Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 21 January 1939 — Page 9

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e United States, and why I am sorry to be back. It is a very fine list, and if you will but read it, I am sure you will not only reap great enjoyment, but

a fill your cup of profitable owledge to overflowing. (What a buildup.) Here is the list: | I AM SORRY TO BE BACK IN E STATES: | To have to give up South American coffee. To leave that all-year-round hot weather going to waste on South merica’s east coast. i To think that I may never again taste the magnificence of Rio de Janeiro. | To leavé behind a few genuine new friends, such as Ramon Arias x Ecuador and Cesar Borda of eivera of Brazil. To brihg to a close our perfect three-months’ association with PanAmerican Airways. | . Never again to get a Buenos Aires steak To stop sleeping under mosquito-netted beds. It is. a custom which some communities in the States might well adopt. | : To leave South {American hotels, food and service which, taken by and large, we found superior to our own. To leave a country where it isn’t criminal and antisocial not to work yourself to death. To leave hotels where you have breakfast in your room, a buzzer to call the maid or the hallboy, and where they turn down your bed and straighten the room in the evening. : To leave such a vast and interesting continent, knowing so little about it. AND I AM GLAD TO BE BACK IN THE STATES: Where people live on a basis of frankness and intellectual honesty. | To drink water {in safety out of bathroom faucets. In a country not so noted for its courtesy, but where actually there is just as much of it. To find hotels with soap in them. To get away from the custom of hissing like a

snake when you want a waiter. And in conclusion Where you don't see vultures sitting on roof peaks and gnawing in the streets. To be able to sesk confused, involved English and still be understood, To leave a continent where constant blatting of auto horns is not an apparent great pleasure, but actually is required by law. : To - read newspapers that can print what they : please, even when it makes me sore. No writer would be worth his salt unless he wound . up such a tour as qurs with a fine set of philosophical,

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By Mrs. Elearior Roosevelt

Distress d by Inadequacies of Washington's Hospital - for Poor.

ASHINGTON, Friday.—Yesterday afternoon I visited Gallinger Hospital. This is the hospital in the District of Columbia which is supposed to take care of those who| cannot afford to pay for medical treatment. Every new district institution: which I see fills me with greater discouragement. Our forefathers may have had an idea that they were creating a gf government for the District of Columbia, but I am afraid that it doesn’t work out that way. SomeéHow .or other, the people who live here do not seem to have as great a sense of responsibility as people in other parts of the country, as . evidenced by the fact that their taxes- are kept at a lower level than is the case for other cities of comparable population. Members of Congress, either because they have districts of their own which naturally come first in their interest, or because the District of Columbia /is without a vote, do not show the interest run a community. I.hardly know how to pick out things which will give you the clearest picture of what I saw yesterday afternoon. The most striking thing to me is the ‘devotion of the -dgctors and the nurses who, in spite of almost insuperable handicaps, still manage to render a newiarkatls service. The impossible, however, cannot be accomplished and when the nursing of 40 or 50 patients, some 15 of whom are perhaps on the danger list, falls at night on one student nurse, it is obvious that no patient can receive adequate nursing

care. | Dinner for Justices : Even in the daytime there is not sufficient per‘sonnel to give more than half the nursing time per _. patient that should be given. From a physical stand"point, the food for some 936 patients, inmates of

.- the hospital yesterday, was served from a kitchen

which was designed for the original hospital of 260 beds. The cost per day must be kept so low that * it is impossible tojgive many of the fresh foods which are considered desirable for convalescents and for certain illnesses. | ; The children’si.ward, in which I was particularly ‘interested, has had to be moved from an old building to the ‘second floor of the Psychiatric Building. Not a desirable grouping and not in any way suited to the care of children, I write of this, because it seems to me that every citizen of the United States has an interest in making the capital the United States a model from every point of view. People who come here should see not only the Government buildings, but if they have an interest in certain social questions they should be able tg find the pattern here which they wish to develop at home, Quite a jump from Gallinger Hospital to the dinner for the Justices, of the Supreme Court last night, followed by a delightful musical. Mr. Erno Balogh made the beautiful new piano in the White House bring forth its best tones, and Miss Marjorie Lawrence sang two groups of songs which gave every ne much pleasue.

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Day-by:Day Science

s By Science Service

HE SPORT, or business, of racing, Dr. C. P. Stone, of Stanford University remarked at the recent A. A. A. S. meeting, is based on the interesting and often unpredictablei way in which individual horses differ from one another. When you put up two dollars on a race, you are not at all interested in the average running time of one-year-olds. Even the average time of Seabiscuit may seem irrelevant. What you want to know is what your favorite black filly is likely to do on a muddy track this ‘afternoon. In the field of business, statistics showing the average rate of decline of mental alertness with age are equally uninforming when it comes to deciding / whether old Mr. Jones in the bookkeeping department er his intimate knowledge

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Dirty Hands, Matches, Other Problems Need Wise Attention

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By William Engle

Times Special Writer

EW YORK, Jan. 21.— “I thought my little boy was going to be: sunshine in the house. But he isn’t sunshine. He’s heartbreak.” 3 In a midtown office’ Mrs. Anna W. M. Wolf, counselor to mothers for the Child Study Association, listened to this mother tell about her small son, heard her say

she could not do a thing with him, did not understand

what had. made him grow so resentful, did not know why he, who used to be exuberant, now was sullen. There were long talks after. that between Mrs. © Wolf — poised, friendly, reassuring—and the col-lege-trained, well-to-do mother. Gradually Mrs. . Wolf perceived the reason for the little boy’s behavior. She saw that he had been hurt by the conviction that his sister was a wanted, loved individual in the home and that he was not. She saw that it had seemed to him his mother always was taking pleasure in the happy doings of his sister, always making comparisons between him and her, and that he had drawn within himself, morose and antagonistic. Mrs. Wolf told the mother what she thought was the matter. She told her to go home and gradually show the boy the affection she felt for him, convince him of his security and of the confidence put in him—and expect him to respond only slowly. : The mother was not only intelligent enough to ask for advite but also to take it. The last Mrs. Wolf heard of her and the: boy, they were getting along first rate. “It turned out that this particular problem was easy and the results extraordinarily good,” Mrs. Wolf said in the pleasant counsel chamber. “But a good many of them involve family relationships. so tangled and deep we can’t always be of help. We never presume to say we can actually solve any one’s puzzle. We say that what we can do is try to show how certain things done in other cases might prove worth doing in a new, similar case.” 2 8 =

HE was speaking of her counseling and that of Dr. Ruth Brickner, psychiatrist. They conduct the counsel service of the association under the director, Mrs. Sidonie Matsner. Gruenberg. Most of their clients come from

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parent study groups formed by the association or from among the membership—all people who are making an effort to keep up with the association’s idea that parent education (in bringing up children) is an obligation of an enlightened new day in child education. The {tribulations heavy upon mothers who go to the counsel chamber are as varied as human faces. But most of them, Dr. Brickner said, grow out of per-

. plexities, both major and minor,

that are common. i “I hope you won't laugh at me, but I'm afraid my 5-year-old boy will burn down the house,” one mother came in to say. “I can’t get him to stop playing with matches. I hide. them, but he gets others somehow. I scold Him

‘and I punish him.”

This—match trouble—is coming up all the time, Mrs. Wolf said. Usually it is not hard to solve. Children naturally want to light matches, probably liking the feeling of mastery over fire and something of the primitive exultation. But if a child is not morbidly and continually interested in matches he is able by the time he is 5 or 6 to learn why caution is necessary. : ! & this first,” Mrs. Wolf told this mother. “Show him how to light matches, safely. Then, whenever you can, let him light some —outdoors, or at the sink, or in the fireplace. Have him hold the lighted match and explain im why it is: dangerous for children to do it alone. He'll be apt to tire of the pastime when the novelty wears off. Even if he doesn’t he will be more likely to wait until he can have permission from you if he knows you will give it reasonably. If that doesn’t work youll just have to keep matches away from him for a while.” The mother found it worked. Like matches, the clean hands question is always with the counsel room. “My children won’t wash before coming to the table. I have to keep at them all the time. What can I do?” : “Well,” Mrs. Wolf told the mother, “were inter in/ cleanliness as adults. /Children aren’t interested in cleanliness. A lot of our insistence on‘ clean hands at the table is founded not so much on a concern about health as it is on aesthetic standards,

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' Students of child psychology at .Fordham University sit on high stools and observe, through a oneway screen, the action of youngsters undergoing special training. Photos at left show pupils, imbued with a desire for neatness, putting toys on a shelf, and a 4-year-old who has absorbed enough self «reliance to put on his own shoes. ' = ;

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3 Wolf said, did not realize that

“gYHILDREN don’t have such aesthetic standards. They don’t mind, or even know, often, that their hands are dirty.” But this, she said, can be done:

One can insist, say, on three or four conscientious scrubbings of hands a day, and wait for the presumably happier, almestcertain time when children grow up to a desire of their own to have well-cared-for hands. If nothing else will bring it, adolescence is. likely to. Dawdling, she said, is- another recurring problem that makes mothers throw up their hands. “My children dawdle at every-

thing. They don’t seem to learn to !

get anything done without my fussing over them—I mean getting dressed, eating, starting off for school.” “When they're little, it’s a trait you don’t have to worry about,” Mrs. Wolf said. “Usually we ask too: much of small children and ot enough of older children. It’s natural - for children, boys, to be noisy and slovenly and unpunctual. In fact, we look with suspicion on a little boy with clean hands.” : A child’s physical ability to perform a duty which may seem nonsensical or nonessential to him, she explained, is not itself an indication that he has matured to the point of being ready to accept the responsibility to do it. The best way for parents to get along with clean hands trouble, she concluded, is to understand it is a concomitant of a passing phase of growth, try to show the children the advantages of doing better, and. substitute equanimity for nagging—if possible. : Another mother was worried because her 9-year-old daughter did not seem to show what she thought was the deference due the father. A

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“Y AST night when her father came home,” she said, “he told her’ to” scoot down to the corner store and get him the last sports -€dition of the paper. She didn't even look up from her home work. She snapped at him. She said she was busy.” In such home difficulties as this, at first seemingly trivial, Mrs, Gruenberg.and all the others associated with her in the work of evaluating and spreading the modern knowledge of child study see evidences of need for parent education. :

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their whole. attitude of authority toward the child was the kind only to produce the very behavior to which they objected. She told the mother that nowadays it is believed that parents ought to decide not on how much obedience they want from a child but on what kind of obedience.

“If you want to make a tool of the child, you can do it,” she said. “You can peremptorily demand and probably get service of a kind. But if you want your child to be an - amiable, warmly responding, willing member of the family, a person in his own right, your demands ought to be in the form of requests when you want a favor done. : “In an instance like this, don’t abruptly interrupt the child’s home work with a curt order. Do it graciously, as you'd do it: if you were addressing an adult. When that’s a custom in a home the gracious request is likely to be met with gracious acquiescence. Asking favors and doing favors, instead of shaking the family relationship, strengthen it.” -

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sociates have not learned all they know about these matters from the clinical work of others. The association makes it a point first to spread only soundly established doctrine among its study groups, directed by Mrs. Cecile Pilpel, and its literature, edited by ' Mrs. Zilphas Carruthers Franklin, and it is a rule, too, that all in the association service be married and have children of their own. In the.technical discussions of family puzzles Dr. Brickner and Mrs. Wolf have a word that often comes up. It is “sibling,” one of two or more children born to the ame parents but not at the same ~“time. Sibling problems run deep. Thexe was one they helped out of a grave dilemma. She was an intelligent, sensitive girl determined to become a nurse against her parents’ wishes. Her life's

ambition, she said, was to devote’

herself to the service of others. After her mother induced her to come to the counsel chamber, she confided that she had a sister whose beauty and charm had always been the pride of the family. She, herself, had admired the sister, and always had acclaimed her engaging ways. 2 2 8

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in which her sister led and to im= molate herself in hard work. Once the girl revealed her smoldering hatred of the sister in the counsel room. She was telling of a time when the sister wore a new gown for a party and was enchanting. “I wanted to slap her,” she confessed, and suddenly began to cry. After that her talks with the counselor cleared her mind. She was shown that others, too, have hated their sisters, and seeing that, she felt less guilty, herself. She ceased to hate herself for having hated her sister. She began to get along with her sister. She grew less determined to cross the will of her parents. She took a new interest in her own accomplishments. She began a new happy life. Next to silblings, “dream children” sometimes make the deepest trouble. These are the children their parents dreamed they would ave. “Sometimes I see a mother

wants a child to be a projection |

- of herself, her dream child,” Mrs. Wolf said. “She wants the child to grow up with her own qualities, to be, say, a social success, or a singer, or a student.. If the child doesn’t, and if the mother wants to make her something that she isn’t and can’t be, there’s trouble. “Other times a father, becatise he was a football star, wants his son to be one; or if he was good in” elocution he wants his son” to be an orator. If the son’s abilities turn out to be entirely different there’s trouble again. rw “Such fathers and mothers can learn through parent education that theyre doing their children an injustice by trying to fit them into -any mold they’ve made with _thejr own minds.” ' -~ When they do, the result, she said, is chagrined parents and bitter children. When they don’t they find, often, that the real children turn out to be finer people than the ones they saw in dreams.

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Finland Gees Industrial

By Science Service ELSINGFORS, Finland, Jan. 21.—1In a relatively short time, intensive manufacturing and chemical developments have changed Finland from an agricultural to an industrial country. : One of the newest projects is a

state-owned and operated factory for the manufacture of nitrogen. Hydroelectric power is harnessed to operate a new steel mill at Imatra. Shipbuilding .is booming. The University of Helsingfors is being expanded rapidly, with new buildings and library. Stone weapons and implements were found by archeologists in Nyland, Finland's county, which before has been

surprised how well Mr. Lindauer talks and what

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sea in the Neolithic Age.

TEST YOUR KNOWLEDGE

1—Where is the republic of Honduras? 2—What is the lowest noncommissioned rank ‘in the U. S. _ Army? Hint 3—How many republics were represented at the recent Pan-American conference at ‘Lima, Peru? 4—What are homonyms? 5—Which river of Panama supplies the water to operate the locks of the Panama Canal? 6—What is the correct pronunciation of the word incomparable?

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1—Central America. 2—Corporal. 3—Twenty-one. 4—-Words that agree in form, but differ in origin and m , : 5—The Chagres. 8—In-com’-pa-ra-bl; com-par’-a~bl. 8. 88

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7 PAGE 9 Our Tow By Anton Scherrer

Manual Teacher Tries Pet Theor On Young German Refugee ‘and Finds Scheme of ‘Mutual Benefi

SOON as I heard that Manual Traini ~ High School has a married German ref gee, I made it my business to investigat It turns out to be the truth. Max Lindauer; 29 years old, has a wife and a 2-months-ol baby boy living in Munich. He left German four days after the baby was born, and arrived in Ins dianapolis four weeks ago. Conditions, being what they are just now, he couldn't wait to bringfamily along. I saw a picture of

his wife. He carries it around with him. She’s pretty. As for the

baby, he doesn’t know what it looks like.

Mr. Lindauer didn’t know a soul around here when he arrived. He didn’t even know the language we speak. Nor did his German help him much. That’s explained by the fact that he doesn’t speak Yiddish, a kind of mixed German wr. Scherrer and Hebrew spoken by Jews on the | South Side where Mr. Lindauer has set up his nev home. I guess that ought to be enough to show you what the young man was up against. . It didn’t worry Mr. Lindauer in the least. Firs thing he did after looking for a job (and landing it was to ask about & school. That brought him in touch with Mr. McComb. With Finley Wright, toa Mr. Wright, a teacher of English at Manual, took

to the young man as soon as he saw him.' For two

reasons: (1) Because of his fondness for Germans, having spent several summers in their country, and (2) because Mr, Lindauer seemed just the sort to exe periment with, and let Mr. Wright try out a theory he’s been fooling with ever since he’s been at Manual. Well, that's the point of today’s piece. Instead of putting Mr, Lindauer into a class, Mr.. Wright adopted the Socratic method and spent an hbur every day talking with the young man. No lessons what=: ever, mind you. Sometimes they went across the street to the drug store, the American substitute for the German Kaffeehaus, and talked about everything under the sun including even such democratic institutions as hot dogs and ice cream sodas. Youd be

he's. picked up in the last four ‘weeks, Surprising, too, hi what Mr. Wright has picked up in the way of German. ri

Looks Forward to Reunion

As for the job Mr. Lindauer landed, he’s a pastty ! baker with the South Side Baking Co. He works at night, a rather fortunate arrangement because it ene ables him to get that daylight hour in with Mr, Wright. Of course, it means losing that much sleep, but beginning next week that’s going to be better, too.’ With the new semester, Mr. Wright will have his “vacant” hour sometime in the afternoon instead of. in the morning the way it is now. That will enable Mr. Lindauer to get what sleep is coming to him. Curiously enough, Mr. Lindauer isn’t a baker by trade. He is really s Kaufmann (merchant) and was brought up in the textile industry in Augsburg. For some reason, though, he was deprived of his job about a year and a half ago, and ordered to earn his living by the use of his hands. That’s when he picked up

‘the baker's trade. Some day he hopes to get back

into his original business. But this time in America, he says. . : Things are brightening up considerably now for Mr. Lindauer. Indeed, the way things look at present, it won't be long now, he says, until he can send for his wife and baby,

Jane Jordan—

Girl Told She Errs in Going With

Boy Because She's 'Sorry' for Him,

EAR JANE JORDAN—I'm a girl of 21. 'I have worked for four years.

is something I'm up against which I can’t think through. For more than a year I've been going steady with a fellow of 23 whom I went to school with. I don’t love him and wouldn’t marry him. I have told him this but he still comes back. I hate to hurt his feelings so we still go around together. I know lots of other nice boys whom I could go with. ; Some I might even want to marry some day but I don’t believe in cheating, and since the man has always been so nice to me, I hate to hurt him. His only fault is jealousy. He doesn’t say anything but fost pouts. He used to drink but I broke hith of .that habit. : Now I'm afraid that if we split up he'll go back to that and everyone would blaine me for it. They do not know that he is weak and has to have some= one strong to lean on. What would you do in a case like this? : BLU.

Answer—You are not fair to yourself or the young man either. If you have no real interest in him aside from your rather tepid sympathy for his feelings, the kindest thing you can do is to cut him loose and give

him a chance to attach himself to somebody else.

Some girls who have become accustomed to a man’s devotion, are reluctant to hand it over to another

woman even though they do not value it highly themselves.

Of course you need. not be cruel, or wound his ego to the quick. But you can firmly assert that you're going to make other friends among the opposite sex and that you expect him to do the same. If he takes to drink because you refused to be his permanent leaning post, you cannot help it. You are not ree sponsible for his behavior. : CT» » #

DEAR JANE JORDAN-—I am a young man of 19, My wife is 18. We have been married for some time, and unless the grim reaper intervenes, we probe ably will be married for a considerably longer period. I support my wife through my own efforts, and if you ‘knew us both you would have no doubt of my love for her. You are continually harping on the fact that young men, or boys as you call them, haven’t enough sense to know when they are in love. I suggest you make a fair-minded survey of young men. You : be surprised at the number of young men of 19 or 20 who are intelligent end more set in their way than you have represented. A YOUNG AMERICAN.

Answer—Of course it is possible to make a happy marriage when you are very young. It just happens so seldom. According to statistics, it takes only a few years to wash up the majority of youthful marriages. But there are excepfions. JANE JORDAN.

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