Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 9 February 1940 — Page 21

' DEAR JANE JORDAN—I am 22 years old, married to a man of 25 whom I love, and we have two little girls, My family has always di my husband because he is poor and has only an average education. They have hurt us and belittled us when we went near them; so we stayed away. * ‘But a year and a half ago my husband lost his job through the efforts of my heretofore esteemed father. Then father gave him a job where he is employed but made life miserable with the help of my well-educated brother, by insulting him in the presence of other men, and laying him off for no reason. .

Finally my husband quit and father told me he was too lazy

to work. After several months of unempioyment we lost our furniture and he went to his family, and I to mine. Mother is a person who imagines everyone hates her; so I don’t like to keep my children there. I have appealed to father to help me get away and he promised to get my husband another job. He is quite an influential man in the city and holds & good position. He gives my husband a bad recommendation wherever he goes in search of work, and continually says things about him to fry to make me divorce him. He wants me to stay at his home for companionship both to him and mother and feels that I can help mother’s mental condition. I want my home back. : DISGUSTED. Answer: After all it is up to your husband to rise to the occasion, isn’t it? You can encourage him. You can strengthen his self-regard by your confidence. But you can’t do the work for him. It isn’t education or the lack of it that is hampering your husband so much as a certain lagk of push. Your father may not have known how to help the man, but I don’t believe he is entirely to blame for his failure, do you? A more aggressive man would have shown more fight under the criticism of his father-in-law. Perhaps he had a stern father himself whom he never learned to oppose. In that case your father’s attitude would be particularly

- crushing to any initiative he might possess.

You've taken a backward step in going back to your father’s protection and naturally you resent it. Your father has vanquished your husband so to speak. Try to gain your father’s co-operation in helping your husband to stand on his own feet. Explain to him that whereas criticism and opposition stir some men to a fury of energy and achievement, it has a crippling effect on others. Let your husband find his own Job. He'll like it better if he picks it himself, and he certainly ought not to work for your father. z When he finds work, you would do well to move as far away from your parents as possible, the better to establish your independence, the better to outgrow childish relationship with vour family. You resent your father’s interference, but still you haven’t learned not to lean on him in trouble. JANE JORDAN.

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FOOD

Shrimps in Tomato Sauce With Croutons {6 servings) ' 4 slices of bread : * 1 cup cleaned and cooked % cup butter shrimp 2 cups tomatoes . 1 cup canned shrimps 1 small onion, finely chop- Salt and pepper

By MRS. GAYNOR MADDOX

Add chopped onion to tomatoes and simmer 12 minutes. Cut bread into 32 inch cubes and saute in butter. Stir frequently until croutons are browned on all sides. Add to tomatoes with shrimp, Heat until shrimps are heated through. Serve very hot.

Halibut Cutlets

(Serves 8)

2 pounds halibut (raw) 3% cup butter 14 cup cream 14 teaspoon minced garlic 2 tablespoons water 1 teaspoon lemon juice 1 cup sifted bread crumbs

Scrape the raw fish, carefully removing all bones. Then pound and break fish into a pulp. Cream the butter, then work into the mashed fish. Add chopped garlic, lemon juics, cream and seasoning ‘and mix thoroughly. Shape into 8 cutlets. Stand 10 minutes. Beat egg with water. Dip each cutlet into the egg and water mixture and .then roll lightly in sifted bread crumbs. Fry cutlets until golden brown in deep fat. Drain and serve very

Salt, pepper, dash of cayenne 1 egg

hot with cream sauce seasoned with chopped parsley and chopped dill.

{PATTERN 952 ‘COPYCAT’ STYLES FOR TOT AND DOLL “Look—dollie and I match!” cries this pretty little miss. For Claire

Tilden has deiightfully designed Pattern 952 in pairs, with the doll’s

frock a gay miniature of the kiddie -lstyle itseif. An idea that will give

real thrill to your small daughter! The front yoke 1s unusually decorative with its three scallops, especially if you make the eniire yoke in bright contrast, as shown. You might edge it lavishly with lace and sew demure bows down the front. The skirt flares breezily and is cut on the bias. Have long or short sleeves, neatly tucked at the edges for trim fit and to give easy fullness above. For a more everyday style, you might make yoke and dress in one fabric, and add a small, neat collar of, say, crisp whitz pique. Youre sure to like this style so well that you'll.save the pattern and make it up in a sleeveless sum-

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making job, even: for a beginne~, with the Sewing Guide to smooth away all difficulties! - Pattern 952 is cut. in children’s sizes 2, 4, 6, 8 and 10; doll’s size 18 inch only. Size 6 requires -% yards 39-inch fabric and 23% yards lace edging. Send orders to Pattern Department, Indianapolis Times, 214 W. Maryland St. Send fifteen cents (15¢) in coins

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Matinee Musicale Announces

Program for Tea ‘Wednesday

Mrs. James M. Ogden, first vice president of the Matinee Musicale and adviser for the choral ensemble, will entertain with a guest tea at her home, 2801 N. Pennsylvania St., at 2:30 p. m. next Wednesday. Group 2 of the choral ensemble will be assistant hostesses. Arrangements are being made by the social committee for year, Mesdames C. J. Jacquart, O. L. Fevrier and Nellie Shideler.

On the reception committee are Mesdames Thomas E. Grinslade, Herbert Grouns, Edward Hilgemier, R. B. Hindman, J. R. Howell, Carl H. Hull, Carl Irrgang, Charles Kuntz, A. W. Macy, Robert Masters, H. E. Morrow, Mark H. Mothersili, C. A. McPheeters, I. F. Myer, Louis Kirch, F. H. Nelson, Misses Hulda S. Hansen, Ruth McVey and Mary Alice Over. Mrs. James H. Lowry, president of the Matinee Musical, and Mrs. Preston L. Highley, chairman of the ensemble, will pour. Assisting in the dining room will be Mesdames, Shideler, Charles Gustafson, Arthur Madison, Minor S. Goulding, Alvin Jose and Herbert Grimes. A musical program on the theme, “American Light Opera,” will be presented. Mesdames O. E. Steinkamp, Edgar J. Ellsworth and Paul Wycof are in charge and Mrs. Frank Boles will act as narrator.

Mrs. Cyrus L. Dyer, pianist, will

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play medleys from Victor Herbert operas; a vocal trio composed of Mesdames L. W. Bayes, V. R. Teter and Jean Fruits will sing “Rose Marie” by Friml, “Serenade” by Romberg, and “I Love a Parade” by Arlen; and Mrs. William Winemiller, soprano, will sing “The Merry Miller” and “Romanza” from “Rob Roy” by de Koven. Margaret Ryder Bosley of Greenfield also will sing.

New Group Formed

A Camp Fire group has been organized at Manual High School, Vice Principal Wilbur S. Barnhart has announced. Miss Louise O’Hara, Camp Fire extension worker, will be guardian and Miss Helen Irwin,

faculty sponsor. Meetings will be held once a week after school.

| BEAUTY

By ALICIA HART

THE SMART WOMAN uses make-~ up to dramatize the best features of her face and to conceal less at-

|| tractive ones, of course. Her dresses,

coats and suits do the same for her figure. And her accessories’ should. Unfortunately, all too many very tall, ‘quite large women carry diminutive handbags. Similarly, too many petite girls«blly purses whicn could easily double for overnight cases. In the hands of the large

1 woman the tiny purse, however 1| pretty, looks just plain dinky, and

the woman herself out of step with the rules for chic grooming. A tremendous handbag dwarfs the thin,

“Hats, too, can make or break the general effect of a costume. High, towering bonnets are not for t extremely tall. Broad, squat. berets and shallow-crowned sailors-are not for the short and stocky.

® » ” FURTHERMORE, turbans make a long face and a long neck seem even longer. Brimmed hats—contrary to the oldest rules

1| —are no more flattering to the be{|spectacled face than off-the-face

types. Girls who wear glasses no

longer are encouraged to stick to | brims only.

The hand which is small out of ali

1| proportion to the size of the body

requires bulky gloves, preferably hand-sewn. While the very large hand may be made to appear smaller by machine-stitched, rather close-fitting gloves. A tight glove is a great mistake in any case, how-

‘ever. :

Necklines deserve more consideration than they apparently get. A perfectly plain,: round, high neckline is for the beautiful, not-too-long throat. The deep V will do pretty nice things for the short, rather thick neck. Round collars are youthful. Wide, square ones are kind to hollows along collarbones.

Dance Honors

Fred B. McNeely, newly elected illustrious potentate of the Shrine, and new officers will be honor guests at a Valentine dance tomorrow night in the social room of the Murat Temple. A floor show of acrobatic dances and trio singing will be presented. Paul F. Middleton is chairman of the committee in charge, assisted by Earl W. Byers, Max Blackburn, W. A, Comer, Clarence Flick, George Friedrich, Robert E. Lairds, Maurice E. Morgan, Raymond G. Oster, Calvin A. Richey, Edwin K. Steers,

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Mothers to Hear

Robinson Tuesday ~ Dr. Daniel 8. Robinson will speak at an anniversary luncheon meeting of the Lambda Chi Alpha Mothers ‘Club: of Butler University at 1 p. m. Tuesday at the chapter house, 4721 Sunset Blvd. Dr. and Mrs. Robinson will be honor guests. Mrs. Harvey Kares, one of the club founders, will give a review of the club activities. The program will include a medley of patriotic airs by Mrs. Oscar Barnard, pianist, and readings by Mrs. M. F. Conner, who will wear colonial costume. ! Mrs. Charles Breece has arranged the program. Hostesses will be Mesdames : Ross Mitchell, Charles Herrin and- W. S. Johnson.

Monument O. E. S. Will Dine Monday Members, of Monument Chapter, Order of EFastern' Star, will hold a pitch-in dinner at 635 p. m. Monday in the Temple, North and Illinois Sts. : Initiatory work will bé presented at 8 p. m. and Brothers’ Night will be observed. Mrs. Esthier Fogle is

worthy matron and Morris Freeman, worthy patron. i=

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Rush Tea Sunday D. A. T. E. Club members will give a rush tea Sunday afternoon. Plans were discussed at a meeting last night at the home of Miss

‘Doris Gaul, 3459 Carrollton Ave.

Party to Be Held.

Members of Alpha Chapter of Chi Phi Gamma Sorority will give a “sweetheart party” and chili supper tomorrow evening at the home of Mrs. William Steckler, 2330 N. Adams St. Mrs. Leroy Rathsam will be assistant hostess. b

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lidnight Supper to Be L A. C. Dance Feature A “Sweetheart buffet supper” at midnight will feature the St. Valentine dance in the Indianapolis Athletic Club tomorrow for meme

bers and their guests. Louie Lowe's orchestra will play

from 10 p. m. to 1 a. m. in the

fourth floor ballroom which will be decorated in keeping with Valene tine Day motif . Included on the club’s “coming events” calendar is a stag party for

members Monday, Feb. 19.

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