Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 20 January 1939 — Page 17

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Those Planning South American Trip

Urged 9 Go by Plane and Arrange Ample [Time for Full Enjoyment.

7 ‘ VJIAMI, Jan. 20.—Travel to South America

this winter, they tell me, is up by 150 per cent over what it has ever been before. : Due largely, apparently, to the bad situation ‘in Europe. And possibly, I hope—to an ‘increasing interest in the Latin countries. | Most of these, |of course, are short-cruise pas- ‘ sengers, to the north coast of South America. Yet : hundreds do take the long steamer cruises clear to i Buenos Aires, or down the West Coast and across. ‘I do not believe there was a 5 gle out-and-out tourist aboard r plane during the whole threenionth trip. But anyone who can afford it and does not cruise South America by airplane is practically n ing the whole thing. A South American air trip, true, is| expensive. The round-South America air fare is $1000 a person. at includes no extras except

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‘From Indiana —Ernie Pyle

Mr. Pyle i Sue '| By scrimping, two people could iget by on $10 a day| in addition. But if you take any .side trips at'all; buy any souvenirs, have any fun, . you'd better count gn $15 a day for two. You could circle [South America in much less time “than we did and still have a good trip. You could do it easily in six weeks, with plenty of stopovers. Of course, it i§ possible to’ race around South - America in 11 days—Miami to Miami. But a person who circles South America in 11 days is fit for nothing at the end but the hospital. Despite all the comforts, flying is exhausting. It seems to me |that December, January or February are the ideal months for a round-South America flight. At thali time you miss the cold weather at home; you hit the short warm spell on South America’s ‘west coast, and summer time in the far south.’ = °° The most important thing is to get thoroughly ready ‘before you start. Have your passports and papers in perfect order. a { We have one joke on Panair, although it’s mostly on: ourselves. Before leaving the States, Panair reipeatedly advised us|to take scads of passport pictures. #2 Well, under constant urging, we left’ Miami With Tour dozen extra passport pictures apiece. And do y were taken from us during the whole trip? The Zero. Not a single one!

* What You Should Take

I don’t suppose anybody contemplating an air trip around South America will pay any attention to this, but I've made out a little list of things which the average travel agency or guide book will forget to te you. You should take with you: / Toilet paper. (I'm serious.) A cake of soap. Your camera. (We were advised a camera would be a great nuisance in crossing borders, so we left ours at home. That was bad advice. It would have been no trouble at all, and we missed hundreds of pictures we'd like to ldok at when we get old and shaky.) A good big map of South America. (We carried the one put out py National Georagraphic.) Dark glasses. : A light raincoat : A Spanish-English translator or dictionary. This one sounds a little like the wampum days— but I'd take a half [dozen or so little American articles for gifts. They don’t have to be expensive—some nice, unframed pictures:| a ring; a cigaret holder. : And be sure to| take for yourself the compact, thorough guidebook entitled “Hand Book of South ri It’s published in England, but can be {bought in our bigger cities.

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: In Reply to- Worried Questioner.

ASHINGTON, Thursday—Our son, Elliott, i” W fray was able to depart last night. The. last

{snowstorms have been a little disturbing to anyone

‘who wished to travel anywhere by air and he was

‘obliged to change| his plans several times. However, even leaving later than he intended, he will be in

Ft. Worth sooner |than would have been possible before airplanes were an accepted mode of travel. "The state of Washington provides me with an in‘teresting letter and a newspaper clipping this morning. My correspondent asks that I answer her ques- . ition in my column. This is the question: “I am inclosing a clipping. Is this called free speech?” "The clipping is ftom a paper called “The Statesmen Index,” of Dec. 30, end is headed: “The Poet's Cor‘ner.” The name of the poem is “Rejected.” The gist “of it is that the present President of the United States i“came to the gates of hell and the devil answered the bell.” All the faults of the Administration come in jfor a rhyme, including personal things such as his {wife, and finally he is rejected, and these are the Siclosing lines: ¢ «Andfhe devil'stood and his head he bowed At last he sald: ‘Let’s make it clear, You'll have to move, you can’t stay here, For once you linger with the mob I'll have to hunt myself a job’.

Strange to say the author is “unknown.” iAn Inalienable Right

i Certainly, madamé correspondent, this is freedom lof speech. Anyone in this country has a right to state his or her opinion about anyone else. Even if you disjagree with! the opinion you must uphold this right, §

because th: e right allows you to express your iopinion freely as well. You are worried because you were taught to respect the office of the President of ithe United States regardless of politics, but this is not attack on the office or even on the Presidency. It is ‘fan attack on the man and perhaps it is better to have ymore freedom an less enforced’ respect.’ . Last-night I had the pleasure of speaking to the {executive board of the National Federation of Women’s Clubs and listening to a speech by a young “Chilean woman doctor who holds one of their scholarShips. This yo -L,among women

Zher interest in d

'Day-by-Day Science

.ipy Science Seryice

Chile and it was interesting to see mocracy.

ing in that place, or is it just scenist of the see-it-quick-and-hurry-on ype a young ranger behind the informa“tion desk in a National Park. 3 er was 1 The youpe “3 5 scenery,” he told the hurried one. b skip that part of this park.” i © When the U. S. National Park Service was first L organized, the distinction was not so very clear be{tween the awe-inspiring, crowd-drawing spectacles in the Parks—geysers, glaciers, canyons, giant trees and ‘¥go on—and the “just scenery” areas which attract yfewer visitors but hold these longer and more firmly. 1" Now, however, the distinction is clearly seen and Ats being acted upon. It is a definite’ part of the Na3 $ional Parks policy to set aside certain areas, chosen so far as possible for their untouched primitive conditions, as “wilderness parks.” In these, roadbuilding »4s to be kept do to a minimum set hy absolute s necessity, there are to be no big hotels, and no effort [is $0 be made to make life éasy for visitors. They “are for the hiker, the Rorseback trail rider, the fisher- > man, the observing naturalist. i ‘In a few of the Western parks, where there ‘is room, such areas can be included without with normal tourist traffic. In the Yellow-

“plenty of "interfering

stone, for instance, hundreds of thousands of visitors

,behold and wonder at Old Faithful, and the Canyon, “and the Mammoth Hot Springs. Yet there are tens f of acres in that park so dedicated to

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_By William Engle >

Times Special Writer

folklore and misunder-

nature of habit acquirement. They think, too,

frittered away recently in emphasis on the rigidly: objective attitude and. the ‘accompanying ritualistic habit training. . N “Parents’ own standards make an impression on: their children long before the children have. the capacity tp live up to them themselves,” s. Sidonie-. ‘Matsner Gruenberg, director of the Child Study Association of America, said. “What is important for parents to understand is that children’s qualities develop very gradually. They come through growth and understanding, and they are determined largely‘ by the atmosphere in- which children live.” ’ The objective nowadays, she said, is not rigidly to enforce “good “habits,” but to see to it that there is such an orderly way of living in the home that it will seem natural for the child to develop pleasing qualities. The adage, “Good and bad habits once established persist through life,” is a fallacy in the light of what investigators of child behavior know now, Mrs. Gruenberg said. Such a fallacy, she said, is one of the kind that drives parents to try to “condition” their children to “everything from obedience to independence.” Truthfulness, for example, she said, is not now regarded as a habit; nor is listening to good music, nor is unselfishness. These, and other such desirable qualities, are “products of deeply grounded attitudes,” and “teaching them as mechanical, automatized responses is worth nothing at all.” lasting, sincere qualities “they must rest upon a foundation of feeling, intelligence and discrimination.” - ' » » ® RS. GRUENBERG and her associates makes this clear in a recapitulation of their work and their general knowledge of child development. It is a group endeavor published as “Patents’ Questions,” and in it she pointed out this:

“What we learn before thé age of 6 seems truly to determine whether later in life we feel happy or sad; are generous. or mean; friendly toward ethers or hostile, suspicious or trusting, reasonable or stubborn; how freely we can express or control our aggressive and our sexual impulse—in short, all that is most important in life. “These are consequences not of direct and mechanical training, but of the feelings released in the family drama of the early years. The child’s relationship with his parents, his brothers and sisters, his beliefs as to whether he is accepted and loved or is guilty and punishable, his capacity to accept necessary restraint without bitterness and eventually to develop a well-balanced but not oversevere conscience—these, with their infinite variations, are the very stuff of character.” The association triss to explain "to mothers how this feeling can be fostered, and it tells certain mothers who most urgently want to know, for mothers who seek help are ones who have found their

standing have obscured the

that a good deal of time has been

If they are to be truly,

The Example of Parents And Not Their Words Should Be What Forms Their. Children’s Habits

(Third of a Series)

EW YORK, Jan. 20.—More words are wasted by parents trying to teach their children admirable habits, the child study people believe, than are used in all the remainder of a young one’s bringing up. hil The reason for “this, they have concluded, is that

children’s habits are not developing as they had hoped.

Mrs. Gruenberg cited some of the questions and -adviee taken

f e histories reperted-in the- ’ : a p bought innumerable “sets of :clas=

association’s compilation; = “Parents’ Questions” (Harper & Broth-

ers). Summarized, -they follow: - - -

Question — I am beginning to think there is much to be said in favor of the old proverb that “children should be seen and not heard”—at least at table. My older son is 8, now, and beginning to be allowed at table. A month’s trial finds me irritated and disillusioned; he just hasn’t any manners at all. ee Answer — He will

experience. He will profit by sharing the family dinner: table.

meal for everyone else, though you will just have to put up with his awkwardnesses as part of childhood social “growing pains.” A quiet suggestion will do more than constant nagging. Inject a word or two that will keep the conversation from going over his head all the time, and most of all, make him feel he is welcome. ” ” »

: Q =o: How can I help my

children acquire a habit of good reading? So much cheap fiction, radio programs, comic strips and movie magazines come into

our home, I don’t know how to re--

instate Dickens, Scott, Thackeray and Shakespeare. Answer—The habit of good read-

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“never learn adults’ manners if he doesn’t. have. He: shouldn't be allowed to: spoil the

very young man going through his evening ritual of washing his face, brushing his teeth, and so to bed—whee!

guage fads—but they do emerge, and quite undamaged. Just as they imitate each other’s mannerisms in dress (one child of our acquaintance says that it is fashionable at.the moment in her

“: school to leave shoe laces untied

and flopping about), so they do in speech. The language standard

{ maintained by the parents in the

"home seems, in the long run, to

- be the determinant.

Always, the investigators agree, a quality of living that can be called a habit is most easily acquired not merely by sheer repetition, but instead through satisfaction in the act. +The motive alone is not stimulus enough, the investigators believe; there must be a willingness to carry out the motive at the

"time, a readiness, and then mo-

tive must be followed by practice. But it must be practice that is comprehended. In contrast to the practice of a heedless boy in one

. of Child Study Associations fa-

vorite stories. He left a note for his teacher. saying, “I have written, ‘I have gone away’ one hundred times and now I have went home.”

s 8 8 FE had felt no satisfaction in

oo his work, and the investigators

say satisfaction is a corollary to what they call the law of readiness. : The association so thoroughly agrees with the view of John E. Anderson, . child welfare leader, in this that it sponsored a published symposium, “Our Children,” in which he summed up:—

“mee, “The motive which underlies so-

ing is not a habit at all; if it should. become one," it. would be

value. I know a man who has

sics in expensive bindings, and has read them; yet you -would never know from his talk or:conduct of life that he had any “communion with great minds.” No one knows the answer to the

question how to instill in the human trace a love of culture. If you love certain things yourself and can read them or discuss them

“”. with your children without boring them, do so by all means. How .they will feel will depend on their

intelligence, their maturity, their

‘temperament, and their cultural

surroundings. Are you yourself discriminate ingly acquainted with contemporary literature? Your children may find in it more than in the so-called classics. Question—Is there any way for parents to make an impression on their children’s language, or must they submit to the succession of inane fads in slang? My’ husband and I have grown callous to continuous “Okays.” But - we find harder to bear the “Oh, yeah?” and “Oh, boy, oh,’ boy, oh, boy” and “You would do-that.” Answer—You do, and you. ‘will

- continue to make an impression -on- your children’s: - language, whether the results are immedi-

ately apparent ‘or not. Children

* totally lacking.in genuine cultural...

called progressive education is to

add an additional ‘factor to the'’

strengthening. of the learning process — the satisfaction which comes because the child’s spontaneous needs and curiosities are answered. . . “Important, therefore, as is the principle of repetition; there:is too great. a tendency to stress it at the. expense of this principle ‘of satisfaction.” = RE ‘He cited the typical example of a boy who is admonished to hang

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| By Anton Scherrer

Ah, Here's Something Nice, Folks Recollections of One Who Taught in* School 10 'Baby Room’ for 39 Years. ODAY I've got something really precious

to share with you. Nothing less than the recollections of Miss Julia E. Ashley,

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up his coat day after day, and who does so sometimes, somefimes does not. ; “The only truly effective method of teaching in a case like that is

so to educate him that he actually prefers an orderly to a disorderly home or until the sight of ‘ his coat on the chair actually dis‘turbs him,” Mr. Anderson says. “Although children may learn to value neatness, both orderliness and a sense of esthetic values are attributes of maturity.” - One ray of hope he gives; he says that if we find Johnny, 4, with shoe laces running every which way, we should not tell him they are a mess and that we’ll have to fix them; instead, we

- should say— “That's fine, Johnny; I see you *

are learning to lace .your shoes, yourself.” But neither Johnny nor anyone else should be hurried in acquiring pleasing traits; all the sound child study experts say now that certain abilities and inclinations come with certain maturing stages. of the child’s whole development— mental, physical and emotional— and the present opinion is that a child should not be hurried ‘beyond his age.

It is best not to try to fit him/

into a rigid regime, either as a baby or later on; the fundamentals of manners and consideration for others do require some firm-

* ness from the parents; but today.

the generally accepted opinion is that there should be much less fear of “spoiling” the child than there was in the past. The “spoiled child” is more likely to be the one who has been denied freedom of action and pleasant associations with food and sleep as an infant, and who therefore has learned that tantrums or whining: will bring him what, he cannot gét otherwise. The child study experts make a point in saying that the child must be allowed to progress naturally. They oppose repression. They cry down the authoritarian attitude of ‘parents. 4 ; But they are willing, too, to concede that even the fostering of freedom among young ones can be too indiscriminately espoused, and they tell the classic story of “the little boy who said: . ; “Mamma, why do I always have

- to cry to do what I want to? Can't I ever do what you want me to?”

NEXT—Some problems of parents.

Coolidge Virtue of Common Touch Appeals to Murphy

By Bruce Catton NEA Service Staff Correspondent ASHINGTON, Jan. 20.—The / only fault Frank Murphy has to find with his new job as Attorney General is that the office is too grand. : Uncle Sam does pretty well by its Cabinet officers, and by none any better than the Attorney General. The huge Justice Department building has an elaborate fifth-floor suite for the head man, with two ante-rooms feeding into an. enormous, vaulted-ceilinged main office, beyond which there is a private library. \ ‘Like his predecessor, Homer S. Cummings, Mr. Murphy refuses to establish himself in what is supposed to be the main office. Its vaulted grandeur is now simply a waiting room where callers cool their heels pending their admittance. Mr. Murphy occupies the chamber originally intended to be

“This sort of thing,” he says,

looking about at the light oak pan-

eling, the open fireplace, the Venetian blinds, the built-in bookcases and the cabinet radio in the

corner, “this sort of thing is not too good for the soul.” He means it. He feels that it is all-important for a public officer in America to remember the traditional simplicity of the republic. “After all,” he says, “the Lord's gift to struggling humanity is not a pompous public official.” Mr. Coolidge, he feels, did two things. excellently: He always looked upon himself as a man working under a deep obligation to the public, and he kept the common touch, the old-time democratic simplicity of manner and of life. Mr. Murphy plans no especial changes in the department. It is up to the head of the department, he

feels, to put able men in the differ-

ent positions and to set a . high standard for thef§ performance.

pass through epidemics of lan- a library, or study.

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who was the Baby Room Teacher of School 10 from September, 1876, to June, 1915,

She took the children from their mothers’ laps at the age of 6 for a period of 39 years, she

| says. Miss Ashley, now almost 85, lives in Holly~

wood, Cal.—1584 Gower St., to be exact. I press the point because, like as not, some of : ey

| me improve my teéhnique.

her old babies may want to get in touch with her. Who says this column isn’t a Power for Good? It turns out that No. 10 was packed with precocious babies. As to who was the most promising, Miss Ashley believes it was a tossup between Paul V. McNutt and Albert Rabb. Paul had come to No. 10 from Franklin and stayed only a short time because his parents moved to Martinsville taking him . with them. He was a precise little kid, says Miss Ashley, and always emphasized the V and Mac in his name as much as to say “that will identify me.” Paul's baby-room teacher will give him a recome mendation for the asking in case he wants to run for President. She said so. “Put these names down, too,” said Miss Ashley, “and let little Mary Ritter head the list because she has done such wonderful work with her husband, Charles ‘A. Beard, the great American historian.” And right along with Mary, Miss Ashley remembered and mentioned Malcolm Brown, Elizabeth, Alice and Margaret Landon, Alfred W. Brandt, William Hume,

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Hughes, Ruth Patterson, Jesse Friedley, William Hig .gins, Herbert Hyman, Robert Taggart, Frieda and Emma Metzner, Louie and Boyd Conde, Mary Allers dice, Irene and Helen Newnam, Clemens O. Mueller and his sweet little sister Norma, and Preston Rubush. “I remember all my babies,” said Miss Ashley, “but to take down all their names would require a book as big as the Los Angeles telephone directory.” |

A Word About Lew Shank

The most temperamental baby Miss Ashley ever had to handle was Lew Shank. Seems that the Superintendent of Schools had transferred Lew from School 27 on the general theory that, maybe, Miss Henrietta Colgan, principal of No. 10, could do something with him. She did. “But I never would have guessed,” said Miss Ashley, “that Lew Shank would ever be Mayor of Indianapolis.” . It turns éut, too, that Miss Ashley made another bad guess. “It never occurred to me,” she said, “that little Orville Wright was perhaps dreaming about flying when I tried to teach him to spell ‘cat, ‘rat,’ and ‘hat’.” Even more surprising is the fact that before Miss Ashley went to No. 10 she taught two years at No. 6, Sure, the baby room. “The brightest of all the boys down. there,” said Miss Ashley, “was that dear little fellow, Gustave Efroymson. I cd#h see that cute little baby standing before me now as I asked him his name, He didn’t say ‘Gustave Efroymson.’ He said, ‘My name is Gustave Efroymson,’ in a whole sentence the way it should be said. And Gustave could count up to 10, and he knew what one-half of 10 is, and he could divide 10 by two, and he always knew the .. right” answer. And I wouldn’t be surprised,” ‘said Miss Ashley ruefully, “if later on Gustave Efroymson

per cent is sometimes better than 6 per cent.”

Jane Jordan— Love Can Be Tyrannical, Girl Told; Urged Not to Be Too 'Possessive',

DEAR JANE JORDAN—I am a girl of 18. I feel as though 1 have made 4 complete failure of my life. I have a fine gentleman friend. I started going with him six months ago. At first I made a good impression on him, but now his friendship is fading fast. : : : \ I dearly love the man and would give anything in this wide world if I could get him to feel as he did at first. I feel that if I’ ever had to give him up I would lose my mind entirely. At times his mind wanders clear away from me on my girl friends and others. He speaks of other men to me. I have told-him that I only want one man, himself.

his attitude toward other women. He has spoken of marriage but that time is gone Please advise me. = VERY ANXIOUS. :

Answer—I only can assume that you loved him too much; that you were too intense about him and that it made him uneasy. Love can be very tyrannical, you know. It can make too many demands; it can be too all-consuming and possessive. One of the most common complaints that men make is that women try to swallow them. Therefore, if a girl is too wrapped up in her suitor, too dependent upon his devotion for her happi= ness, he may sense a life of emotional slavery ahead and cool -off without being exactly able to tell what it was he feared. ~ : i It is evident to you that the man's attention has wandered. Why don’t you take the hint he has given you about other men, and astonish him by pleasantly, casually, naturally diverting your attention to some= body else? It is an error to affirm love when a man has wearied of it. © ' You won't lose your -mind if you have to give him up. It is not that hard to make a readjustment in love. The best advice I can give you is to loosen your grip. Relax.

EAR JANE JORDAN—Here is a lovely one for LJ. you. What to do when you catch the boy friend “in a pure, unadulterated fib of a two-timing nature? .Of course if he knows you know, one might just well fight it out on that line even if it does mean th end of a heautiful friendship. 2 5 i But suppose he doesn’t know you know? I'm & great admirer of your ingenious and common sense aids for nits and nit-wits alike. Maybe you ean help

Answer—A casual technique is the best. Boys do not like a possessive girl. It is never smart to have only one boy friend. If you're interested in several you won’t be so upset when one does a little plain and fancy two-timing. : Be careful not to put the boy friend in the wrong =

- .| too often. . Assume that of course he is interested in

other girls just as you are interested in other boys,

Put your problems in a letter to Jane Jordan who will answer your questions in this column daily. ’

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NSPIRED by the fact that so many people a: him for episodes and anecdotes about the h business, Frank Case, of the Algo Hotel of New York, decided to write a book. TALES OF A WAYWARD INN (Stokes) he tells the amusing people he has known, of aried tunes of the hotel, and of its struggle nF Ee me spite of difficulties, he nsister in his ideal of keeping a small, attractive graced by excellent food and service and a lo} gracious staff, a place where there is good good talk, and general gaiety. Having always . sincere admiration and enthusiasm fo

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