Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 8 December 1941 — Page 15

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Answers to Readers’ Questions On the Etiquette of Weddings

YOUNG WOMEN whose parents can afford to have one of the stores plan their weddings get any advice they need on wedding etiquette from bridal consultants. From among that number which must take care of arrangements for themselves, we have the following in-

quiries: Q —What part of the wedding expenses should the bride's parents bear? A—They provide the invitations, bride’s trousseau, decorations for the church and house, music at church, motors for the bridal party from house to church and back, the wedding reception, dinner, or breakfast, the bride's presents to her bridesmaids and a wedding present to the couple.

Q—May a girl wear her engage-| ment ring before a formal announcement of the engagement?

A.—Not in public.

Q.—Is it proper to have both a maid of honor and a matron of honor attend a bride? If so, what is their order in the bridal procession? A—It is unusual to have both, but sometimes it is done. The bride decides which is to walk first, but usually the maid of honor immediately precedes the bride.

Q —After a small church wedding, | whenn a reception does not follow, is it proper for the bride and groom to go into the vestibule of the church to receive the congratulations of their friends?

A —Yes.

Q—In what order should the bridal party enter a dining room? A —The bride and groom go first, followed by the bride’s mother and the groom's father; the groom's mother and the bride's father. The bridesmaids and ushers follow. The precedence of the invited guests is arranged by the bride's mother.

Q.—I am to be married this month and will wear a dark coat suit with matching hat and accessories. I have always wanted to carry an old fashioned bouquet at my wedding, but would that be proper with this costume? A. —It is not customary to carry a hougquet when wearing a coat suit. A corsage of orchids or roses usually is worn.

Q—Please print the accepted form for a wedding announcement of a widow of mature years. A Mrs. John Wilson Smith and Mr. Jones Peter Adams have the honor to announce their marriage on Monday, the second of November at Washington, D. C.

Q—Why is rice thrown at weddings, A —This is an ancient and widespread custom. Rice is a symbol of prosperity and fruitfulness and therefore it has served ds an appropriate means of conveying good wishes on the occasion of marriage.

@—Is it necessary for intimate friends of the family to explain their reason for declining a formal invitation to a wedding? A —Yes; although the regret may take the form of an informal note.

Q—When a shower is given for a bride or bride-to-be, how should she respond? A. —She thanks those who attend at the party, and also sends a note of thanks to the hostess. It is proper for her to invite the guests at the shower to a luncheon or tea at her home within two weeks. If wedding plans interfere, the tea may be given after the return from the honeymoon.

Q—Does an invitation to a wedding carry an obligation to send a gift? A~—No. Affection, friendship, relationship, or business affiliations with the families of the bride or groom are the real reasons for gending gifts. Presents are sent to the bride, but if the sender is the special friend of the groom, the gift may be for his personal use.

Q—How should a widow announce her marriage?

A —If she is young, her parents or a near relative may announce the marriage, but if she has no near relative she may announce it herself. “The Bride's Book,” containing information about the etiquette of weddings, may be obtained from The Indianapolis Times Service Bureau, 1013 Thirteenth St., Washington, for 10 cents in stamps or coin.

Q—If a wedding present is delayed, should an explanation be sent with the gift? A —A brief note, explaining the

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portant, then you have sense enough

DEAR JANE JORDAN-—I have been going with a certain boy for the last seven months and love him very much, but my parents are trying to separate us and we just can’t stay apart. I am 16 and he is 23. My father and mother always liked

him and I don’t know what has

married, but that is out of the question. I have been wanting to quit school: so Daddy said 1 could only that I must stay at home and do all the house work by myself and go out only when my parents go. Mother wants me to let the man come to the house as she says she knows I have been slipping out to meet him. My boy friend says I act as if I am 19 or 20 and have enough sense to be that old. Do you think parents should separate their children from the person they love? WORRIED TEEN.

Answer—I do not agree with your boy friend about the maturity of your behavior. You do not talk nor act like a girl of 19 or 20 but like a girl of 18 or even younger. Ma-|

outword poise and composure as of the ability to take the long view of a situation and to work steadfastly toward a distant goal. For example there is the matter of school. Although you're only 18 vou want to quit. You don’t want to put in the effort that it takes to become an educated woman. You're tired of being a child and want to grow into womanhood overnight without taking the intermediate steps toward maturity. You're like the student who wants to work the problems in the back of the arithmetic before he’s done those in the first part of the book. _ Neither do I agree with your parent’s idea of keeping you a child. In order to discourage your wish to quit school tney threaten to turn you into a household drudge, permitted to leave the premises only in the company of your elders. How much better it would be for them to make your freedom to see this or any other young man contingent upon the seriousness of your effort in school. That is, if

yourself to the tasks suitable for 18, of which school is the most Im-

to choose your own companions without parental interference. But you haven't proved that you have this much sense. On the contrary. Perhaps if you weren't behaving in such a childish manner your parents wouldn't be afraid that you would marry on impulse. On the other hand, perhaps if they would treat you less like a child you would behave more like a woman. Simply depriving you of experience will not help you to acquire judgment but will delay your development. Why don’t you make your parents a proposition: You will buckle down to school work if they will take off the restrictions.

NOTE TO R. F. V.: Consult the Bridal Bureau in a department store for the answer to your questions about a wedding. JANE JORDAN.

Put your problems in a letter to Jane Jordan who will answer your questions in this column daily.

Swain . C.T. U To Be Entertained

Mrs. Margaret Varner, 822 Villa Ave, will entertain the Sarah A. Swain Women’s Christian Temperance Union tomorrow. The Rev. E. F. Shake, pastor of Edwin Ray Methodist Church, will give a Bible lesson at 11 a. m. Christmas readings and special music will be presented and an offering taken to provide baskets of fruit for hospital patients.

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Of. City Branch

The December general meeting of the Indianapolis Branch, American Association of University Women, will*be held in the Broadway Methodist Church at 2 p. m. tomorrow. Members of the Gary branch, A. A. U. W,, will be guests and will present a panel discussion of “The Comic Book Plague.” Mrs. T. Victor Keene will discuss current activities of A. A. U. W. nationally; special music will be provided by Shortridge High School, and tea will be served. : The branch’s December calendar also includes a number of study group meetings. The morning section of the Radio Workshop will visit a class in radio production at Technical High School tomorrow and Wednesday at 9 a. m. The class is conducted by Robert Albaugh. The evening section will hear Richard Hoover, Civic Theater director, discuss “Good Plays and How to Judge Them” on Tuesday, Dec. 16, at 7:30 p. m. in the large studio of radio station WIRE,

Pre-School Group

Mrs. P. B. Montgomery will be hostess for the pre-school Parental Education group Friday, Dec. 19, at 1:30 p. m. Mrs. Arthur B. Richter will lead a discussion on “First Lessons in Anatomy.” “Indiana’s Contribution to Music” will be the subject of Mrs. E. C. Zehe as she speaks, at 9:30 a. m, Dec. 17, before the Music Appreciation study group meeting with Mrs. O. M. Helmer. The Education Study Group will meet at 9:45 a. m. tomorrow with Mrs. C. Loren Harkness. The evening section of the Contemporary Literature group will meet at the home of Miss Jean Rau at 7:30 p. m. Tuesday, Dec. 186. Mrs. John Paul Lahr will review “One Red Rose Forever.” “Saratoga Trunk” (Ferber) was to be reviewed by Miss Elizabeth

Hall for the afternoon section of | the Contemporary Literature group today at the home of Mrs. Donald Drake. Mrs. Walter P. Morton, chairman of A. A. U. W. Red Cross knitting, announces that beginners will re- | ceive instruction and supervision from Mrs. David L. Smith at her home, 4704 N. Pennsylvania St, each Wednesday from 10 a. m. to noon.

‘Middle-Aged’ Home Can Use A Face-Litting

By RUTH MILLETT

HOUSES, just like the women who run them, can take on a drab, middle-aged look. They do whenever the woman of the house stops growing and keeping up with the times and trying out new, young ET ideas. . Walk into the house of a woman whose daughters are grown and away from home and you often find that, although all the furnishings are in inconspicuous good taste, and the g quality of the Ruth Millett Jinen, silver and china is the best, the spirit of the home is drab. The taste of the woman of the house jelled at about the time she was most interested in homemaking —that is, when her family were all around her and she entertained at the drop of a hat. Her house, still furnished in a manner that appealed to her 10 or 15 years ago, looks right to her today—because she hasn't kept up with new ideas. She doesn’t realize that every one of her decoration ideas is definitely middle-aged—so much so that it is rather depressing to a stranger to walk into the living room. The extravagant use of color and light that all young homemakers are going in for today is missing. So are any gay, happy touches that show that a woman is still thinking about her house as a part of the present—not just something left to her out of the past. = = = IT MIGHT BE a good idea for every woman who admits to herself that she is middle-aged to go through her house room by room and compare it with the houses of younger, more active women. If it inspires her to get some color into its drabness, and some life into its quietness, it will be time well spent. For there is no reason why the house of a woman of 50 shouldn't reflect the taste of the times as interestingly as the house of a woman of 25. It's easier for a woman to feel young if the rooms she lives in, as well as the clothes she wears, are her own expression of what is conen beautiful and in good taste ay.

School Bazaar To Be Friday

A bazaar and cafeteria supper will be held by the School 7 Parent-

Holiday Party Set for Friday

Christmas” by Mrs. Elizabeth Spahr,

ture of the Friday Afternoon Reading Club’s annual Christmas lunch-

{Founders’ Day

A recitation of “The Night Before Dinner Held

who will celebrate her 100th anni- * versary next August, will be a fea- By A. 0. Pi

School 54 Club To Give Play

A playlet, “Turkey Red,” will be presented by the Dramatic Club of School 54 at the Parent-Teacher meeting Wednesday* at 1:30 p. m. Mrs. Elas Ewell of the Marion County Recreation Department, is director. Members of the cast are

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A 4 RN SO! ANY LN 3% 82385 : By MRS. ANNE CABOT You will like all three of these unusual quilting block designs, One is called the “Stained Glass Window” motif as it is copied from the Rose window of a cathedral. The round design is 8 inches in diameter. The “Star of Bethlehem” design is also 8 inches. 3 This quilting design is particularly effective on the plain blocks of a star pieced quilt. The third motif is a 6-inch square containing 4 Four Leaf Clovers. Use this on a guest-room bedspread of green and white. You. will be delighted with your “good luck” spread! : Use the quilting motifs on pillows for the living-room couch, for the children’s room and on quilted lingerie cases, handkerchiefs and on other lovely gifts. . To obtain all three of the Quilting Designs (Stained Glass Window, Star of Bethlehem, Four Leaf Olovers) (Pattern No. 5235), exact methods of using on quilts, pillows and lingerie cases send 10 cents in coin, your name and address and the pattern number to Anne Cabot, The Indianapolis Times. 106 Seventh Avenue, New York.

To Hold Dance Here From Chicago

A dance and card party will be] Mr. and Mrs. Harry Wallace given tomorrow at 8:30 p. m. by the |Dragoo II of Chicago and their son, O-Del Club in the 50-50 Clubrooms|James Douglas, are here wisiting at 211 N. Delaware St. Gilly Banta’s| Mr. and Mrs. Harry W. Dragoo, 4520 Orchestra will play. N. Pennsylvania St. :

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eon and party at 12:30 p. m. Friday in the Marott Hotel. Mrs. Spahr, a charter member of the club which will observe its 50th anniversary next October, recites the poem each year at the holiday party. She will serve as hostess with Mesdames J. L. Jackson, G. F. Gross and M. C. Moore. The invocation will be given by Mrs. A. J. Barnes and- Mrs. Lena B. Ebert, president, will preside at a business meeting before the pro-

gram, In addition to Mrs. Spahr, others appearing will be Miss Patti Cain, harpist, and Robert Wallace, Stephen Stienheart and Kenneth Swan, readers.

Theta Party [s Arranged

Layette gifts for the Coleman Cradle will be contributed at the Christmas meeting of the Indianapolis Alumnae Chapter of Kappa Alpha Theta Saturday afternoon. The Cradle is the sorority’s social service project at the Coleman Ifospital for Women. Mrs. Charles C. Binkley, 5601 N. Pennsylvania St., will be hostess for the 2:30 p. m. sessism at which a Christmas program arranged by Mrs. Rosalee Spong will be presented. Mrs. J. Layman Schell will be hostess chairman, assisted by Mesdames Matthew Winters, W. J. Hanlon, James L. Murray, George W. Klein, Jack Carr, Walter F. Greenough, George Seidensticker Jr,, Charles M. Wells, Dorothy Ford Buschmann, Misses Betty Boettcher, Elizabeth Serielmaun and Anna Bernice.Ornorff,

Jewish Women Hear Director

The executive director of the National Federation of Temple Sisterhoods, Miss JanegEvans, Cincinnati, was to address the meeting of the Indianapolis N. F. T. S. Temple Sisterhood today at 12:30 p. m. in the Temple vestry rooms. Mrs. Harold I. Platt heads the local group. Other officers are Mrs, David Lurvey and Mrs. Arthur Fairbanks, first and second vice presidents; Mrs. Morris L. Jacobs, Mrs. Albert Dannin and Miss Essie Solomon, corresponding, recording and financial secretaries, and Mrs. I. E. Solomon, treasurer. With a membership of 284, the Indianapolis Temple Sisterhood has been affiliated with the national federation since 1017. Mrs. Louis Markum, a leader in the local organization as well as in civie work, is a member of the N. F. T. 8. executive board and speakers’ bureau. '

The 44th anniversary of ‘the founding of Alpha Omicron Pi Sorority will be observed this evening by the Indianapolis Alumnae Association at a 6:30 p. m. dinner in the Hunters’ Lodge of the Marott Hotel. Principal speakers will be Mrs. Ted Marbaugh and Mrs. Benjamin C. Raley. They will be introduced by Mrs. T. C. Davis, alumnae president and toastmaster. Mrs. Marbaugh will talk on “Alpha Omicron Pi in Our Lives Today” and on the background of the organization’s founding. Mrs. Raley, who is an alumna, will speak following the dinner on Cronin’s “Keys of the Kingdom.” During dinner Mrs. O. M. Jones will sing accompanied by Mrs. Lucille Lockman Wagner. The entire group will join in singing sorority songs. Observance Countrywide Throughout the country 50 active collegiate chapters and 64 alumnae groups, including 11,000 alumnae, also will be celebrating the founding on Jan. 2, 1897, at Barnard College, Columbia University. The sorority is the only Panhellenic fraternity to be founded at Barnard and the second to establish a chapter there. Dec. 8, the birthday of one of the founders, was made the official Founders’ Day. Telegrams of greeting will be sent the three living founders who will be honored at a reception by New York alumnae. The commit in charge of arrangements, headed by Mrs. Robert W. Fessler, includes Mrs. Harold PF, Bettman, Misses Gladys Hawickhorst, Geraldine Kindig and Katherine Deeb. Our Beauty

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