Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 7 August 1937 — Page 21

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Dull Mate May Be 111; Wife Told

Discouragement Also May Be Cause of Listlessness.

Jane Jordan will study your problems for you and answer your letter in this column daily.

EAR JANE JORDAN—I have been married 15 years, but my life hus become terribly monotonous and I do not know what to do. When I first married my husband he was lively and full of fun. Now he is so dull that I am.bored to death. He will not make any friends, he hates to go places, he does not know what is going on in the world. In

fact, he pays attention to nothing|

and nobody. At night he sits home by himself and reads the paper and almost never carries on a conversa=tion. I like to go around and take active part in organizations or meet friends or belong to clubs, not necessarily indulge in expensive pastimes, but simply to keep mentally alive and alert. I have tried to talk my husband

into taking a more active interest in|:

things but it is of no use. We have two bright and active children but my husband does not pay any attention to them either. I hate to have such a monotonous life staring me in the face for all the years to come. There are times now when I| could scream. We have no interests in common simply because I am interested in other things and he is interested in nothing. B. M. G. ANSWER—The first question that comes to my mind is, “can the man be well?” Has he had an illness after which he was never the same, or has he shown any symptoms such as lack of appetite, loss of weight or poor sleeping which would indi- | cate some physical cause for leth-| argy? The first thing to do is to get a thorough physical examination by a physician not content to ask a few questions and prescribe a tonic, but one who gathers his information from a mass of clinical evidence.

der what sort of a job he has.

but lacks the courage to leave be-

cause he must support the family | on whatever scale it is accustomed |

to expect? A person who does work for which

he feels no enthusiasm year after |

year either rebels in a fury or dies on the vine. His lack of interest in | the children and you suggests that | he might regard you as millstones | around his neck. You say he is in-| terested in nothing. Does this in- | clude his work? If these two paths lead to nothing you will have to do a more careful job of research. When did he first begin to retreat? Was it perhaps when the children were born? Many a father feels left out in the cold after the babies come. Before the appearance of these rival attractions he was the center of his wife's attention and he resents her absorption in the youngsters. Sometimes he has a just complaint, for many women do transfer the love and affection they felt for their husbands to the children, relegating the father to a sort of animated check book. No man can stand it and usually he retaliates in one way or another. People have two ways of meeting their difficulties. One is by direct attack. The husband with a private grievance may be aggressive, domineering, fault-finding and quarrelsome. The other method is to retreat. Those who do not find life to their liking sometimes withdraw into a shell and refuse to co-operate any longer. This is what your husband has done, but why? Find his grievance and you'll stand a chance of curing him. * This may be hard to do for he may have shut off his pleasure hunger so successfully that he has forgotten why he did it in the first place. Unless he is ill his retreat is a defense against competition. My guess is that he is thoughly discouraged. JANE JORDAN.

Alberta Taylor

Feted at Party

Miss Alberta Taylor was honor guest at a miscellaneous shower given Saturday by Miss Marie Kunkel, who was assisted by her mother, Mrs. Henry Kunkel.

All fall shoes seem to have wings, judging from the four upward-

swung models shown above.

Suede and kidskin are the soft leathers

used and since they boast the texture and coloring of plumage they

are named for familiar birds.

1. Melanie is an all-over suede pump with patent leather accent

on a winged bow design.

2. Montrose is a dressy daytime stepin, in all black. Patent leather

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Take, as an example, today’s hand, taken from one of the championship events of the Adirondack American Bridge League tournament, held at Eagle Bay, N.Y, this year. South has a sevencard major suit headed by the ace

and king, but those who sought to]

play for a slam in that suit were wrecked on the rocks of distribution. Even game in no trump met the same fate against the normal opening of a heart. However, there was a slam available if North and South used their wealth of cards to exchange information, and this was done by only one of the pairs holding the cards.

The five diamond bid was a slam try and a warning. It told

Mind Your Manners

Test your knowledge of correct social usage by answering the following questions, then checking against the authoritative answers below: 1. Is it good form to call an office associate by his first name when speaking of him to a superior? 2. In identifying the dictator and typist of a business letter, whose initials are written first? 3. How should a stenographer make her identification marks on a letter? 4. Are bright-colored shoes acceptable for office wear in the summer time? 5. Would it be correct for a business girl to ask the head

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Single Women

Overdo Makeup Or Neglect It

By ALICIA HART NEA Service Staff Writer “The majority of modern women who live alone (whether they like their isolated status or not) seem to pay too much attention to personal grooming or else far too little,” says an artist (male, you may be sure).

more free time than women with husbands and children learn to budget it sensibly?”

By way of explanation, my irate informant pointed out that he certainly would hate to be forced to have a second date with any woman who spends so much time doing her face and nails, taking baths, pressing clothes and washing her hair that she never can manage to read the daily paper, and read it daily, learn a few new facts now and then, find something interesting to talk about. Also that he would detest just as much the idea of having to date more than once an unkempt, untidy, positively dowdy girl, regardless of her brains or personal charm. The artist—the majority of men, in fact—want us to be clean and neat, dressed in good taste, of course. But they have no patience with any woman who makes a fetish of and overdoes the business of beauty. If your home and time are your own once you have finished a day's work, do figure out a way to keep hair clean and shining, nails perfectly manicured, clothes spic and

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flower designs are carried out in bag and shoes and lend smart con-

trast for black accessories.

3. Mercury is an all-over black suede pump with wing-pattern design sweeping off to the side like the sweep of a wing. 4. Standish is the name of the classic stepin in brown and black suede with soft dressmaker bow outlined in stitching and pinking and a

. comfortable walking heel.

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dull summer appetite.

is the formula. Cold Eggs in Aspic (4 Servings) Four eggs, 4 individual, pieces of cold cooked ham, 1 envelope plain gelatin, 2 cups brown stock or 2 cups canned bouillon, parsley. Dissolve gelatin in a little cold water. Heat stock and add gelatin. Chill until it begins to set. Use a large attractive white dish or individual cups. Place a piece of ham cn bottom. Poach eggs, and when cold, lay one on top of each piece of ham. Then pour gelatin mixture over eggs. Chill until firm. Garnish with parsley. Deviled Chicken Mousse

(4 servings) One cup deviled chicken, 1 cup thin cream sauce, 1 envelope plain gelatin, Dissolve gelatin in a little cold water, Then add chicken to cream sauce, and beat in gelatin with egg beater until nearly stiff. Serve with mustard sauce. Mustard Sauce

Three teaspoons dry mustard, 1 jar blackberry jelly, 142 teaspoon

Monticello Girl

Novelty Alone Insufficient To Revive Summer Appetites

By MRS. GAYNOR MADDOX Staff Writer) The chef of a New York hotel has made a study of brightening the He insists that novelty alone is not enough. | Good food, lots of it, but not too much to discourage the indifferent eye He gives some of his recipes for readers of this column. @®

black pepper. Mix ingredients

thoroughly. Summer Salad (4 servings)

Two cups diced cooked turnips, 1 head lettuce, shredded, 1 egg, 3 teaspoons olive oil, 1 teaspoon lemon juice, seasoning. Place diced turnips and shredded lettuce in bowl. Beat egg yolk. Beat white separately until stiff, add the oil and lemon juice gradually. Then add yolk, and continue beating until blended. Season. Combine with vegetables.

Maxine Jones Names 5 Aids

Miss Maxine Jones, whose marriage to George H. Marshall is to take place at 8:30 p. m. Saturday in the Meridian Heights Presbyterian Church, has announced her attendants. Miss Charlotte Cashon is to be maid of honor and Miss Bette Helen Jones is to be her sister's bridesmaid. David Hughs is to be best man and James Everline and James Inasy are to usher.

to Be Wed Here

Photo by Plowman-Platt,

Teach Child To Obey by

Discussion

Writer Advises Parents To Be Cautious in Agruments.

By OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON

There are two kinds of obedience, conditional and unconditional, the latter being the “too sweet” kind or “do as I tell you at once”; the first being the “talk it over” way. Both are right at the right time and place, but to know just when that is takes fine judgment. It is always bad to argue with a child, if he is putting up a réal argument. Many times a mother or father will call it “argument” when a boy merely is stating his case or explaining his reasons for wanting to do something which he thinks quite fair, An argument in which the child deliberately tries to talk down his parents, to corner them, is another thing indeed.

Fairness Is Mandatory

Suppose John wants to go swimming. If he has already been in the water twice that day, his mother may say simply, “You cannot go,” without further fuss. John wants to argue her down, perhaps, but he knows he is being unreasonable without her telling him so. In this case unquestioning obedience is the right thing. But if John wants to go swimming some morning in a new place that she is not sure of, a little qualifying of her quick denial might well take place. “What about this pool, John?” she might ask. “I don't think I want you to go so far, Maybe you'd better not try it.” “It’s just the same as ours,” says

John, “and Mr. Head told us about it. All the fellows are going. You could call him up and ask.” Now just because John puts it so reasonably is not obligating us to agree with him, and we are still free to make up our minds. But if we say, “No, I think I'd rather have you here,” the little argument has not hurt anyone. There was merely a little discussion because John felt that we ought to know all the facts before making a fair decision.

Coaxer Becomes Nuisance

The child who is allowed to coax for every privilege soon becomes an unbearable nuisance. It is an easy habit to acquire, and made all the easier because often a mother cannot make up her mind quickly enough. She sets up a wall herself first, largely also from habit, and waits to be worn down before consenting. When her nerves no longer can stand the strain, she says, “Oh, yes, go on, and let me alone.” It is fatal to good discipline. The mother's mind is as clear as water to the habitual coaxer, or he would get discouraged and give up. And just as annoying is the professional arguer. He doesn’t coax, but browbeats patience in another way. He is glib with reasons that he insists are better than his mother’s. The coaxer acknowledges authority but wheedles. The arguer puts his opponent in wrong entirely. Both are bad habits and each can be discouraged by establishing in a child’s mind the fact that mother’s final word is law. She must judge when to insist on unquestioning obedience, and when to enter into a short discussion of the case. She must be neither too strict nor too lax. She should also try to let her boy use his own good judgment whenever possible, and not irritate him with numerable unnecessary

orders. (Copyright, 1937, NEA Service, Ine.)

Women Lawyers Select Chairmen

For Coming Year

Mrs. Mary E. Ramier, president, had announced committee chairmen for the 1937-38 year to direct the activities of the Indiana Association of Women Lawyers. Miss Marylou C. Patterson is to head the committee on admission and Miss Bert Woolridge is the associate members committee chairman. Mrs. Mary J. Sheperd is the check attendance and Miss Bess Robbins is to head the committee on hospitality. Other committee chairmen include Miss Mildred Gallagher, entertainment; Miss Esther Schmitt, house; Miss Jesse Levy, legal aid, and Mrs. Irene Faust, publicity. Mrs. Tella C. Haines was named chairman of the Antoinette D. Leah memorial committee.

Engaged

Miss Elsie Calvin's engagement to Donald C. Steinbarger has been announced by her parents, Mr. and Mrs. Virgil T. Calvin. The wedding is to take place Sept. 12 in the Broadway Methodist Church.

3 Engagements Announced Here

Over W eek-End

Marriages of three Indianapolis young women are to take place this month and in early September, according to week-end announcements. Miss Grace Lanham, daughter of Mrs. Mollie Lanham, is to be married Sept. 3 to Robert Powell, son of Mr. and Mrs. Jesse Powell, in the East Park Methodist Church. Mr. and Mrs. Lawrence Haney Barrett announce the engagement of their daughter, Barbara, to Walter Hugh Hoskins, Chicago, son of Mrs, W. D. Hoskins, Indianapolis. The wedding is to take place Sept. 11. The marriage of Miss Mary Hamner, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John S. Hamner, to William H, Williams Jr. is to take place Aug. 29.

Today’s Pattern

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IGH school girls and college students will want this frock (Pattern 8034) for back-to-school wear. It has such a lot of charm and so many fashion-important details. A two-piece style, the skirt is stitched on the reverse side—umbrella fashion— falling into a low graceful flare at the hem. The bodice, designed after one which Evangeline might have worn, has a shoulder-wide, square collar and a tiny peplum that falls in a straight line. The three-quarter sleeves are puffed at top and finished with wide cuffs to match the collar. Pattern 8034 is designed for sizes 12, 14, 16, 18 and 20. Size 14 requires five yards of 39-inch material and 3 yards to contrast for collar and cuffs. To obtain a pattern and step-by-step sewing instructions inclose 15 cents in coin together with the above pattern number and your size, your name and address and mail to Pattern Editor, The Indianapolis Times, 214 W, Maryland St. Indianapolis. The sunmimer selection of late dress designs now is ready. It's 15 cents when purchased separately. Or, if you want to order it with the pattern above, send an additional

10 cents.

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Knowledge

Incomplete on Vitamins

Proof That They Can Be Absorbed by Skin Lacking, Claim.

By DR. MORRIS FISHBEIN Ealior, American Medical Journ

It is not certain that we have isolated all of the vitamins that are of importance in human life, Nor is it certain that we know all we should know about any one of the vitamins already isolated. In addition to the vitamins that have been mentioned, we know that the fatty acids contain some sube stances necessary to health and life and that a deficiency in these sube stances may result in certain Sympe toms related to the skin, in hemore rhage and in sirhilar conditions, One of these particularly is the substance known as linoleic acid, which has been called vitamin r, Fortunately, this vitamin is present in milk and milk products, eggs, the leafy vegetables, olive oil and sime ilar oils, and is therefore not likely to be missed in most well-balanced diets. 12 Minerals Needed We know that there are 12 mine eral elements at least that are nece essary for the normal human bee : ing. They include calcium, chlorine, copper, iodine, irom, magnesium, manganese, phosphorous, potassium, sodium, sulphur and zinc.‘ Other elements as well are sometimes found in the body, but whether their appearance is necessary has not yet been determined, We know that the human body has to have oxygen and water. Here again, however, the effect is not like that of the vitamins.

We know that the human being must have in his diet some of the antianemic factor, which is found in the liver, in the kidney, and in the wall of the stomach. We do not know, however, the exact nature of this antianemic factor. We know merely that when people have pernicious anemia that this factor seems to be absent from their bodies and the giving of this factor in the food brings about an ime provement in the formation of red blood cells and thereby provides a control of the anemic condition. No ‘New’ Vitamins Because our knowledge of the vitamins is only beginning to be developed and because the public has not been fully informed cone cerning these substances, many pro moters endeavor to fool people by making claims about new vitamins and urging people to use, internally or externally, preparations alleged to contain these new vitamins. Nowadays one hears of soaps, creams, ointments and similar materials said to be enhanced by the content of some newly discovered vitamin, when actually there is no vitamin present. Furthermore, there is no evidence that any of these vitamins will be absorbed through the skin, or that they will affect the body in any way when applied in this manner, Before spending money on vitamins, be sure, first of all, that they are recognized as vitamins; second, that they are actually in the preparation you buy in the quantity necessary to have an effect.

Committees on Kappa Alumnae

Drive Selected

Mrs. Paul M. Fifer, president of the Indianapolis Kappa Kappa Gamma Alumnae Council, has ane nounced members of the committee in charge of the early fall member= ship drive. Mrs, Kearsley L. Urich is chair man, assisted by Mesdames Royer K. Brown, , Culver C. Godfrey, Charles Sargeant, David L. Smith and Myla Smith, representing Bute ler alumnae.

Mrs. James Hogshire is to represent Purdue; Mrs. James W. Costin and Mrs. George R. Gilbert, De= Pauw; Mrs. Norman Babcock and Mrs. Max Fritz, Indiana. Out-of-state alumnae are to be represented by Mrs. Norwood Sallee. Progress made in the drive is to be discussed at a luncheon-meeting on Aug. 31. The dfive is to be con= cluded with a card party Sept. 18 in L. 8. Ayres & Co. auditorium.

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of her department to go out for lunch with her?

What would you do if— You are addressing a letter to the president of a business firm? Write— (A) Mr. James President? (B) President James McMcElwain? (C) Pres. James McElwain?

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Answers 1. No. ° 2. Dictator’s. 3. TCS:H; TCS-H; or in large offices where there might be duplication of initials, TCS-5. 4. No—nor any time. | 5. No. It smacks of courting favors.

Best “What Would You Do” solution—(A). (B) might be used for a college president. Better not to use abbreviation. (Copyright, 1937, NEA Service, Inc.)

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Parley to Be Reported Mrs. Cyrus MacKenzie is to give a report on the national Pi Omicron sorority convention held recently in St. Louis at a meeting of Kappa chapter at 8 p. m. today in the home of Miss Betty Zimmerman, 107 N. Drexel Ave. The hostess is to be assisted by her mother, Mrs. Elizabeth L. Zimmerman.

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The engagement of Miss Taylor to Bernard M. Kunkel was recently announced. Guests were Mesdames Henry Kunkel, Thomas, Henry, Carl and Paul Meyer, Fred Strack, Orval Thompson, Carl Spitznagel, Williams Sanders and William Brown and Misses Gertrude and Cctherine Rose Kunkel, Helen Brand, Margaret Shepherd, Marie Stellmack and Nora Higgins.

Black Dresses Hold Top Fashion Rating

Perhaps after this summer, when we have seen so many, black dresses won't seem to be real news. However, it is the fashion. Allblack, if you can wear it smartly. If not, there are very good black frocks touched with color. Bright blue, wheat, amber, gold, wnie and purple. The fabrics are usually satin crepe, or thin wool, lovely drapey silk jersey or the new blistered crepes.

The marriage of Miss Dorothy Skaggs, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. James Skaggs, Monticello, to Roy W. Hendricks is to take place Aug. 19 in the Sacred Heart'Catholic Church..

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