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Wife Loves

Her Spouse And Another

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Urged Marriage.

Jane Jordan will study your problems for you and throw new light on the situation hy her answers to your letters in this column.

EAR JANE JORDAN— I love two men at the same time and each love is very sincere. I married young without my heart being concerned. My mother thought it would be a good match. My | friends were being married and I wanted a home and. children of my own, The first years were very unhappy ones but I stuck it out and learned to love my husband as I did my children, with a true

| mother’s love.

I have been a good wife to him and I believe I- have filled his need even though he has been cheated of the love he should have had. I am proud of him and my children and nice home. I am not willing to give them up. A -year ago I met the right man and fell hopelessly, desperately, in love. - We have everything in common and tHink exactly alike. We even have the same background. He married a fine girl ‘who had money and he leves her in the same way that I do my husband. Neither of us | is willing -to take our happiness | at the sacrifice of others, as there are children on both sides. Yet we know we have a dangerous | situation. | I think his wife is already aware of it and my husband is afraid; but they both trust me. I hate to think: they will ever find out that | I have betrayed that trust. I hate the deception and would love to

p i ve to the world if 'n proclaim our 1o #ers of flannel in which yesterday's baby was swathed.

it hurt no one but ourselves. You needn't tell me I must be strong. I am weak in no other way but Imy love is greater than my will. Is there anything more you can say

than “God help them?”

ANONYMOUS: ANSWER—It is nearly always a mistak © to marry when instinct refuses, to back up the intellectual choice. Even when the marriage of convenience develops into a satisfactory working agreement, it is not safe from the intrusion of a third party capable of arousing the missing thrill. | There can be no that the average person places entirely too much value upon

| the thrill of love which is fleeting

at best and often deceptive. For example, if you had waited for “the right man” in the first place and married him while in the

| throes of romantic love, the chances

are that by this time you would have settled down to precisely the

| same type of relationship with him |, that you have with your present ~* husband.

The thrill would have long since departed with familiarity,

| for_.we are not geared to live forever

on high nervous peaks. However, if you had married a man of your own choice you wouldn't have felt cheated by your mother. The very fact that vour mother influenced you to enter into a loveless marriage has made you particularly vulnerable to the attrdctio of a married . man. When a woman bears a grudge against her mother, it unconsciously influences her behavior and tempts her lo take ° vengeance on some other woman. The most usual way of showing supremacy over another woman is to take her husband or lover. The fact that your mother chose your husband against your wishes

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NEW YORK, May 8.—Gone are the ribbons and furbelows and layClothes for the modern infant are as streamlined as older brothet’s locomotive or father's new car.

a skimp affair. The only dress today's young hopeful ever chance to kick into rolls and knots is .the exquisite little number. in which he is christened: All of his regular dresses are short (21 inches). Little boys .discard- these at 44 months, and thereafter wear creep- | ers. Thin cotton and wool shirts have replaced the heavy flannel ones of yore. Diapers are smaller and made of lightweight, absorbent fabrics. Throw-away diapers make the traveling mother’s life simpler. Special tapes do away with pins on shirts and slips. Water-proof cotton pants and sheets take the place of old style rubber ones. Celluloid cuffs instead of mittens and cotton bandages discourage thumb-sucking. The 1937 baby isn’t wrapped in a blanket, then pinned into it, when nurse tucks him in for the night. Instead, he is put into a light sleeping bag, cut loose and full with a siide fastener up the front.

Pillows Are Passe Baby pillows are as passe as rocking chairs for the nursery. Today's youngster sleeps without one, thereby giving mother some assurance that he won’t be round-shouldered later on. Soft, warm) but light down uffs have obliterated thick padded uilts the sewing circle used to make for expectant mothers. Sleeves of infants’ dresses are stiort and perky. Science has improved baby's feeding habits to! such a state of perfection that bibs no longer are important items in the layette. Special caps to make juniors ears grow flat against his head are more satisfactory (from his point of view as well as yours) than pieces of adhesive tape. Toothpicks, with sterilized cotton wrapped around the end of each one, come in dust-proof boxes and make the business of cleaning baby’s ears and fingernails simpler for mother, Except in France, where the reverse is true, pink is for girls— blue for boys. However, the majority of babies wear white dresses, depending on coats and bonnets for color. Fragile little silk coats and bonnets have removable linings

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would make it difficult for you to love him and easy to love someone who would not please her. Children who feel oppressed by. their parents are very apt to choose partners who do not meet with parental approval. It is their way of asserting their independence and getting even for being dominated. All these concealed motives are hard to recognize when one is in

the grip of a love affair which can- |

cels all critical faculties. Nevertheless they are nearly always present and you can catch them one by one if you watch. A strong feeling of guilt and self-condemnation is characteristic of one in revolt against fetters imposed on him by somebody else who is both loved and hated. JANE JORDAN.

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which can be washed and washed | and washed. : For trimming, embroidery is | more favored than lace and ruffles. The average everyday dress ‘has neither, however; and is as tailored and trim as your own suit. Christening dresses, of course, are

lavishly decorated with embroidery and lace.

IMPLICITY is the keynote of smart modes like this (No. 8896). A dainty collar and perky puff sleeves are combined with a sophisticated swing skirt. An effective contrasting motif can be obtained through the use of braid in the collar, cuffs and belt. A bit of narrow ribbon adds a clever | touch at the neckline, Good in jersey, flannel, silk crepe, sports silk, gingham, dimity, dotted swiss or linen. Patterns are sized 12 to 20; (30 to 38 bust). Size 14 requires 4’; yards of 39-inch material, plus 10%, yards braid and 7% yard ribbon for bow. To obtaiff” a pattern and STEP-BY-STEP SEW I N G INSTRUCTIONS inclose 15 cents in coin together with the above pattern number and your size, your name and address, and mail to Pattern Editor, The Indianapolis Times, 214 W. Maryland St., Indianapolis. The SPRING AND SUMMER PATTERN BOOK, with a complete selection of late dress designs, now

Department Club To Show Work

Exhibits illustrating ‘their year's activities will be arranged by the various departments of the Woman’s Department Club for the May show Wednesday in the club house. American Home Department wiil feature a home of yesterday and tuday; Art Department, studio of the year’s highlights; Literature and Drama Department, exhibit of posters and book jackets: Garden Department, flower arangements in the club house; Community Welfare Department, projects. The Little

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Revival of ‘Home Ties Is Advised

Mothers Told Not to Cut Children From Apron Strings Entirely.

By OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON

As we look about us at the world, and observe the widening rift between the world of youth and the world of age, it appears to me that we shall have to tie on the good oldfashioned aprons with long strings. This good old piece of apparel was put away in the attic chest some dozen or more years ago, when the word went ‘round that children were entitled to live their own lives. “Apron strings” was the word used to belittle Johnny if he was fond of his mamma. Some of the more erudite called it “Oedipus” and Freud and company scared every parent almost to death about Leys becoming too fond of their mothers. If I remember rightly, not a word was said about the girls, who were nice little sit-in-the-corners and helped wipe the dishes. But just the same, mothers untied their aprons, said “shoo” to their broods

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(lower left) is white, and trimmed with lace and

right are a pale pink silk, hand-

christening gown (center) has an Empire bodice | embroidered coat and bonnet set (top), the coat | having a removable lining, and (below) a pert frock,

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Club Meetings

MONDAY

‘Irvington Circle, Child Conservation League of America. Mrs. Carl | Parr, Mrs. P. W. Ross, hostesses.

{ Mrs. R. H Carpenter, “Family Cele-"

brations.” Mrs. H L. Hasbrook, “Wanted—Parents Who Are Goo Sports.” Installation. - Lampas Group, Epsilon Sigma Omicron. Ars. Loren Warner, “The Life of-Shelley,” by Andre Maurois, review. Mrs. A. R. Dewey, discus- | sion leader. Mrs. F. L Pettijohn, | “Robber Barons,” by Matthew Jo- | sephson, review. Mrs. A. H. Off, dis- | cussion leader. | Municipal Gardens Woman's De- | partment Club. Club house. Guest | Day luncheon. Mrs. William Hodgbs : : y { son, hostess chairman. Group singing. Pasquale Montani, harpist. | Mabel Leigh Hunt, “Lucinda.” Mrs. i Clyde Jones, chairman of garden | section’s spring flower show. { Present Day Club. Mrs. U. |S. { Lesh, Mrs. Chic Jackson, hostesses. | Mrs. A. J. Rucker, “Hands,” |by | Charles N. Norris, review. | Women's Society, Indianapolis | Florists. Mesdames William George | Fox, Clarence Green, Charles Pahud, | Louis Asperger, Chris Elsner, Emma Fox, hostesses. Review Club. Picnic. Mrs. Claude | C. Jones, chairman. Medames David | Allerdice, Helen Brown, J. C. Car- | ter, Carlton Daniel, James T. Cunningham, Eli Lilly, Charles Rock- | wood, G. Vance Smith, hostesses. | Fortnightly Club. Mrs. Fred H. | Bowen, hostess. Mrs. R. P. Beightol, | assistant. Mrs. William S. Kirby, | “The Other Spanish Christ.” Mrs. | John E. Hollon, “New Orleans.” Welfare Club. Variety Club. | Luncheon. Business meeting. Mrs. | A. C. Zaring, luncheon chairman. Mesdames Harry Watson, Thomas Whallon, A. G. Wills, Joel Wilmoth, Hodge Worsham, assistants. Woman's Department Club. Board of directors. 10 a. m. Club House. Chapter U, P. E. O. Sisterhood. Mrs. H. E. Boggy, hostess. Mrs, J. W. Gillespie, assistant. Mrs. J. H. Westbay, constitutional quiz. Mrs. M. L. Payne, “Gleanings From Record.” | Monday Club. Severin Hotel. | Guest day. Business meeting. Pro- | gram. Mrs. C. W. -Fields, current l events. Miss Lucille Stewart, “One | of the Great Figures in Literature | of the Borderland of Legend and Technical High School

| History.” | Madrigal Club, music . Arbutus Garden Club. Indian'apolis Athletic Club.. Guest luncheon. Prof. R. B. Hall of Purdue | University, speaker. | Afternoon section of Delta Delta | Delta Alliance bridge tournament. Butler University chapter house. Committee, Mesdames Cleon Nafe, Herbert Todd and Marvin Lugar. Inter Arts, Mrs. Harold Reineke, “Wanted—Parents Who are Good Miss Betty Hisey, assistant. - Lieut. Don L. Hooken, Department| of Public Safety, “The Police Approach.” Mrs. Frank Miller and Mrs. Gorbin Patrick, program chairmen. :

allowing the youngsters to forget those miserable things called home ties.

Some Home Tie Needed ° Now this wise old Buddha has

the home-fires burning too often

with no one at home but mother and dad. Out in the world somewhere getting all fed up on knowledge and experience were, and still dre, the Johnnys and Marys. They were, and are, getting plenty of group experierice, plenty of-ege in

sports and dances and good times. But some way there is something still wanting. And I believe it is the tether to home. Indeed I have talked with <o many lonely mothers, and disappointed ones, ‘who wish the years back so they could do it all over again, it seems that something is radically wrong with the whole situation. We should have lengthened the apron strings, not dispensed with them altogether.

Fledglings Want to Try Wings When a child reaches adolescernte,

.and even before, he hears the call

of the world. He is more interested in things outside the house than inside. The wise mother will recognize this wing-flapping and be proud to let her fledglings have freedom. But I also consider this to be a psychological moment ih home life. It is now that children need the steadying hand of love and home. And they will always need it. There is something about parental influence, and close warming relationships, too valuable to lose, Make home as attractive and happy as posible. Make the children’s interests your interests, but make yours theirs, too. Let them feel that their parents are important, and count for quite as much as the hills that call. (Copyright, 1937. NEA Service, Inc.)

Jewish Women And Affiliate To Meet Jointly

Indianapolis Section, National Council, of Jewish Women, and its affiliated organization, the Jewish Juniors, are to meet jointly at 8 p. m. Monday in the Kirshbaum Center. Miss Fannette Katz,

Juniors’ retiring president, is to extend Mother's Day greetings. Mrs. Samuel Dorfman is to preside and Miss Ruth Medias is in charge of the program. Mrs. Walter Wolf, the senior council's new president, is to speak. . Mrs. Kathryn Turney Garten is to review a novel and “The American Doctors’ Odyssey.” During a social hour, Mrs. Dorfman and Miss Katz are to preside at a tea table. Hostesses and ushers are to be Misses Rae Lea Binzer, Mary Lapinska, Lillian Klezmer, Phyllis Greenburg, Edith Chapman, Florence Slutsky, Marcie Goldstein, Mildred Freeman, Ray Klezmer, Goldie Cellman and Thelema Sachs. Sponsors are Mrs. L. W. Lapinska and Meyer SS. Efroymson.

Linen Shower Held For Dorothy Screes

Mrs. W. D. Screes entertained today with a linen shower for Miss Dorothy Screes who is to be married to C. Evans Parks on June 22. Eighteen guests attended. Appointments were in peach and green. : Miss Eloise Proctor is to give a party May 28 for Miss Screes.

Auxiliary Meets Junior Auxiliary, Bruce P. Robison American Legion, held a social meeting ‘at 1:30 p. m. today at Louise Steinsberger’s home, 1344 N. Dearborn St. Members completed

their study of the flag code.

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crossed his arms and observed some ! sights, meaning that I have seen;

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—Photo by Dexheimer-Carlon.

State chairmen and vice chairmen of the Indiana Society of the D. A. R. met today in the Columbia Club with members of the state board. Miss Mary Hostetter, Indianapolis (left), is state corresponding secretary and Mrs. William H. Schlosser, Franklin, state regent.

o : Today’s Contract Problem |

West opened the bidding with one diamond, North doubled, and South finally got the contract for four hearts. With the opening ‘lead that West has chosen, should South play East or West for - the high ecards not shown in his own hand, or in dummy?

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Solution to Previous Problem By WILLIAM E. M’ KENNEY

American Bridge League Secretary T is not always the declarer who squeezes -a defending player. Quite- often a bridge player's own partner consciously or unconsciously Kills his partner's hand and

helps the declarer make what otherwise would be an impossible contract. This is known as the “suicide squeeze.” In today’s hand, South reached an ambitious contract of three no trump. It is not at all difficult to see that the contract is much too high, as apparently South can take only seven of the needed nine tricks. Four diamonds would have been a better contract. The king of hearts was opened and was permitted to hold the trick. The queen of hearts was continued and East was forced to discard. He chose the club 10. Here, perhaps, West should have switched suits. But when he held the second trick, he led another heart and East again had to discard. This time he let go of the

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the havoc being done to the East hand by the forced discards, he put West in the lead with another heart. East discarded the nine of diamonds. West still did not shift, but instead led his last heart, and East now dis carded the eight of clubs. : West, now too late, led a spade.

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ace, and led a club, finessing the queen, and dropping East's king on the next round. The third - club again squeezed East. | South won all the remaining tricks, making his contract, doubled. Of course, West could have aefeated the contract by refusing to eontinue hearts and helping his partner to establish tricks in other suits. : (Copyright, 1937. NEA Service, Inc.)

Pi Phi Mothers to Elect Monday

Officers are to be elected by. the Pi Beta Phi Mothers’ Club at a meeting Monday in the Butler University Chapter House. The luncheon committee is composed of Mesdames W. J. Behmer, C. J. Shirk, O. B. Schilling, E. N. Gimbel and W. D. Kidler. Mrs. Walter Edwards is to pre-

SATURDAY, MAY §, 1037]

| Officials of Indiana D. A. R. Group

Tips Given For Formal Weddings

Breakfast After Ceremony Is Major Part Of the Event.

By MRS. GAYNOR MADDOX NEA Service Staff Writer? A large wedding in a small house is often anything but merry. \ If you like -crowds, then plan to celebrate the big day under the equipped and spacious care of a good hotel. In the end your bills will probably be no higher | and everyone will be happier. * “Here’s what ‘I'd suggest,” said Oscar of the Waldorf, an old hand at ‘making wedding parties outstandingly pleasant. “If canapes and cocktails or sherry are served first, then the first course for|/the wedding breakfast should be soup. If no cocktails are served, then begin with a fruit cup.

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Delicate Main Course

“After the soup comes a fish or egg entree, then the main course. It may be squab,. guinea hen or breast of chicken with dainty vegetables such as asparagus tips or small fine peas. Remember,” this noted host warned, “that the main course at the wedding breakfast, served between noon and 1 p. m, must be something light and deli- . cate; certainly never beef, pork er lamb.” : - He said that salad is optional and may be omitted. Dessert calls for imagination. Ice cream is used most frequently in shape of birds, bells, flowers, hearts or cupids. ; “I always like to see an excellent sauce for the ice,” Oscar says. “Dure ing breakfast, different wines are served with the different courses and with the ice, coffee. After the ice, the bride cuts her cake.” From his long experience with large weddings, Oscariadded these hints: The bride and bridegroom stand in the reception room with the parents of both. Often, how= ever the father of the groom is cone sidered just a “guest” and the fa» ther of the bride more as a “host,” while the young couple and the two mothers receive.

Cards Pair Off Guests

When the gentlemen guests check their coats, they are presented with cards bearing the name of the lady they .are to escort to breakfast. When breakfast is announced, the orchestra plays the wedding march and the guests en ter the room, the bride and groom and wedding party last to enter. . At one large table, the bride and groom are seated at the head of it, the wedding party next to them, and the parents next and then the guests. Or there may be several tables. The bride and groom frequently leave first after the breakfast. The . bride’s parents are the last to leave and not until they have seen the ‘ast guests off. All expenses and

side. Mrs. Charles Fenner arranged a program by James Nelson, accordionist, and Miss Louise Edreader. The meeting will close the club’s season.

evening gown. You've seen Boots come her most? ment. But, first, cut out Boots and and party dresses will appear.

We just hope one of Boots’ buddies invites her out to some very formal affair this evening. She certainly is all prepared, with this new

comic strip, “Boots and Her Buddies.” Just get out your crayons and use your own judg-

dressed in evening gowns, in the What colors do you think pe-

arrangements, for the wedding breakfast are the responsibility of the bride’s mother.

Tea Is to Mark Opening of New College Here

A tea and open house from 2 to 5 p. m. today were to mark the op= ening of the new Marian College, located on Cold Springs Road. The open house is sponsored by the In=dianapolis members of the Olden= burg alumnae. . Spring flowers and [ferns decorate ed the college for the event and tea was to be served in the aviary room. During the afternoon, Miss Mary Rose Owen, Bedford, former pupil of Oldenburg, was to play the pipe organ in the administration building chapel. Among the guests were to be the Rev. Mother M. Clarissa and Sister

.'Mary John, dean of the college, and 1 the other sisters who will come from

Oldenburg for the occasion. Miss - Jeanne O’Connell, governor of the International Federation of Catholic Alumnae, was to pour. Many Catholic high schools and Catholio women’s clubs were to be represents ed. A group of Oldenburg alumnae from Cincinnati, O., also was to ate tend. ! : The new college is to. be conduct ed by the Sisters of the Third Ore der of St. Francis of Oldenburg, Ind.

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Holds State Day

Indianapolis alumnae of Zeta Tau Alpha Sorority were hostesses to sorority members from all parts of the State at their annual State Day today in the Indianapolis Athletic Club. Miss Pauline Sundsmo, Ft. Wayne, was the luncheon speaker. Miss Esther Renfrew presented a scholarship cup to Miss Ina Stanley, Butler University chapter president, for the chapter's high scholastic standing. A cup also was presented to the pledge group presenting the best stunt. A trio, composed of Misses Mary Esther Lawer, Ima May Steele, and Mrs. “Robert Shultz provided a luncheon program. Mrs. Orlando Dunn sang and Misses Lloydlavilla Cook, Elizabeth Smith, Mesdames Elmer Foster and Jack Grieg

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Club is to. serve punch to visitors in the club rooms on the third floor of the club house. Terre Haute Woman's Department Club members: are to attend the program. Mrs. Paul T. Hurt, president, has announced that the meeting will serve as a reunion and homecoming for past and present members. Guests are being invited.

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