Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 4 December 1936 — Page 25
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Merited More Sympathy
Dreams Are All Very Well Unless They Sap Energy
Until Dreamers No Longer Are Able’ to. Adjust Selves to Reality, Jane Says.
This letter refers to a writer signed “Pent-Up Emotion,” who is
_ dissatisfied with his wife and dreams
~ mever finds.
of a sweet romance which he
DEAR JANE JORDAN—Surely “Pent-Up Emotion’s” letter deserved a more sympathetic answer than you
gave.
Why are you always so coldly impersonal? Cold,
sound reason is not always the solution to human problems. Sometimes a case calls for warm, sympathetic under-
standing,
HE L
After 20 years’ experience which parallels that of this emetionally unsatisfied man, I would say, “Don’t give up your dreams.
Tackle your problem with every ounce of energy you possess. Give your best to life, but when human endurance fails from all giving and no receiving, take refuge in your dreams. Rest and renewed . courage will come for further effort. Do not continue to live with . 8 wife you must hurt. Forget the one real love idea. There are any number of girls who are able to give exactly what you crave. You must give your best to the solution of your problem hut do not give up your dreams until they have become a sweet reality. Now I know what you are thinking. Over-emotional, sentimental
sap. I admit fit.
But through years of self-denial and emotional
~ starvation I have clung to my dreams. Mother of eight, nurse, valet, housekeeper and wife to a narrow-minded, morally upright, self- _ satisfied man, I have endured poverty and mental and physical abuse enough to kill an ordinary human, Would you deny me the opiate of
a dream lover?
IDEALIST.
ANSWER—The word opiate is well chosen. Whether your dreams are good for you or bad depends on how much energy you use up in dreaming which might be utilized in coping with your
problem.
Everybody dreams to some extent. It is apparently a
harmless psychic dodge to escape the pains of reality. Those who are unhappily married dream of a perfect mate; those who are in economic difficulties dream of falling heir to a million. They snatch a few minutes before going to sleep or waiting for an appointment to draw a dream curtain which shuts out the world. Most people snap out of their fantasies’ easily when the call to action comes and go on struggling with an unsatisfactory mate or work to improve their financial status, Nevertheless, those who dream too much have a real handicap. " 1 did not mean to be unsympathetic to the correspondent, “Pent-Up Emotion.” His problem is painful; but I do think it would be only the most senseless cruelty to encourage him to believe that he could find the counterpart of his rosy dreams in real life. To set an unobtainable ideal is to court complete failure in life. There are those who live in the shadows too long while the realities of life grow dim. They finish and turn away from the pains of living to take comfort in self-protective fantasies. Instead of working at the adjustments of marriage, they imagine life with an ideal partner. Insiead of attacking their work with courage, they lower their efficiency by drifting off into reveries which rob:
them of robustness.
It is better to find one’s enjoyment in activity. Failure and grief are a part of life. Each and every one of us must learn to take
punishment
from reality. Those who can’t take it retreat into a world
of their own weaving where they meet with no challenge, no difficulties. Courageous souls refuse the opiate and compensate for failure
in one field by hard-won success in another.
JANE JORDAN.
HOLDS UP TRUMP PLAY
Today’s Contract Problem
North is playing the contract at six clubs. After East has underled the ace of diamonds, and the trick is won by West's jack, does the obvious fact that East has made an unusual lead suggest that West should make an unusual return?
‘Blind) N w S
Dealer (Blind)
N. & S. vul. Opener—4 9: Solution in next issue. 2%
Solution to Previous Problem BY W. E. KENNEY American Bridge League Secretary Alex Cameron. of New York saw the dummy on Joday’s hand, the making of his sontract of four hearts did not appear particularly difficult, but he “realized that he should take every . precaution possible in the play of his combined 28 cards. Actually, the hand presents a very pretty problem in the play of dummy, and offers a situation which Is much more likely to be played badly by a good player than one in-
and perhaps three. if the at the end
Duplicate—E. & W. vul. th West North East Pass - Pass Pass "Pass
to the third trick. This simple play assured him his. contract, regardless of the return - made by either opponent and regardless of
which one captured the trick. He
had gained a time unit and control of every crucial situation that could arise. . The immediate club play assured him of the opportunity to ruff. one losing club in dummy and still draw trumps, thus giving him his 10 tricks. (Copyright, 1936, NEA Service, Inc.)
P.-T. A. Notes
Garden City. Dec. 12. Christmas bazar and supper. 1 p. m. Wednesday.” School cafeteria. Luncheon in ‘charge of Miss Hazel Hump's pupils’ mothers. Mrs. W. H. Castle, room sponsor. Beech Grove. 7:30 p. m. Wednesday. School auditorium. Misses Futh Ashley and Nidrah Dunn's pupils, program. Santa Claus. .
New Box Keeps Cigarets- Fresh
5:30, . Saturday,
There is something especially
Today’s Pattern
T= ' slip for: any figure (No. 8770). . It is form fitting with fitted top and shadow proof panels. The low neckline makes it suitable under almost any frock. You have your choice, top, of the narrow. strap or the built-up
"| shoulder. Use crepe, crepe de chine,
satin, rayon or taffeta. Patteras come in sizes 34 to: 46. ' Size 36 re-
"quires 3% yards'of 39-inch fabric.
To secure PATTERN and STEP-BY-STEP SEWING = INSTRUCTIONS, inclose 15 cents in coin together with the above pattérn number and your size, your name and address, and mail. to Pattern Editor, ‘The Indianapolis Times, 214 W. Maryland-st, Indianapolis. i
| Folding Beds Make
Nursery Playroom
One enterprising mother adopted the in-a-door-bed idea to the nurs-
Latest Fashions
—Times Photo hy Wheeler.
BY MARJORIE BINFORD WOODS Times Fashion Editor HESE little “mothers,” Edna Balch and Frances Robinson, who are showering their new baby doll. proud as Punch of their brand new wash frocks. : They agree that it’s & mighty happy holiday which brings them their favorite toys and crisp new school dresses to boot.
with such tender affection, are as
appealing to a young miss about these printed frocks which were designed by children for children,
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TDNA (eft), wears a modish red lawn called “Skip Rope” and its pattern carries out the theme in. amusing style. The hand smocking at the waistline and the snow white organdy collar and cuffs please mother, too, because of their dainty tailoring. Frances is the picture of contentment as she attends her dolly in a navy blue suiting frock with an all-over “Jacks” pattern. A pair of zipper pockets is the exciting feature of this academic model with its simple round linen collar, which makes laundering so easy. These juvenile designs are the last word in clothes for the young miss. The patterns, along with 13 other creations, were produced from youthful sketches submitted by 10,00 New York Schoolchildren in: a prize contest, and they now are available in a local shop.
School Women’s Club Is to Hear Ohio Educator
#viss Eva Wingert, principal of Jane Addams School, Cleveland, -O.,
|is to be guest speaker ~t the In-
diana School Women’s Club’s lunch-
eon tomorrow at the Hotel Lincoln. She is to describe the school’s vocational training. : ENE Mrs. Lota Snyder Emery is to review recent educational books and the pension committee is to report at the morning session. , Miss Bertha F. Nelson, Fort Wayne, is president; Miss Frieda Herbest, vice president, and Miss Martha D. Harris, Terre Haute, secretary-treasurer. The club, meetings are held quarterly.
Delivery Door Is Aid to Housewife
A receptacle built on the inside of the kitchen door with an opening sufficiently large to receive grocer-
ies, or other packages delivered dur- |
ing the course of the day, will be a convenience and time saver. : The housewife may leave home on various errands confident that her purchases will be delivered and safe, awaiting her return, and. the de{ivery boy is spared a second trip.
19 Suits Held Essential for Man of Style
By Unitgd Press NEW YORK, Dec. 4—You have to have 19 outfits to be a well dressed man this year. That's what the Merchant Tailors Designers’ Association says. The outfits include: Six Business Suits—Two blue, two gray, two brown. Two must be double-breasted, four singlebreasted. One sports suit, with four possible color and material combinations, depending on what you like and where you are.
Cutaway. Is Important
An Informal Walking Suit—Blue jacket and waistcoat, blue and white striped trousers. 2? X “Cutaway ~ Suit—“Very important this year,” says the association. Host Jacket—You have to have
1 one when entertaining. French blue
wool worn with black dress trousers. Dinner Suit—Midnight blue, sin-gle-breasted, shawl collar; single-
| breasted waistcoat of same cloth,
shawl collar. : : * Full Dress Suit—Midnight blue Barathea cloth; single-breasted white pique waistcoat.
Attire for Yachting
Riding Suit—Brown cheviot jacket, wool waistcoat, tan riding breeches. : Yachting Suit—Blue jacket, regulation yacht club braid . buttons, worn with ‘white trousers and white service cap. : ‘Three Topcoats—One blue, one gray for daytime; one black vicuna wool with silk lapels for evening. One Overcoat—Blue heavyweight cheviot, double-breasted. Guard’s Coat—Navy blue camel's hair, double-breasted.
Painted Flower Pots Attractive
Window ledges on which flower pots stand can be made attractive and easy to keep clean by cementing a heavy piece of inlaid linoleum to the ledge. Paint the flower pots to match or harmonize with the linoleum. >
Matches Kill Worms.
Helen Btfoderick, garden expert,
suggests that matches; stuck sulphur end down, around the base of a plant will destroy worms at the
hristmas Decorating
Tree and Stockings Are Held Main Part of Festivities. ~
BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON When making up ie budget’ for Christmas, do not provide for household decorations. It is half of the fun.
My family has always laughed at my Christmas methods. Always ihe
Ask any grown-up about his early Christmases. He will remember how the house looked, what unusual - things happened and where the tree usually stood. ‘But he won’t be able to. tell you what he got on any particular Christmas day. Memory retains impressions of sight, and sounds and smells rather than the material presents. This is the way we are made. So do think up things to make the- house gay. Let's hope ‘there is snow here in the North, where we depend so much on the white element to give background to our happiness. That to begin with. . Then inside, move the furniture around a little just to be different. Probably it will have to be done
think it a chore. It is part of the YASerance of Christmas. e. tree need not be "the biggest in town. It can sit on a table, for that matter, to give it importance. be. One year when we had struck it hard, I waited until the last minute, worse luck, and got a little neglected thing for 15 cents. So when I say a tree for the children, I mean it. If your conscience hurts you concerning live trees, make it an artificial one, or buy one with roots to plant later. |
Don’t Forget Stockings
Now about stockings. Hang ‘em up or put yourself down for a meanie. The second thing on my list was always, “Stocking. Fillers.” These consisted. chiefly of nonsense and noise. I hold no truck with a friend who stuffed her children’s with tissue and at the toe hid a $5 bill. What for? To be put into the big bank for their educations. This is common sense with
at Christmas, except to buy ‘backwards. - I'd spend two hours scour=ing for stocking toys, and five minutes on Mrs. Smith's scarf. . Let the children carry in the holly and help put it up at the windows or in the vases. Or have them help with the festoon of myrtle (or tissue paper, if you like) to make the room a fairyland. If
e or | Christmas is a better day with a lot of little Suiprises than one or things J everybody knows he is going to get. The smell of pine, the candles at the windows Christmas eve, the carols you sing, the redness of holly. The glitter-
are memory. These are enchantment. These things, costly or inexpensive, lighten spirits and carry us through the duller days of the year to follow. : (Copyright, 1936, NEA Service, Inc.)
Important|
anyway, to make room. But don’t’
But a tree there ought to|
a vengeance. Well, I never had any }-
they are of the let them help | trim the tree age, elp
ing star at the top of the tree.|
Satin Nightgown
When Christmas shopping, a white satin nightgown like this is worth keeping in mind, It has pointed patch pockets and a twisted, tailored belt of lace, and is finished at hemline, neck and armholes with real lace to match the pockets. ;
Year's Woolens Smooth or Rough
This year’s sheep have been shorn to the queen’s taste to produce the new woolens destined for the winter's smartest wear. These fabrics range from the smoothest of the smooth to the roughest; nubhiest and knottiest of many a day. Another stunt that wools are performing is getting themselves lacquered as nimbly as satins have been doing for seasons past.
Grapefruit Juice Peps Loin Roast
Grilled Fruit Welcomed
As Novelty in Homes And Restaurants.
By NEA Service "A loin of pork for Sunday is one
thing. But a roast loin with grape fruit juice and a garnish of grape= fruit segments dusted with brown
| sugar is a far, far better thing. Ale
low one pound for each person. Six pounds loin of pork, salt and pepper, % cup grapefruit juice, 4 cup brown sugar, 3 halves of large
grapefruit. Wipe the loin clean, dust with salt and pepper. Place on rack in roasting pan with fat side up. Place in very hot oven and sear for 15 minutes. Then reduce heat to slow oven and continue to cook until tender, allowing 30 minutes’ cooking for each pound of meat. About 10 minutes before the roast :s done, dissolve the brown sugar in grapefruit juice and pour over roast. About five minutes before roast is dene, place the carefully removed segments of the grapefruit in the van, dust lightly with brown sugar, and heat. When the roast is removed to the hot serving . platter, arrange the grapefruit segments around it. A sprig or two of watercress, a bouncing appetite and thers you are. Grilleds Grapefruit
There seems to be an epidemio of grilled grapefruit in restaurants and homes where novelties are wel= come. Here's the way it is done: Select medium-large smoothskinned grapefruit. Cut each in half. Core, remove the seeds. Sprinkle 1 tablespoon brown sugar over each half. Some like a dash of salt on the fruit before the sugar. Ge$ aven broiler very hot. Place the prepared grapefruit under the flame and broil for about seven minuteg,
The sugar will melt and spread, forming a delicious brown top to the grapefruit. Some enthusiasts place three cherries in the center of each half and spread a little cherry juice over the top before serving. Such fillips are a personal matter. : For your breakfast or for a cocks tail coumse at dinner, serve iarge grapefruit on the half shell, cored and seeded, with one-half orange, in juicy segments, piled in the center. Try this without sugar. It has
a hark, hark, the lark effect on the appetite. - ho
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