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Reader Asks if It Isn't Better to Stay at Hotels

Than to Burden Friends

Casual Invitations to Stay Overnight Should Never

Be Accepted, Jane Says, Pointing Out No One Likes to Be Used as Convenience.

Bring your problems up for discussion in this column. Jane Jordan will answer your letters each day.

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» ” n EAR JANE JORDAN—My family and my husband's family do not mind visiting a relative or a friend for several days’ free room and board, but I can see that we are not always wanted. Apparently it doesn’t occur to our families that they are upsetting somebody’s entire household. All of us invite people to come and see us. At the time we are extending the invitation we are hoping they won't come, or else we do not expect them ever to accept. Don’t you think that when you're traveling the best thing to do is stay at a hotel? You could still see your hostess and her family each day and yet save her a lot of extra work and worry. Of course she might protest, saying vou ought to stay at her house, but don’t you think she would secretly be glad if you didn’t? I suppose I am too sensitive. Even daughters and sons and their parents who love each other sometimes get on each other's nerves when they live in the same house. It seems stupid to me not to insist

on staying at a hotel instead of the home of a friend.—MRS. R. N. ANSWER—I do think that it is a mistake to accept the casual in-

vitations of friends and relatives to visit. - “Come and see me sometime” is apt to be uttered merely as social form, and no one is more surprised than the host and hostess when the invitation is taken literally instead of a passing politeness. Unless people make their invitations for a definite date over a definite length of time, they should not be accepted. Even the most well-ordered household is apt to be upset by unexpected company, and no woman who does her own work welcomes self-invited guests with a glad cry. Even an indefinite invitation warm and well-meant at the time it is given, may cool with the actual arrival of overnight guests. The trouble is that friends who want to be put up for the night on short notice have a genius for arriving at the wrong moment when the baby has the croup or the cook is in a huff. They remain blind to the inconvenience they cause because they do not wish to see it. The desire to be with friends and relatives is not half so strong as the desire to save a hotel bill. Their untimely visit deceives no one but themselves. Your parents are naive in their childish belief that they are always welcome in somebody's house because they were asked at one time or another. I do not think you are over-sensitive, but correct in your appraisal of your friends’ reactions. You have enough imagination to know how you would feel if your places were reversed. Your idea that you should stay at a hotel and see your friends only at their convenience during the day is sensible, considerate and in good taste. Nobody likes to have his hospitality imposed upon, and no one likes to be used as a convenience. There is an unpleasant word for people who make themselves welcome in the homes of others without the assurrance that they are actually wanted. We call them spongers and hate to see them coming. JANE JORDAN.

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THE INDIANAPOLIS TIMES

‘You Can Be Yourself,” Says Stylist

| By MARJORIE BINFORD WOODS | Spring steps gaily forth in flowered chiffons, tailored costume suits | |

| and neatly patterned siiks that flat

ter each distinct type of personality.

“You can return to being yourself this season—a more charming and |

| interesting self than you may have | guessed yourself to be,” says Miss | Elaine Le Mar, Pictorial Fashion

| She believes that being well dressed

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| smart clothes but in choosing styles |

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| plifies a style that takes well slender and full figures alike. | tabric of this saucy coat is fash- | loned of great

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masses of flowers, |

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she scroll printed frock (right) proves | the smartness of this logic. The V- | | neck is an example of well-done

| simplicity. It has a crossed effect! | bodice with gathered fullness which

says.

{evens up the hip line and gives a straight effect so coveted by the more mature figure. The new three-

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! |day he is born, everything is done

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Show April 22

Paul Coble Post American Legion Auxiliary is to sponsor ing performance of Charlotte Greenwood in “Leaning on Letty” to be given Thursday night, April 22, at English’s.

Mrs. Ralph L. Lochry is general | neckline if you are a bit “stoutish.’ | chairman: [ The soft green flower | 2uXiliary president.

Mrs. Mason RB. Light, Proceeds are to

be added to the auxiliary's scholar-

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Sacrifices Cure Childs | | Selfishness

Sharing and Denial Induce Cheerful Giving To Playmates.

By OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON

Where and why do people become selfish ?

To answer this, we must go way, way back into childhood. We are not going to discourse on the “ego” jor “self” complex with which all [humans are born, and which is the | first law of nature, but on environment and training. In some environments children have to be unselfish. They may be|long to large families where shar{ing is the order of the day. Or in very poor families where a common cause compels them to help in tHe | very effort to live.

| Peet only what comes. Maybe they | don’t always give to “people” cheer- | fully, but they learn to give to life

On Receiving Eid

| Other children, in better circum- | stances or in smaller families, are | likely to find the order inverted. In- | stead of giving as they get, they are always, or almost always, on the receiving end. When we stop to think just how this works out, we must wonder how some children ever learn to expand at all, or become useful citizens. Take the average child from the average good home today. From the

| for him and he becomes the center of his world. | In return we ask him merely for | decent behavior, and to study his | lessons. Occasionally he is expected |to do some small service. | He begins to think the world is [run for children, which it is and { should be, but in his small experience he won't be able to see the | big reasons for our Kkindnesses to | him. | He very possibly never thinks at {all. Just accepts. But all this time, | every bit of trouble people take { makes him the hub of his world. We carry it on through youth, too, and then suddenly we turn {them out of school like rolls baked to a pattern, and demand that they learn to live at once on their own initiative; and living is “giving,” “striving” and thinking on their own responsibility. For the first time, then, they realize that the world never gives anything, but demands everything of them. And they get embittered and discouraged. It is so different | from what has gone before, you see. | With props removed, these young people may learn to delve, but they will be shocked, for some years, to

discover that no one is behind them. | That they don't get first thought |

Mrs. George L. Sites is to review “Gone With the Wind” tomorrow night at a meeting of the Woman's Division of the League for the Hard of Hearing. The program will be held in the Board of Trade Building.

Invitations to Matrix Table

The Indianapolis Alumnae Chapter of Theta Sigma Phi, national professional journalistic sorority, and the active chapter at Butler University issued invitations today for a joint Matrix Table to be held at 7 p. m. April 12 in the Columbia Club. Mrs. Bertita Harding is to speak following the banquet. Initiation services are to be conducted during the evening for Mrs. Harding who is to become an associate member of the organization. Miss Ann Hall, alumnae president, and Miss Edna Butler chapter president, charge of arrangements for tiation. Miss Hall will be assisted by Mrs. Frederick Scott, Misses Maurine Campbell, Louise Eleanor Ross and Hildred Funk. Assisting Miss Fiedler will be Miss Helen Ross Smith and Miss Dorothy Steinmeir.

chapter Fiedler, are in the ini-

and that the world is not made for them. That they must work often without any kind thanks, or even approval, and that there is no such

| thing as excuse,

These days we are trying to get at the roots of discontent. Why there is so much nervousness, and divorce, abuse. To me, one of the causes is obvious. The child who is taught to “give out” early in life will find a wealth of self-strength some day that will endow him far more richly than his parents dream, and make him happier. (Copyright, 1937, NEA Service, Inc.)

and a general feeling of |

WEDNESDAY, MARCH 31, 1937 | Book Reviewer

Nelson Eddy.

Famous for Stag Dinner

Mushroom Soup, Sole Fillets, Steak and Potatoes On Menu.

By MRS. GAYNOR MADDOX NEA Service Staff Writer

STAG dinner will re-estabe lish a man's self-esteem, Sturdy fare, some of his old

! friends, no women of the family | visible—and it’s always fair weather

when good fellows get together. What do the “brutes” want? Wait—let’s ask a Beverly Hills bachelor. Nelson Eddy is famous for his stag dinners. Listen to this—not Nelson Fddy’s music, but the melody of his :zkillet.

Cream of Mushroom Soup (For 12 men)

One pound fresh mushrooms, 2 quarts beef or chicken stock, 2 cup butter, 4 cup flour, 2 cups cream and milk, half and half, 1 wineglass sauterne (white wine), salt, pepper and onion to taste. Chop mushrooms and onion, add to meat or chicken stock and simmer half an hour. Strain, place stock back on fire. Combine butter and flour, salt and pepper. Thicken stock with this. Simmer until slightly thickened, then reduce heat and add milk and cream. Heat but do not allow to boil. After cream is added, add wine and remove from fire at once. Dinner has begun.

Honest Fillets of Sole on Watercress

(Por 12, but men only) Six pounds fillet of sole, 1 quart cooking oil, 3% pound butter, juice 4 lemons, finely chopped parsley, salt and pepper, watercress. Season fillets with salt and pepper. Plunge fillets into large pot at least half filled with boiling oil. Turn fish until both sides are golden brown. Remove and drain on blotting paper. Line a large wooden bowl with perky watercress. Place the cooked fillets on the watercress. Sprinkle with melted butter, lemon juice, parsley and garnish with lemon slices. And of course there is steak— broiled bachelor style. Use 8 pounds tor 12 men, tenderloin or sirloin, cut 1'2 inches thick. Leave on some fat. Cut steaks into separate portions. Rub each lightly with a clove of garlic, season with salt and pepper. Broil on rack under very hot flame, turning frequently until done to the king's taste. Slightly underdone, warns Mr. Eddy, is the masculine preference. Serve on a scrubbed white plank, dot with butter and minced parsley. With steak go French fried onions and cream whipped potatoes. Dessert is sweet but not rich—old-fash= ioned strawberry shortcake.

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long walk once a week. It doesn’t matter where you are so long as you win all the remaining tricks but one?

EST your knowledge of correct social usages by answering the following questions, then checking against the authoriative answers below: 1. Is it good usage “A party called and message for you?” 2. In signing an individual's name after a firm's name, is is preferable to use “per” or 3 Is it preferable to say, “The rent is $40 a month,” or $40 per month?” 4. Is it good form to use “beg to remain” or “beg to inform” in a business letter? 5. Should one write, “your letter of the 18th inst.” or “the 16th ult?”

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Mrs. Hahn Will Talk Times Special FRANKFORT, Ind, March 31.— | Mrs. E. May Hahn, Indianapolis, national fourth vice president ot the American War Mothers, is to

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Propylaeum Talk

Miss Ethel M. Mills, Chicago, is to give an illustrated talk at the April | buffet supper of the Propylaesum | Club Sunday night in the club house Miss Mills’ talk will be “A Stay at Home World Tour.” Mrs. George Philip Meier, the speaker's hostess. will introduce Miss Mills.

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