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JANE JORDAN
” Sak JANE JORDAN-—Is a married couple, the husband very iealthy, 32 y ears of age, the wife of 37 years of age, too old to adopt a small child? We have everything else to make us happy, & comfortable home, reasonably good health, a nice car, an excellent job, lots of friends. a good reputation and good educations. But we both love children and have none of our own. Are we too old now to rear a child, to understand and sympathize with his problems as he grows older, especially this wife? Friends who have children have advised against such a move, declaring we would be irked at having our freedom curtailed, that having been married so long a child would get on our ‘nerves,’ that children’s illnesses, problems, ete., would cause a rift between us. But we are looking to the davs when we will be old and alone. We are very happy and very much in love and do not wish to jeopar= dize that. Could you give us the advice of a disinterested person? A BEWILDERED COUPLE. ” » » » »
Answer—I do not think that our chronological age has as much bearing on the problem as your motives in adopting a child. People in their thirties should have gathered enough wisdom and selfdiscipline to make them better parents than a younger and less experienced couple. You have the advantage of undertaking the task with your eyes open. You know that some irritation at the restrictions which a child places upon the freedom of parents is unavoidable. What you want to know is whether or not the gains of being a parent outweigh the losses. As I said in the beginning this depends on your motives. A child endangers a marriage most when the wife is not in love with her husband and transfers her emotions to the child, expecting to find compensation for all her frustrated ambitions in the child's performance. The child rebels against the heayy burden of fulfilling the mother's excessive expectations and hecome a disappointment. The husband resents his rejection and becomes jealous of the child. The tather shows his hostility toward the mother by criticizing the child, and conversely, the mother shows her hostility toward the father by protecting the child. No chiid caught in this situation has a chance to develop normally The fact that vou and vour husband are in love and do not wish to jeopardize vour relationship is a healthy sign. If the two of vou can join in the love of a child whom you are willing to let develop according to his own capacities, you will find great satisfaction in parenthood. Parents who resent their children are those who regard them as ornaments to their egos instead of separate personalities. When the child fails to live up to what the parents expected, it gets on their “nerves.” A child cannot be regarded as a toy to provide amusement for adults. It will not laugh and be cute when parents want to be entertained and sleep when thev want to rest. It will not atone for the parents’ disappointments by succeeding where they failed. It will not cling to them when they are old, foregoing marriage and independence in order to support and comfort aging parents. If you expect any of these things, it is better not to ask a child to assume these heavy responsibilities. But if you are people who can accept responsibility without putting a price on your service beyond the child's ability to pay, if you find joy in watching another human being develop according to his own light even if different from vour own, if vou can guide and direct without demanding comformity to your own ideas, you will find deep satisfaction in parenthood, and a mutual objective which will enrich rather than impoverish vonr own relationship. JANE JORDAN.
Put your problems in a letter to Jane Jordan who will answer your questions in this column daily.
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Personals
Mr. and Mrs. Earl C. Wolf and
Hoosier Author's
Cousin to Marry
Mr. and Mrs. Elvan Tarkington have announced the engagement of their daughter, Jeanette, to Burford Danner, son of Mr. and Mrs. H. R. Danner, No date has been set for the wedding. Miss Tarkington attended Rockford College at Rockford, Ill. She is a member of the Dramatic Club and a cousin of Booth Tarkington. Mr. Danner was graduated from Williams College, He is a member of Delta Kappa Epsilon Fraternity, the Dramatic Club, Woodstock Club and the Traders Point Hunt,
P. E. O. Groups Plan Meeting
Only two women's clubs have] planned meetings tomorrow; both are chapters of the P. E. O. Sisterhood. One group has scheduled a meeting for Thursday Miss Doris Lynn, 425 W. 41st St, will be hostess for a Christmas party tomorrow for members of CHAPTER 8S, P. E. O. SISTERHOOD
Marie Stegemeier Is Engaged
The engagement of Miss Marie Stegemeier, daughter of Richard Stegemeier, to Mark Storen Reeves, son of Mr. and Mrs. Lawrence E. Reeves, Columbus, will . be announced today at family dinners here and in Columbus, Ind. The couple will be married in February. Miss Stegemeier attended | Wellesley College | and graduated from Indiana University. She is a . member of Kappa Kappa Gamma Sorority. Mr. Reeves is an Indiana University graduate and a member of Phi Kappa Psi Fraternity.
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Miss Meta Schulmeyer: will be as-| sistant hostess. Members of the pro-|
ettarnent, They neice Mies BOOK Production Heavy; 200 Titles Are on Current List
Bettina Johnson, Miss Naomi Tevebaught, Mrs. Lawrence Davis and Mrs. Donaldson Brown.
Mrs. Thomas B. Millikan, 3321] Carrollton Ave, will entertain mem-
pers of CHAPTER W OF THE By PAUL FRIGGENS
NEA Service Book Editor BOOKS, LIKE WAR BUSINESS, set heavy production records in! Miss Ella Wagner will be hostess | 1939. The result is a huge and bewildering stock, perhaps 200 current at a meeting of the SORELLE CLUB| titles, the best of many times that number published, Thursday evening at her home, 1331 The list runs from hefty, important novels like Sholem Asch's 700a te Aelds pos SORMISHRRS page “Nazarene” to the incomparable Sandburg biography of Lincoln, y | “The War Years,” 1,300,000 words in four volumes. There are small books,
| Charles A. Beards "Giddy Minds and Foreign Quarrels” (87 pages), Se . ~ o {Willis Thornton's “Third Term Issue (118 pages), but Hospital Guild Board to Meet
SISTERHOOD at a “mystery meeting” tomorrow,
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| the season has set a record in size as well as quantity, So vou begin to choose and what do you find? The fiction list, as usual, is longest. It bears a distinet war flavor. Leading book is perhaps “Escape” by | Ethel Vance (Little, Brown; $2.50), searching story of {Nazi Germany: another, “Johnny Got His Gun” by Dalton Trumbo (Lippincott; $2.50); a third, “Attack on America’ by Ared White (Houghton, Mifflin: $2.30). War novels of earlier days, and good reading, too, are "II Not Victory” by Frank O. Hough (Carrick and
Executive board members of the White Cross Guild will meet at 10
a. m. Wednesday in the nurses’
Fifty Club Dances
SORORITIES On New Year's Eve
Psi Chapter, Beta Sigma Phi. 6:30] Members of the Fifty Club will Wed. Southern Barbecue Inn New | hold a New Year's party Saturday
Year's dinner party, Beta Chapter, Omega Phi Tau, 8|0n the Severin Roof. p. m. Wed. Mrs. Fred Yeaman Jr,| Courtland €, Cohee has arranged show which will include
504 W. Drive, Woodruff Pl. Apt.!a floor dances by Miss Virginia Howe. Dr,
8, hostess, Paul C. Beckner will act as master of ceremonies. Other members of the entertainment. committee are Dr, C. B, Mor=gan and Messrs. Wendell V. DeWitt, Joseph Freihage and Thomas Farrell,
I. A.C. Plans EVENTS
New Year Eve Supper Dance
Indianapolis Athletic Club members and their guests Will celebrate |g.q((je. Sat, Columbia Club. Dinner, New Years Eve with a supper- Bryn Mawr College Alumnae, 1 p, dance Sunday night, starting at, m. Wed. Propylaeum, Luncheon, 10:30 o'clock. A year-end dance LODGE will precedg the annual New Year's sijysr Star Review 15. W. B. A. party Saturday night. 8 p. m, Tues, Castle Hall, Dancing for both events will be —— in the fourth floor ballroom with Louie Lowe's orchestra. Among party reservations for {he Sunday event are those of C. C. Cooper, Dr. Harry Leer, O. W. 8iniff, Charles T. Moreland, John A.! Weleh, Harry Wenz, William Ben. | nett, William Locks, Joseph Mills, Dr. C. O. McCormick, 8. B. Reagan, | W. 8. Winter, Forrest Teel, Arthur E. Witt, Dr. F. M. Gastineau and George Davis. Other advance reservations ine clude those of George Lewis, Nore man Kevers, J. K. Lilly IIT, Richard M. Hennessy, Fred Hoffman, Ralph Knode, R. C. Fox, Miss Doris | Betzold, LeRoy Sanders, George | Pritchett, J. E. Curtis, Vernon Asch- | er, George N. Ross, A, E. Dorsey, T. | W. Mathews, W. A. B. Hanchett, | Dr. Ray Thorpe, R. A. Shirley, J. R. MeNutt, EB. G. Horne, R. J. Bran-| ham, Joseph Mills, Col. F. H, Spen-
With a Great | cer, Jack Morris, Carl E. Smith, Don Kaga, BEB. C. Burkert, Miss
Louise Schilling, Mrs. L. B. Skinner, | 3 Sam Rose, A. W. Boyd, Miss Har- | : riett Terry, Frank Shields, Philip | | Lutz Jr., A. J. Wichmann, Philip G. | } a, Cc Rohan, H. A. Intermill, E. G Del- | |
gado, W. B. Patton, Harry Kane and W. S. White,
The I. A. C. holiday calendar in-| cludes the annual Christmas Day dinner and dance today, the Indac| Junior holiday formal Friday and | the annual New Year's Day dinner | and dance Jan. 1.
Couple Wed in | Church Chapel Mr. and Mrs. Bemrose Boyd wl be at home after Jan. 1 in Chicago
CLUBS
Mrs. Hughes Hostess | O. E. S. Unit Will Mect
Mrs, Thomas IL. Hughes Jr. was| The Indianapolis Chapter 393, O. hostess for a business meeting and E. 8,, will have a regular meeting at Christmas party of the Alpha Pi 8 p. m, tomorrow at the Temple, Omega Sorority recently, 11522 W. Morris St,
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[following their marriage Saturday |in the chapel of the Third Chris. tian Church. The bride was Miss Ruth Ann] Dahlstrand, daughter of Mr. and| Mrs. Josef Y. Dahlstrand, 3323 Park | Ave. Mr. Boyd's parents are Mr. | and Mrs. J. O. Boyd, Keokuk, Iowa. | I'he Rev. Richard B. Lentz, Franks | lin, officiated. The bride wore a dress of sheer wool in twilight blue with a corsage | of Talisman roses and gardenias.| Following the ceremony, a wedding | breakfast was served in the Clays: | pool Hotel.
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- > » Induction ot Ott A S sons, Tommy and John, are here nome of the Methodist Hospital for Evans; $230), salty varn of the American Revolution: 1CCI'S OC Ct oom Rochester, Minn, to spenq post-Christmas party and gift ex-| Next to Valour” by John Jennings (MacMillan; (Christmas with Mr. and Mrs. Val | poiee * $2.75), tale of the French and Indian davs; “Strife Be- _— bie Mr Ls Pe and . A covered dish luncheon will be fore Dawn” by Mary Schumann (Dial; $2.50), another ts I i 3 «(Katherine Crahan. John is a stu-| 0 y story of the colonial American wilderness. Miss Ellen Hubbell will be in- dent at the University of Minnesota, | S€1ved. Members of the lun heon Next comes a varied Ist. adventu . gtalled as honored queen of Beth-| {committee include Mesdames Frank : ! 1 St, aaventure, romance, re= : rida : q 1 Joseph Bloch Jr. is spending the |g (watts. H. B. Rennard. W. R. ligious: el 1, Daughters, at a public holidays with his parents, Mr, and | Rjjngholz and James Taylor, Mys.| The towering novel of the life of Jesus, “The Nazainstallation ceremony at 8 p. m. Mrs, Joseph F Bloch. Mr. Bloch | john W. Noble is guild president. rene” by Sholem Asch (Putnam; $2.75); Christopher Saturday in Castle Hall {Jr. is studying piano in New York| patients at the hospital received Morley’s witty “Kitty Fovie” (Lippincott; $2.50) novel Other officers to be inducted jn. and musicology at Harvard Uni- christmas favors on their trays last of the white collar gal; “Christmas Holiday" by oe aed < in VErSity. [night made by the Central Avenue Somerset Maugham (Doubleday, Doran; $2.50); the clude Miss Ruth Wise, senior prin-|' Miss Elizabeth Hadley of San unit, The Christmas breakfast booming “Christ in Concrete” by Pietro di Donato cess; Miss Betty Jean Van Camp, | Francisco, Cal, arrived last week trays will bear greeting cards and (Bobbs-Merrill; $250), story of an Italian family in junior princess; Miss Marjorie Wise, | to spend two weeks Yith fer par- [nut cups made by guild members New York; “Children of God” by Vardis Fisher guide: Miss Mary Alvs Werkhoff jents, Mr. and Mrs. Witt W. Had- will be on the dinner trays | (Harpers; $3), epic of the Mormon trek; W. L. River's abs RE Rama cag 1109; oo | Miss Thelma Hawthorne, Mrs. H. | “The Torguts” (Stokes: $2350), epic of another great marshal; Miss Frances Spencer,| Mr. and Mrs. Alfred Isley Wwill|p Sudranski and Mrs. L. O. Nich- trek, that of the Mongol hordes. chaplain; Miss Dorothy Ann Bille- entertain 14 guests at their dione: | olson are on the committee in v 5 » «By oe} ; [2422 E. Michigan St, at dinner char f eT they | ter, first messenger; Miss Alice Jean : ; {charge of the “mystery mother” | - $ y tog W Little, Second Wiessenger: Miss Lou |Loday. The guests will be Mr. and pian adopted recently by the White FOR SHEER SUOD HUMOR dont miss gue ag : POSSEHIBE, ISS TOU Mrs. Fred Colker and daughter cross for student nurses. “Mothers: | 'Vitch in the Wood ' by T. H. White (Putham; $2.50), Anh Pfoff, third messenger; Miss jean, Misses Mary Krenzer, Beatrice send their first remembrances this Housing yarn of rowdy doings at King Arthur's eourt, Rosemary Sandy, fourth messenger; | Russell, Ethel Cooper of Kempton; | Christmas to their “daughters.” | sequel to “The Sword in the Stone Miss Rosemary Selmier, fifth mes- {Mesgre, and Mesdames William Ter- . nbs a Ga semian ane. |TV, Robert Morris and Ben Gardner Senger; Miss Alice Alred, Jestysor cus- {and children. todian; Miss Catherine Pavey, sen-| Richard Lochry, a student at for custodian; Miss Esther Meugge, | Northwestern University, is spendrecorder: Miss Marjorie Cockriel, |ing the holidays with his parents, treasurer; Miss Betty Marcum, li-| Mr. and Mrs. Ralph Lochry, brarvian; Miss Loretta Hubbell, m= | Mrs. Dale S. Young of Omaha sician: Miss Helen Woods, inner {and her daughters, Doris and Doroguard, and Miss Joan Zickendrath, (thy, are the house guests of Mrs. outer guard. {Paul Padou, 62 Layman Ave. Mrs. Mrs. Elva May Hendricks will pe | Tung 1s A a en ave r, assisted by Miss | Ne kaha . er hy Miss |, Miss Patricia Ferguson 1s spendRegina Koch, chaplain; Miss Ruth | Ing the holidays with her parents, Rilleter, marshal, and Miss Rose Ellen Gray, musician. Miss Mary Katherine Cass and Miss Naney Jane Sylvester will act as ‘custodians , : the home of Mrs. Fred Spacke, 1008 » A Secretaries HONO |g st. open houce will be held in Jot { their honor from 2 to 6 p. m. SunShortridge Coaches gu; sire spackes home. . v y - Ten Shortridge High School | Mr, and Mis. C. E. Day, 734 E. CACHES Wore on “d at 4 Chris 153d St. are guests at the Riviera CC a Tea OO STL Hotel in Daytona, Fa. mas party recently given by the, ug A Hollopeter was a recent secretaries who assist them in the visitor at the Hotel New Yorker, athletic department. New York. Another Indianapolis Hostesses were the Misses Naney | Lsttor at the hotel was B. W. 5 ° | Richter, Jefferson, Norma Hvman, Ann] A ————————— Loser, Mary Horton, Elinor Faucett, | 4 . Norma Oburn, Mary Jean Stout bE. R. Masons to Entertain Shirley Servass, Mary Helen| Mr. and Mrs. Edwin R. Mason, 51 Whitaker and Claribel Hall. Their |N. Jefferson Ave. will entertain this guests were Coaches Russell Julius, [evening at a family dinner in honSimon P. Roache, Thomas Woods, [or of the birthday of their son, HarHoward Wood, Robert Nipper, Ken- [old E. Mason. Mr. and Mrs. Harold Neth Peterman, Don Knight, Claude | Mason's son, Jackie, will celebrate Keesling, William Merrill and the his first Christmas at the party. custodian of athletic depart- Following the dinner, the family ment, Louis Mueller. | will exchange gifts.
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Mr. and Mrs. A. R. Ferguson, 3810
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Frank Allen and | Evelyn Bersot Wed
Miss Evelyn Bersot, daughter of Mrs. Mary Bersot, Brownsburg, and
(Frank D. Allen, son of Elwood D
Allen, Brooksville, Fla., were mar- | ried yesterday aftermmoon at the! home of the bride's mother. | The Rev. Earl Elliott officiated. Miss Mary Elizabeth Bersot, | sister of the bride, was maid of |honor, while the bridegroom's brother, John Allen, was best man
Kindergarten Closes |
School at the Pat and Polly] kindergarten, 23d and Alabama Sts {closed for the holidays recently
| with a Christmas party. Children
(taking part in the program were [Larry Ioe Smith, Nancy Snodgrass, | | Donald Hale, Lewis Tydings. Bobbie |Bain, Paula Sue Defenderfer, {Martha Ann Fuller, Jackie Fuller, | | Barbara Louise Winders, Ross Grif|fith, David Goldstein, Marshall Dis-| hone, Fleur Stierwalt, David Goldblatt and Susanne Lamb Miss Lu[eile Carlin is teacher.
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There's vast pleasure too in the good earthly
writing of Phil Stong’s “Ivanhoe Keeler” (Farrar and Rinehart; $2.50); “Restless Is the River” by August Derleth (Scribner; $250); “The Delectable Country” by Leland D. Baldwin; (Furman; $2.75): “Nebraska Coast” by Clyde Brion Davis (Farrar and Rinehart; $2.50); “Lightwood” by Brainard Cheney (Houghton= MifTlin; $2.50); “Magna” by Zona Gale (Appleton-Century; $1.75); “Capi tal City” by Mari Sandoz (Little Brown: $2.50). Two top-notch short story collections are “It Takes All Kinds” by Louis Bromfield (Harper: $3), Stephen Vincent Benets "'Taleg Before Midnight” (Farrar and Rinehart; $2.50). Two outstanding anthologies are “Tellers of Tales” edited by Somer set Maugham, a definitive anthology of the short story from Walter Scott to Edna Ferber (Doubleday, Doran: $3.75) and "Fifty Best Amers ican Short Stories” edited by Edward J. O'Brien (Houghton, Mifflin: 83). You will find much poetry bundled up nicely in two new anthologies: An Anthology for the Enjoyment of Poetry” edited by Max Bastman (Scribners; $3) and “A New Anthology of Modern Poetry” in the Modern Library series, edited by Selden Rodman ($1.25). The fiction list ends (or does it begin?) with Steinbeck's “Grapes of Wrath,” now in its 300th thousand. It still is annoying as many as it pi®ases but certainly it is here to stay, The year produced a deluge of art books, topped by the sumptuous “Treasury of Art Masterpieces” edited by Thomas Craven (Simon and Shuster; $10) and “Modern American Painting” edited by Peyton Boswell (Dodd Mead; $3). Craven also edited a “Treasury of American Prints” (Simon and Shuster; $395). Other leading art books: “America’s Old Masters” by James Thomas Flexner (Viking: $3.75); “Rodin” (Oxford University Press; $3): “Modern Art in America” bv Martha Chandler Cheney (Whittlesey; $4); “Masterpieces of European Painting in America” (Oxford; $3).
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