Jasper County Democrat, Volume 2, Number 38, Rensselaer, Jasper County, 23 December 1899 — WOMANS REAIM [ARTICLE+ILLUSTRATION]

WOMANS REAIM

SHY GIRL USUALLY LIKED. OU are just beginning to go out; y 7 you are 20 years old, and you would like, as is perfectly natural, not only to have the love of women, but the genuine admiration of men. The admiration of all men is not worth having. You say that you are pleasant to look at, but that when you meet strangers you are abashed, the blood rushes to your face, and you don’t know what to say. Now, a little bit of that Is due to self-consciousness; more of it Is inexperience. When a man is presented to you you need not expect to go off into an easy conversation with him, as does the woman of 40, but you can get your thoughts away from yourself and answer him as Intelligently as possible. Make up your mind to be a little slow in your speech rather than to give a foolish answer, and after |you have resolved to do this you will not find it difficult to overcome that silly giggle so peculiar to young women, and which is very often the result of great nervousness and an effort to speak quickly, according to the Ladles’ Home Journal.

The girl in society who is a bit shy may envy that other girl who is boisterous and rough, who laughs very loudly, who tells and listens to things that are not quite nice, and who is particularly at ease In the society of men. The shy girl may w*ish for her eeoposure, but if the shy girl could look Into the hearts of the men who are about this girl she would realize that she has no kingdom, and that never for a minute has she been a queen except in her own imagination. Men, when they want comrades, seek other men. What they desire In a young Woman is a companion, and one who is totally different from themselves in her ideas and her manner of speech. What Marriage Means. I am afraid that a good many women marry when they can, for although women are more self-reliant than of old, marriage Is still the favorite career, though not the only one. It is also the most desirable one, for maternity, if not marriage, is the rounding and completing of life. That women marry now later than they used to is surely a gain. Women are not really developed in character earlier than men, though It has pleased men to’say so and fhlnk so. The average girl of 20 is more inexperienced and undeveloped than the boy of the same age; necessarily so, because she has led a narrower, more sheltered life. I do not think girls, as a rule, ought to marry under 25. Let them have a good time if they can, and if they cannot—and I think imaginative girls are often unhappy in early girlhood—then the little pangs they will have to endure will tend to the ripening and sweetening of their characters. Girls who marry young and have the cares of life thrown on them too early are often harassed and self-engrossed creatures of an arrested development of mind and heart. The woman who marries after she has come to maturity is more likely to realize her own happiness and that of her husband and children. Yet I believe that the happiness of marriage depends more on the wife than the husband, who as a rule is amenable if only his wife knows how to behave as a reasonable being.—Katherine Tynafi, in the American Queen.

Woman Superintendent. - Denver boasts a woman superintendent,of schools. Her name Is Emma M. Hery, and she has been a teacher in

Denver schools. Miss Hery is 23 years old, of charming personality, being a fine talker and a delightful writer. She is an active member of the Denver Woman’s Press Club, and has done some fine

writing, having taken prizes for her shdrt stories. When the bicycle craze first struck Colorado Miss Hery learned to ride, and she was so delighted with the experience that she wrote “a love story on wheels.” /"" Pleated Skirts. You are a wise woman if you can keep pace with the foibles of fashion, and can keep up with all the ways and little graces in gowning and deportment that mark a fashionable woman. The habit skirt was easily caught up in the center of the back, and it no longer trailed. It was a favorite with women for that one reason. It, too, induced carelessness, for it couldn’t drag, but how to manage the new plaited skirts? The correct way to hold the new skirt is to run the |humb of the left hand under the plait, with the firgens spread over the top, about four Inches from the waist line. The skirt is lifted a trifle, and the hand is turned over, so that the knuckles rest against the body. This does not show too much of the petticoat, which must tone In Trith the lining, when lining is put in the gown. Faulty Faultfinder*. Has it ever occurred to you that we criticise most severely the faults in others we possess ourselves? A merciless criticism is at times indulged in > by the people whose owl lives are' marked by the shortcomings they think so bad in others. The matter had best be met with a resolve to restrain all fault-finding opportunity to turn over a new leaf than here and now. Try the experiment of looking for the good and shutting your eyes to the evil In those among whom your lives *a » cast To

the woman who is mistress of a bouse this resolve is most necessary. There are people who act upon the belief that those under them will never do their best work unless subjected to constant fault-flndlng, and that the only way to keep work up to the mark is to point out every possible flaw. A little praise and encouragement when a thing is done well would do fifty times more good than a scolding for something which has beed neglected or forgotten. A most useful lesson to be learned by everyone Is, what to see, and what not to see; what to hear, and what not to hear. We might then be. able to give sympathy where others sneer, or encouragement where .others rebuke or condemn. Criminality of Women and Men, In an article on “Women and- the Emotions,” by Prof. Mantegazza, in the November Humanitarian, there are some interesting statistics showing that those modern sociologists who hold that women are men’s equals in the field of criminality are wrong. Here are some of them: Man bears false witness 100 times to a woman’s 17.

Man, for forgery and counterfeit coining, was convicted 100 times to a woman’s 11. In France, women are summoned before the tribunals four times less than men. In France, in 1880, women delinquents were 14 to 100 men. In Italy, in the same year, they were only 9 per cent. In Algeria we have 96 male delinquents and only four women. In England and Wales, between 1834 and 1842, there were 24 women to 100 men, all for the more serious offenses. In 1871, Dr. Nicholson found in the prisons in England 8,218 men and 1,217 women. In Bavaria, from 1862 to 1866, in a population consisting solely of peasants, the women who were condemned were, in proportion, 29 to 100 men. In the prisons of Turin, from 1871 to 1884, the women, in respect to men, are represented by a figure of 13.67 per cent. , Taking the whole of Europe, women are, the professor says, five times less guilty than men. Brother Wounded in Africa. Among the English officers seriously wounded at the battle of Elandslaagte is Lieutenant 'Barnes, whose sister is

the well - known English actress, V i olet VanbrugK In private life Ml® Vanbrugh is Mrs. Arthur Bourchier, her husband being a prominent actor and th e a trical manager. She is the daughter of the late Rev. R. H. Barnes, so that the

family has had representatives on the stage, in the army, and in the church. Women as Dreamers. According to an Italian scientist, there is one thing in which women have the decided advantage of men—if “advantage” it can be called—afad that is the dreaming of dreams. Whether men are less imaginative or whether, to take a prosaic, view, they eat more and sleep more soundly; or, arguing by analogy, since ' Imbeciles seldom dream, their brains are not in such good order as those of the opposite sex, we are left to decide for ourselves. But the fact remains, as Signor de Sanctis says, that women can dream the heads off men. Not only are our dreams more frequent than theirs, but there is always more story in them, and—this is certainly not a commendable feature—they are better remembered.—Philadelphia Inquirer.

VIOLET VANBRUGH.

MISS B. M. HERY.