Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 11 November 1936 — Page 8

{Tells Mother Worried About 14-Year Old Daughter That

Children Need to Be Let Alone

Difficult for Well-Meaning Parents to Learn . as Little Supervision as Possible Is Best for Child, Jane Says.

Put your problems in a letter to Jane Jordan who will answer

your questions in this column.

EAR JANE JORDAN—My daughter, who is 14, is a problem. She won't tell me the truth. I have used kindness, whipped and bribed her, but to no avail. She is boy crazy and because my sister's 14-year-old girl goes

with boys, my daughter wishes her aunt was her mother 80 she could go with boys, too. I never let her go many places be-

cause I can't trust her.

She lies to me about where she has been.

Our home is modest and when I mention having a party for her friends she seems to be ashamed of her home. We do everything for her we possibly can. Should I let her go more often and with the boys and hope for

the best?

I try to be a pal to her, but she wants

to go places by herself. How can I get the truth from her? Please advise me.

WORRIED MOTHER.

ANSWER—I suspect your daughter lies to you because when she tells you the truth she gets in

trouble,

You can’t lay down rules against all the

normal, natural things a girl likes to do and not have her try to get them by hook or crook, mostly

Jane Jordan

crook if a whipping is the penalty.

We used to think it was a fine thing to be

“pals” with our children, to

go places and do things with them, to

enter into all their activities, study with them, play with them and

work with them.

It comes as a severe blow to well-meaning parents

to find that what their children really want and need is to be let

alone.

Some supervision is necessary, of course, but the wisest parents

do as little of it as possible.

They do not insist upon knowing a child’s

every thought and do not expect to know exactly where the child

is every moment that he is not home.

A few loose rules about meal

times and bed time and other healthful habits are about all that is

necessary for control. The child’s without parents eventually.

the job becomes.

job in life is to learn to get along

The closer the parent clings, the harder To gradually increase a child's freedom, to allow

him to manage himself and learn by his own mistakes, is hard for a

parent, but good for the child.

A home can be pretty, though modest. I wonder if you could interest your girl in interior decorating. A lot can be done to make a modest home attractive by using cheap materials like unbleached

muslin.

It can be dyed at home and made into curtains, bedspreads

and slipcovers. A little knowledge of color can go a long way toward livening a house. This is one thing you could do together that would be really beneficial, but when it comes to companionship, your daughter needs both boys and girls of her own age. Another thing you could do is talk to your sister whom your

daughter wants for a mother. about handling a girl from her.

No doubt you could learn a great deal Does she insist upon complete in-

timacy with her daughter, or does she allow the girl some privacy

for her own thoughts and pursuits? An uneven attitude is bad for a child.

If you have alternated

kindness, whipping and bribery, she hardly knows what to expect.

Whipping and bribery are simply never right. to firmness and unwavering justice, will work.

Kindness, when united It is not just to

deprive a 14-year-old girl of companionship with her contemporaries of

both sexes. unlimited freedom.

If she has enough to satisfy her, she won't insist upon

‘JANE JORDAN.

Fur Show Includes Duplicate of ‘Famous American's’ Cape

By United Press NEW YORK, Nov. 11.—This is national fur week—it opened with a swish of chinchilla—and if you watch the magazines and newsreels you will see pictured a $15,000 duplicate of the full length silver fox evening cape that “a certain famous American” will wear at the coronation of King Edward VIII. The cape was displayed for a Broadway audience while Lucius Beebe, columnist; Russell Patterson, artist; Elizabetl: Hawes, designer, and Prunella Wood, fashion editor, talked about it for a radio audience. “Gray is the smart color this year,” Helene Blanchard, fashionist, explained. “Maybe it's because gray goes so well with everything else. Gray squirrel, not used for 10 years is back. The silver fox cape, she said, was “the most spectacular” thing in the show. It had an ermine collar, border and insets. Ten silver foxes fulfilled their destiny when it was made. Could the “certain famous Amerjcan” be Mrs. Wallis Simpson? “Three guesses,” said Miss Blanchard.

Roger Kahn and [Louise Landman

to Wed in East

Times Special NEW YORK, Nov. 11.—Miss Louise Babette Landman, daughter of L. W. Landman, and Roger A. Kahn, son of Mrs. Nathan Kahn, Indianapolis, are to be married this afternoon in the Le Perroquet Suite, Hotel Waldorf-Astoria with Jonah Wise officiating. The bride, to be given in marriage by her father, is to wear an ivory satin gown designed with a yoke of heirloom lace. Her tulle veil is to be arranged with an heirloom lace coronet, and the bridal bouquet is to be of white orchids and lilies of the valley. Miss Hortense Wolf, Indianapolis, the bride's cousin, Miss Barbara Landman and Mrs. Robert Warren are to be bridesmaids. Alan Kahn is to be his cousin's best man. A reception for 75 guests is to

SILVER TEA GIVEN

BY CALENDAR AID

~The Calendar Aid of the Central Christian Church gave a silver at the

For the show, 60 girls were recruited from model agencies. Waiting to go on stage they became a bit restive. “Nuts,” said one (a sauterne blond) “I get 10 bucks for wearing this rag and it cost $10,000 if it cost a dime.” The “rags” were New York copies of designs by Schiaparelli, Molyneux, Lanvin, Vionnet and other Paris style arbiters. Among them was a two-piece suit of gray kid skin, new this year. It was trimmed in gray velvetine with hat and gauntlets of the same material and a gray zipper purse. It had flared peplum. The military motif was much in evidence, but nowhere so much as in the black Persian lamb outfit. It was a Cossack uniform, lacking only a shako. It had “bulging” shoulders, fitted waist, black and gold belt, matched hat and muff, and a most martial flare.

The display, worth something like

$250,000, was notable, it was explained, because fur designers finally have concluded that it's not against the law for a fur coat to fit. - The coats used to hang like a Mother Hubbard, but now, according to Miss Blanchard, “the sacque silhouette is out. In its place are fitted princess and fitted tunic coats, three-quarter swagger and short, hip-length ‘boxy’ coats.” Designers, she said, have acquired the “feel of fabric” in relation to fur. This “dressmaker treatment,” she said, is partly the result of improved treatment of pelts, which are more pliable and workable than they used to be. Every kind of pelt was represented, from rabbit and muskrat, the “homely” furs, to ermine, sable and chinchilla. Rabbit, Miss

Dr. | Blanchard said, “is seen as beaver,

lapin, sea lion, leopard and many others.”

Etiquette By PATRICIA WEDDING EXPENSES — The

parents of the bride provide the]

invitations, her trousseau, decorations for the church and house, soloists and organists at church, motors for the bridal party from house to church and back, the wedding reception, dinner or breakfast, the bride's presents to her bridesHille and a wedding present to the

Se bridegroom's Ekpeists are a wedding present for the bride, the marriage license, a-personal gift to the best man and each of the ushers, the bride's bouquet, the wedding ring, clergyman’s fee and con-

sires, purchase bouquets f bridesmaids, but he is not obligated

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BY MARJORIE BINFORD WOODS Times Fashion Editor ERMINING the conventional masculine tradition of sober black and white for evening wear, this new gunmetal topper strikes an interesting new note in the season’s fashions for men. For well over a century, the stubborn male has turned thumbs down

on all attempts to brighten up his formal clothes. But this year tells another story.

the more somber his attire. Masculine tastes are at last turning toward off-black shades for formal wear. Midnight blue has been accepted by the best dressers and now enthusiastic approval is being given to the addition of gun-metal to the dress coat, dinner jacket and opera hat. ” ” 2 ONSENSUS is that the subdued sheen of this newly popular color gives a richness of shade ‘hat is pleasing but unobtrusive. Previous attempts to lure the conservative male back into the brilliant colors and furbelows of mediaeval days have failed miserably. But fashion observers are finding a most sympathetic response from the sterner sex toward the new trend this season. Indeed, rumor has it that the gunmetal innovation spells the end of the completely black and white uniform for well-dressed gentlemen. It combines equally well with midnight blue or all black, if you must be conventional in your tails and white tie.

Today’s Pattern

HIS year, children’s dresses have narrower yokes and puff sleeves with lots of puffiness about them. The little frock (No. 8858), with tailored collar, buttons on the yoke and pleats down the front, comes in sizes 2 to 8 years. Size 4 requires three yards of 39-inch material for dress and panties. Use cotton or jersey. To secure a PATTERN and STEP-BY-STEP SEWING INSTRUCTIONS, inclose 15 cents in coin together with the above pattern number and your size, your name and address, and mail to Pattern Editor, The Indianapolis Times, 214 W. Maryland-st, Indianapolis.

Sorority to Entertain

Chi Tau Alpha Sorority is to entertain members and guests at a dinner and bridge party at 6:30 p. m. today at the Colonial ‘Tearoom, 1433 N. Pennsylvania-st. The special

| | guests are to be Mrs. Jean Helm and

Misses Betty Sturm, Ethel Hall and Ruth Reed.

Pledges Are Guests

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The gayer the scene,

Dorothy Lewis to Wed Tonight in Church Rite

Several out-of-town guests are to attend the marriage of Miss Dorothy Jane Lewis, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. A. Don Lewis, to Charles Layton-Palin at 7:30 p. m. today at McKee Chapel, Tabernacle Presbyterian Church. Dr. J. Ambrose Dunkel is to officiate, and Mrs. Donna Eberhard, organist, is to play bridal music. Among the guests are to be Mr. and Mrs. Albert Lewis, Albany, Y.; A. J. Bruce, Detroit; Mr. and Mrs. Fred E. Schmith, Chicago; William Murray, Rochester, N. Y.; Mrs. C. Dudeck, Chicago; R. C. McMahon, Mr. and Mrs. Fred Egan, Mr. and Mrs. O. H. Erskine, Lexington, Ky., and Mr. and Mrs. H. L. Snyder, Hackensack, N. J. A reception at the Lewis home is to follow the ceremony.

Mrs. R. M. Moore Will Entertain Service Group

Mrs. Robert M. Moore isto entertain the Indianapolis Unit, Women’s Overseas League with an Armistice Day buffet supper at 6:30 p. m. today at her home, 5617 N. Meridi-an-st. The Indianapolis Unit recently was organized by the consolidation of the former Indiana and Hoosier Units. It has a membership of 67 women who served overseas with the allied forces during the World War, and who kept up their service to disabled former overseas women, their children and the community. The Armistice Day meeting is an annual event and out-of-town guests

are expected to attend.

Mrs. Moore is to be assisted by the recently elected officers and directors, Miss Florence J. Martin, Miss Gertrude Steffen and Mesdames Tom C. Polk, Tulie Roberson, Walter P. Morton and John T. Day.

De Pauw President Addresses Club

A trained mind, a respect for other people and peoples, social imagination and a sense of values are the valuable by-products of a college education, according to Dr. Clyde E. Wildman, De Pauw University president. Dr. Wildman, in his talk before the Indianapolis Council of Women yesterday, at the William H. Block Co. auditorium, said “Our colleges are not to be intellectual filling stations, but rather are to develop the students’ ability to think. We do not want students to feel as if they belong to the intellectual elite, but rather show how closely we are tied together in the world. By social imagination, I mean the ability to put ourselves in the place of another. This is particularly needed in international affairs, he said. A better insight into the relative importance of things should result from a real college training,’ Dr. Wildman concluded. .

Contract Club to Meet

The Indianapolis Woman’s Contract Club is to meet for play at 1:15 p. m. tomorrow at the Indianapolis Athletic Club.

ers-Sam World Over, Writer Finds

‘Trundling’ Children Off to" School Is Problem.

BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON

PARIS, Nov. 11.—I find that mothers abroad have many of our own ‘problems. The English wife and the French one (for I have talked to both) had never heard of our American neighbor who recently wrote about her days spent in “chauffing” for the various members of her family. But here I was, being told duplicate stories about the time it took to get the children distributed to their schools, husbands driven to train or subway, and the whole business to be repeated in reverse at sundown. Lon‘don and Paris repeating America. Daddy feels very generous and a whale of a fine fellow when he buys a car for mother. “It will make it all so much easier for you, my darling,” he assures her. “And the children will be so safe in the car.” Which, God bless him, is partly true anyway.

Modern Hazards

From then on her work is cut out for her, however, never fear. Neither the car nor she herself get a chance to rest. Schools are being centralized into big buildings, far apart, and even the famous “twomile walk through snow up to our ears” thet Granddaddy boasts about is out of the question now, as roads are unsafe. Bus lines are helpful, but the city" child is today at a greater disadvantage than the country child. Even a few blocks constitute a hazard, and very small children must be escorted in some fashion to the center of learning. In London, a friend of mine said, “I have to let Paul stay at the

school (nursery school, equivalent |

to our kindergarten) all day now. He is only 5, but I can not possibly drive him home at noon. I have so little time left after I distribute the others to their various schools, and

take Steve to the station, then rush |,,

back to attend to the baby and help Ellen with the work, that I am simply too tired to make the extra trip. So he gets his nap at the nursery, eats his lunch and plays the rest of the day. Steve thinks it is terrible, doesn’t understand that driv-

N.| ing through traffic twice a day,

with all the rest of it, is a strain enough. I live by my watch. Sometimes I never want to see a car again.”

Day Spent Going Places

An American woman in Paris is having the same problem. Her two children go to separate schools. It is necessary to escort them. She says her entire day is pre-empted by the “deliver and go-fetch” system. It 1s a responsibility that many husbands overlook. To rush about watching clocks. To wait for rains. To catch trains. To wait at traffic lights when the school gong is about to ring and Roger is shouting to hurry. To sit at curbs while Bessie writes her hundred words after school. To go and get; get and gv. Be dressed on time. Service the car. Get Bessie to her music lesson, pick Rog up at the field, take home the bacon and all the time try to keep baby from crawling over the wheel, or from getting into the grapes on the back seat. (Copyright, 1936, NEA Service, Inc.)

Mrs. Paul McNutt

Is to Be Hostess

Mrs. Paul V. McNutt is to be speakers’ table hostess for the Town Hall discussion luncheon Saturday at the Columbia Club. Hugh Walpole, the speaker, is to be introduced at the lecture by Gov. McNutt. At the table are to be Mesdames Val Nolan, W. Richardson Sinclair, William Kunkel, Frank McHale, Sylvester Johnson, Donald Mattison; Misses Mary Sinclair, Grace Woody, Lucy Taggart; Dr. Carleton B. McCulloch and Mr. and Mrs. Harry Miesse.

MRS. R. C. PEBWORTH WILL ENTERTAIN

Mrs. Robert C. Pebworth is to entertain alumnae of the Indiana University Chapter of Pi Beta Phi Sorority at 7:30 p. m. today at her home in °' the Ambassador Apartments. Mrs. Harvey Bordner, who recently returned to Indianapolis after 20 years in the Philippine Islands where Mr. Bordner was Manila schools superintendent, is to be a special guest.

Parents Sponsor Shows Boy Scout Troop 93 Parents Council is to sponsor minstrel shows

at 8 p. m. tomorrow and Friday at

the Pleasant: Run Boulevard Re-. formed Church. Music is.to be provided by the Marion County Recreation Bureau orchestra.

MERIT Shoes for the Family

Thrift Basement Merchants Bank Bldg. ‘Mer. and Wash. Neighborhood Stores: 930 S. Meridian; . 1108 Shelby .

GOOD COOKS KNOW GOOD FOODS TASTE BEST WHEN PREPARED

-chamois (right).

- New leathers and their handling have resulted in smart, practical belts and suspenders for men. Ostrich leather, braided brown cowhide and braided strands of calfskin fashion these belts. The suspenders are made of baby buffalo leather and harness buckles (left);

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COUNTS OPPONENT’S CARDS

Today’s Contract Problem

South has the contract for three no trump. East has won the opening lead and returns the jack of hearts, upon which West plays low.. What card should South play from dum-

my?

(Blind) (Blind)

None vul. Opener—#é J. Solution in next issue.

Solution to Previous Problem

BY WILLIAM E. MKENNEY American Bridge League Secretary

HAD a perfect count on the hand,” is the frequent explanation of an unusually well-played hand. The bidding is one of the things which help in the making of this perfect count. Bidding of suits, for instance, denotes length in them, and rebidding confirms it. It was by means of this “perfect count” that Harry Auslander of Pittsburgh, Pa., one of the bridge stars of that city, who is expected to make a good record at the forthcoming American Bridge League national championship tournament in Chicago the week of Nov. 30, was able to make today’s hand in the

Mary A. Purves to Be Honored With Shower

Miss Mary Alice Purves, bride-to-be, is to receive miscellaneous gifts at a party to be given tonight by

Ryan at Miss Evans’ home, 5311 Central-av. The hostesses are to be assisted by Miss Evans’ mother, Mrs. Frank L. Evans.

Miss Purves is to be married to Russell Brandt Steinhour, son of Mr. and Mrs. Valentine Steinhour, Fostoria, O.,.on Nov. 28 at the First Baptist Church.

Guests with Miss Purves are to be her mother, Mrs. George T. Purves Sr. Mesdames George T. Purves Jr., H. R. Blackburn, Lee Winders, Harold Andrews, Gerald Sage, Misses Ruby Cook, Dorothy Rogge, Helen Irwin, Rocelia Christenson, Alberta Brewer, Helen Nichols, Ruth Shewmon, Lucille Wade, Dorothy Thompson, Lenore Fulk, Sue Andrews and Charlene Winters.

Miss Alice Evans and Mrs. Starlin |

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recent Pennsylvania state tournament at Pittsburgh.

In criticism of the bidding, it might be said that most duplicate players with North's cards would have made a courtesy bid of two spades over one, although the hand is almost barren, and the pass does not affect the final result.

Auslander, sitting in the East position, bid five diamonds with the chance of a possible set, but with the equal chance that the opponents, even against his strength, might make four spades. When South led the king of spades and continued with the ace, Auslander ruffed. He did a little counting.

South, he felt sure, had five spades and five clubs, thus only three red cards. The double marked him with the ace of diamonds.

If South held two diamonds and one heart, the hand could not be made, but if the ace of diamonds was a singleton, then the contract was safe.

Auslander led" a heart to the queen. Then a spade was ruffed and the king of hearts was led. Now a diamond was played and South was up against a stone wall. Any lead he made would give the remaining tricks to East. (Copyright, 1936, NEA Service, Inc.)

CLUB ARRANGES WRITERS’ CONTEST

The Woman’s Press Club of Indiana is to sponsor a members’ short story contest which is to close Jan. 15. Stories of 1000 words or less are to be submitted to Miss Carrie E. Scott of, the Public Library. A question and answer forum on marketing short stories followed Mrs. William J. Dieter’s talk yesterday at the club meeting at the Indianapolis Athletic Club. Mrs. Alvin Hall, Danville, introduced Mrs. Dieter, daughter of Mrs. Dora Culmer, a club charter member. New members introduced included Miss Ann Hall, Irvington Review editor; Miss Katherine Ramsey, Wabash Plain Dealer reporter, and Miss Dorothy Ragan, The Indian-

apolis Times.

Suitable for Bridge . Menu

Spinach May Be Added to Recipe as Desired.

By NEA Service A creole potato soup served in cups, is just what your bridge club needs to improve its playing. This recipe will serve eight. Ingredients: 5 medium potatoes, 1 large onion, 2 quarts water, 1 tablespoon butter, 12 teaspoon celery salt, 4 teaspoon black pepper, 1-3 cup cream. Peel potatoes and slice. Cut onion into pieces. Place in large pot with two quarts boiling salted water. Cook until vegetables are tender, about 20 minutes. Then run the soup through a strainer, forcing the potato and onion through with a heavy spoon. Return to the pot and add the butter and seasoning. Cook about 15 minutes longer, until the mixture begins to turn smooth and creamy. Add the cream, stir, and serve the soup. Sprinkle chopped chives over the top of each cup. For extra richness, put a teaspoon of

whipped cream in each cup just as it starts for the table.

Potato and Spinach Soup

Potato and spinach soup is real= ly the above with chopped cooked spinach added. Use the same ingredients with the exception of the cream. Substitute for the cream 1 cup whole milk. Add 1 cup freshly cooked and chopped spinach during the last 20 minutes of simmering.

Cream of mushroom soup should be right in season now. This recipe makes enough for one table of bridge. Double it if you want to delight two tables. Use 1 pound fresh mushrooms, 2 tablespoons butter, 1 quart whole milk, salt and pepper to taste. For the thickening, use 2 tablespoons butter and 2 tablespoons flour. Wash mushrooms and slice fine, Heat butter, add sliced mush rooms and cook until lightly browned. Add milk, seasoning and bring to boil. In top of double boiler melt 2 tablespoons butter and slowly stir in 2 tablespoons flour, Into this butter and flour paste, slowly strain through sieve the mushrooms and milk which has been brought to a boil. Stir until completely mixed, then cook over hot water until soup thickens to de= sired consistency.

Mary Summers to Be Feted at Shower Tonight

Mrs. John A. Bachl and Miss Ce= celia Wiegand are to entertain tonight with a miscellaneous shower at the latter's home in honor of Miss Mary Mildred Summers, whose marriage to Homer M. Turner is to take place Nov. 14, Appointments are to be carried out in the bridal colors, peach and blue. The hostesses are to be as sisted by Mrs. John Wiegand. Guests, with Miss Summers, are to include Mesdames Clarence Allen, Harold Bowley, Leo Braun, Harold Callon, William Engelking, Lawrence Schneider, Lorence Sheats, Bernard Steinmetz, Ernest Summers, Amine Turner, Fred Wright and Misses Florence Dietz, Erma Ditzenberger, Anastacia Ahlders, Rosemary Soland, Ruth Turner and Helen Wiw.

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