Jasper County Democrat, Volume 13, Number 53, Rensselaer, Jasper County, 12 October 1910 — Good Form [ARTICLE+ILLUSTRATION]

Good Form

To be socially correct all note paper must be stamped at the top either with address and. monogram or only with one. In these days of frequent change of residence a woman does not always have an address die; yet, though It Is an expense, it is a finish to her stationery which Is most desirable and therefore to be tried for. If only one thing is to be put on paper the address is preferred to the monogram on the theory that the former must be made to order, while the latter may be had ready made. For the street and number plain block letters are the best, and unless one lives in a large city whose street names are so well known as immediately to be identified with the place the name of the town must also be stamped. In the placing of this adornment fashion has recently made a change, and one Is more apt on the new stationery to see It between the middle and the left corner than directly In the middle, as was recently the case. When the monogram Is used with it the latter is put in the left corner, the address going in the right. When the name of the town is added to the street the former is now indented. Quite lately the town name went directly under the street, “centered.” bringing it in-the middle of the line above. Now it has the same relation to the top line that the address has on an envelope, and this placing marks all the new dies. If ofily a monogram alone or one initial is to be stamped it goes in the upper left corner, and the' die may be as fancy as one chooses.

The Girl Who Is Easy. A girl who looks on while ber friend who is known as “easy” is apparently having a glorious time wonders whether good breeding is not old fashioned. But it is not the girl who cares little how she talks, where she goes unchaperoned or how free and easy she permits her man friends to be who wins out in the end. How often does the quiet little mouse of a girl, whom the other girls call a prude or stick, take the catch of the season and get invitations that her easier friends want. It Is hard in this age to have too high a standard of self respect. Permitted liberties 41 re sq much greater than a generation ago that one needs watchfulness not to overstep the line into liberty. A girl need not be a prude because she does not believe in familiarities of speech or touch. When once she has made her position and standards clear she can have just as good a time and far more respect than her friend who is “easy.” Because a girl is particular it does not follow she must be slow. Given a sense of fun. readiness to be amused by everything that comes along and a tongue that doesn't backbite, and a nice girl need never lack attention because she does not believe in always sitting in comers and frowns upon dubious jokes.

College Etiquette. A college girl must, of course, first of all develop her mind as far as possible, but this does not mean that she must or may forget the rules of etiquette laid down for all well bred girls, whether at home, at college. In business or in the social world. She must talk in low tones. She must be courteous to all around her, respectful to those who are older and considerate of those who are beneath her socially. She must learn to converse in an interesting manner without asserting her own opinions or trying in any way to show a superior knowledge, even upon subjects which she has made her special study. She must learn to act the part of the graceful, courteous and interesting hostess and also the charming and well read guest. At all times she must be the well bred, dignified, courteous as well as interesting and clever cob lege girl. In the social world there is a tacit understanding that we shall all be agreeable to one another, always putting the attractive things of life on the outside and keeping our private woes to ourselves. This is a rule that none can afford to overlook—old or young, society girl, college girl or business girt.

Table Etiquette. The little difference between lifting a dish and shoving it along makes the {rig difference between a sloven and the punctilious observer of good manners at the table and has an effect in marring the harmony of the table, whereby in congenialness and table enjoyment all are best conserved. Sucking the fingers or teeth, picking the teeth at the table before all are done eating, gazing about the table while drinking, tipping back the chair on two legs, taking any of the dessert, as fruit, nuts or sweetmeats. away from the table, is the worst possible form.

A Man’s Arm. Nowadays it is not the custom for a woman to lean upon the arm of the man who is walking beside her during the daytime, and she seldom accepts this support after nightfall unless she is infirm or elderly or the mau is her fiance or husband.