Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 9 September 1937 — Page 15
THURSDAY, SEPT. 9, 1957 _
Urges Wife Not to Lose Her Charm
Cannot Become Just a Servant, Jane Tells Puzzled One.
Jane Jordan will study your problems for ycu and give you her opinion in this column,
PEAR JANE JORDAN —|
- 1am 29, a good wife and mother, and have three lovely children. My husband is an out-of-town salesman. He has been living with another woman for the last 10 months, She is 10. years younger than he js. He says he loves me dearly and also the kiddies, ‘but cannot leave this other woman. He makes’ trips home every few weeks and acts like he is glad to see us. She is trying to influence
him to come and get the kiddies.-
She also is taking my name in the shop where he is employed. I love my husband dearly and couldn't give him up or the children. I am neat and attractive and am a tidy housekeeper. I can’t understand why he insists on living with another when he has such a nice family. Please I want advice as this really is a puzzle to me. PUZZLED WIFE. ” 2 Bn ANSWER—Your problem is very similar to that of another woman signed “Mrs. L.,” who does not want her letter published. Some of her friends have advised her to “beat the tar out of the other woman,” but her husband assures her that she would get the worst of it. Very likely this is true since a wife’s attack on the rival woman usually compels the husband to defend his paramour which makes two against one. Where a woman has no means of livelihood aside from her husband's earnings, and where she is tied at home with little children so that she can’t earn herself, she can’t walk out on her husband. The law will give her a divorce with support for the children, but neither of these two women want a divorce. They want their husbands to be as they were in the beginning, loyal and devoted. I do not know how this miracle can be brought about. I do not blame the women for raising a row, but when rows fail to discourage the
‘husband, surely the practical thing
to do is drop the subject entirely ‘and fight with more subtle weapons. Just. which weapons will be most effective in each case I do not know and could not find out without long study. I do know that when a man has affection for his family it is wise for the wife who wants to keep him not to destroy it by her ugly comments on Lis conduct, although they are justified. A woman can show disapproval of a situation without rousing violent feelings of antagonism in her husband. Sometimes, if he is let alone long enough, he will condemn himself more severely than she can. Ex-tra-marital affairs - haven’t very great lasting powers in the majority of cases, although when one is dead another may spring up in its place. Life for the wife of a love adventurer is not a happy one. Doubtless, the thing she forgot was her husband’s need for adventure, change, amusement, admiration, warmth and all. the things she represented when he married her. Granted it takes a superwoman tc maintain her charms while leading a monotonous life and doing back- . breaking work; but the. fact remains that when a woman turns into a domestic servant, her husband sneaks
—- off to enjoy her opposite and give
the playboy in him a chance. Justice or no justice a woman has to deal with these facts in the best way
that she can. JANE JORDAN.
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Jelly-Making Is
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The only thing wrong with jams | and jellies is that there aren’t always enough of them on the
shelves. Faddists rant about their harmful qualities. Expert dieticians deny. According to high authorities, jellies and jams having fruits and sugar in them are not only rich in flavor, but have high energy content and are easy to digest. They are particularly good for active chidren at breakfast and luncheon along ‘with other foods. ‘ Pectin Dictates
Do you know your pectin? That knowledge is the beginning of sweet wisdom. A good jelly is made with juice that contains ample proportions of sugar, acid and pectin. Many delectable fruits are deficient in pectin and require a friendly lift from other fruits or from bottled or boxed commercial pectin. These fruits are usually unreliable on the pectin side-—peaches, pineapple, cherries and rhubarb. But apples, crabapples, currants, grapes, quinces and plums are as reliable as Old Dog Tray. Selecting fruit for preserving is
riage. There may be more sweetness or more acid than you bargained for. rely on a set formula for success— you must test out your fruit for its acid, sugar and pectin and change your basic recipe according to your luck in the lottery. Too many jelly makers labor under the belief that there is just one tried and true formula for each kind of jam ‘or jelly. But nature is at the. bottom of the jelly jar, not any printed formula. In general, however, this rule works with minor variations. For a
heavy and sweet jelly, use 1 cup sugar for each cup of fruit juice.
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Contract Problem (Solution in next issue)
" North and South are using 8 bidding system with one ne trump as the only forcing bid and two clubs as the bust response. If South opens with
with two clubs, East doubles and South bids two spades, can '| East take further safe action "on his strong hand?
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Solution to Previous Problem By W. E. MKENNEY American Bridge - League Secretary N the T. N. T. system, the eornerstone is an ‘opening forcing bid of one no trump. When the opening bid is one of a suit, it strictly limits the’ honor strength in the opening hand. The opening suit bid shows a minimum of 2% honor tricks, and a maximum of three, hence if. the responding hand is strong, there must be a jump shift bid else the bidding is likely to stop short of game. Today's hand shows the method
one no trump, North responds |'
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The response is the keystone to the final contract. South’s harid is a bare minimum in honor strength, but North has a big hand. Using
sufficient and players using that system would not force on the first round with North’s hand. But in the T. N. T. system, North knows that he must force, otherwise the bidding may die. From that point on the bidding follows the lines of other systems, until the game contract is reached. Of course, the combined hands are very strong and will produce 12 tricks without an opening lead of a spade, but the failure of both players to mention spades should be enough to keep them out of the unmakable slam contract, and also
In other words, don’t
Task Worthy
Of Housewife’s Best Effors
By. MRS, GAYNOR MADDOX
Staft Writer
Meén may neglect their wives for their business, but women at this time of year often neglect everything else for canning. While the rest of the world is preparing for the next war, American preparing for next winter. @
housewives are ds
But two-thirds cup of sugar to each cup juice makes a really more delicate jelly. In making jellies of tart fruits, such as currants, use as little sugar as possible because the tartness of the fruit should be preserved in the jelly. If your jelly turns dark, it has been cooked too long. To cut down cooking time, and consequently
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One important don’t—don’t try to be heroic and put up the winter's jelly all on a summer's morning. It just won't do. Make jelly in small quantities. Six quarts of berries or eight pounds of fruit is a full time job for one day.
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New School Is Problem ~ Of Moving
Pupils Seldom ‘Put Back’ In Modern Times, Parents Told.
By OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON A good many people will be moving this fall, and the big question is always school, iy Will John or Mary be put back? Will they be happy making hew friends? Will the teachers be as
good? All sorts of problems con-.|
front the parent who is contemplating a change, so a short discussion may help to allay your fears. While it used to be a good old American custom to “put back” the new pupil, thus giving an impression of superiority in the latest school, today it is almost obsolete. This is especially true in states where the universal rating is based upon state-wide regents’ examinations that make one standard for all.
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But even in those cities and towns
where examinations are still indi-
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vidual to the school, the grade books call for almost the same coverage of work. The idea today is to place the child where he was, until he proves that he is beyond his depth, which seldom happens, ; : --As for new friends, it is good for
a child to “make” them. Of course, | it is always a heartbreak to leave|
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the fellows one has known so well
for so long, or the girl chums that
Mary has learned to love, but we are looking at the cheerful side of it now, and seeking the good.
‘One makes friends literally. He does it by compelling strangers to}
accept him, not on his terms, hut
theirs, - Old acquaintances have’
learned to tolerate and overlook,
so now the rough corners of char-.
acter must be smoothed off. Carelessness or rudeness have to take back seats, and in their place diplomacy. and consideration must bait the hook in the mew stream,
In turn the stranger in a new land will have to learn that children are children: wherever he goes, and he himself must not he too set in his ideas of whom he likes and doesn’t like. He will grow broader and bigger by having to make new adjustments to new friends every once in awhile. AY first, as, alas, the intrenched may try him out, but this won’t hurt him. It is good for him, unless things are too unfair, to have ‘to
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make his own way. : Teachers? They come good and poor everywhere; but mostly good.
The poor teacher has seen her day.
Bonham Up On Victorin $500 Stake
Five-Gaited Grand - Championship.
- The Msrott Hotel $500 stake for open jumping was won by Summis; View and the five-gaited grand championship for mares was won by Night Flower at the Indiana State
Fair horse show in the Coliseum last night. ~~
Summit View is owned by Rober:
'B. Rhoads and was ridden by Max |:
Bonham. Night flower is ownecl by Dixiana- Farm, Lexington, Ky. Royal Irish, owned by the Dixiang Farm and ridden by Miss Mary Fisher, won the three-gaited stake. Mrs. A. C. Thompsons’ Pride of On - way and Mate won the: heavy harness pairs under 15.2 hands high event. . Other winners were: Lex Kentucky Miss, owned by Austin Selz, Crystal Lake, Ill, heavyweight threegaited mares or geldings; Harviestown Vina and Casillis Jasmine, owned by Mrs. Ione T. Kaiser, Red Bank, N. J.; hackney ponies in tan-
Test your knowledge-of correct social usage by answering the following questions, . then checking against the authoritative answers below: |
1. Is it good tasté to continually flatter others? !
2: Is an introduction ‘correctly acknowledged by “Glad ' to know you?” {
3. Does a well-bred person: ‘ask many favors? i 4. Should one tell his personal troubles to acquaintances? A 5. Is it a good policy to correct the mistakes of others? What would you do if— Someone starts telling you some gossip about a person who is one of your good friends. |
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(A) Say frankly you would ~ rather not hear it? (B) Listen in silence (C) Listen to the story and then try to defend your friend? # ” ” . Answers 1. No. | 2. No. Say, “How do you do?” 3. No. | ya <4, No. | \ 5. No. One person in a thousand might possibly appreciate being: corrected. } Best “What Would You Do”
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Lemon Tempers Taste To counteract the rather strong flavor many persons find objectionable in roast leg of lamb. or mutton, squeeze the juice of half a fresh lemon over the meat before seasoning and roasting. Others prefer to rub the roast with a cut clove of garlic before baking. Another way is to make tiny incisions here and there in the fat and tuck in sprigs! of parsley.
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