Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 12 October 1936 — Page 7

Husband in Determined Manner, ~ Jane Advises s Discouraged Wite

When Weak Sister Method Fails, Pochniqie in Dealing with Mate Should Be Changed for Better Weapon, Is Belief.

Have you come fo a standstill with your problems? Write to Jane

Jordan for helpful suggestions!

DEAR JANE JORDAN—I am married to a very disa-

greeable man.

I stood it as long as 1 could when

he was so low as to break up our home. 1 was very sick

at the time.

1 sued for a divorce and got it.

1 went to

work again but he would not let me alone. He kept writing to me, spying on me, and begging me to remarry him. As 1 still cared for him, I remarried him nearly two and a half years ago. I am sorry to say that he has made me very unhappy. He has insulted me and called me the worst names pessible. He is cold-

blooded and selfish and will eat up everything, not .

caring whether I have anything to eat or not. He stays out all night without cause, just to be mean.

He has spoken hardly one word to me for a whole -

"week and my feelings are hurt to such an extent that I do not know what to do. Try as I may I _ can’t get over the mean things he said to me. 1

~ can not bring myself to eat at the same table with oa him unless he apologizes. I am a good, clean wife

and do not expect.too much, but this treatment has made me very ill.

Don’t you

Jane Jordan

think there must be something

mentally wrong with him? Would you advise me to have him examined?

DISCOURAGED.

ANSWER—There. is no evidence in your letter of mental unbalance on your husband’s part. The doctors would be quite busy if we had

every one examined who shows signs of cruelty and selfishness.

I

have no doubt that he likes to hurt you, or he would not do it. Therefore, I think you'are wrong to let him see that you are crushed.

Your technique of dealing with him is futile,

To nurse your

hurt feelings in hopes of- an apology and refuse to eat at the same

table with him merely plays into

his hand. It proves to him that

he is stronger than you are and gives him a feeling of power over you. It is all wrong, of course, but it is a pattern you could break if you

would.

Wherever we find a partner who is willing to hurt, we nearly al-

ways fihd another who is willing to be hurt. I do not mean that you consciously elect such a painful role, but only that you use your downtrodden estate to win sympathy for yourself. Since you have no victories to dramatize, you dramatize your defeats. This is not a criticism of you so much as a plea that you forsake the martyr’s role for something more constructive. You do not have to quarrel or be disagreeable to win decent treatment from your hus-

band, but you do have to be firmly insistent upon fairness.

A quiet

but determined attitude carries more weight than tears and illness. It is a great temptation for a woman to rule by weakness, because it takes less effort than strength. It is easier to get sick and “make him feel sorry” than to fight in a quiet, controlled manner. But when weakness fails to get the results you want, isn’t it better to

give strength a chance?

JANE JORDAN.

White Cross Guild to Be Host

to Parents at Nurses’ Home

The mothers and fathers of babies born at Methodist Hospital since May 1, 1935, are to be guests of the WHite Cross Guild Saturday |g

“afternoon at the nurses’ home. All |F

photographs of babies entered in the picture contest are to be on display. Dr. Adan Schweitzer is to speak, and L. S. Ayres & Co. is to display children’s garments. - Dr, Charles Ferguson, retired, is to be honor guest. " Mrs. H. W. Krause, general chairman, has appointed Mesdames W. C. Borcherding and Carl Ploch in charge of registration. Mrs. Allan Ball and Mrs. J. W. Noble are co-chairmen of refreshments; Mrs. Edgar F. Kiser, Miss June Gray and Miss Mary Helen Borcherdine, of favors. Mrs. J.

Lemuel Johnson, assisted by third

vice chairmen of the 25 unit guilds, is to be hostess chairman. Mrs. David Ross has been appointed reception chairman, asby the fallowing: Mesdames “T, McWhirter, W. C. Hartinre Isaac “WwW. Noble, James M. Ogden, Jol . Benson, Charles T. Coy, Allan ‘Ball, Laurence Hayes, Laura Messick, Ambrose E. Pritchard and H. J. Kieser. The schedule of regular White Cross Guild unit meetings for this week in the work rooms follows: Meridian Heights, today; Grace Methodist, tomorrow; Broadway Methodist, Wednesday; Methodist Hospital, Thursday; Riverside Methodist, Friday. The regular meeting of the Temple Sisterhood Flower Guild has been postponed to Oct. 22, Mrs, Arthur Fairbanks, president, has announced.

SURE BID TO

GRAND SLAM

Today’s Contract Prohlem

South has opened the bidding with one heart, West has bid one spade, and North two, spades. Now South shows a minimum hand by bidding two no trump. When North bids five no trump, what response should South make. with his two top trumps?

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Solution in next issue.

BY WM. E. M'KENNEY American Bridge League Secretary es four-five no trump convention is the best known slam . bidding device in bridge. Devel“oped by Culbertson in 1933, its function is to locate aces and certain ‘When both partners have made

FLORENCE E. GIPE . IN DRAMA GROUP

Times Special . SOUTH HADLEY, Mass., Oct. 12. _ «Miss Florence E. Gipe, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. James C. Gipe, 8501 Sing Mill-rd, Indianapolis, has been named a member of the scenery committee of the Mount Holyoke College dramatic club. : Te fr production, “Her Master's Voice,” bY. Claire Kummer, is to

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social affairs. is certain to be a little pause of applause whenever Natalie puts in her appearance at the party. Here she is (above) . . . the leading lady of the evening, and the object of a dozen men’s affections! She $s the typical American “modern” who shops with an eye to saving cash without sacrificing cache. Behold her in a last year’s velvet dinner gown that shows no debits . all credits. She wisely put her money in a simply styled frock of excellent quality and cut that cen be dressed up in numerous ways io give it versatility and still be a leader of fashion.

OW that clothes make no bonss about frank richness, and jewelry has come into its own, the

ning assets to evening clothes, old Or new, The adornments (shown above)

shine like diamonds . .

that pre-war feeling of aristorcratic elegance so sought after these nights Much jewelry is no longer in bad taste, quite the contrary. Sophisticated daytime dresses cry out for handsome jewels at their necklines, their slim waistlines, and cuff lines.

bids, a free four no trump bid shows either two aces and the king of a suit bid by the partnership, or three aces. The response is five no trump if the other player has two

aces or one ace and the kings of all bid suits. Otherwise the sign-off is five of the lowest ranking suit bid by the partnership. When a player holds all four aces, he bids four and then five no trump. He is sure of a chance to bid again because four no trump is a forcing In today’s hand, North's of five no trump showed the ace of clubs and all the kings South needed for a grand slam. (Copyright, 1936, NEA Service, Inc.)

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Safeguard Skin By Using Lotion, Writer Advises

BY ALICIA HART NEA Service Staff Writer

lotions or creams.

If your skin chaps easily and is likely to get red and rough, use makeup to protect as well as beautify. In the morning, after you

face and throat, remove it with =

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glitter with fine cut rhinestones that | . just the! touch bound to give black velvet!

This is the time of year when | every one should use foundation |

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University Women to Entertain 1936 State College Graduates

The 1936 women graduates of Indiana colleges and other state schools who are living in Indianapolis are to be guests of the Indianapolis Branch, American Association of University Women, at a din-rier-meeting at 6:15 p.'m. tomorrow it the Woman's Department Club. The program is to include a summary of opportunities offered by the study and discussion groups for their activities in maintaining educational standards and in development of their educational approach toward solving national and international problems. Mrs. Joseph McCord, Greencastle, Indiana division president, and Mrs. T. G. Wesenberg, Butler University Woman's Council chairman, are to be honor guests. Autumn colors are to be used in decorations. This year’s graduates are to he seated at tables whose hostesses are to include graduates of former years from the same

| colleges.

Mrs. Calvin R. Hamilton, local branch president, is to preside. report is to be given on the seventh conference, International Federa-

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tion of University Women, held recently in Cracow, Portland, and attended by delegates from 34 nations. Mrs. N. Taylor Todd, Indianapolis branch ° retiring president, is to speak on “A. A. UY. W.'as a National Organization.” Mrs. Ian K. Joyce, first vice president, is to summarize the activities of study groups and committees and is to introduce the group chairmen. Mrs. W. Donald Wright is arrangements chairman. Mrs. W. F. Hammel is in charge of decorations and Mrs. James E. Jobes is chairman of hcspitality and hostesses. Hostesses. with Mrs. Jobes are to be Mesdames Todd, O. M. Helmer, Russell R. Hippensteel, David L. Smith, W. L. Richardson, S. W.Benham, Leonard A. Smith, John A. Céjnar and Miss Kathryn M. Bowlby. Dinner hostesses at the tables for 1936 graduates of Indiana colleges and universities are to include: D2 Pauw University, Misses Jane Baltz. Maybelle Hall, Mary Ann Tall and Bertha Leming; Purdue University, Mrs. Walter F. Morton and Miss Ruthanna Carson; Earlham College, Mrs. James E. Sproule and Miss Belle Ramey. Indiana University, Mesdames Paul R. Summers. Gordon W. Batman, Ray H. Briggs, N. T. Washburn and Misses Clara Alma Moore and Mary Rigg; Franklin College, Miss Hazel E. Abbett; Butler University, Mesdames Paul M. Ross, Charles S. Pennewell, Samuel W. McWilliams, B. C. Lewis, Earl M, Koons, J. Edwin Hutchman, Malcolm Mitchell, William Q. Johnson, C. Loren Harkness, Frederick Hunt,

| Horace E. Storer, and Misses Elean-

or Jones, Virginia Goodwin and Lillian Nackenhorst. The state convention of the association is to be held at South Bend May 14 and 15. Announcement was

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"More eg ‘Doctor Writes

Book Points Out Value of Discipline to Health. BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON Dr. Alexis Carrell in his book,

‘“Man the Unknown,” gives a most

astonishing picture of body chemis-

{try and physical forces constantly

at work within us” ‘He also shows how mentality and

character are so interwoven with |:

organic function that what we are

depends upon health. The effort 1s more likely to keep ourselves fit, meaning by the latter that effort is more likely to keep us alive and hearty than a plushy existence of And that self-discipline and frequent restraint of appetites of any kind are conductive to irliny and intelligence. Too Much Help a Hindrance

While I can not begin to convey even a general idea here of an enormous volume, yet I believe this paragraph is something to put into our pipes and smoke, with meditation and profit. One's mind instantly jumps to

-| children. Are our children getting

too “soft” mentally and physically from over-anxiety on. our parts to

-| make life easy. Certainly it refutes

the old notion of “self-expression” that the world went so crazy about some 10 years ago. The idea of the child doing what he pleased, when he pleased and how he pleased.

Of course, the theory was misunderstood by many parents and the extremes practiced were no fault of the founders. Nevertheless, maybe the old-fashioned parent was not so wrong. Perhaps the .children did better than we think under pressure that made them struggle. At least they did develop in spite of their fears and inhibitions. We have learned to modify both practices, and it's high time, too. We have chosen the best from both. One taught that restraint is good, the other that discipline should be trained into the child until it be» comes ‘self-discipline.” Our control and intent to work and work hard, must be instilled in our minds. This, I think, is the Alpha and all the other letters of child training.

Need Benefits of Work

So often I have mentioned the virtue of the “work habit” being ingrained early, that I hate to do so again. Perhaps today’s children

.| work too hard. But in a way they :

don’t work much at all at anything that developls moral fiber. Routine lessons become. second nature. So do hobbies and sports and clubs. They will study, but they grumble at anything else ex-

pected of them. If they could be

taught to turn right cheerfully to a variety of small tasks, without thinking they were killed, this, I believe, would be their best capital all through life. To discipline themselves to take things as they find them and not set their: minds on escape.’ On the other hand, we must. consider many things. Nothing can be more hopeless than the constanty discouraged child. He is growing and needs more rest, food and general happiness than his elders. But the seed of self-help and self-restraint can be planted, Perpetual bossing won't do it. Yet some pressure won't hurt him. So many grow to maturity with the world handed to them. Then suddenly they don't knowhow to compete with those who have learned to hustle and hustie hard. Play is necessary to normalcy at 1, and at 80. Age only changes the kind and amount. But all life has to struggle, and seems to do well under it. Are we speeding our race on its downgrade? Not if we starch up its children. (Copyright, 1936, NEA Service, Inc.) ee ee om 50 4

Delta Gamma Alumnae Plan Buffet Supper

The evening section of Indianapolis Alumnae Chapter of Delta Gamma Sorority is to meet at 6:30 p.m. today for a buffet supper at Mrs. Frank C. Miller's home, 5302 Central-av, Assisting hostesses are to be ‘Mesdames Edwin A. Schulz Jr. Neville

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Misses Pauline Rentsch, mal 2m

and | Jones and Catherine Gilbert. Mrs.

branch presidents of * the state branch Saturday at the Y. W. C. A.

G. 0. P. WOMEN GO TO BROWN COUNTY

Melvin Edward Robbins, president, is to lead the business meeting following. The luncheon section met Saturday at Mrs. Alfred H. Guyot’s home, 5744 N. Delaware-st, with Mesdames William F.

v|Club Sponsors Review of Arts

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DOROTHY BROWN TO BE HOSTESS

Miss Dorothy Ann Brown, 3556 Salem-st, is to be hostess for the meeting of the St. Mary's Alumnae Club of Notre Dame at 6:30 p. m. today. Her assistants are to be Mrs. Robert Meyers and Miss Doro-

% t Li : of Pork Chops Are Revealed Give Them Fling With Pineapple, Tomatoes ‘and Potatoes. By NEA Service = Pork chops can be more than

just that. Give them a fling with pineapple and tomatoes, chaper-

oned by the reliable potato, and

they will reveal undreamed of

friskiness. Take 6 of hem, 11 lbs, Season with salt and pepper, brown lightly in a well a skillet. Park them in a 2-quart earthenware or heat resistant glass utility dish. : Now the fun begins. Over each chop lay one ‘slice of canned pineapple. On top of each slice of pineapple balance a blushing half tomato. Call in 15 very small potatoes, or larger po= tatoes cut into 15 small balls. Are range these in dignified order around the elevated tomatoes. Melt 1 tablespoon butter and. sprinkle

i pit over this gay party and season

lightly with salt and pepper. One more touch of color—2-3 cup pineapple juice added to the utility dish—and into the oven for a hot time. The heat must be moderate and the baking last one hour.

Then Garnish with Peppers

When the chops are done, garnish them with strips of green pepper and hasten them to the table, brilliant, tender, and full of surprise. Pork chops plumped -up with a vegetable ' stuffing—well, read on and see how they taste. Get 8 rib pork chops about 1 inch thick. Tell the butcher you want to stuff them and he will make a cut through the center of each chop. Insert the filling in this “pocket.” To make the filling, combine: 1 cup bread crumbs, 1-3 cup chonped celery, 1-5 cup chopped onion, 1 tablespoon chopped watercress and 1 tablespoon chopped parsley. Season with salt and paprika and moisten with milk. Sew up pocket with thread, brown chops in skil= let, then place in pan. Add 4. cup . whole ' milk, cover, bake in moderate oven until tender and . pungent—about 1 hour. Take the chops from the pan and remove thread. Thicken the drippings with browned flour. And take back what you said about pork chops being

thy Reed.

pretty plain pickings.

J. R. Lowell M’Pherson, Bride

Pherson are on a wedding trip through the South, and are to return after Nov. 1 to live at 327 E Maple-rd. The couple was married yesterday by Dr. W. A. Shullenberger in the Marott Hotel ballroom. A setting of palms and greenery was lighted by tapers in seven branched candelabra, and aisles were marked by satin ribbons. As the couple left for their trip, the Saengerbund double quartet sang “Mutter Gieb Nir Peinem Fagen.” The bride's traveling suit was of gray wool, trimmed with royal blue and worn with royal blue accessories. Her corsage was of orchids. Miss Mae Engle, pianist, and Fred Newell Morris, vocalist, entertained with a musical program. The bride, formerly Miss Ella, Buschatsky, wore a white satin gown, fashioned on princess lines, with a long train and cowl neckline trimmed with seed pearls. The tulle veil joined a seed pearl crown. Her bouquet was of white roses, gardenias and orchids.

Makg Southern Wedding Trip

Mr. and Mrs. J. R. Lowell Mc-¢

The bride’s sister, Miss Lilly Bus. chatsky, as maid of honor, wore a royal blue moire gown and carried roses. Miss Olga Buschatsky, another sister, and Miss Evelyn . Jenner, bridesmaids, appeared in dusty rose moire gowns and carried American Beauty roses. Malcolm M. McPherson, the bride= groom's brother, was best man, and William Buschatsky, the bride's brother, and Thomas J. Kelley were ushers. The bride's mother, Mrs. W. Re Buschatsky, attended in a dubonneb velvet gown trimmed in gold, worn with a gardenia corsage. Mrs. W. H. McPherson, the bridegroom’s mother, wore a navy blue gown and a gardenia and rosebud corsage. A reception for friends and ime mediate families followed the cere=mony. Mr. and Mrs. W. H. Frick and Mrs. Clara Rust, the bridegroom’s grandmother, were among out-of-town guests. The bridegroom is a Butler Uni=versity graduate and Lambda Chi Alpha Fraternity member.

Calendar of

TUESDAY

Kappa Alpha Theta Mothers’ Club. 2:30 p. m., tea, Butler Uni-

versity active chapter house. New pledges’ mothers, honor guests. Miss Helen Cade, Mesdames Walter Krull, Thor Wesenberg and J. W. Putnam, talks. Miss Margaret Wells, songs, accompanied by Misses Bettie ‘Davenport and Ruth Rehm. Mrs. Walter Holt, chairman. University Heights W. C. T. U. 2 p. m. Mrs. Emma Miller, hostess. The Rev. Jonas E. Collins; speaker. Mrs. Ethel Gilliatt, Indiana Central College, music. Highlights of county institute, members. ‘Delta Gamma Mothers’ Club. 1 p. m. luncheon, Butler University active chapter house. New pledges’ mothers, honor guests. Mrs. S. Douglas Bash, speaker. Mesdames J. W. Mull, R. G. Fisher, J. P. Saatz, W. H. Rohr, E. K. Shepperd and A. hostesses.

eeting. Independent Social. 12:30 p. m Mrs. Hattie Ryder, 10182 N. New Jersey-st, hostess. Covered dish luncheon. Alpha Delta Latreian. Mrs. Paul use, assistant. Mrs. EW. Emery,

Artemas Club. Mrs. George Stiles; hoctess; business

Club Events

p. m., luncheon; Mrs. W. T. Chafee, -3360 N. Meridian-st, hostess. Irvington Friendship Circle; Mrs, M. V. Stevenson, hostess; Mrs. A, W. Schmaadeke, assistant.

Irvington Tuesday Club. Mrs. C. H. Winders, hostess. Mrs. F. S. Chiles, “Katharine Cornell.” Mrs, Russell Bosart, “Katherine ‘Hepburn.” Mrs. F. S. Bowlby, “Have the Movies Destroyed the Taste for the Legitimate Drama?” Meridian Heights Inter Se Club, Mrs. E. C. Rubush, hostess. Mrs, F. M. Lytle, assistant. hostess. Mrs, C. H. Beach, “Creative Writing.” Mrs. J D. Thacker, “White Bane ners.”

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