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The parents of the couple are Mr. and Mrs. J. Perry Meek,
. Pennsylvania St., and Meek is a Kappa Kappa GamRobert Malcolm Bowes,
5855 Carrollton Ave, and the Bowes belongs to Alpha Tau late Mr. Bowes.
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read the vows. Miss Mary Landers will be the maid of honor, and the bridesmaids will in- - School and attended DePauw clude Misses Constance Cadick, Martha McCord, Jean Stacy, & 2» Jeanne Tinder and Mary Alyce
Miss Judith Meek
Varren Bradford will
are to be Charles R. Bowes, Sanford, Fla., Jack Meek,
Frank Meek, Bill Cline and Patrick Mullally. Perry Robertson Meek will be the ringbearer. The couple is attending Indiana University where Miss
ma Sorority member and Mr. Omega Fraternity. She also is
tended Pembroke College. Mr. Bowes is a graduate of Park
University.
PARTIES PLANNED for the betrothed pair include a Satur-
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Miss Meek to Be Married i in Dec. 26 Rite
T. PAUL'S Episcopal Church will be the set- Th the best man. The ushers
ting Dec. 26 for the mar-
riage of Miss Judith Ella and Robert Malcolm
day social event to be given by Miss Landers and her mother, Mrs. Fisk Landers, 3644 Totem Lane. A “round-the-clock” shower will be given Dec. 15. Mrs. Alfred Noling and Mrs. G. Vance Smith will be hostesses. Mrs. Russell Campbell and Mrs. Frederick Bassett will entertain at a kitchen shower Dec. 20. Mrs. Bowes, mother of the bridegroom-to-be, will give a dinner in the Marott Hotel Dec. 23. Mrs. Jeremiah Cadick and Mrs. Robert McCord will give an informal party Dec. 21. The bride-to-be’s parents will give the bridal dinner Christmas night in the Indianapolis Athletic Club,
The Mature Parent—
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A Delicate Problem to Handle
By MURIEL LAWRENCE ATE was 9 years old when her father died. After the funeral, her Aunt’ Essie stayed on to help Kate's
mother “arrange her affairs.”
Kate learned what Aunt Essie meant by “rearranging” those affairs when she came home from school one afternoon to hear Aunt Essie’'s loud voice arguing ‘with her mother in the kitchen. . Aunt Essie was saying, “Of course,-sell the house. Why should you go on cooking and cleaning for her? Put her in a boarding school—and start remaking your own life, You're a young woman still. It's not as if Kate were your real child . . .” We should take care to protect adopted children against learning of their circumstances through this kind, of clumsy accident. We should protect them by’ ‘telling them about those circumstances ourselves, as soon as possible.
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IF WE POSTPONE this loving duty, we take chances on a family emergency forcing knowledge upon them at a time when they are struggling to adjust to the emergency. Kate, the experts tell us, is an unusual adopted child; she really didn’t know. Usually, adopted youngsters have discovered our carefully hoarded secret and live their lives with us, struggling heroically to justify our silence. More- sensitive than we are, they bear the bewilderment and wonder alone to spare us the shock of learning that they know. Our reserve frightens them.
Mrs. Lawrence
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THEY ASK themselves, “What shameful thing is connected with my birth? What dreadful secret can it be that these people whom I love cannot take me into their confidence?”
These are questions no child should have to ask. To adopt a child for one’s own is a proud and triumphant act for any human record. But to allow such a strong -and loving act to become associated with shame in the mind of the child we love is unsound feeling and thinking.
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FEAR, bf course, is the enemy. that is de-* priving us of the closeness and freedom that , shared truth always brings to us. We are afraid to tell the truth to our adopted child because we are jealous of his natural parents. If we give some thought to this jealousy, we usually discover that itz based on an oversentimental, unrealistic respect for physical parenthood. True motherhood is quite independent of the sexual or birth experience and is the product of three qualities: Self-knowledge, humility and love. We do not achieve these by being wheeled into a delivery room and bearing a baby. eb SINCE TRUE motherhood is a spiritual, rather than physical experience, giving bodily birth is no guarantee whatever of the real McCoy. The woman who deliberately seeks out a schild to adopt and love is, however, a promising candidate for the finest kind of motherhood. Her very decision implies that she is a human being who has achieved some self-knowledge, some humility and sqme love, If she has a problem at all, it is that she is still deficient in self-knowledge, Otherwise, she would be able to appreciate her act of adoption as .an example of unusual control over circumstances. Instead of passively accepting a situation which denies her an éxperience she wants, she takes the situation over and changes it. She should be so pleased with her human quality that she has no reservations at all in sharing her delight with the child who has inspired her triumph over circumstances. Once the adoptive parent gets the right evaluation of his own action, he is nearly set. Respect for his creative action is basic to his ability to explain adoption to the child.
Sequins Add Sparkle to Yule Clothes
By ELIZABETH TOOMEY United Press Staff Correspondent
The extra fullness has brought too, since sweater tops, snug out new lightweight versions of fitting and high-necked, are
NEW YORK, Nov. 27— familiar fabrics to keep party shown with cocktail hour skirts
Sequins from the skin out add sparkle to holiday
clothes, which this year are
the plushiest in many a Christmas.
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petticoats, gold embroidery on collars and
; dresses with wide skirts gathket d pearls on hubb, her skirt pockets and pear ered from dropped waistlines y's holiday spirits.
said de- Are favorites of the teen-age holiday party-goers. With all this emphasis on airy ggg, fabrics, somebody was bound to come up with a solution for avoiding Christmas chilblains. So the snuggies have been'given a new look, decorated with ; elaborate sequin designs and the léast, to the man of the put out in colors like deep pur- house to reach into his pocket ple and turquoise. Even red flannel petticoats got a yuletide touch with black that never would have been lace ruffles at the bottom and a there had his wife kept his suit sequin heart at one side.
her cocktail dres§ collar. “Elegant fabrics,” signer Jane Derby when she was asked the outstanding feature of her holiday line. One of her party costumes is a low-cut white imported silk faille dress with gold and pear! embroidery on the skirt pockets, worn under a white wool coat with the same embroidery on the collar. 2 = = “LAVISH USE of yardage,” Designer Maurice Rentner said in answer to the same holiday question. “Intricately cut full skirts and embroidered scarves also are important.”
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MARRIED—Mrs. Leo J. Rea was Miss Sara Jo Mahan before her marriage Thanksgiving day in Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church. The Rev. Fr. James W. Moore read the ceremony. Parents of the couple are Mr. and Mrs. James B. Mahan, 325 N. Emerson Ave., and Mr. and Mrs. Joseph A. Rea, 517 Woodlawn Ave.
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