Rensselaer Union, Volume 9, Number 18, Rensselaer, Jasper County, 18 January 1877 — Private Woes. [ARTICLE]

Private Woes.

"K wer. «bl« to low llic DmM <(«w agwm mtolake, awl •a most of the rest of the race are busy with the thread of their own discourse*; and *<hat although they turn to listen to our plaint, and even to give us a share of sympathy and pity, it is quite as a matter aside, an affair as much of self-respect as Of respect for ns, and they are presently hurrying on with their own affairs again almost ai indifferently as nature herself seems to hurry. But even allowing that the sympathy Is very great, given for a long time, without stint and actively felt, there comes an end to all things, and perpetual draughts most only reach the lees of that. If one Is going to demand sympathy forever, one should oe very careful as to the manner in which it is demanded, as it is no impossibto thing to wear out the patience even of those tw live us most. Real troubles can never fail to receive file tribute of warm and enduring compassion; but real troubles do not last forever, nor are tiny the ones concerning which dhe* most rout fa made, for deep sorrow is -ant to nook*) wrap itself in silence, and •of the literally cureless diseases of the tody, these the sufferer conceals to the Mat passible moment, and those, by the «iy fever they emjte in the blood, kindle • Jbeerfulness. * We hte so constituted, ’ Jboth physically and spiritually, that under too heavy a burden for us to bear we sink and fail; and reri trouble of any amount wears us out, Ali|it of body or of soul, before any of lime, aud puts an end to any neeu of sympathywears us out before we have a chance to wear patience out. It is, except for very rare and phenomenal cases, the unreal troubles, the actually slight ones, t those to be in some measure avoided, mitigated, or overlooked, that Me spread before other people with loudest iteration &n 4 demand for sym partly. Th»s is especially to 6e noticed in cases •of partial illness, where much discomfort is experienced, some pain, great weariness, perhaps, yet not positive danger; but you will observe that where there is an invalid suffering such illness,' no guest enters the door who fa not hospitably en- . treated with a detailed accountof that invalid's least symptoms—and unless the guest he nurse or physician, to what result? It im even then ten to one if the complainer >be well listened to, the first words having some similar instance in the , guest's experience, impatience to recount which, according to the very same tendency, dulls the ear to all the rest of the sickly recital. It is, perhaps, exceedingly sad and dreary to be obliged to suffer as this invalid does; we pity greatly; but •when the Invalid still lives on, growing no worse, we sometimes feel obliged to huslt&nd our resources, and to question If wood taste would not try to wear the bright face instead of saddening the world with the darkest side. In reality, we are most of us inclined to sympathize generously with sorrow, with injustice, vtfthpuin; bat the instinct of sclf-preeer-vMM prevents our being able, if we are willing, 1 to endure a too prolonged strain, and it may be pronounced as an axiom that the individual receives the best and sareat sympathy who makes the least outciy and bears rae sad lot with fortitude. There SCre, indeed, many sorrows and troubles of which the old proverb, Leak said, soonestmenfied,” holds true. There are some things best hidden in secret • receptacles, with the lid shut down, rather than aired in the sight of all. Whoever wears a happy face'does a service to hu- . sanity; for it is infinitely better that the world should feel full of sunshine titan of gloom; that the general heart should be lifted in gratitude rather than abased Witfi rankling injury; and happiness, meanwhile, or its semblance, begets happiness, like a dollar at usury, and enritohes the morel w orld as sunshine does earth. It is a little singular, withal, that the .possessors of these numerous private wOos —private ? one should rather say public!—so frequently forget common selffespect. What would the samelndividuals say of the beggar who goes about show ‘fair his sorest And are tony doing any dlfferenily ? Are they not exhibiting a corresponding sort of uncleanness, the same want of modesty and shame, making themselves, as for as in them lies, and 'With the mere difference—and not always 'that —that ecists between the ills of body and of mind, as loathsome in all comparative degree ? The chief thing to be done in this regard by those who consider themselves the victims of any remarkable affliction is al- • ways to remember that, in spite of all -kindness shown, nobody is so interesting •to another as he is to himself, and that -dignity requires one to keep one’s sorrows, as well as one’s joys, rather sacred than • otherwise. As a rule, in the ecstasies of f -our great happiness or our great grief, we to-be alone. Why in our small happinesses and small griefs do we need to much more companionship * It seems as if one must, after all, be the possessor of a very reassuring amount of vanity to suppose that one should receive more -consideration or consolation from one’s acquaintances titan Job did from his friends.— Harper't Bator.