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‘Hurt Feelings’ Told She

Is Becoming Emotional Burden and It Is Unwise

Nothing Is More Trying More Than One Has to G Constant Assurance

Write to Jane Jordan for new

answers in this column each day.

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Than Friend Who Wants

ive or Girl Who Demands

of Love, Jane Says.

light on your problems,

EAR JANE JORDAN-—For the last year 1 have been

going with a boy with He is the baby of the family

he is good natured and has many friends. At first he treated me swell, but lately 1 am

| am J7.

whom I think 1 am in love. and is very spoiled, although He is 20 and

very much in doubt about him. He still treats me nice but something is lacking in his attitude, He still says he loves me but he does not act the same as he did

hefore,

He always chooses the places we go and many times I do

nol enjoy going there but just go to be with him. We never go

anywhere without his boy friend and his friend's girl. to get him to take me out alone but he refuses.

I have tried He and this boy

have been running around together for the last 10 years, and 1 thought maybe this explained the reason. The other night at a tavern, he began discussing his dates with

other girls in front of me I got drunk. 1 have regretied it. everything, belicves that he

make me jealous or to get rid of me. is tired of me he emphatically denies it.

desert me but always comes back.

with other boys but I don't

talked

fnijov

Of course this hurt me a great deal and My

girl friend, in whom 1 confide about his other dates either to But whenever I ask him if he He has had chances to girl friend tells me to go out She says 1 am

their company.

too young to be in love although she isn't any older than I am. Please

help me.

HURT FEELINGS.

ANSWER I believe that the name which you have signed to your

letter contains the germ of your trouble. To maintain a full set of hurt feelings

which only the weak can afford.

in a universe so full of interesting things is a full time il diligently in order to weed out hurt green in one's memory.

must work at

keep every little

Hurt feelings are a luxury

job. One distractions and feelings are not

all Hurt

so much an indication of love as the wish to dgminate another person, or situation. The person who cherishes them hopes to bring the other person to heel by playing on his sympathies,

Sometimes it works; but not for long.

Nothing is more trying

than the friend who demands more than one has to give. The girl who wants to stand first with a boy and who resents every reference to another girl, who looks for signs of the cooling of love, who demands constant reassurance of the fact that she is loved, holds herself in low esteem. Otherwise she wouldn't be so sensitive to

real or imaginary slights. viction of personal worth.

Small things would not shake her con-

The attitude vou take of “this boy or nobody” is a nursery hangover

from the tim

you wouldn't play if you couldn't have your own way.

Getting drunk to assuage disappointment is just another form of the

well-known tantrum. Such

silly it but be comforted. or another. Now suppose you paid no attent

Suppose you filled your

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other girls. made yourself popular with othe:

behavior vou don't do as I sav, I'll go to the dogs, so there!” Everybody has done it at some time

boys and girls.

is all an attempt to rule. “If You see how

ion to the young man's interest in time with other useful things and Suppose you were

the life of every party, always filled with enthusiam and first to sug-

gest a party, a prank, or a gocd deed.

like a magnet. Instead you watch of being tired of you to hear him coming an emotional burden!

You'd draw this boy and others the boy fearfully and accuse him deny it. Be careful! You're beJANE JORDAN.

GETS SUR

PRISE CON TRACT

Today’s Contract Problem

South has opened the bidding with one club, which West overcalls with a “psychic” heart. North and South reach a contract of six hearts. Should West double?

(Blind)

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Dealer

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Solution in next issue. 23

Solution to Previous Problem BY WILLIAM E. M'KENNEY

American Bridge League Secretary

Wr a good game of contract | is marked by precision in bidding, there are times when a player must bid his hand on the “vake-a-chance” principle. Opponents have a habit, if they can do e without too much cost, of pushing the other side out of a safe contract, until the alternatives are either the acceptance of a small venalty to punish overenthusiastic tidders, or the probability of defeat if the bidding goes farther. When a player can outbid strong opponents and reach an unbeatable name contract of his own, he can rest with the feeling that he has not only gone to the wars, but is home again with his own record unmarred by defeat | Today's hand, a battle of bidding, was played at a recent duplicate | game in Westfield, Mass, with W. E. Carey sitting North, and Meyer | Wechsler sitting South. Bidding of both East and West

Indac Juniors

To Map Events

Indac Junior events for 1937 are | to be discussed at a meeting to be | held in Indianapolis Athletic Club | ioday. Robert Woolling, presi- | dent, 8 to preside and announce | committee appointments. } The last of a series of three! tea dances, held annually during the holiday season and primarily for the juniors, is to be held in the Venetian room from 4 to 6 p. m. | today.

Chi Sigma Chi Plans To Hold Watch Party

¥ The Chi Sigma Chi Fraternity is | to hold a watch party tomorrow | night at the home of William P. | White Jr. Daniel Maiden Jr. Jo- | seph Greeneen and Robert Murphy Jr. are on the arrangements com-

mittee. i Regal Hessagrave, fraternity presi- | dent, and the pledges are to be the guests,

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Opening lead—é A. 23

is open to question. After North's double, East's raise, and South's bid of hearts, it is doubtful if West should show another suit, and a bid of four spades at once might have ended the bidding. When South made his bid of five no trump, it was based on a number of considerations. His opponents were vulnerable, hence North- and South could take ‘a set of three

| tricks to save game. His partner had

doubled and might hold a spade stopper, and if ‘worst came to worst, he could go to six hearts, with probably no loss as great as a vulnerable game. Much to his surprise, his five no trump bid was passed all around. and when the opening lead was

| made he could count 11 tricks for

his game,

East and West could make five |

spades, losing a spade and a heart, and North and South would lose

| two tricks at a contract of six. So

the bid. designed as a feeler, turned out to be one that gave Carey and Wechsler a top score on the hand. ‘Copyright, 1936. NEA Service. Inc.)

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THE INDIANAPOLIS TIMES

WEDN

| Usher in New Year by Being More Glamorous, Writer Urges

Read her |

| | BY MARJORIE BINFORD WOODS

don’t you resolve to . . . —Usher in the New Year

—AfTect more opulent first and last impressions on your formal | evenings. Remember that your evening wrap says “Hail and Fare- | well.” It gives the first word when | you arrive in foyer, club, house or | theater. It has the last word when |

| vou are bundled back into your car. |

Select velvet and ermine for regal | grandeur, glistening lame to make | vou starry eyed and radiant. ” n EE to it that your husband's dress shirts are {he correct twobutton style, and his collars a trifle | higher than last year? | —Drive your man a bit crazy with | cne of the new haunting Oriental perfumes sprayed on the top of your head? —Wear Chantilly lace-toed hose of cobwebby sheerness with your evening sandals? —Try to like dancing with your own husband more than with somebody else's? —Dip back into Important periods in your formal gowns? Go empire, neo classic, Edwardian . , . by all means glamorous. —Remind your better half that jeweled studs of real or semi-pre-cious stones are quite the thing for “white-tie” wear . . . and that he must always wear opera or top hat

with tails?

| Fanchers Plan

Club Open House

Mr. and Mrs. W. W. Fancher are to hold gpen house from 3 to 5 p. m. New Year's Day for members of the Peter Pan Saddle Club and their guests. Mrs. Fancher is to be assisted by Misses Betty Cook, Gertrude Madden, Virginia Rother and Marguerite Fisher.

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Editor

; by being a more glamorous “You"? | —part your hair in the middle and crown yourself with a coronet? | . Iridescent roses for brunets, a monkey cap of shiny coq feathers, | | silk anemones or white doves. |

Attendants for Wedding Jan. 21

Are Announce

Miss Francis Laudick is to have Miss Bernadette Scoglund as bridesmaid at her wedding to Odes E. Robinson on Jan. 21 at the SS. Peter and Paul Cathedral rectory. John McTigue is to be best man. Miss Scoglund is to entertain for the bride-to-be on Jan. 14, and Miss Marietta Wood is to give a party for her tonignt. Guests tonight are to be Misses Jean Applegate, Dorothy Wagner, Virginia Freeman, Barbara Frey, Virginia Murphy, Frances Byers, Veronica Barton, Mary Jane Lawler, Alda Duckworth and Miss Scoglund. The hostess is to be assisted by her mother, Mrs. Carl E. Wood. Gifts of linen are to be presented

colors are to appoint the party. Miss Kathryn Abel's personal shower for Miss Laudick was given last night at her home. The hostess was assisted by Miss Mary Laudick, sister ‘of the bride-to-be. Guests with Miss Scoglund and Miss Wood included Misses Virginia Murphy, Virginia Freeman, Virginia Fraim, Camilius Pierle, Frances Schultheis, Angelus Lynch, Veronica

Elizabeth McAllen, Mary Rentz, Mary Ann Leach, Mary Dugan and

to the honor guest. Green and white |

| Barton, Frances Beyer. Marie Seal, |

—Photo by Noble Bretzman,

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| Entertains With

Party mn Honor Of Mary What

Ic | { Mrs. M. M. Wright entertained t today with a luncheon and bridge {party for her sister, Miss Mary | White, Ardmore, Pa. and formerly {of Indianapolis. | Miss White has been spending the | holidays with Mr. and Mrs. Wright {and her parents, Dr. and Mrs. | Thomas R. White, Pendleton. Out-of-town guests today | cluded Mrs. Raymond Calvert, La~fayette; Mrs. Harold Adams,

Hubert Helen

Greencastle; Mrs. Bloomington; Mrs. Arnold, Greenfield; Mrs. Wharry, Zionsville; Mrs. Cook, Danville, and Mrs. Leaver, Kokomo.

Foster

ert Schetter, Turpin, Raymond Moyer,

Addison Dowling, Robert Pearcy, Joseph Wright, William Craigle and ! Miss Ruby Cook. Mrs. John Turpin is to entertain for Miss White on Saturday. Mrs. Harry H. Kimber and children, Caroline and Rebecca, are

| guests of Mrs. Kimber’s sister, Mrs. |

| Leslie DeVoe, and Mr. DeVoe.

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of Our 3 Payment Plan!

Home Trials | Reflect in Child’s Life

Writer Believes Children | Sense Trouble Which Upsets Them.

BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON We like to think that children

take things for granted. That they overlook unpleasantness about them

with an unconcerned eye and have their entire being in food, toys and

lay. p Could we look into the hearts of even the tiniest tots, I think we might get the shock of our lives. Fven in babyhood children instinctively sense trouble and react to the worried eyes and nervous voices of their parents. Hate influences them as well as love; and temper, even when it is not directed at them, up- | sets their happiness. |

Youngsters Observing

|perhaps, they have fathomed a | great many secrets of human con- | duct. | Instinct then gives way to reason | and experience. They know that causes always have effects, and vice versa. They also know that other people and happenings outside the family have much to do with family worries. For instance a small child soon gets to know that bill collectors leave gloom when they go, and even fear or other panic when they come. Any one who is owed money by the family, the doctor, grocer, landlord or druggist—-and be sure the child knows this—is associated in his mind with stigma. This is, of course, due in part to his parents’ own behavior that they can not conceal; but the feeling that others are thinking dire thoughts of his family is a blow to pride and he thinks this up for himself. The boy or girl who knows that his parents owe a certain bill to a tradesman will not go into that store if they can help it. Yet it is the children who so often are sent when such is the case.

Leave Mental Scars In the last few years, with unemployment and scarcity of cash, the long-owed bill Fas been the lot of millions of families. The effect on children can not be told, but in time, as they grow up, we will be counting that cost in mental scars and antisocial attitude. Children leap at the worst and they exaggerate. Perhaps John's father has an understanding with his creditors and knows that in time he can clear up all his obligations. He can sleep nights because there is no great strain of conscience. But young John, obsessed by a vague apprehension, may dream about it. Most of these worries of childhood are connected with money, either directly or indirectly. There is the fear that dad will be dropped. Insecurity is the greatest factor in upsetting normalcy in the young. Humiliation and a feeling of dishonor | come next. Whether justified or | not, the child jumps to conclusions [and suffers inwardly. | So I think it is well, indeed, to | keep up spirits before the children | and not air every little trouble. Next {I would explain such things so the | child can understand, at his age, {things he can well bear to know. | Never try to fool him. Sincerity is | the only weapon we have. We mus’ | not deceive him about our circum- | stances, thereby giving him a false

Todav’s Pattern |

SLENDERIZING jacket (rock (No. 8870) is perfect for ma- | ture figures. The gored skirt flares | ever so slightly at the hemline. The collar ends in a jabot. The jacket js that nice fingertip length which seems to make hips inches slimmer. | Patterns are sized 36 to 52. Size 38 requires 43% yards of 54-inch material, plus 3% yard contrasting 35 or 39 inches wide. If coat is lined 2% yards are required. To secure a PATTERN STEP-BY-STEP SEWING INSTRUCTIONS, inclose 15 cents in coin together with the above pattern number and your size, your name and address, and mail to Pattern Editor, The Indianapolis Times, | 214 W. Maryland-st, Indianapolis The WINTER PATTERN BOOK. with a complete selection of late dress designs, now 1s ready. It's 15 | cents when purchased separate. Or, | if you want to order it with the pat=- | tern above. send in just an addi- | tional 10 cents.

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and

Rev. Harry and | Wife to Receive | At Open House

Assisting in the dining room are |

to be Misses Doris Slavens, June | ——

Woodworth, Ruth Long, Mary Lou- | ise Carpenter, Dorothy Shepard Gertrude Jones and June Christina.

idea of our prosperity, but we must not burden him with woes beyond his years either. Just that he is a child, and, as such, can be more unhappy than we are. (Copyright, 1936, NEA Service Inc.)

Brownsburg; Mrs. G. Herbert Smith, | Brown, | Thomas |

Harold | Wayne |

Other guests were Mesdames Rob- | Charles Yott, John | Dean | Byus, J. L. Beattey, E. V. Schuler, |

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ND still we have | £ A holidays to en- | joy .. . with luncheon | dates and afternoon tea at AYRES to | make this a glorious | week! Meeting friends < in the luxurious foyer of AYRES’ TEA ROOM is one charming way to escape from the hubbub of | downtown crowds. Choose one of | the tempting luncheons, the salads |or desserts brought to your table in the most delightful tea cart service, or lift a gay tray of delica- | cies from the Tray Shop's informal | corner . . . you can have just what | your taste demands. Perhaps you'd |like to take home some dainty | sandwiches, canapes or delicious | fruit cake made in the Tea Room | kitchen . . . to aid you in entertain- | ing guests on New Year's Eve and | New Year’s Day. Just ask the Hostess. The staff of AYRES’ TEA ROCM extends its very best wishes {to you all. “May your New Year | be one of great happiness!”

i = ® = How about souvenirs and tricky fum-makers for each guest who helps you welcome

(in the new year?

INDY’S invites you to lunch or dine in the intimate atmos-

9 Coiffure “0 °N designed ™ to best advanetage? Gown and a C cessories of your own ehoosing (hope he sends your favorite flowers) and now... for a bit of rest. The hotels, clubs and night spots about town are planning celebrations to surpass (as most everything else has done) all these last few years. It’s not too late to make reservations most places , . . but I do wish you would decide on your plans so you won't be disappointed. If I can help with suggestions for those who will entertain at home . . . or if there is last-minute shopping to be done

Just call

— Ty

Already we have many indications of prosperity in the New Year . .. but you better eat sauérkraut on New Year's

be there? You still have time to make reserva-

{ butter | oysters.

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ESDAY, DEC. 30, 1936 Oyster Bar Recipe for Stew Given

Dish Called Thrilling for Either Late Supper Or Lunch.

(By NEA Serviee) Oyster stew early in the morning —that's what lots of night-lifers indulge in. For stay-at-homes and less glamorous livers, oyster stew makes an equally thrilling lunch or supper dish. Here's how they makes it at a world famous oyster bar in the east which is visited each year by hundreds of thousands of travel ing Americans. Oyster Stew

For each serving use six fat fresh oysters, 2 pieces of butter, l= cup oyster liquor, 1 cup rich milk, 1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce, celery salt, pepper, paprika. (Increase your recipe on this basis according to the size of your family.) Get the butter hot. Into the hot turn the strained whole Cook in hot butter until the edges just begin to curl, Tliea add the oyster liquor. Heat, add Worcestershire sauce and season= Add warm milk and bring to boiling point and remove Place another

Dust with of

Turn in the stew, and serve with bowl oyster crackers. Clam chowder can be almost anys thing these days. But up Rhode Island way they have set ideas on the subject. After vou try this ree cipe you will agree that they have no reason to change.

Rhode Island Chowder

For two quarts use two and twow thirds cups soft shell clams, 3 cups water, 2 2-3 ounces salt pork diced, 2 large onions diced, 3 potatoes cubed, 2'2 tablespoons flour, 2's tablespoons butter, 1% cups ligh$ cream, scalded, 2; teaspoons salt, ls teaspoon pepper. Add clams to water and bring te boil. Drain. Reserve stock. Cus off firm parts of clams and chop fine. Combine chopped firm paris with soft parts. Try out salt pork. Add onions, cover and simmer until tender, but do not brown. Combinas clams, clam stock, potato and onion mixture and cook 15 minutes until potatoes are done. Blend flour and butter, add cream and cook together until thickened, stirring all the time, Combine all ingredients and bring to point just below boiling, Serve

| with oyster crackers or pilot biscuit.

Dance Is to Honor Two Granddaughters

Mrs. Robert Elliott is to give a dance tonight at the Columbia Club in honor of her granddaughters, Amy Jose, daughter of Mr. and Mrs, Victor Jose, and Jean Elliott, daughe ter of Mr. and Mrs. Robert C. Els liott. ‘ Sally Ragan, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Paul Ragan, is to take her guests, George Coquillard and Rich= ard Towne, South Bend.

remember | §

Have wou tasted homes made orange and apricof marmalade? Try it for tha# special breakfast or with thin

toast at tea-time. }

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O you know Lindy Lu? You will know her very soon , , for she’s going to entertain you at the HOTEL LINCOLN New Year's Eve celebration. Well known in Indianapolis and Miami, Lindy Lu brings newest of new songs together with swell music by The Top Hatters. You see HOTEL LINCOLN has arranged for a marvelous eve=ning . . . dinner, music, dancing and a floor show that sparkles with fun and gaiety. Making reservations now insures for you and your party a4 gorgeous evening. Just phone Reservation Manager, LI1-1361, and HOTEL LINCOLN will be the gallant host. Don’t forget, the drink of season, Hot Tom and Jerry, being served in the MIRABAR. »

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Paper plates, cocktail nape kins and various novelties in paper are available in the

spirit of New Year's Eve. a

» = ” See you all tomorrow for last time this year . . . but all start a brand new 1837 er . .. here's a toast to this tinued comradeship.

NJ on