Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 10 October 1936 — Page 4
Daughter Learn Slowly, Mother Urged
ane Says Child Suffers From Too-Ambitious Parent.
Jane Jordan will help you with your Problems by her answers to your letters in this column.
EAR JANE JORDAN— Will you help a mother who is very anxious about her daughter who has just entered high school at the age of 13 years and 1 month? She 35 counted as an A student, is very book crazy and loves music and art. ‘Wouldn't you think she would have a refined manner? She doesn’t act natural at all when out with people. I have often talked to her but ‘she says, “Mother, I can’t help it. I know I act queer and it j makes me so nervous.” She seems to me to have a superior bluffing way. She doesn’t act hateful and nasty, but is always 80 awkward and vain. She is a very sweet, quiet girl at home, not boy crazy at all, and has no secrets from me. She is thrown with an older crowd all the time, as she skipped her first year in school. I feel sorry for her, as her ambi- _ tion in life is so high. Of course, the trouble is that her parents are very badly crippled in their own manners, although we try to correct each mistake we make. My education is very poor as I was left an orphan and my husband has shifted for himself since he was 13 years old. Could a book be found in a public library to read on manners? Can she learn from a book how to walk and carry herself, how to talk, take a joke, a compliment or a sharp word without returning one? I want her to have a large circle of friends and not settle down to any certain boy, get serious and marry when young. I will be looking for an answer in your column. MY DAUGHTER'S MOTHER. ANSWER—There are plenty of books to be found in the library on the subject you want. You will find them listed under such titles as “The Psychology of Dealing With People,” “The Psychology of ~ Getting Along with People,” “More Zest for Life,” and so on. They ay prove helpful, providing your daughter feels the urge to seek them out for herself instead of accepting them because you make her think she should. You are so anxious and sincere that I hesitate to tell you that I believe this little girl suffers most from an over-am-bitious mother. It is natural for parents who have had nothing themselves to wish to give every advantage te their children. A woman who has failed to realize her own ambitions is apt to “search for personality fulfillment through her daughter. The trouble is that such over- ~ weening ambitions often put too ~ much pressure on the child. The . struggle to live up to what the par- ~ ents expect produces the nervous strain and confusion which we find in your daughter. Because of her prowess in school, ~ your daughter has been thrown ~ with older children. The strain of . keeping up with them accounts for ~ her bluffing attitude. She never ‘has been on a comfortable basis of : equality with her playmates. She ~ must have suffered a great deal from timidity and inferiority feelings. ~~ If you can bring yourself to let the little girl completely alone, I honestly believe she would find her own niche in life . more readily. Don’t criticize; encourage! Don’t call attention ~ to her defects; compliment her achievements! Let her have plenty of time to play with other children of 13. With them - she won't feel the necessity of bluffing her way. She has been pushed too fast. Like a baby who is urged to walk before it has learned the trick of “balance, she is awkward and clumy. Give her a rest. Let her be a ittle girl for a while longer. Pershe will learn how to be a lady more easily if she does t feel the pressure of your own xiety. JANE JORDAN.
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DGE-LUNCHEON ARTY ARRANGED
—--Photo by Noble Bretzman,
BY MARJORIE BINFORD WOODS Times Fashion Editor
ACK from the casual simplicities of rough and ready summertime clothes, women are plunging into the pomp and circumstance of the
gala winter months. The world moves forward into quality and fashion are the primary Fur-trimmed coats are not to be overlooked in this new trend. In princess and semi-princess styles, they wrap your waistline nedtly, and come out with just the right flare from the hips. Masses of longhaired furs characterize the new
dress coats and form a flattering |
frame for your face. ” J »
HE young lady (above), who gazes ahead so enchantingly, is dressed for the most formal of daytime occasions. Her coat is of a soft, nubby fabric -in coal black with cape of fox, swirling to the waistline. There is a certain new swing to the body of the coat even though it is closely fitted. The velvet -hat tops the crown of her head and stands high in front with ribbon ends rampant. Antelope gloves, shoes and bag with silver fastening complete the all black costume which is a lavish manifestation of the winter mode, as it will be seen when the snow flies.
Mothers S; Sponsor Party
Butler University Newman Mothers’ Club is to sponsor a bridge party and fashion show on Tuesday, Oct. 27, at Ayres’ auditorium. Mrs. E. P. Brennan is chairman.
Today’s Pattern
OU just can't go wrong with a two-piece dress like this one (No. 8703). From its belted jacket with peplum effect to the skirt with kick pleats fore and aft, it is the last word in fashion. If you want puffed sleeves they are also provided with the pattern. Use silk print, silk crepe, or satin. Patterns are sized 12 to 20: 30 to 38 bust. Size 14 requires 4% yards of
39-inch material with short sleeves.
With long sleeves 47%; yards. . To secure a PATTERN BY-STEP
SEWING INSTRU :
a new era of luxury where beauty, considerations;
Club Meetings
MONDAY
Irvington Circle, Child Conservation League of America. Mrs. Harry Lindstaedt and Mrs. John. Gainey, hostesses. Miss Ida E. Conner, “Learning to Live with Other Children.” Municipal Garden’s Women's Department Club. Hospital Day. 11 a. m. business meeting. 11:55 p. m. breakfast. Mrs. William A. Oren, hostess. Dr. George J. Garceau, speaker. Music, Seventh District Federation of Clubs’ chorus. Riley Hospital occupational therapy department ‘exhibit. Indianapolis Literary Club. D. A. R. chapter house. Hilton U. Brown, “The British Dead After the Battle of New Orleans.” Present Day Club. Guest Day. Mrs. C. A. Royse, program. Hostesses, Mesdames H. E. Daugherty, C. A. Cook, P. A. Cooling, Ernest Rupel, W. H. Schmidt, R. C. Scott. Welfare Club. 12:30 o'clock lunchleon. Quaint Inn, Allisonville-rd. | Business meeting and social hour. | II Jamalie Club. 7:30 p. m. Mrs. Edward A. Soltau, 837 Middle-dr, Woodruff-pl, hostess, Mrs. F. B. Mc- | Neely, assistant. | Epsilon Sigma Omicron. Mrs. | Arthur R. Dewey, review, “Freedom | of the Press.” Mrs. Helen T. Brown, | review, “North to the Orient.” Mrs. | Merritt: Woolf and Mrs. R. Lambert, | discussion leaders.
| Cervus Club. Claypool. | business, 2 p. m., bridge.
l1 p.m.
| J. Richter, hostess.
Chapter G, P. E. O. Sisterhood, Y.W. C. A.; 5 p. m, supper; 6 p. m, meeting. Initiation. Mrs. Mabel Smith, president.
Roebuck Co.; 1:30 p. m. Mrs, Irvin Yeagy, president. Women's Society, Indianapolis Florists, Antlers. 8 p. m. Mesdames | Charles Randail, Robert Fohl, Miss Lela Randall, hostesses.
|1 p. m. luncheon. Mrs. { Grosbach, hostess. Mrs. | Little and Mrs. Arthur McCom- | mons, assistants. Pi Beta Phi Mothers’ Club. 1 p. m. luncheon. Sorority house, 831 W. Hampton-dr. Pasquale Mon-
| tani, harpist. Mrs. Karl Monninger, | P.'
| “Switzerland.” Mrs. Jasper | Scott, the Gatlinburg (Tenn.) Set- | tlement School. Mothers of new pledges honor guests. Inter Arts. ' Guest party. Mrs. { John W. Hillman, 5009 Guilford-av, | hostess. Miss Elizabeth Xing, ! assistant;. Mrs. Maurice Klefeker. | program chairman; Mrs. Marian F. i Gallup, ; Speaker,
Club Is to Hea Talk by Traveler
James C. Wilson, traveler, writer and lecturer, is to talk on “Let's Hitch-Hike From Bombay to Bangkok” at the first general club meeting of the Woman's Department Club at 2 p. m. Wednesday. A musical program is to be presented by Miss Margaret Klapp, accompanied by Miss Lucile Wagner.
Katharine are to be tea
Tungheon | TIONS, ihiclae 15 cents in coin te- Mon
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Time and Care
to Gain Beauty
+ Held Essential
BY ALICIA HART NEA Service Staff Writer In addition to regular cleansings, manicure, shampoo and brushing routines, almost every beautyminded woman has to allow several extra minutes per week for special treatments to correct whatever individual defect she happens to have. 5 The girl with sallow, brownish blotches = about her mouth must allow time to smooth on a good bleaching cream two or three times a week. One with troublesome blackheads or other skin blemishes will be able to clear them up only if she follows carefully a special night-after-night treatment. Excessively oily hair requires more than a simple nightly brushing. A double chin or a scrawny neck call for exercises. Budget the time you intend to de-
| vote to improving your appearance
acording to the best rules for perfect grooming, taking into consideration the flaws which are annoying. One with oily hair should plan to brush vigorously for five minutes, Jhen to cover the bristles with clean cotton and brush for another five. Incidentally, this is a new trick, and many operators find that it removes oil in more satisfactory manner than a powdered cleanser or plain corn meal. You simply take a handful of cotton, rub it across the brush, letting the bristles catch several patches of it. These remove oil
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from the hair and cleanse the | scalp more thoroughly. When the cotton looks soiled and ' oily, remove it with a comb and put a fresh supply on the brush. Repeat several times. Next morning, notice how much lovelier your hair
‘is and how much easier tn arrange, Federation of Mothers’ Choruses, |
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Patent Leather in Tan ! The yokel ridiculed for wearing tan shoes with evening clothes will feel less silly after seeing : the brownish-maroon patent leather ox- ! fords for evening wear Sisplayed by ia New York shop.
Every Child |
Should Know Many Things, ‘Parents Ought to Teach
Kiddie His Name and Address First.
BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON
There are so many things every child should know. Things he is never too little to know. Just about the first thing is his full name, his street and number and his.town. In this day of motoring I don't hesitate to add. his state also. : More important still, however, is his father’s name. Full name. and his mother’s full name. If the child ever wanders away, or is lost, or abducted and - abandoned, as occasionally happens, his own name will mean little, especially if he can not remember his address. The next thing he should be taught is to use a telephone. If this sounds silly, suppose you live in the country or any detached community and are alone day after day with him. If you are taken suddenly ill, or are hurt, he could quite easily learn to lift the receiver, and by pre-arranged lessons, call the nearest neighbor or operator and summon help. The child of five can do it nicely, unless you have a dial phone.
Plan Emergency Action
So many mothers are alone all day with a single child in the house that some definite emergency plan should be agreed upon. He should, for example, be able to unlock the front or back door. Third, he should be put on his guard against any and all strangers. Once, when motoring, we passed a little fellow struggling up a hill with a heavy basket, in the hot sun. He was so little and looked so done up. We stopped and I said, “We can take you home if you are not afraid to go with us. I'm sure your mother wouldn’t mind.” He was very polite, but said very positively, “No, thank you. I'm not allowed in any one’s car.” “Sonny,” I said, “you stick to that. You're a very good boy indeed.”
worthy, and so does my husband. But no one who did not look trustworthy would be fool enough to try to entice a child. So I repeat. Tell each child never to go in a stranger’s car. And never to leave school with a stranger, no matter what he says, or she says.
Make Sure Child Knows
Most of these suggestions may seem superfluous to mothers. And for a fact they are. But here lies the trouble. It is so easy to say to oneself, “I must tell Johnny tomorrow about remembering his name and address,” Or, “I think he knows never to go any place with a stranger or into a strange house.” My idea in writing is merely a reminder to make sure now that he knows these things. The child of three or’ four can have far more things impressed on him than we think. The child of five is a real person, ‘indeed. He can do'a whole lot of things you don’t dream possible.’ Don’t wait until an emergency comes to test him. In a measure, the child can be prepared. (Copyright. 1936, NEA Service, hd
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ANNOUNCEMENT OF | BETROTHAL MADE,
During Miss Emmaline - Ruth Bailey’s visit here with Mr. and Mrs. James H. Dunne this weekend, her engagement to Mr. and Mrs. DPunne’s son, John Borough Dunne, Washington and Indianapolis, was announced. Miss Bailey, Lewistown, Pa. is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. George A. Bailey, Newport, Vt. : The wedding is to take place Nov. 27 in the Newport Methodist Episcopal Church. Miss Bailey is a Boston University graduate and graduate of the Simmons College School of Social Work, Boston. Mr. Dunne attended Butler and Columbia Universities.
20TH ANNIVERSARY TO BE CELEBRATED
Chapter 20, Women's Organization, National Retail Druggists, is to celebrate its 20th anniversary with
a luncheon Tuesday at the Snively | tearoom. The tables are to be decorated with yellow and white flowers and candles. Each place is to be marked with large yellow dahlias. Mrs. W. C. Freund is hostess | chairman, assisted by Mesdames Edward Ferger, A. F. Johnson, N. H. Deal, L. C. Rush, Albert Fritz and H. J. Borst. Mrs, O. A. De Loste is to preside |
at the business meeting.
‘ASKING BID’ STOPS SET
Today’s Contract Problem
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ANSWER TO PREVIOUS PROBLEM
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Bag and Hat Accessories Mach
The figures on the right hand side of the menu hold less terror - for any one who wears one of the new self-confidence-giving matching bag and hat accessory sets. This one, in lovely guardsmen’s blue, features a casual hat with manipulated crown and an envelope bag of
identical felt.
Claims Modern
Enhances Beauty of Homes
Furniture
This is the third of a series of weekly articles by Elsie De Wolfe (Lady Mendl), world famous expert on interior decoration.
BY ELSIE DE WOLFE Written for NEA Service
I think modern is the only new;
thing in interior decoration and, therefore, the rhost interesting. Its introduction in America a decade ago was a most unfortunate cne. It came in, in silver and black and metal, in odd shapes and forms, and immediately was tabooed by people of discernment. In this early modern, stress was laid so heavily on form that color and texture suffered. It was labeled “modernistic” and people dismissed its importance as g new trend in the decoration of interiors. We have had so much “modernistic“ in this country that it is necessary, from an educational point of view, to niake a distinction between “modernistic” and modern. Good modern furniture is so designed that it may be placed with that of other periods without losing caste. It has a chasteness of line, design and color that makes ake It
Club Will Hear Dr. G. J. Garcgau
Dr. George J. Garceau, Riley Hospital staff member, is to speak at the Municipal Gardens Woman’s Department Club breakfast at 11:55 a. m. Monday at the clubhouse. Mrs. Winifred Kahmann is, to exhibit handicraft from the Riley occupational therapy department, and Mrs. William Bartholomew is tor talk on the Community Fund. Music is to be provided by the Seventh District Federation of Club’s chorus and Pasquale Montani, harpist. Special guests are to include Mrs. Andrew: Porter, Riley Hospital Cheer Guild founder; Mrs. C. D. Vawter, guild president, and Mrs. William D. Bain, hospital kindergarten director. At the club's recent flower show, prizes were awarded to Mrs. H. P. Willworth for the All-American giant zinnia; Mrs. O. R. Stevens, for the artistic shade of allAmerican giant‘zinnia; Mrs. J. W. Walters, for the greatest number of perfect flowers scored, and Mrs. Clifford Horney, for the most per- | fect flower of any one variety.
Honored With Dinner Party
Mr. and Mrs. Henry C. Atkins Jr.
i | entertained with a dinner party last
night in honor of Miss Katharine Malott Brown and Wilson Mothershead, who are to be married late this month.
Other guests were Messrs. and
| Mesdames Volney Malott Brown, John E. Hollett Jr.
Charles A. Greathouse Thomas Madden, Stanley W. Shipnes; Miss Eunice Dissette, Mrs. Henderson Wheeler, Miss Josephine Madden, Thomas PF, Ruckelshaus, Thomas R. Kackley and Hiram Wasson McKee.
SECOND OF BINGO
PARTIES PLANNED
The second in a series of bingo parties sponsored by the Zonta Club is to be held at 8:15 p. m. Wednes-
(Copyright, 1936. NEA Service, Inc.)
charming to look at and comfortable and practical to live with. True, it is in an evolutionary stage today, out it will have its place in the history of tomorrow. Suit Your Own Taste
If you are building new home, you should make a study of good modern. Choice of furniture is no longer a matter of formula. If you are a person of individuality, your personality should be expressed in your heme. You wouldn't select an automobile of ancient vintage. You live in a country that is as modern as the next moment. Recently, I designed an exhibition of interiors that included both the traditional and the modern. Two out of five of these interiors were modern. The most important was a modern drawing room. The modern drawing room was given a very unusual appearance by
|Lamb Ragout
Suggested as * Unusual Dish
Ring of Rice Adds New Touch to Serving of Meat.
By NE 4 Service > Lamb ragout in a rice border makes a delicious dinner. It is ine expensive, too. Although the price of meat fluce tuates almost daily, the recipe serve ing six, was made recently using 34 pounds of shoulder lamb (ine cluding bones and all) which made 12 pounds of clear meat. The lamb cost 92 cents.
Lamb Ragout for 6
12 pounds lean shoulder lamb cups canned tomatoes 1 small onion 3 tablespoons flour teaspoons salt 2 teaspoon pepper 112 cups cold water The meat should be trimmed neatly and, when cut into small cubes about one inch square, there should be 12 pounds
Put the bones and trimmings in-
| to a large saucepan, add cold water
to cover and let stand for 30 mine utes. Then bring it slowly to the boile ing point and simmer for 30 minutes. Strain. Brown the meat cubes in a hot, well greased frying pan and then place the meat in a large baking dish. Add the tomatoes, onion, minced, salt, pepper and the broth in which the bones were cooked, to the meat, Cover the dish and cook for about 112 hours in a moderate (350) oven. While the meat is baking, prepare the rice for the ring.
~ Rice Ring for Six
1 cup raw rice 1 teaspoon salt 1 egg yolk 3 tablespons melted butter Pepper Take a large Kettle, and pour inte it about two quarters (eight cups) of water, let it come to a boil, add the salt and pour in the rice. Boil exactly 20 minutes. Drain off the water. Now pour cold water through the rice in a sieve. This is done to remove the excess starch. Grease a ring-mold thoroughly. Mix the beaten egg yolk, melted butter and a little pepper with the rice and press all very firmly into the ring mold. ’ Set the mold in a pan of hot water and bake in the oven 25 to 30 minutes. Unmold and put the meat inn the center of the ring. To the gravy in the baking dish add the flour which has been mixed ° to a smooth paste with a little cold water. Let it come to a boil and then pour it over the ragout.
the use of decorative plaster work in the form of a modern cornice | treatment with plaster draperies applied to the four corners of the | room. At one end, niches were built ang filled with plaster basrelief in the form of large flower vases with naturalistic treatment of flowers in plaster radiating from them. The vases were softly electrified indirectly. The walls were contrasted tothe severe whitness of the plaster by a soft gray painted treatment. A steel gray carpet covered the floor and transparent lemon yellow gauze curtains gave a note of color at the windows. At each end of the room, large pieces of furniture were strategically placed and from these pieces, colorful chairs and tables disseminated. Large and small wall pieces and occasional tables were made of stripped pine. Of the many interesting pieces in the room, perhaps the most outstanding were an electrified glass ‘table, a chartreuse sofa, a cream lacquer tray table, a tall mirror screen and a large flower painting by James Reynolds. I think modern is so important that it dominates plans recently completed for a new home in Scarborough-on-Hudson, New York. The exterior of the house is to be modern Regency, planned so as not to depart too far from the type of exterior in the neighborhood.
NEXT—Interesting homes TY have decorated for famous persons.
LEGION UNIT GROUP TO HAVE MEETING
The junior group, Bruce P. Robison Unit, American Legion Auxili- | ary, is to meet at 1:30 p. m. today | at the home of its sponsor, Mrs. ‘Fred M. Wolf, 836 N. Tuxedo-st.: The following officers have been installed: Misses Margaret Collman, president; Helen Buenaman, vice president; Irene Ulrey, secretary; Mary Ellen Scott, assistant secretary; Betty Lou Hasselbring, sergeant-at-arms; Betty Jean Scott, assistant sergeant-at-arms; Olivine Buenaman, chaplain; Mary Maxwell, assistant chaplain. The post and unit are to give a weiner roast tomorrow afternoon at the Knightstown Home in honor of Divisions 29 and 30, which they sponsor. The Knightstown Home committee is to be in charge of arrangements. Those on the committee are Mesdames Ellis McCammon, chairman, Arthur Baron, Fred Hansing, Ralph Lynch, A W. Schrand and Ray Parsons.
If you like, 2 cups of diced raw carrots or two cups of green peas | may be added to the meat during the last half hour of the baking. An average-sized mold serving six, you will find, won't have a large enough hole in the center to hold the meat. In that case, fill it once and then refill it with the meat again, kept very hot.
Etiquette
By PATRICIA
HIP ETIQUETTE (Continued)— It is necessary, unless the traveler has a room with a bath, to fix a regular time each day for the use of the bathroom. These arrangements are made with. the bathroom steward. There is no set rule for tipping, but for an Atlantic crossing on an average line, in an average stateroom, tips should be somewhat like this: Table steward, about $3; cabin steward, about $3; bath steward and deck steward, $1 each; social hall, library, smokingroom and “boots” steward, about 50 cents each. Of course, it depends on whether you have received service from these people. Tips are not given until the end of the voyage. DRESS—Every one .dresses for dinner, but it is never correct to wear formal evening dress. Women should wear dinner dresses, without hats, and men may wear dinner coats, but never the tailcoat. At other times, women generally dress in street clothes, or semi-sports costumes. Warm coats are necess sary. The dress depends on the time of the year and the trip.
ARRANGE EVENT FOR MISS ZIVIEN
Mr. and Mrs. James Zivien, 426 B. 49th-st, are to receive informally tomorrow afternoon and evening in honor of their daughter, Miss Mollie Zivien, wh engagement to Lester Strauss has n announced. . Mr. Strauss’ parents are Mr. and Mrs. Charles Strauss, Chicago. No invitations have been issued te Full-Fashioned
the reception. HOSIERY 44.
Kinney’s Shoe Store 138 East Washington Street
Ladies’ Silk
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