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nside Indianapolis By Ed Sovola

THE MAN who' said it takes two eoyle ta to have a wedding, a bride and her mother, displayed a fair amount of acumen, \ That’s not the whole story, however. Into the hicture walks the groom and try as you will, you an't make him out as the lost sheep who is butting in time and walting to be clipped. True enough, the bride is the enter of the matrimonial whirlwind. She has her picture plasered in all the newspapers. The pride is the burning flame to hich her sister moths rush with pifts and thumping hearts. The pride indulges in the frills, the lowers, wears the baubles that sparkle and receives the most hats and squeezes. / Woman's Editor Louise letcher has a picture story in oday's Soclety Section showing ®ome of the rials and tribulations of a future bride by the ame of Shiri Swartz. Shirli is in the throes of buying, trying, planning and yaking about her orange-blossom day. What's with the groom? Oh him? He's in Cornell University studying to be a doctor. He'll: be here. Every try to find a bureau where a groom an get help with his problems? Most stores ave bridal bureaus. What's the pitch? Are grooms really insignificant players in the third pct of Dan Cupid's hit comedy? Do grooms come plong only for the ride? After the engagement as been announced, is the groom’s only duty and worry to report to the church on time and sober? No. Once and for all, NO!

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FOR A CHANGE, let's talk about a groom. When we're through, let's decide how important, nselfish, magnanimous a groom really is. I consider jokes and barbs about grooms on the same Jow level as mother-in-law nonsense. This groom's name is Kenneth Voyles. He's 26, a graduate of Purdue, electronic engineer with the Civil Aeronautics - Administration, lives at 4342 Park Ave. with his parents, Mr. and Mrs, E. E. Voyles, and will, come Feb. 24th, take unto himself a wife. His fiancee's name is Sherry Sherwood. I would say Kenny is a splendid example of how, over the years, the groom has been deemphasized. Kenney, and men like him who have gone

By Earl Wilson

NEW YORK, Feb. 10—President Truman last week was reminding callers of an old gag: “How many people work on the railroads?” ,.. “Oh, about half of them.” eo So 0 OSCAR LEVANT, upon seeing his wife without her makeup on, commented, “Ah, the unvarnished truth!” . Se > FLASH: Barbara Hutton notified Prince Igor Troubetzkoy’s attorney, Melvin Belli, that she’s. disinclined to pay him a cent! “> dd : THE “GOSSIP that Queen Mary might fnforse a cigaret turmed out to be a gimoke-filled rumor, & 4 FRED ALLEN-—who “quit” TV in’ December —makes his second -come-back since them when he takes over Sid Ceasar's show for one night, Feb. 24. With a bi-weekly assignment on "The Big Show,” and such guest spots, Fred's busier in “retirement” than when Te working. : ! 2 pe AFTER RENTING Carnegié day night, Donald Gaber, ton Records, took ads announeit the hall dark so people could stay : home : play his records. cost of PHY stunt; NANETTE FABRAY tells us of an intelli gent moron who uses a bookmark in ‘his comic books. LN TRUE STORY: Ten crack comedy writers now make fat salaries “writing ad libs” for quiz show m. cs. They write the “fasties” the m. c throws at the contestants, or vice versa. Reminds me of the letter Arthur Godfrey said he got from a listener: “I love your ad libs but you rattle them too close to the microphone.” LE WISH I'D SAID THAT: “Never mind the taxes, to turn the Red back, you need the greenback.”— Jack Tirman. ¢ © < B’WAY BULLETINS: Sonja Henie will be the next name to make news in the oil business. . . . The FCC has plans to demand immediate censorB ship of TV material. . \ . Frank i ‘Sinatra’s displaying a sprained "wrist received when he carried Jackie Gleason during his TV ‘show. . . . Gertrude Lawrence dyed her hair shocking pink . for her show. . . . Jack Dempsey’s setting a TV show from his B'way restaurant. . . Frankie Laine discovered his + tonsil trouble was merely a bad node on one of his vocal chords so he won't undergo a Barbara Britton planned tonsilectomy. .-. . Eddie Fisher plays his farewell engagement (preinduction) at the Paramount Feb. 14 or 21... . Beautiful Barbara Britton’s inaugurating her own TV show.

* 9 ¢ . B'WAY BULLETINS: Society’ s wondering sbout the Bonny Whitneys . . . Police Commis-

Americana By Robert C. Ruark

NEW YORK, Feb. 10—There has lately been a broad assumption that the drafting of 18-year-t olds is politically touchy because of the fallacious idea that the nation is made up entirely of parents with 18-year-old sons. It might be well to take a minute to inspect some other aspects of political touchiness. Draft Director Hershey has just announced that he is prepared to cancel the draft deferments of about ‘a quarter million childless husbands. He also, according to dispatches, agreed with the chairman of § the House Armed Forges Committee that it might Seem’ well to draft World War II vetekans wha saw less than 27 months in the last thing. If you are looking for politfecal touchiness, it can be said there are a lot of young wives of voting age, ahd heaps of young husbands of voting age, and masses of older wives with husbands of voting age who saw less than 27 months service in WW deuce. That makes a lot of votes. Twenty-seven months is a long, long time. More than Mr. Truman may exist in office.

ec. % WE HAVE paid great heed to mom in this thing, with emphasis mainly on the mom of said 18-year-old. But how about the mom ‘of the lad of 19, who is already dedicated to the draft? Moms of 19-year-olds love them just as dearly as do the moms of 18-year-olds. Could it not be that the riioms of the older boys will rise up to express displegsure, at the polls, over the taking of their: younger boys were momentanNly exempt? Moms «are Hllggical concerning their babies, and, to a mother, all men are babies.

‘wives of childless marriages are women, too, and they batten onto théir boys with all the vehemence of the mother--maybe with more intenseness, Husband becomes both husband and

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before, choose this path. . They want the woman of their choice to have the limelight. They want all the world to love her as he does. For that reason the groom stands in the wings until the curtain call.

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IT HAS BEEN my good fortune to perform the duties of “best man” at several weddings. In each instance, I had to marvel at the tremendous amount of work, some of it back-breaking, a groom performed without a whimper. Without recognition, Here's a quick rundown on Kenny's activities. Remember, his wedding date is still two weeks away. Kenny is one of those rare young men who believes in providing a home and threshold for his wife. He hunted for four weeks with Sherry to find that house. The furniture for the house was selected and purchased by the young couple. On Kenny's shoulders fell the responsibility of al mechanical appliances. All the plans and arrangements for a honeymoon trip to Nassau and Florida are Kenny's worry. The only clothes he is concerned with for the honeymoon are his own. He Is asked for an opinion on Sherry’s wardrobe. Kenny is consulted about wedding plans, guests, furnishings of the new home. It's his party as much as Sherry’s. Despite the ribbing a groom takes, he goes willingly, happily, nervously. ¢ & o

KENNY’S biggest shock so far is how fast money disappears. Kenny never was one to throw his money around. After he was through with the house, furniture, rings, honeymoon, few clothes—his heart almost stood still and it wasn’t because Sherry -was near, either. The bank book needed a transfusion. : Kenny goes to work every day and faces a ribbing barrage. There's no let up. He doesn’t have to look at a calendar to find out how many more days until he walks up the aisle. His fellow workers remind him. He is advised about a hride’s cooking, nights out with the boys and advised to reconsider before it’s too late. It’s sheer nonsense to think a groom has no other duty except to be in church on the wedding day. It's unfair to the groom to think he is being left out. He isn’t the forgotten man. That's the way men want it. It’s the bride's day through the courtesy of the groom. Women would do well to remember that.

Fred Allen’s Busier Since He ‘Retired’

sioner Murphy:was in El Morocco’'s Champagne Room . .. Likewise Honeychile Wilder with Prince Hohenloe. Does she want to become “Princess Honeychile?” ... Ex-Ziegfeld Girl “Mousie” Green fell info a manhole, busting some ribs . . ., Margaret Truman will swap jokes with Groucho Marx and Bob Hope in the spring . . . Frances Faye's at Flower Hospital . . . Kay Armen gets a Paramount test . . . Daily Double: Phil Silvers and Hope Zee. 9° © ONE of those chattery TV gals inspired Gen-

tieman George Solotalre to say, “She Bas a long-

playing tongue.” ® oo

TONY: CANZONERI, trying to learn to dance for’ his act, was told, “Lift your feet.” He answered, “If 1 could lift my feet, I'd still be a

fighter!” “ho &

“TELEVISION,” says Max producer, “is here to come.” eS EDDIE CONDON tells of a man who hates his wife so much he stays married to her because he considers it the finest revenge he can get. LA THE MIDNIGHT EARL: Lennie Kent takes

Liebman, the

oyer the Ben Blue spot on B'way Open House.

« + » McFadden's president O. J. Elder is resigning; a group including Irving Manheimer of Publishers Distributing Corp.” has working control. . . . With Gloria Swan- @ son ill, Jose Ferrer's wife, Phyllis Hill, pinch-acted admirably in “20th Century”.

Roxy by Sid Luckman and others who wanted to sculp him f halvah. He said OK—if Dali ¢ did it. . . . Finishing his masterwork, Ernest Hemingway writes, “Working like hell . never gone better.” . . . Is the ¥ CIO planning a labor daily run by Sampel Eubanks? eS SS OUR TOWN: Eva Gabor’s ex, Charley Isaacs, is about with ? the ex-Mrs. Brian Donlevy. . .. ¢ Buddy Greenspan, sportcaster, wed Doris Fesette, TV actress, in December, . . . Today's Daily Double: Matty Fox and Marge Muntz (Madman’'s ex). * Peggy Cummins’ mother is going on the stage. . . . Billy Eckstine signed for the Paramount at $7500 a week starting Mar, 21, ... Jerry Austin, Betty Jane Watson and Barry Gray signed for CBS-TV's “Winner Take All" 2 EARL’'S PEARLS: Doris Day went out to buy some clothes to wear at a dinner. Said a friend when she came back with a truckload, “you -must be going to Shasige every ‘course.’ <> < JOEY ADAMS reports his nephew, who's in progressive school, just got A in mgud pie. . . , That's Earl, Brother.

Betty Watson

Political Stupidit y . At Height in Draft

child. They will not like to sacrifice both husband agg child a brief deferment for a fuzz-faced lad who is a cinch draft bait for the morrow, anyhow, and who has not yet started either a household or a baby. Women are real funny that way. ¢ ¢ ¢ NOW YOU take the ladies who were married to guys who were away less than two years and three months—the arbitrary figure—in yesterday's war, Some of them, many of them, have had one doleful interruption in matrimony. They would not relish a second. Neither would the guys —especially if they were called again to the colors to stand-in for a fledgling who has not yet given of his time or effort for Uncle Sam. These men had their lives uprooted, once, They have painfully put them back together. They have made adjustments, maritally and otherwise. They have set up homes. They are the bone and sinew, momentarily, of the nation, since they escaped annihilation and have lent their youthful postwar muscle to family foundation and the participation in industry. eS

IT WAS NOT, generally, the fault of any individual in WW II as to whether he saw 19 days or 19 months duty. Except in flagrant case of motivated dodging, he waited until he was called and then he went. Men who worked in some privileged industries suddenly became liable to summons and went belatedly off to war. Put them back, to cover for an 18-year-old who has done no time at all—whose biggest problem was pimples when big brother was ducking iron? We have dealt a long time in political stupidity, but this thing of the draft seems almost impossibly stupid to the common brain. I can guarantee the political wrath of childless husbands and wives, of shorter-term vets and wives, #fhd even of the mothers of 19-year-olds. If the lads in Washington haven't thought of it, the time is now. ‘All touchiméss is not confined to mamas of the lus-eights. I have recently met some fe of several other categories, in-

cluding old . childless. brides, who are

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The Indianapolis Times

. SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 11, 1951

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Fifty Years With the Golden Rule—

Purchase Of Pig Was Penney’s

First Venture Into ‘Business’

_ Original Porker Made Nice Profit; Then Papa Put End to Enterprise

CHAPTER ONE. By J. C. PENNEY FTER SUPPER that day I remember, Father and I sat on the back porch in the warm twilight. Summer,

1887.

After the long, hard-working day it felt good to just sit. The air barely moved the leaves of the maples. There was a touch of haze in the atmosphere.

Father turned over in his mind the text he would preach on, Sunday, to his Primitive Baptist flock at Log Creek, about twelve miles distant. I was 12 years old. Outside of school I had to work hard around the farm. At games I

didn’t hold my own very well,

being undersized. I wasn't often invited with the others to parties. Schoolmates made fun of my clothing, but I had to buy it myself and it was the best I could afford. I felt out of place in the world around me, {ll at ease. I said hopelessly in the dusk to my father, “I don't believe there is any God!” He did not say anything at all, immediately. I caught a glimpse of his expression: a gentling of plain, stern features; some wunderstanding for the feeling of a boy; a touch of sadness and anxiety. “Jim,” he said, with patience, “prisons are full of men who don’t believe there's any God.”

o 2 o OUR FARM was almost 400 acres, practically all pasture

land. My father carried over from his early heritage a feel-

-ing at times almost mys\ical

for bluegrass. A man'of spare

. habits and the instinct to self-

denial, his one luxury was this great spread of bluegrass.

Fear of Loneliness

CHAPTER THREE By DR. G. ERNEST THOMAS

I WATCH, and am as a sparrow alone on a housetop,” wrote the Psalmist. What figure could better express the utter helpless-

ness which overwhelms

those who are lonely? The fear of loneliness—of being apart from people for a week or a lifetime -— sometimes causes an individual to sink back in helpless - despair. Or it drives one to struggle desperately to escape from his mental prison. The family physician frequently discovers ailmen ts which have their origin in loneliness. Many times a doctor finds it necessary to say to a patient, “It isn't healthy for

Dr. Thomas

you to be alone. Get someone ,

to keep you company. You may then be able. to avold another of these attacks.” Every minister encounters this fear of loneliness in his visiting and counseling.

» n o CONSIDER the case of a young man who is successful in business and popular with his associates, He appears to have every quality which should contribute to ‘make him happy. Yet he is troubled, by fears of being alone. Several times each week he attends parties or visits with friends far into the night to avoid going to the roominghouse where he lives. In his room he is haunted by loneliness. He has no interest in building friendships which might result in marriage and a home. He’ wants to realize such: a goal, but he is unable to bring himself to have more than casual interest in other people. ;

"The Pig rewarded me by thriving."

Though a hard worker he was not a born money-maker. In one corner of the farm there was a small bituminous coal mine, which he leased out on a

royalty basis of 5 cents a ton. Mainly he maintained his acreage — not, it is true, without mortgaging — by buying cattle, ‘grazing them, sending them®to market. As he couldn’t bring

himself ‘to touch plowshare to

bluegrass, corn for feeding stock was bought. It made the difference between profit

EDITOR'S NOTE: From his first, tiny drygoods shop in Kemmerer, Wyo., to his newest store—and one of his finest— soon to be opened on the Circle in Indianapolis, J. CO. Penney has built 1600 retail outlets, in every state of the U. 8 Last year the Penney stores did a gross business of nearly a billion dollars, How he did it is the answer to the “wise guys” who profess to know all the shortcuts and angles to Big Money. Mr. Penney took the Bible as blueprint for his business as well as his religion. Instead of sniffing at the ‘copybook maxims, he used them. And instead of treating his store managers as hired hands, he made partners of them. This is- the first of six chapters taken from Mr. Penney’s spiritual autobiography, “Fifty Years With the Golden Rule,” just published by Harper & Bros.

and loss on his acreage many times, but his solution was to work to his utmost and rely on the Lord to help his deficiency. I was 8 years old when he felt the time had come to begin my ~-individual grounding in selfreliance. One evening after supper he called me aside and, with no softening of the surprise to me, remarked: “Jim, I just want you to understand. From now. on you "11 be buying your own clothes.”

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I SUPPOSE the natural reaction of an 8-year-old to such an announcement might be that his parent was making a little joke. Ours was not a gloomy home; still, our jokes were not about money. matters. “But Paw,” I said, “my shoes have holes, both of 'em. Could you get me one more pair, {hen let me start in?” “No. You'll have to figure out something. That's the way it'll have to be now.” “Well—all right.” Such a situation could hardly be all in the mind of a boy, or the heart either; But I knew my father's ways. He did not make up his mind in order to change it. I had no money. In our family children didn’t receive allowances, wel were expected to do our share of work around home as a matter of duty, with no thought of being paid for it. Though there was no obligation or precedent for paying me for farm work-—any more than for getting in stovewood, and other chores—I earned a little from my father, working in the hay-

. field.

I planned to make up the rest of what I would need to pay for shoes by running errands. The people around us didn’t do much hiring of errand boys, so it would be slow, and if I succeeded in getting 5 cents for an errand it would be big pay.

In the course of extensive counseling of troubled people, G. Ernest Thomas, Th.D., has encountered all the predominant

fears which beset the world,

This is the third of six articles

being published in the Sunday Times. They are taken from his new book, “Faith Can Master Fear,” just published by Fleming

H. Revell Co.

Dr. Thomas, spiritual life director for the Methodist church,

with headquarters in Nashville,

Tenn., will address -a mass

meeting for Methodists of the Indianapolis district at 2:30 p. m today in the Roberts Park Methodist Church.

Inquiry revealed that this young man is the older of two children. During his early years his mother felt a growing disappointment because her husband became so absorbed in business and club activities that he had little time for his family. She had turned to her baby boy to find an outlet for her longing to be needed. She had sheltered him; she had pampered his every desire; she had

kept him from many of the

normal activities .of a growing youth, She had maintained such’ a grasp on his emotional life that he could not escape. Even after her death he was unable to get away from her influence. He was always lonely without knowing the reason for it. This fear marred his life until he was given an opportunity to understand its cause, and to follow a plan which promised release.

» ” ” ALMOST everyone shuns the necessity to meet new people. That is perhaps the most important fact to be recognized by those who have difficulty in their social life. The one to whom you look with envy because of the easy way he has of greeting strangers has probably cultivated that quality over a ‘long period of time. Genuine struggle may be hidden even now by his confident manner, Margaret Lee Runbeck illustrates this trait in an incident she relates concerning her graduation from high school. As the valedictorian she had been assigned a seat on the platform next to the guest speaker. When the class ad viser suggested she carry on a.

conversation with the honored:

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guest it seemed more than could .be expected of her. “I'm supposed to talk wittily to you,” she whispered. “But .. but... I haven't a thing to say. - I'm scared to death.” “I'm scared, too,” the speaker answered quietly. “I've got a speech written down, but I don't think it's much good, and besides—" “But YOU don’t have to be afraid,” said little Margaret. “Neither do you,” the speaker replied. “I'll tell you a secret, then you'll never need to he scared again. Everyone on earth is shy, self-conscious, and unsure of himself. Everybody's timid about meeting strangers. So if you'll just spend the first minute you're in the presence of a stranger trying to help HIM feel comfortable, you'll never suffer from self-conscious-ness again. Try it.”

Margaret Runbeck declares that this plan works unfailingly. The speaker who gave the advice was famed for his skill ih making new friends. At the time he addressed Miss Runbeck’s graduating class he was Assistant = Secretary of the Navy. Latér he was elected President of the United States for four consecutive terms. os ” ” STILL. ANOTHER factor helps remove the blight which the fear of loneliness casts on life. It is to learn the delight to be found in moments when we are alone. The present-day world gives us little opportunity for solitude. People work together. Apartments throw families closer together than was true in an’ earlier generation. The radio invades: the privacy of every -

Saris Cash Penney, age 7, with his sister. A yoor later his fothae & told him, "Jim, from now on you'll be buying your own : clothes."

My first pair of self-bought

footgear cost $1. They were cheap shoes, even for those times -— brogans of ‘cowhide, black and clumsy, put together

with wooden pegs, fastened over «= -

the ‘instep with ‘coarse black" enameled buckles. # 5 =» WHEN 1 HAD the sum of $2.50 and had done some looking around I decided the best investment I could make would be a pig. ‘1 could obtain food far it in exchange for carrying away ‘neighbors’ swill and cleaning out the pails for them. With the swill I could fatten the pig and sell it at a profit. Things “went quite well. I found a pig: for just what I could pay -« $2.50 — and, although the swill pails were not an agreeable part of the venture, they were a means to an end. The pig rewarded me by thriving, and sold for enough to buy more pigs. Soon I had a dozen shoats, Another day came, with an

announcement from my father no less staggering to me than the one about buying my clothes. “Jim,” he said, “you're going to have to sell those pigs. I

« Paw—-not fattened.”

want you to see about it right away. ” “But they're not ready you

“Well, the neighbors are Cone plaining. One or two pigs that’s one thing. A lot of pigs ~=~they smell pretty bad, you - know. You can't find fault _. with the neighbors on that.” It was the off season for

pork. My shoats were not yet even half-fat. But my father lived by the golden rule in rela= “© tion to his. neighbors, and it’ was important to him for meto see that I should too. With a heavy heart I sold the pigs. They. brought half what 'd counted on from them. However, it was past and done, I put the $60 from the transace tion in two banks, ) “Two banks?” said my father, “If one fails, I'll still have enough in the other for ° clothes.” * My father smiled slightly, - I had learned something prac~ tical about observing the gold~ en rule and made a shrewd de- ' cision about money too, on own responsibility. That

Waternielons.

Jesus in the Garden of Olives . . . "It is healthy at fimes to be apart from the world. Jesus often sought the quiet and solitude of the mountainside." (See Luke 22:39, 41-43),

It is healthy at times to be apart from the world. (Jesus often sought the quiet and soli-

tude of the mountainside after a busy day spent in ministering to the sick and needy.) He did not find it disturbing or fright« ening to be by Himself. Indeed, He came from those moments of seclusion with renewed strength to face His responsi: bilities. Of course, there is no virtue in being alone if you cannot endure your own company. Many of the ness have thei

origin in a'dissatisfaction

th self. Whaefper

prising fears of loneli-.

it is justified or not, the indte ¥ vidual is often harassed by a consciousness of failure. Under such conditions the last thing, he wants is to be alone. This fear need not cast a cloud on.an individual or ie home. Cultivate. the ‘possibif« ties of friendship, human and divine. As you do that, the load , of loneliness will be lifted. You will then have banished one more of the shadows which first threaten and then maim : an otherwise + happy life. .

NEXT SUNDAY — Fear of! tL EES Re 1051, by Fleming 1. Ravel