Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 3 December 1936 — Page 20

hose Wrong Method of Explaining the Biological

Processes,

Jane Claims

Tells Mother She Imparted Her Own Attitude of | Shame Toward Way Life Begins to 11-Year-Old Son Who Was Curious About Stork.

Bring your problems wp for discussion in (he. column and. rend

your answers within a few un,

EAR JANE J ORDAN—I

how you should tell children the truth when they ask

Jiave read many times about

questions about the stork. Well, my boy 11 years old has been asking questions for two years. He was saying such dumb things about the stork before older people I thought = 1 would tell him the truth. After I finished my story, which was very : hard to get over with, he said, “Oh, mother; I just ‘can’t see how

that could be true.”

Then 1 said that it was no stranger than flowers growing and all A the other wonderful things God does. Then he burst out crying like = his heart would break and when that was over he seemed as if he

him, He seems like he has more

He has had no play at all in feeling about how I am and if 1

am comfortable and seems to think more of me than ever although .

we have always been close together,

But it worries me to think he took it so seriously. I was expecting

him to say, “Oh, I knew that!”

But it seemed such a shock to him,

1 am all upset about this. My husband would say, “I told* you he

“i! was too young to be told that stuff, etc.” shame me to death. Did I do right by telling him?

My mother-in-law would A MOTHER.

ANSWER—I believe that what you unwittingly did was to impart your own attitude toward the way life begins to your child. Not by

what your said, of course, but hy the way you said it.

“My story was

.~ hard to get over,” That means you told him with embarrassment which +» the child was quick to catch.

“My mother-in-law would shame me to death.”

You see you're

still influenced by the view of the grandmother’s generation which imparted such knowledge to their daughters in shamed whispers on _the back stairs and let their sons stumble upon garbled knowledge

wherever they could find it.

Don’t forget, too, that the boy’s whole background has been colored by the same view. Any questions of his have been met by embarrass-

ment and shushed by his elders.

Again, not by the spoken word,

but by implication you have managed to impart a feeling of shame to your son about all things even remotely relating to reproduction— * a feeling which has been accumulating all his life reaching its peak during your hesitant and fearful presentation of a truth that still seems a little awful to you. Children simply do not react with shock to simple biological facts as such. What they react to is the false education in shame they ' have received at the hands of their elders who have associated such

" facts with shame ever since the child can remember.

In my opinion

you should have told the boy long ago in a casual, natural, unemo-

tional manner, before his education began. surprised or stunned by natural processes.

to rise up and color the facts

No young child ever is He has no associations

, Try not to be pleased that your little boy feels more tenderly toward you since he learned that his birth caused you pain, for this means

that he feels guilty and responsible, which he is not.

He should not

carry such a pyschic burden. Be more casual and unconcerned in your discussions with the boy. If you don’t give the subject more importance

than it deserves in your own mind, neither will he. with a feeling of horror toward the facts of life.

some one.

KINGS FALL ON ACES

He wasn’t born He learned it from . JANE?JORDAN.

Today’s Contract Problem

South is playing the contract at four hearts. He has ruffed the second round of spades, and can now count five hearts and four diamonds as his, with the possible tenth trick in clubs. Should he now draw trumps? | 4 654

3 Qe 32

(Bli~d) (Blind)

E & W. vul. Solution in next issue.

Opener—& KX. 26

Solution to Previous Problem BY W. E. WKENNEY American Bridge League Secretary HERE is a strongly held superstition among ‘bridge players

that, if one hand holds a single£13 ton king,

some other hand also

will hold an unguarded king in . another suit. Probably there is no real basis for this hunch, but it is “= gtill true that where one hand has © a singleton in one suit, some other s player probably holds not more than

22x Gs

one in another. Coupled with the belief in regard

ton king always: makes a trick.” Today’s hand is the story of two singleton kings which fell to aces, even though they were both, “over”.

1 :

Pledge President!

Miss Marie Pfarr was elected

J103 98 K98

N E

Dealer

A875: ¥ None ®J42 $AQJIJI87 6 Duplicate—None wvul. South - West North East Pass Pass -1¢ 19. 2d 29 24 3v 3H 49 4 4 ~ Pass Pass: Double Pass Pass

Opening lead—W K. 26

'| clubs was ruffed by West with the

four, and overruffed by declarer with the ten. North then laid down the ace of spades, recalling the “singleton” king superstition, and dropped East's king. A diamond was led to the jack. in dummy and She jack

of clubs returned. Now, whatever West: chole to do, North's overambitious contract was safe. He made thrée trump tricks in dummy, and three in his own hand, as well as three. diamonds and one club. (Copyright, 1936, NEA sevice, Inc.)

Initiation Rites Are to Be Held

Delta Chapter, Xi Delta Xi Sorority, is to hold formal initiation

| services at 8:15 p. m. today at the

home ‘of Miss Margaret Duvall, 6322 College-av. Miss’ Helen Scanling, president, is to preside, assisted by Misses Edna Weir, Alice Nichols, ' |and Miss Duvall. it The initiates are Misses Thelma Mendenhall, Evalyn Fausey, Martha Sullivan, Norma Hall and Mrs. W. E. Wilson. Pledge‘ services are to

. | follow initiation. -

The sorority colors of purple and gold are to be used in table decorations and favors. Members and pledges are to be presented with corsages of yellow bachelor buttons, | tied with purple and gold ribbon.

~ Club to Hear’ Morgan

Christmas Gifts For Men Found With Cosmetics

BY ALICIA HART NEA Service Staff Writer |

gifts for men are right on counters. Whether he is a individual who likes an oldjoned tube of shaving crea a straight razor or a fussy m who favors a shaving bowl electric razor, you can find a gift that will make him happy. Shaving sets, containing eam or soap, talcum powder and | skin tonic or lotion come in all sizes at all prices. A new, de luxe but compact] pigskin kit for a man contains hair

+ and ern )r an' auty

{| tonic as ‘well as regular items and

has aniple space ‘for . toothb! razor, comb and his pet gadg fs.

Talcum Powder

This year, you can get powder in various shades, so

{| no excuse: for giving a dark-gom-

plexioned man white or pale Also, there are excellent face lotions’ that will keep- his skin fr chapping, but which do not si like one ‘of your perfumes. generally ‘speaking, do not {like

on their own faces. A neat little jar of bi and a bottle of -really good hair tonic are sure to be appreciated. Also a floating bath bowl or a | cular bath brush or soap balls) for the shower. i

Clothes Brush Other interesting gifts for are: an imported clothes brush satinwood top; whiskbroom with si ver-tipped staghorn handle; a E low chromium: and enamel brush, filled with comb, ‘razor, shatine brush and soap. i Maybe he'd like an. electric or an elegant gold safety razor. Jor one with automatic blade mag I'm told that a shdving brush with real badger bristles lasts for years-and that the recipient of ‘one of these remains ever so stent 10 the donor. Some men like shaving brushes, others prefer giant varieties. You might inquire about his preference before you buy. 4 ee Dv |

De Molay Mothers To Meet Tomorrow

Mrs. R. H. Dingle, 1834 av, is to be hostess for the apolis DeMolay Mothers’ business meeting at 2 p. m. tomo; row. Mrs. Earle Mather is to side. A social hour is to follow. The club is to sponsor a party at 1:45 p. m. Monday at Foodcraft Shop. Mrs. H. H. is committee chairman, Mesdames E. L. Jackson, W. A. ers and J. A. Salter.

PAY MEN NIL PLAS IE DESIB 3

heavily stented colognes and lofions |. nitine.

ir- |

| Christmas

{Should Not Be Made

Excuse for Giving ‘Useful Things Only.

This 1s the Inst of three articles dise

BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON The whole itlea of giving to chil-

new.way the Ladies Aid now packs

boxes for the poor. . ur every useful gift there iis

age family, who can afford to make:

{the holiday one of general indul- . For every ‘toy, include a use- |.

gence. ro ful gift. Or if not exactly that, at needed articles. But never, never

cussing ‘Christmas Jroblems of parents. | dren is exemplified, I think, in the a toy. | I would reverse this, for the aver-

least buy a. certain percentage off: j would I make: Christmas an excuse | |.

[ori I nace

~Times Photo. by Wheeler.

BY MARJORIE BINFORD WOODS ‘Times Fashion Editor . T isn’t necessary to place one’s ear to the ground to hear the crescendo rumbles presaging a Christmas era of luxury spending. Already Indi-anapolis-ites who appreciate rare things are browsing around furniture

departments selecting distinctive objects. When good periods get together, as they have above, a charming effect is bound to result. Any one of the separate pieces shown could ‘be

considered ‘as a gift suggestion with real value to its recipient. \ The Canterbury table (left), of rich-toned mahogany, is suitable as an end table or an occasional piece, as well as a magazine rack. The table lamp is of Savers style in green French porelain shaped like a classic urn and adorned with a gold silk shade. Gold damask chairs mr coveted by decorators this season and because of this great demand are difficult to find in local shops just now. This decorative and comfortable one is barrel backed and graceful in its styling. ) #2 2 = i TEE mahogany hetrloom-fisishéd book case is an authentic reproduction, with bronze. drawer pulls. Flat oval vases, like the ones shown, are the sort which delight lovers of antiques. This is of fine French porcelain with handpainted marine scenes in warm colors. adorning them.

The .oil painting, “Nipponese,”

which hangs above the book case was painted by Will Harvey Hunt,

Indianapolis ‘artist who was a re-

cent Hoosier Salon scholarship win-

ner. The “Diana” plastic is a Roman

.copy of a Greek original statue dat-

ing back to the third century. - A glass top frames the top of the interesting coffee table of mahogany.

One of the rarest of the pieces.

shown is the authentic antique silver coffee or tea urn of Sheffield plate. Unique in size and shape it is' a valuable piece to add to your collection of beautiful old silver. Be= speaking its elegance, the cut crys-

tal wine bottle is an echo from by-

gone days, also. The coffee bean handles of the after dinner silver spoons must be seen to be appreciated. They are reproduced in various colors and are a charming addition to the after-

| dinner coffee set of English ware in

green and white. i

WHEN You THINK OF CHRISTMAS

THINK OF FELTMAN & CURME

21 SLIPPERS

#1 and 1 95 |

A huge assortment satins, kids, ki ;

Gift5 lippers)

~ i \* HOSIERY in Gift Bozes

Chiffons or Serv- : ~ ice Weights in -,

4 smaller things; and we are airs ‘| our gifts accordingly.

joys we shared! Just {the right Saget

years we “little

four-year-old Johnny

I don’t mean that he can’t have a bigger. and better wagon, or larger

"| books: or & finer sled, but as: he is - | learning to use his fingers, he will | be interested in Tiddledy-Winks, for

instance, and in jack-straws and marbles; Anything that lets him manipulate those little digits of his. He likes to spin tops, and to make things out of plastic clay. He will take a shine to a small doll or little monkey, now, rather than to the enormous one of his babyhood. He still likes size and power in his mechanical toys, and his sled and scooter, and so on, but he must also have these smaller things to satisfy his growing ability to create. This is the age when sets of low furniture come in just right. He, or she, will fairly wear out the little table and chairs. : When Child Is Older People have the idea that children do not appreciate useful presents. Well, they do, almost always. They adore the snowsuit Santa brought. The scarf or cap makes them doubly proud because it was in their stockings. Unless the child is surfeited with = necessities, and this isn’t likely, he will be thrilled by anything new. But he needs toys, as I said, just as much as he needs overshoes. Better get the

_ rules should be] J

SE nr A

ptt a pretty co-ed ‘into a dress like this (No. 8874) and she’ll ‘have the whole campus at her feet. The yoke and sleeves, cut in one, are gathered into a | pretty band cuff. ‘The skirt has an | action ‘pleat in front, .and the flat-

tering peplum blouse has smart pockets and attractive ‘button clos-

. | ing. ‘Make it in nubby wool, jersey, Patterns are in| sized 11't0 19 years. Size 13 requires

velveteen or cotton.

4% yards of 39-inch fabric. To secure a PATTERN and STEP-BY-STEP SEWING _ INSTRUCTIONS, inclose 15. cents in

coin together with the above pat-

tern number and ‘your size, your name and address, and mail to Pattern Editor, The Indianapolis Times; 214 W. Maryland-st, Indianapolis.

Board Meeting Called

Mrs, William H. Morrison is to preside at the monthly board meeting of the Suemma Coleman Home at noon tomorrow at the home,

“bright” necessities for Christmas. They help to make a gay day.

The older -child will tell you

exactly what he wants. Please do not disregard this. He means what he says. And if it is within reach, get it. But I would not let him plan all his gifts. By this time, he is ready to go in for amateur hobbies too. Maybe a camera will start him off on photography, or a stamp-album or a set of old coins, give him a new interest. Sports equipment may turn him to athletics, to his: betterment. But don’t surround him with a po= tential future. Concede to desire. And give him some nonsense too. He is still a baby at heart. So is the girl. Make Christmas merry. (Copyright, 1936, NEA Service, Inc.)

Meat Taste

IsEnhanced By Stuffing

Number of Fruits May Be Used to Flavor Dressing.

BY RUTH CHAMBERS National Livestock and Meat Board ar are all familiar with stuffings or dressings for poultry, but do not consider all the splendid possibilities ‘of using them with meat. Meat is just as adaptable to stuffing as is chicken; if anything, with its rich and abundant flavor meat offers

{more opportunity to use stuffings

than does poultry. The ingredients for stuffings are plentiful. Bread crumbs or cracker crumbs are most commonly used, but equally successful recipes call for corn bread, rice, corn, and mashed potatoes. Sincé the flavor of meat combines well with certain fruits, we find directions ‘listing - raisins; currants, apples, prunes and even bananas, The banana pulp adds a piquant flavor to dressing used with meat. Seasonings, too, are important, The usual ones are, in addition to salt and pepper: prepared poultry seasoning, thyme, marjoram, sage, summer savory, nutmeg. Vegetables Lend Flavor Certain vegetables lend their flavors to successful stuffings and we_find the following good to use: Chopped celery (stalks or tops), chopped parsley, minced onion (be sure it is well cooked in a little fat), chopped green pepper, pimiento, sweet red pepper and mushrooms. Beaten egg or egg yolks are fre. quently added to stuffings and chopped hard-cooked eggs also may be an ingredient. The latter adds to the appearance of the stuffing. Many cuts of meat lend theme selves ‘well to dressings. © Shoulder roasts of pork or lamb are very good, for, with the bone removed and the side sewed up, a pocket is formed. - This stuffed roast slices well, giving attractive portions «for each - serving. Round steak rolls and veal birds are old meat-ande dressing favorites. Here are two good recipes for special stuffings, and some sugges tions. for the meats they may ace

company. * Sweet Stuffing _

(Pork or Veal) 2 cups dry bread crumbs 1% cup boiling water 1 egg, beaten 2" tablespoons melted butter 2 teaspoons sugar 1 teaspoon salt 1-3 cup currants 1 medium sized tart apple, chopped 12 seeded raisins Pour hot water over “bread, Tet stand 10 minutes. If it is watery, press out extra water. Add. other ingredients. Use with pork or veal cushion style shoulder roast.

Potato Stuffing 2 cups hot mashed potato 1 teaspoon grated onion 14 teaspoon paprika 1 teaspoon salt \ > table i tte espoon butter 1 teaspoon sage 2 egg yolks, beaten ‘Add other ingredients to the

potatoes, mixing thoroughly. Use in roast breast of veal or lamb.

Comparing notes today with another who cherishes a lipstick by GUERLAIN ... from L. S. AYRES

EE 5

tinguish each silvery case. Lipstick by GUERLAIN (price $1.25) is available in 4 decidedly different and delightful shades . .. at L. 8. AYRES’ Toilet Dept. on Main floor. s s » For the epicurean—a gift box of assorted cheeses ew m-m-m.

| Comments after the first puff. of a ROYALE

cigarette . . . «would be an excellent after-din-

~ |ner smoke . . . just the fillip that

after-dinner mints provide for the

: : perfect meal.” Quite an experience,

these “Royales” from. choice tobac-

ely nila. these “Royale ~ mild

It seems that every one has some difficult present to buy.- I'm not awfully good at puzzles but I see so many gifts in a day's time that just maybe I can help you. Do call me, if I can be on the lookout for something special for you. And as one clever line reads: “Do your Christmas hinting early.” Phone RI. 5551 and ask for

You look for something a bit out of the ordinary for “her” Christe mas . . . yet you wish to spend only, a bit of money. Alright, the display of Montana Cut Rings at BLOCK’S should Bive you beautiful deas. Personally, the rings in ee antique finish, hold a special appeal. Deep amethyst and wine red are particular beauties,

And the earrings to match are made:

for pierced ears as well as those not pierced. ‘When you consider gifts for every miember of the fame ily . . . see the Montana Cut Ring display . .. 59¢c to $395 . . | at BLOCK’S, Main floor, right: in front of the escalators. :

2 =

A perfume bracelet for a favorite fragrance should please the debs on your list.

® 8 =»

I played the -organ toda

geo

- and it wasn’t a hand organ either!

1 pumped the pedals of a real

MARTHA WASHINGTON candies are the appropriate and delicious gift. So easy to please every one ‘by simply sending family candy of the nation.”

74%

14: «BE:

“a8

etait

miniature wonder 7 in the world . of

i 15g?

Fel