Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 25 December 1941 — Page 18
Homemaking—
Rules for Hospital Guests Visiting the New Baby \
MOTHER AND BABY not doing so well.
Why? Despite their kindly meaning
Take, for example, the young mother who has just presented hubby with a bouncing eight-pound dependent. A few hours after the birth of Junior comes in Aunt Susie, beaming and bearing flowers, fruit, candy, negligees, baskets of baby bottles and a cold in her nose. She sits on the bed, clamors to see the baby, wants to take a picture of it feeding. Then she launches into a long account of the woes and worries of the family and friends, and the dread diseases of infancy. She lingers on, oblivious of hospital routine.
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Keep Her Cheerful
AUNT SUSIE, well-meaning soul that she is, is a menace. In the first place, say the authorities, most mothers should not have visitors, except perhaps their husbands or mothers, for several days after the birth of a child. The visitor who stays too long keeps the patient in the hospital longer. The mother
These oh, so good-intending visitors.
people who come to see the new|: arrival are often unwittingly hospital headaches.
DEAR JANE JORDAN-I have been married eight years and have
a child 6. My husband and I have had difficulties many times but came through them every time. him and my son. They are my life There were many times when I became disgusted and hurt and didn't give him the consideration I should have. I always have worked and was independent and I am afraid it wasn't for my own good. worked nights and I worked days
is in no condition to hear about Big Brother's broken nose; she | should have peace and pleasant| news only, If she is in a ward or public pavilion as they are frequently called, she has only a small table on which to put her belongings, and that becomes cluttered soon with such essentials as toothbrush and cold cream. Too many cumbersome gifts will goon make the bed uncomfortable. | And, although the private patient] presents a somewhat different case, all hospital rooms are severely Nmited as to space.
Diets Carefully Prepared
PRECAUTIONS are taken in handling the new-born infant. The
nurses scrub, disinfect, wear gauze masks. The mother cleansed before feedings, and if she has the sniffles she, too, must wear & mask. Yet many friends and famflv heed not the germs they may have gathered on the streets and may leave behind. Diets for nursing children, after long and careful experimentation, have been precisely devised. The mother doesn't need, and in many cases shouldn't have, extra nourish- | ment. Most florists will send flowers at-| tractively arranged, and this service is appreciated by mothers and nurses. The only request the sender should make of the florist, it is suggested, is that the arrangement be with an eye to its lasting ability. And bed jackets are more useful than nightgowns or negligees. Babies wear regulation hospital clothing during their stay there, so their “going home" outfit is as important as a debut gown. And afghans or buntings (wool blanket-
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and it wasn't easy to work in a factory eight hours and then rush home and get supper in an hour and get him off to work. In August I quit my job to stay home and try to get along better. Everything went fairly well until a few weeks ago when we had a few words over a card game and it was carried over to the next day. He now wants to break up our home, give our son to his folks and have me go back to work. He is headstrong and his mind is made up. He has a good job and is very deserving but says I am a detriment to his work because I object to some of his associates and some of the things that went on at his place of business, He says there are no other women concerned and that I do believe. Still he wants to break up our home, Both his folks and I have used all our resources to make him see what he is doing. He has stayed away from home nearly all the time he has off from work and keeps a boy friend here four or five nights a week. I have tried to be nice to the employees and their wives. Now he tells me I have cost him all his friends. He says he is fed up with everything and is interested only in his job. I want to start over. He wants to end it all. Should I give up and
Igo back to work or wait and give
him time to get over it? EC
Answer—By all means wait as long as you possibly can before you take any decisive action. Give your husband ample time to get over his anger. He claims to think only of his job but as a matter of fact he should be thinking of his child. His proposition to give the boy to his grandparents puts him hopelessly in the wrong. It is not good for a child to be brought up by
hood arrangements which zip up and keep the baby snug) are good | gifts. Also sweater, bootie, cap sets, | which come embroidered with pale! pink and blue flowers. Of course, there are the silver orange juice and milk cups, and a dumbell rattle with bells and a place to grip, so it can be used for teething later. » »
The Question Box
Q—Cooking recipes frequently call for No. 1 and 2, and No. 2% cans of vegetables. When I want to substitute fresh cooked vegetables, I am always at a loss to know how much to use. Can you tell me the approximate capacity of each of these cans? A—No. 1 holds 2 cups: No. 2, 2% cups; No. 2%s holds 3'¢ cups, and a No. 3 can hold 4 cups.
Q—We had a little argument at a contract bridge game about how many trumps (aside from other support) a hand should contain to give partner three raises in his suit. Please settle it for us. A—The supporting hand should contain Q X X X or better, in partner’s bid suit.
Q Please give me the proportions of the materials used in making sand tarts. I remember the ingredients but not how much of each to use. A—Cream together 1 cup butter, 1 teaspoon water and 2 cups of flour. Add 1 cup chopped nut meats, 3 tablespoons sugar and 1 teaspoon vanilla. With the fingers, shape into small balls. Place on a baking sheet and bake 15 to 20 minutes in a moderate oven (325 degrees F.). Roll in confectioners’ sugar and place in covered cookie jar. These are best when made the day before you wish to serve them. The recipe
makes from 30 to 40 cookies.
grandparents when his own mother and father are living. The little boy would feel rejected by his parents and such an action would do
(him an irrepamble injury. What-
ever happens, stick by the child. I do not think it will help matters at all for you to crawl or act hopelessly crushed. If you have taken your share of the blame and tried to correct what you do that is wrong, you can do no more. If he will do likewise you can reconcile your differences. At the moment he is enjoying his power to hurt and frighten you. He helds the whinhand and likes it. I doubt if he will relinquish it as long as you cringe, Stand by your home as long as you can. Be as reasonable and realistic as possible and things may
take a turn for the better. It will
do no good for his parents to bring pressure to bear upon the man. All pleading appears to strengthen his resistance. For the moment there is nothing to do but wait. Make no
move at all unless it will definitely {improve the situation.
JANE JORDAN.
Put vour problems in a letter te Jane Jordan whe will answer your guestions in this column daily.
Personals
Mr. and Mrs. Roger E. Williams have issued invitations for an open house from 3 to 7 p. m. New Year's Day at their home on E. 80th St. Honor guests will be Mrs. Williams’ brother and sister-in-law, Mr. and Mrs. Charles E. G . Delaware, O, and Mr. and Mrs. Herb Kallenburg of Anderson. The Gampers and Kallenburgs will be house guests of the Williamses for New Year's week.
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Poetry Society Program Set
Mrs. Josephine D. Motley, 17268 N. Alabama St, assisted by her mother, Mrs. Maude M. Duke, will entertain the Indiana Poetry Society at 2 p. m. Saturday. Members will read original poems. Miss Marilynn Cummins, accompanied by Miss Jerry Ann Motley, will sing a group of Christmas songs and Mrs. Bertha Didway will play selections on the chimes and accompany the group singing of carols. Robert Arthur, accompanied by Miss Leora Crumrine, will sing patriotic songs.
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5274 My MRS. ANNE CABOT Red and white crocheted cap and gloves make a lovely “Mother and Daughter” set. I discovered this clever set at one of the Eastern State Fairs early this fall and I know you're going to like it. Palms of the gloves are red and the striking effect on the back of the gloves is accomplished by slever striping. The hood matches the gloves. If youre a young mother who likes to skate or bobsled with
this companion set. Set can be made in any two color combination. Use brown and white, green and ecru, wine and pink or any other two colors that will harmonize with your top coat or your lege girls will love this snappy set! For complete crocheting instructions for striped gloves and hood (Pattern No. 5274) send 10 cents coin, your name and adrdess and the
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Reading Paper
By RUTH MILLETT THE EXCUSE of many women knowing less than men about
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ern college would indicate that it is just an excuse— and not a reason, . For the sur- Miss Millett vey showed that in the men's dormitories there was one newspaper covering world events for every 28 men ving there —but only one newspaper every 65 ut only in the women's dormitories. That is a pretty good sign that women lag behind men in their interest in world affairs, even before they have any homemaking responsibilities to take up their time. It indicates, also, that given the same chance at an education as men, women are still less interested than men in what is happening outside their own small social group. And even though those college
when it comes to apparent interest in world affairs, their record is disgraceful. - = os WHEN THERE IS only one newspaper for 23 men, the amount of time any of them can spend reading it is far too limited for a person who is spending four years and several thousand dollars getting an “education.” For no matter how much he learns from textbooks, no student could hope to emerge from college a well-informed person if for four years his knowledge of world affairs had come from “headline skimming.” That is something that Dad—who is footing the bills for his son's or daughter's education — ought to think about. If he can scrape up the cash to send his boy to college, he ought to scrape a little harder and subscribe to a newspaper for him.
Carolyn Jones Becomes Bride
Mr. and Mrs. Robert Laing are at home at 2438 Broadway following their marriage at 8:30 o'clock last night in the Calvary Baptist Church. Mrs. Laing was Miss Carolyn Jones, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. J. B. Jones, 2506 N. Gale St. Mr. Laing is the son of Mr. and Mrs. John W. Stivers, 3647 Whittier
Place. : The candlelight ceremony was performed by the Rev. William Breedlove at an altar decorated with greenery. Ribbons marked the aisle through which the bridal party approached the altar. Miss Sarah Andrews sang “At Dawning” and “Because,” accompanied by Miss Helen Ferris, pianfst. ‘The bride was given in marriage by her brother-in-law, Ralph Waymire. She wore a gray-blue street length dress with brown accessorfes and a corsage of pink flowers. Her only attendant, Miss Marjorie Wright, also wore pink flowers with her gold crepe street length frock. Harold Mead was best man and ushers were Floyd Reinken and Robert Noffice. Mrs. Jones, mother of the bride, was gowned in black silk, while Mrs. Stivers wore brown. Both wore corsages of pink blossoms. An out-of-town guest at the ceremony was the bride's aunt, Mrs. Mollie May, Elkton, Ky.
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Appetizer With Tang And Sparkle
When you're looking for the touch of novelty that will launch your important dinner with flying colors, here's an appetizer with sparkle and tang and flavor to tempt the most jaded palate. It’s made with grapefruit and pineapple for cool goodness, plus the refreshing “zip” of two kinds of carbonated beverages. CLEAR AMBER COCKTAIL 1 grapefruit, sections halved 1 cup crushed le 3 tablespoons powdered sugar
1 cup ginger ale 1 bottle lemon (or other fruit
_ flavor carbonated beverage Preserved
Mint leaves Put a layer of
sports clothes. High school and col- lea
Two New Ideas for Trimming Dresses
Fira Benenson, important New York designer, introduces two unique trimming ideas in her mid-season
men are far ahead of the women |©O
Richard O'Connor will have as his guest Miss Bett Carton, Rensselaer, also a student at St. Mary's of the fake. Miss Audrey Knittle, Chicago, will be the guest of Joseph club treasurer
burg, and Cy Singer, J \ Among parties planned for the dance is one for which Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Gillespie will be hosts. In the group will be Messrs. and Mesdames D. H. Potter, R. E. Leach, John B. McKay, Ray S. Everroad and William B. Hurrle,
John Gavin Hest
In the group entertained by John Gavin, club president, will be Misses Jean Devine, Cook, Barany, Helen Cain and Mary Knott and Messrs. Deery, Fox, Robert Courtney and Link. In the party of William Kennedy, music chairman, will be Misses Jean McKee, Mary Ellen Kennedy, Theodosia Baltz and Carton, and Messrs. Jack Ryan, Robert Fitsgerald and r
‘Connor. Don Potter, club secretary, will
Out of Town Guests to Attend Annual Buffet Supper and Dance of Notre Dame Club
out-of-town guests will attend the annual buffet supper
| tomorrow t at the Indianapolis Athletic Club by the Olub of eh University of Notre Dame. y
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Chuck Smith's
have as his guests Misses Marion Loughery, Marge Dingley, Knittle, Pat Welch Jane Licet, and Messrs. Thomas Sweeney, Fitagerald, Harry Scott and Robert Bowers.
Plan Supper
The Kings Daughters of the Second Presbyterian Church will meet at the church for supper Jan. 2 at 6 p. m. “Concerning China” will be the title of a talk by Mrs..Randall Capen. Devotions on the subject of “Faith,” will be led by Mrs. Charles Dyer, Hostesses for the supper will be Miss Margaret Snodgrass, chairman, and the Misses Ann DeVor, Elsie Kinerk, Portia Christian, Nancy Todd and Mrs. James Huckleberry and Mrs. Mabel Berry.
Complexion Care
Here's a simple recipe for the care and cleansing of your complexion, recommended by Maria Montez of the films. Maria removes all her make-up with soap and hot water, then applies a little petroleum jelly, then—for a final pickup—goes over her face with a cotton pad moistened with witch hazel. Nice and simple. And inexpensive.
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Vocalist
Iloyd Mallet (above), tenor, will present a musical program in Ayres’ auditorium Jan. 15 under the sponsorship of the Governor Olive Perry Morton Chapter National Society Daughters of the Union, 1861-1865. Proceeds will be used by the chapter as a gift to Lincoln Memorial University and for the purchase of a defense savings bond. Mr. Mallet is a teacher in the Baroness K. VonKlenner Studio in New York.
Cabbage—a New Way
Cabbage cooked in this manner has a special flavor. To the cabbage — about three cups finely shredded—add one onion and one green pepper, minced. Put in a large skillet with a generous lump of butter, add salt and pepper, cover
Yule Party Is Planned for Monday Guild
The Monday Guild will be ene tertained at a Christmas party and program by the Community Wele fare department of the Woman's Depaftment Club Monday at the clubhouse.
The Guild is composed of blind women who are entertained month« ly by the Welfare department. They are brought to the club by a motor corps. Mrs. John Berns is chairman of arrangements and Mrs, Felix T. McWhirter is chairman of hostesses. The Rev. Harry BE. Campbell will give the “Christmas Story” on the program, which will be followed by a party for the children of Guild members, refreshments and a gift distribution. Mrs. H, K. Batchelder and Mrs. Malcolm Lucas have charge of th
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Mrs. Oscar Bunce and Mrs. Bers nice Dietz will present a musical program for the department and Mrs. Rilla Reinken will have charge of the music for the Guild,
Fragrant Gifts
For the woman who is particular about personal daintiness, gifts of delicate scents, bath preparations and dusting powders are welcome and appropriate. A dusting powders mitt, with terry-cloth palm and dainty pastel rayon taffeta back is a pleasant thought. A slide-fastened section holds delicately scented powder, which may of coumsse be refilled as often as you like. The mitt is washable,
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Lo us—on this Ghristmas day—warmm
ourselves by the glow of cherished traditions. Let the mistletoe and stockings hang where they have always hung. And because the present is surcharged with grim shadows—let us deepen our resolve 16 safeguard our priceless citadels—of free: dom, justice and dignity—with all our
might and courage.
Wishes You a Merry Ghristmas
H. P. WASSON & CO.
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