Jasper County Democrat, Volume 2, Number 35, Rensselaer, Jasper County, 2 December 1899 — WOMAN AND HER WAYS. [ARTICLE+ILLUSTRATION]

WOMAN AND HER WAYS.

DISCIPLINE OF MATRIMONY. ftp HR first year of married life may *ir be compared with the lint attempts of a baby to walk warily and swiftly, says a woman of the world. By stumbling and overbalancing itself does the infant learn how he may locomote with safety to himself and without treading on the toes of his companions. The angles of onr characters, we being usually agreeably unconscious of them, become unpleasantly revealed to us because they get In the way of our partner for life. And he whom we consider faultless proves to have angles as welL Each has to learn the otlifer all over again in the intimacy of marriage. Matrimony is a splendid institution for the elimination of self-will. By the time those angles above referred to have become rounded andlnaggressive. the nature of their owner has undergone a change of which be or she may possibly be unaware. All the same, it - la in the nature of discipline, and discipline is not invariably pleasant When true love helps in the process It may be comparatively painless. The love acts as an anaesthetic; or, to vary the simile, love Is as the skilled* dentist who minimizes the pain of his operations. When there is marriage without love the discipline of adjusting the two natures to each other and to the necessities of a double existence may be likened to the unskilled operator, who gives his patients the maximum of pain with the minimum of benefit.

Dnrhrnq of Sntherland. The Duchess of Sutherland, who has just published an antl-socialietlc novel. Is the wife of one of the richest noble-

men of England. Though still a young woman she has been prominent for some, years in philanthropic and temperance work. The town house of the Duke Is one of the show places of London. The Duke’s father, whom he succeeded in 1802, startled

London society, after the death of his Invalid wife, by marrying the widow of hls gamekeeper, Mrs. Blair. To add to the complications of the situation Mrs. Blair became a widow through an unfortunate accident on the part of the Duke. While hunting one day be accidentally shot Mr. Blair, and it was while calling on Mrs. Blair to express his sorrow and sympathy tha" he fell In love with her. She was then over 40 years old, but as the Dowager Duchess to still a somewhat prominent and extremely interesting factor in English society. The present Duke owns 1,400,000 acres of English land.

Wont* the Law Changed. Miss Margaret Lee, of Brooklyn, has' instituted a movement for the repeal of the copyright law now in force, by

which the author’s right to his- books ceases to exist for- i ty-two years after publication. “The Idea suggested itself to me,” she ' said, “on seeing a chance newspaper i statement that several large editions of works by American authors, copy-

righted previous to 1857, were soon to be Issued. It seems to me a seafldalous thing that the writers, several of whom arfe still living, should have no profit from the transaction. The law is sixtyeight years old. and is old fogy to the last degree.” _____ Length of the Skirt. Trailing dresses have already proved so uncomfortable and unsuitable for walking that a number of our most noted ladies’ ( ta!lors have decided to make a virtue of necessity by setting forth a tailor round skirt for traveling and walking uses. By a round skirt la not meant one of abort length and devoid of a certain . graceful sweep, but a carefully sloped model whose greatest length sweeps the ground about two or three inches Just st the back, says the New York Post . S Deml-tralns are retained for ceremonious sails, made in a carriage, for afternoon entertainments, and for pretty house gowns, and the long train pippears only on toilets for elaborate dress occasions. ’ Millinery Fad. An old fad in the milliner's department la showing the feet of the bird* The doves and birds that decorate beauty’s headgear hang and dangle their feet over the brim in a most curious and ungainly fashion. - - It Is unattractive. It's not becoming, aud it is moat decidedly startling. But it is the correct thing. The feet are shriveled and yellow, and No >THi KBPlyfilFl -‘•BBMK t OOt ffiU *V O BAIUM appropriation for recreation. The amusement need not cost more than

car fare to the free illustrated lecture or concert, or perhaps only time and desire to walk to the park, where luncheon may be carried from home; but recreation of some decent and enjoyable kind there should be. There is no home so bumble but that its hospitality should be extended sometimes to friends, though it be upon the scale only of friendly chat and apples and popcorn.—American Kitchen Magazine. Housewife and Domestic. The first effort a woman can make in the management of her household is toward preserving a demeanor of dignified amiability. If she wishes to exact deference, respect and good will, let her make a fair exchange in offering kindly words, a “thank you” for little services, a good night and good morning, and invariable gracious civility without familiarity, says the Philadelphia Inquirer. The second art to study is that of bestowing tactful correction. To announce that the soup was unfit to eat, and the coffee abominable is discouraging and irritating to a cook, especially when the reprimand is given in an dbpleasant tone, as too many misguided women honestly believe if the one and only impressive means. The truly impressive method is to talk the matter over quietly after the meal, point out exactly the fault in the dish, repeat none of the family criticisms, and by advice and encouragement stir the servant’s pride and confidence. Takes to the Stage. The latest recruit to the ranks of tragedy actresses is no less a person than the widow of the late President Bar-

rios,of Guatemala. Her husband was a s s a 8 s inated In February, 1898, by a British subject 1 named Oscar Solinger, who was pursued and killed by the friends of tbe murdered President. Mine. Barrios took refuge in this country and lived for some months in San

Francisco., It was supposed at the time of her husband’s death that he had left a fortune of seevral million dollars, but eventually almost al! of the property which stood in his name was seized by alleged creditors and the widow was unable to get any satisfaction from the men who, after a number of attempted revolutions, succeeded to the government. She has since studied for the stage. Plump and Comely. As a rule the Cuban woman is round in figure and pretty in feature. Her face is seldom vivacious—one looks in vain for the beauty of expression. Her hhlr Is often a glory to her, and is sometimes of that blue-black shade only possible with the daughtens of Southern Europe and their descendants, though occasion; ally the Cuban girl varies the program by being a blonde, and to be plain, rather fat. * This lady is often a woman at 12, and the mother of a large family at 19 or 20. So pretty in her youth, in age she becomes lean and dried, or fat and unwieldy. She fades early, and, for want of strength of character, is apt to losse control of her husband,'who, neverthele>ss, still continues to need such control as badly as aby man of his times. But whatever she may grow or seem, her eyes never fade. To the last, through all vicissitudes, they are big and black.—Boston Traveler. A Good 1 ooth T'owder. In order to keep the teeth in good condition absolute cleanliness Is necessary, and they shoo Id be brushed night and morning with some good powder. Here is an excellent one: Take half an ounce each of powdered orris root and prepared chalk and add to them one teaspoonful of bicarbonate of soda. Mix thoroughly. The soda acts as an antacid and neutra lisas the acids of j the mouth, while the chalk and orris are gritty enough to remove any particles of food which may cling to the teeth. Rales for Hospitality. Do not intrude into your hostess’ affairs. Go direct when the call or visit M ended. Do not make a hobby of personal Infirmities. Do not overdo the matter of entertainment. Do not forget bathing facilities for the guest. “Make yourself at home,” but not too much so. In ministering to the guest dp not forget the family. Do not make unnecessary work for others, even servants. Do not gossip; there are better things in life to think about. Let no member of tbe family Intrude In the guest chamber. Conform jo the custom of the house, especially at to meals. Be courteous, but aot to tbe extent of surrendering principles. •„ v ... When several-guests are present, give a share of attention to aiL Introduce games or diversion, but only such as are agreeable. A guest need not accept every proposed entertainment; he should be considerate of himself and host. a 4 Lear* the likes and dislikes of thoML MAA'kra to be entertained, but not through the medium of an imperative catechism—Exchange.

MME. BABRIOS.

DUCHES OF SUTHERLAND.

MISS LEE.