Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 9 March 1952 — Page 40

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The Mature Parent—

Parents’ Nagging Can Caiise

Poor Marks in School Work “5d

By MURIEL LAWRENCE TEVEN is 8 years old, a. normally

However,

bright littie boy. very poor work

in school,

he does where "his

That's pretty straight from We're being told, it seems to me, that if we want our day-dreamy or oyeractive moppet to concentrate on his lessons, we can do it by eliminating from his experience useless material like self-

the shoulder,

‘ ity, anxiety, self-distrust, vindictiveness,” and teacher says he finds it very hard to i lati 9s iil concentrate. His mother wants to know if she le can do anything to help Steven, WE MIGHT think of it this way. A country . Yes, shee«can. She can make it her business that feels threatened puts its steel into defense to find out what so absorbs production, just as when. it ceases to feel threatSteven's interest that he has ened it puts its steel into innocent things like none left for lessons. cars and toasters, When Bess feels. threatened, Quite often, children find she behaves just like a country, She puts her ft hard to concentrate on energies into her kind of defense production. In-

spelling or arithmetic because they are so preoccupied with defending themselves that they have no energy left for other things. If%Ywe nag at them, for example, they may try to defend themselves by day-dreaming themselves right out of the reach of our voice into ‘lovely, imaginary sitaations.

OR THEY MAY try to defend themselves against the noise of our complaints by playing so violently, so excitably that they drown out This excessive interest in self-defense is so apt to be a factor In most problems of concentration failure that parents of children who have the difficulty should go in for some pretiy intensive self-examination. After punishing, do we moralize interminably? Do we punish, or do we just complain; wishing we dared to punish? Do we feel abused by our boss, mother-in-law, wife, Are we worried about something we Do we feel life has let us

our noise with theirs.

Are we naggers?

husband? are afraid to face? down and that we're failures? o 4 4

IT IS NOT a bit inappropriate that my wellworn old Webster tells me that is “to purify through the elimina-

concentrate” tion of useless material.”

We, the Women—

Mrs. Lawrence

while I try threatened,

I DON'T nag her.

the same time

against

energy on hand. on lessons,

ation,

centrate lessons,

I give as few as possible, I give IT make simple show her that I want her to be herself without fear, she will begin to relax. criticism gradually find that she has a supply of unused

Let's be clear on one point,

protecting himself He has put first things first.

stead of concentrating on lessons, she pours her vitality into tension, overactivity, impossible fantasy, excitableness, If 1 want to help her divertathis vitality into other channels, I don't add to her sense of strain by fussing ahout her ability to concentrate in forget the lessons and_the ability to concentrate

strain.

I don't discuss front of her, 1

her lessons.

persuade Bess that she {s not

« BD I don't give two orders at Those and precise. And as I No longer braced and complaints, Bess will She will be ready to concentrate

If, upon consider-

it seems to us that our youngster is too preoccupied with self-defense at the cost of his school work, we have no right to be angry or annoyed with him.

He has been right to con-

instead of on

The ability to concentrate is hased upon a

sense of order,

the verb “to {is so often

concentrate,

Nagging children is one of the most untidy habits we can get into. As nagging responsible. for their failures to we see that it may be our own

failure to concentrate that accounts for theirs.

Friendships Should Have Plenty of Time to Bloom

By RUTH MILLETT

WRITES a young wife: “I don't know what is wrong with my husband and me. We just can't seem to

male friends.

“We have lived in this town four years, and we have

certainly been friendly. Whenever we meet a couple we like, I immediately ask them over for dinner. . 1 have given small parties for any number of young mare ried women— because they had a houseguest, or In order to give a baby showar. or for whatever reason occurred to me. “Yet when these young couples plan parties of their own we are seldom included. Why?” Perhaps, you are trying too hard to make friends, rushing in when you should tread slowly. You can be friendly without always taking the initiative. By doing so you run the risk of frightening people away.

A WAITING friendliness fis the best attitude for a newcomer. Show your pleasure at ‘meeting strangers, and when ft can be done naturally and easily, go ahead and make the first move toward friendship. But don't be so eager to turn each acquaintanceship into friendship that you give the impression of reaching out and grabbing desperately at those you meet. That quickly scares people away. Your very eagerness will

Ruth Millett

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Patrons, pupils and teachers of School 21 will be special guests from .2 to 5 p. m. today at the Children’s Museum Family. Hour, HostesSes will be Mesdames B. W. Jones, C. O. Plerson, Robert Stuck, Clayton Collins,

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DAR Chapter'to Pick Congress Delegates

Delegates to the Continental Congress will be elected by the Irvington Chapter, Daughters of the American Revolution, at Thursday's meeting in the home of Mrs. Herschel 8, Miller, 338 N. Bolton Ave. Assisting the hostess will’ be Mesdames Charles H. Gauding, Mrs. Frank Baker and George J. Connell. “Our Responsibility to Youth” will be discussed by Miss Agnes Mahoney, Indjanapolis public schools principal,

Announce Betrothal Of Lottie ‘May Moore

Mr. and Mrs. Samuel L. Mogre, 1360 S. Belmont Ave., | announce the engagement of their daughter, Lottie May, to William Gene Tucker, son of Mr. and Mrs. Frank B. Tucker, Osgood. | The wedding is being planned May 10 in the Belmont Evangelical United Brethren Church | with the Rev. C., I. Rouse officiating.

Welfare Club Will Meet:

Mrs. Marshall Vogler, 3842 Central Ave., will entertain the Welfare Club at a noon luncheon tomorrow.

Plans will be made for the Apr. 10 performance of “Portrait in Black” at the Booth Tarkington Civic Theater to be sponsored by the. club. Proceeds will go to the club project, assistance to aged women. Officers will be elected at a business session.

Assisting the hostess will be Mesdames H. H. Kinnaman, Robert Crawford, Robert Favre, Lowell Fisher, C.” A. Tucker, A. P. Scott, J. R. Kellum and Robert Campbell.

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A popular saying a few years back was ‘the best sleeping position is on the back.” This is hot true, however. The “best” sleeping position is the one in which one is most comfortable, but. it doesn't make much difference what that position {is because it doesn't last long. The average healthy sleeper changes position from 20 to 45 times a night. This frequent position change to relax tense muscles, plus a good bed are all that are necessary for a good night's sleep.

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A YOUNG woman is sitting talking to an elderly woman when their hostess suggests they go to the dining room for a cup of tea. WRONG: The younger woman rises and goes ahead of the older woman. RIGHT: The younger woman either offers to bring the older woman tea or waits for her to rise and lead the way to the dining room.

” » » YOU AND a friend are having lunch together and you both expect to pay your own check. WRONG: Let the waiter give you one check and then the two of you try to figure out how much each one owes when you pay the cashier.

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Sow Grass Seed Early for Lovely oe Successful Gardener Ye Nore

ANE and John Neighbor - want a good-looking lawn this summer. Last year they sowed grass seed and fertilizer and still their

lawn looked moth-eaten beside the turf the Sam Green Thumbs

raised next door. ¥

80 last Saturday when John Neighbor was talking over the back fence to Sam he asked him: “Would you mind telling me just how to have a lawn as good-looking as yours without spending anseight-hour day five days a week on it?” Sam laughed. “Been reading all the experts on lawns, haven't you? Sometimes they sound as if a lawn could be a full-time job. Well, first, make up your mind you're never going to be able to make ‘a lawn and forget about it. You're going to have a re-seed every spring and fall if you're going to raise blue grass.” “That's one of the questions I wanted to ask you. I see some wonderful lawns around town that they say are bent grass. I've a notion to try it. What d’'you think?” u ~ ”

“BENT GRASS does make a

really beautiful turf. But you'll have to keep it clipped close and you'll have to water it every time the weather gets a bit dry. It's a demanding kind of grass and I just don’t want to get tied up with that kind of lawn. So I stick to blue grass.” “Yours is just grass, too, isn't it—not this new kind, let's see — Merion blue grass,” asked John. “Yes, just plain old-fash-joned blue grass. 1 use it straight for re-seeding, by the way, not in a mixture with other grasses... As for Merion blue grass, it's still pretty high—not enough seed to go around. So I bought a half-pound to try out in a patch in the back yard just to see how good it toMy is. “I've found that’s one’ of the best ways to do—tells you more than all the boeks can. And Merion blue grass sounds as if it’s here to stay—not a flash in

the pan like so many of the;

wonder grasses that get raved about every so often.”

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early. But you haven't sowed yougs yet, have you?” 2 - » » “NO, BUT THAT'S a case of do as I say and not as I do. It

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fust Happens that Mother and I had to take care of some other matters that seemed more important than a good lawn, But there's no question“early seed sowing's important.”

“It just doesn’t make sense to me,” young John Neighbor frowned. “Why isn't it. better to wait until the weather's settled.”

“Well, for one thing, you'll save yourself a lot &t time and trouble by sowing the seed early. You see how this ground

is all kind of honeycombed and rough now,” 8am stepped on a

little hummock of soil beside.

the walk and pushed it down.

“Now when you get out early —right now, and sow grass

. Seed on this rough ground, you

can be sure that during March there's going to be more freezing and thawing (that's what did this honeycombing of the ground in the first place)-—and the seed’'s going to work down in where it will stay continually moist it and conditions for ger-

mination will be just right for it.

“Now let's say you wait until the weather has settled. Very little freezing and thawing to come. Surface of the soil beginning to dry out—" “You mean,” John’ Interrupted, “that then I have to get out with the hose to keep the seed bed moist.” : “Yes, you'll not only have to take the ‘time to sprinkle it every hot, windy April day. But when the comes along in May you've still got to keep after it or the hot sun will shrivel it up. For the roots haven't had time to get down very deep and the tops of young grass plants just -don’t like hot sun.” “Granted, —~ now my next question. But there's Mrs. Green Thumb—your ‘lunch is ready I suppose, Next time I've got a stack of things I want to ask about. What about lime? And what kind of fertilizer is really best? I'll run down and get my seed right now.”

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Even small’ children can learn to handle some appliances safely, and they will feel proud to have a part in grownups’ work, says Dr. Elaine Knowles Weaver, associate professor, Ohio State University. She should know, because there are boys, five and 10, in her family. Even at the age of two the vounger was allowed to have a hand in loading the dishe washer. As for the older, “he used to get itchy tingers every time he was-near the ironer,” says Dr. Weaver, “He wanted to iron tablecloths, and now he can do them just as skillfully as I. Jimmy ddesn’t like too much suggestion, likes to ‘do it myself But I did stay with him until he was good at starte ing and stopping the froner.” He finds pressing his wash pants no problem at all. The crease in his trousers became much more valuable to him after He could put it there with the ironer. He whistles while he works! j

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