Rensselaer Union, Volume 8, Number 51, Rensselaer, Jasper County, 7 September 1876 — How Family Difilenlties Come About. [ARTICLE]

How Family Difilenlties Come About.

yewimnst "kwatTMt« with him" ap chJldmu IS their condition. and the ta*s of all sound morality and manners, be content, If not hap py, with each Other. <Bo to do, they must % sacMfice something of their own whims and preferences to the others. Un fortunately It rather happens that each is to demand and expect compliante, rather than to concede and And nhwmim in giving wav for the erntiflea SoJof Family *difflculties usually begin in the merest trifles; and tempers are soared by continued pract|a|nr of little disagreeables. husbandiTEeWaditional “tyrant" in the house. Taking men as they run, this character will fit no small number. So, »t least, the women say. But it certainly is is their power to disarm the married ogre, if they will set about It carefully. If he wants raspberries (a lien in season) let him have them (withoutsauce), and If chickens, let him eat them—providing he provides the wherewith to purchase them. Not only in matrimonial disputes, but In all others, time is wasted upon mere Incidentals and collaterals, to the sacrifice of matters of vital importance, and issues are made upon little things which throw aside the great objects of existence-" life, liberty nnd the pursuit of happiness.” It cannot be denied that the wife often finds flic husband “the plague of her life." He will come in redolent with tobacco—which she hates—or, worse still, will fumigate her upholstery. If he does not bring on his breath the smell of the "weepings of the golden grain,” the smoke of tobaooo may be condoned and endured. Vet, let the men think a little. Let them imagine their wives addicted to a custom as disagreeable to men as tobacco is to women. It is much to be feared that the husbands would prove by no means as tolerant as the wives of whom *k%ert‘ is one terror of women which cannot be laughed away or “pooh-poohed” out of sight. It is when she sees the habit of conviviality, or what is worse, of soiitaiy indulgence in drink growing upon her husband. Women are quick to notice; and since they are dependent on their husbands, are naturally and properly alive to fear. Their remonstrances may seem over-earnest, and their fears for the future exaggerated. Yet in how many cases docs the terror of a mother for her son, or a wife for her husband, prove to have fallen short of the apprehended misfortune, rather than to have overrated it. The misery which overtakes . a wife or mother when the husband or the son makes a shipwreck of himself and of the household, when the family can no longer look to him for aid, or treat him with respect, is something awful. Is it not sometimes the case that all the illhumor and indifference of which hus-

bands complain is but the result at woman’s fear, which she dare not fully confess? And may not the answering coldness or asperity of the husband be the effect of his consciousness that he is in the wrong? We have spoken of trifles as the cause of family difficulties. But when apparent trifles'have their origin in so deep an evil as this, theycanbe considered trifles no longer. The man who knows that his wife’s short answers and anxious face arise from her fears for him, should begin to fear for himself; and by prudent relinquishment of what threatens Lis happiness, bring back the sunshine to his household. — Philadelphia Ledger.