in little things, which count so much to a woman. He should praise her efforts to please him occasionally, and n"t criticise or humiliate her in the presence of other.-?, and each should not see the faults of the other so readily, but see the better qualities. These things can not be accomplished In a day or a week; it may tak? some time, but will purely onme. It surely takes more than a pool home, servants and so forth, to make one happy, but if Warren and Helen pre.-evere they will succeed and then they will look back and laugh at what they thought were troubles in their tlrst vears of married life. MHS. M. A. C.

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both to blame. Just a case of difference in temperaments. Any court in the state would prant them a divorce on the grounds of incompatibility. Warren has, inherited the disposition of his forefathers, the cave men, where man's word was law and woman a. slave. Well, he will have to learn that in these modern times, woman is man's equal in brains if not strength. Helen has only, the power of a very weak, loving woman, to combat this

cave man with. Yet, rightly used, she

needs no other. Hut the does not use it right, consequently trouble, tears, and more trouble, een unto the bitter end, unless tlu-y both change their ways. I would suggest as a remedy, Ihut Warren be a little less the brute and more the gentleman at horno. Make some allowances for Helen's disposition, and always renumber her great love for him. And Helen, instead of wasting so much time in tears and elf-pity, assert her independence if she has any. If not, grow some quickly. When Warren gets a high and mighty streak instead of acting like a whipped puppy very calmly tell hie.i what she thinks of such actions. Of course there will be a quarrel and he vtill sulk for a few day?. She should go ahead as if nothing had happened. In time be will come to, and think more of her for It. Also she should not try so hard to please him; please herself more, and above all, don't let him be too -sure of her. Nothing spoils sport like being too sure of the victory. This constant striving to please is naturally .very irritating to one of Warren's independent nature. Helen should seek ways to broaden her mind, as Warren in his business life is outgrowing her. Let her Join a Woman's club, and interest herself in the great questions of the day. a lew interests outride her home life would make her a better companion. ,he should also bear in mind that when Warren comes home from his days' work, tired and many times nerves taut, ready to snap at anything, be doesn't care to hear about Delia's neglect of the ice chest or the meanness of the neighbors' kids. Purely Helen could manage those things herself, and should; that is part of her day's work. It us hope that in the third year they both realize where they are drifting, before it is too late. Mable Herbert Urner is to be complimented on writing a story so true to ral life, for in many homes such tragedies are being enacted every day and they keep our divorce courts busy. I. C. S.

lir.i.r.v should avoid sci:m:s. Who is to blame in the Curtis family troubles? Well. I should say that, rs it Is usually in such cases, both are tit blanv. "Warren has lived in a selfish and Irritable family where each one says .lust what he thinks regardless of how it hurts others. Helen's home was one where all were loving and kind, to of course she is hurt by things that to Warren are a part of every day life. Jieitn is too sentimental, her husband Just the opposite. .S'hc should be more reserved and in time he will learn to appreciate her caresses. Complain! ft of a husband's lack of affection und shedding tears over it in his presence will never win it'. If sho could control her tears and temper and tell him very plainly that she would not endure such treatment and he careful not to irritate him by making "scenes" as lie calls them. I think life "would in time bo pleasanter. The first few years of married life

are years of adjustment, learn to endure, overlook much. When Warren learn that, and practice both bo happier.

WAKUKX AND HKLKX OPPOSITKS. Warren is conceited and " selfish. Helen is just the opposite. When misunderstandings arise, even though at times Warren Is entirely to blame, he selfishly blames all to Helen who usually meekly accepts the charge, simply because she knows that it is the best way to avoid his irritable temper. Why does he not meet Helen half way at least? Why 1.' it always Helen who says "I'm sorry"? Helen, under the circumstances, could hardly be expected to be jierfectly happy and not cry once in a while. It is her woman's nature. Even with plenty of money and a servant, Helen has her troubles and if Warren could think of someone besides himself, he would have Helen sit beside him in the evening; and together, iike the chums they should be. review their day's experiences and if possible soothe each other's troubled spirits. When Helen asserts her rights, and Warren loses enough of self, their home will be happier. .E. It.

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blame arren. Helen is tar more happy with him just as he is than she would be with a silly loving type. He is a thorough gentleman. Helen should be and Is proud that she has such, a noble husband. It seems to me she :s to blame for all her trouble as in the case when sha went to the city and found Warren dining with friends and, herself an uninvited guest. And also when she fooled him in regards, to her riding lessons. Not for once has he deceived Helen. Yours, ANNA SUE.

DI VOUCH Till: CLIMAX. New Carlisle, Tnd. In answer to your serial of Warren and Helen. Do they act like real people? No. but they act like lots of people do. Is this true of life? Yes. but not the true life to live. Warren is a self-willed, stubborn, overbearing husband. He took Helen for his life partner. Why don't he use her that way? When he comes home from his work, be glad to see her. he is lonely and likes his company. Sit down and tell of the day'3 happenings, take little Winifred a while, and show a father's love. It don't make any difference if he is tired, if he cares for his family, as a man ought to, he will not tire of t.iem. It will help to rest him. Then he will have plenty of time to read his papers. If Warren was half as good, and kind as Helen, they would live happy. Helen is a kind, loving, affectionate and forgiving wife and mother. I don't think they will live together all through life unless Warren changes to show more love for his family. If they do continue to always live the way they are I pity Helen. DO XA DELL.

to be petted than a woman. Warren seems to be a good man to provide well for his family. I think if Helen had to go in the kitchen and do her work in the kitchen and 11 the other: household duties, she would have hut-! little time to study up some trifle thing to worry about and then bother Warren about it until he is glad when time comes to go to his office. She expects him to pet her and her hired help to wait on her. . She goes to extremes about everything, as I don't think she was taught anything but to be petted over when she was at home. It seems very silly to think of her wanting Warren to tell her she looks rice and call her'sweej names. She 'nows his folks don't care for her and r.till he tries to win them. She also watcher every look and turn they do and then studies over it or allows them to sr anything to her without tilling her own part as she should. 1 Warren seems to like their way of doing better than Helen's. I sure would tell Warren what I thought also, and not worry after they were gone. I ; don't think her father should get mixed n by telling Warren what to do, as loving and kissing all the time ' ard acting like kittens I think is sill. I don't believe in her trying to win his love as she sure must have done in courting days. He gets tired of that loving all the time. They should love and n't the baby, but they aro too big. I don't think you can coax or pet a man like Warren, for petting a man is like petting a mule: the best way to pet them is with th rolling pin and then he would be sure she loveJ him when shf was through. I don't think she ought to want him to go shopping and tell him every lit- , tie thing that happens. . He come home for some rest, not for hearing every little trouble. Alas for Helen, and Warren also, as they both got stung.

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vomi:x nun attention. Is Helen or Warren to blame? In my mind T am satisfied both are to blame, and with each one willing to sen and admit their faults, their troubles would soon be adjusted. They both have extremely diiYerciU temperaments, each being reared under different conditions entirelv. Warren

always a city chap, reared as I im-

agine. in a selfish way. and Helen the opposite, In a small country town, and in a very quiet and refined manner. Helen will have to overlook a great many faults of both Warren and his family and learn to stand her own ground better, not be often d-

o easily and be more reserved in

TKorpu:s Am: logical. In my opinion Warren is the one who is to blame. Why should Helen bo the butt of all his bad temper and selfishness ? If he had shown that grouchy disposition before marriage, there is no doubt, in my mind, that .there would have been no marriage between Warren and Helen. If she had married a man that had treated her differently, say with the common courtesv he would extend to

his sister. Helen would have been an i ideal wife. j In blaming Helen, it seems to me . that people are forgetting the supreme j law which governs all things, that ' of cause and effect. Helen's rervoii , manners are only the effect f War- ; ron's brutal behavior toward her. ; He would not treat Delia as he ! does Helen. He would "not dare to. If he did not want her to leave and : he would feel like kocking any man's 1 head off w ho would use his sister in j the same wav that he uses Helen.

I am sure Helen would appreciate the courtesy of being called by her name. ;nstead of just you. G. M. M.

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WAKUKX XAUltOW MIMKI. In mv opinion, Warren is certainlv the party who is to blame for the domestic Tinhappiness in the Curtis household. He is too selfish and narrow minded to respect the wishes of others. While Helen is very indulgent and very sentimental, and doesn't appret iate humor as some, she is a good and loving wife and mother, but even though she has plenty to eat and nice clothes to wear, women of Helen's nature aren't content without their husband's love. I know of many Warrens and Helens in real life, and I am positive the only way to deal with Warren is for Helen to just surprise him by giving him a very cood calling, which I believe even Helen, faithful. loving as

ouusi:lvi:s as .otiimus ski: vs. I am greatly interested in the Curtis family and know the story will do much good to the people that are reading It. because now if the bus band should feci a little out of sorts and "act up" all the wife will have to do will be to say, "Warren," and if the wife should cry at some little annoyance all the husland will have to do is to say "Helen." Then who wouldn't laugh? Nothing like seeing ourselves as others see us. Now. who is to blame for the Curtis family troubles. I think they both are. At times my heart has gone out in sympathy for Helen when Warren would speak so gruff to her; and then again I have lost patience with her because she didn't use a little tact with both Warren and his people." When slow-as annoyed by Carrie's little boy placing so roughly with the' kitten, why didn't she say, "Hoy. rub kitty's fur and see how smooth it is! Don't, ft feel like silk?" Hy doing that way Hoy would soon be treating kitty kind iy and she would have saved all this trouble again with Carrie, if she had just used a Tittle tact. I have found myself at times getting angr.v with Warren for being so selfish. He has loved and won the prize, and is happy or contented in his own conceit, wrapped up so much in himself that he don't realize that his wife is starving for a little affection. Helen loves much but not too much, but shows it too p.ainly, a love pat and a kiss once in a while will do. She should use

more taci. When she found tears had j no effect on Warren than water on a I duck's back (excuse the homely ex- I rression), she should try some other; way. Try to have him forget himself by doing" little things for her. If we! would love people we must serve them and the more w'e sacriiiee for them j the greater our love. Love grows by i exercise. Wo warm our bodies and , develop our muscles by exercise. War- : ren's love would grow in exercising it by doing-little thing for Helen and in ; time perhaps set over his selfishness i that he had inherited. What we want ! in this old world is love and lots of it I and the only way to win and keep I that is to set at practical work so , much or so little as we may already possess:. I think with time and pa- i tbnee. yes and a little spunk mixed; in. Helen will learn to manage War- j ten (but she must not let him know j she is managing him), and bring out ; the best that is in him. because T can ' seo lots of good In Warren with all ; his gruff, cruel wa.vs. Some one has said that men are just boys grown up. j I shuddered when he came home intoxicated as I thought of the "100.000 men that go down to a drunkard's grave every year," when perhaps lovki patience and spunk might save them ; (I heard a man say once that he, wouldn't give the ?'iap of his finger for a woman that did not have a little snunk). I think in time Helen and ; Warren will both realize that they I will have to keep two bears in the family, bear and forbear, and In man-

aging warren, neienwiu iorei io oe annoyed w'ih little things. And Warren in doing things for Helen will forest self and his love will grow, and the rest of life will sro on smoothly with just enough clouds for a perfect sunset. ANNETTA.

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not a ninisn.w. think Warren is to blame for all contentions thev have. Helen is

a pood, loving, submissive wife, as Jod says a wife should do. Warren is a chihl of the devil, a worldly man (;u Jesus Christ tells us). If Warren was a (od-fcaring man (or a Christian) he would take his good wife in his arms in the morning and ask God's basing to go with them through the day: come home nt night, meet his wife with a kiss and a "God bless you." take time to read a chapter, sing a song, and pray God't blessings through the night. If it was necessary for him to go away cm. business, kneel down with his wife in prayer, asking God's blessings on his wife while he w,as gon, and for God's blessings to go with him. And if jhe would ask him about his business, he would not trive her the cold shoulder and hot tongue for an answer. A. CASTKKL.

A MAN LIKK A MVLK. Who is to blame? It seems they are both to blame as Warren is a

r rank and also a maw as he doesn't I

think of so much silly spooning. He has a rjuick temper and speaks too outwardly when he has no business to do so. And as for Helen, she seems so kiddish, more like a kid that likes

WAKKF.N A IIYKNA. I think Helen found her marriage a mistake. Ht r parents have humored her until she is very badly spoiled. Helen finds life a-s a spoiled child usually finds it a very unhappy one. Helen finds Warren a w olf in sheep's clothing. "With sweet words he won her love, and after marriage he clinched down on her with grinding teeth, which was a disappointment to Helen. She finds she has a husband who is a r-od provider but with a disposition of a hyena. Helen is not allowed the privilege to claim her own heart. Warren thinks to be a husband and father he must be disagreeable and domineering. I think Helen would have been happier if "hp had married her former sweetheart. Helen would make some man a very good wife, one that know? how to appreciate her. Warren Is too much of a sport and stiff to appreciate a good home-loving wife. He is too seltlsh. tho pleasures are for him only. Warren wants a wife with more spunk, one who will not spend so much of her time to worry over him, but let him do a little more of it. and a wife that isn't afraid to take a little of that self conceit out of him. and a wife -who is not afraid to give his parents and that sister Carrie her honest opinion free of charge. I hope before this story ends Helen will learn to have a Httle more spunk, or go back to the home of her father, where she would receive more human treatment. MHS. LIN A WALTON.

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