Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 7 October 1936 — Page 14
40-Year-Old Woman Whose Husband Philanders Seeks
Solution for Lonely Hours
~ Jane Advises Her to Read ‘Life Begins at 40’ E and Start Five-Year Plan of Self-Development.
If you, Reader, are a woman of 40 or more, how have you found
your satisfactions?
Write a letter to this column sharing your experi-
ences with those who have found no use for their time! :
DEAR JANE JORDAN—Is everything over for us 40-
year-old women?
I have raised two children to adulthood and have one at home ready for high school.
My
recent years have been busy ones, doing a good job of being wife and mother. Now I have just learned that my husband is having an affair with another woman. 1 have talked to him and he tells me if I don’t like it to divorce him, but I hesitate to rob our youngest child of his home and parents. I can not feel that this situation is the result of any laxity on my
part, for I have tried to do my share,
My husband
refuses me money so of course I am handicapped for funds to pursue any course whatsoever, .
I enjoy almost any kind of recreation, and humor overrides sadness and heartaches in my disposition. I have few friends because I can’t have the clothes and other things it takes to keep up with them. Tell me how can I pass the lonesome hours I find
on my hands? on the shelf?
Are we 40-year-olds supposed to sit How can we come back to life after the dormant years devoted to a family?
BEE.
ANSWER: You should read Walter Pitkin's “Life
Jane Jordan
Begins at Forty.”
At 40 a woman is still young
enough to enjoy life and old enough to have some sense about it. You seem to regard 40 as the Ultima Thule instead of a new point of
departure.
Your girlhood is gone, but what makes you feel that there
is no pleasure to be gained from maturity?
Your husband, no doubt, suffers from the same viewpoint.
Unable
to part with youth gracefully, he seeks to rekindle its fires with a
fresh romance.
You have a right to object, but you are wise in refus-
ing to tear up your home before you are sure the spell will not pass. , The man is reluctant to say “yes” to middle age, and he has
taken flight from the monotony of familiar loves and faces.
If
you stand by with sympathy and understanding, careful not to widen the breach between you by recriminations and remarks which belittle, you may save the deeper values upon which your
home is established.
Middle age is not a curse, not a tragedy. Like every other period of life it has its problems, its pleasures, its compensations and above all its opportunities. No woman who has kept her home and brought
up children can be -said to have lived a dormant life.
The chances
are that you have accumulated more wisdom and built up more strength than you think. There are a thousand ways in which to put this knowledge and strength to work.’ Do not stay too close to your own hearth, but learn to be useful to people outside your own family. It is an excellent idea to adopt a hobby such as knitting, gardening, paintings, writing, or any form
_ of craftsmanship. Adopt a profession if you need money.
To say
yon have no preparation for earning is only an evasion. - I know one woman of 40, without training for business, who put her housekeeping knowledge to use in writing advertising copy for home furnishings, another who ran a column of menus for a magazine, another who worked out a budget for relief workers, still another who succeeded at interior decorating, and another who built a
reputation for fine candies.
Start now on a five-year plan of self-development.
Seek. out those
qualities which will give a meaning to life. With your increased leisure
- and widened sympathies you can disc self which you never suspected, provi
lessness or pessimism.
er latent powers within yourd you do not lapse in the useJANE JORDAN.
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SOLUTION TO PREVIOUS PROBLEM BY WM. E. M'KENNEY American Bridge League Secretary SING the new “asking bids” of the Culbertson System, even a beginner can reach those slams formerly called unbiddable by experts. As the name implies, a bid is used to ask for, rather than to convey, information. Whenever a suit has been agreed upon, by a raise, for example, a
Etiquette
By PATRICIA : SPORTS AND EMBARKATION PERMITS—Persons desirous of obtaining American passports should go in person to the clerk of the nearest Federal Court or to a Government Passport Agency with the following documents: So Evidence of American citizenship. If a native-born citizen, a birth certificate or an affidavit by an older relative should be presented. If a naturalized citizen, the certificate . of naturalization should be presented. If a native born citizen ‘has in his possession a passport issued subsequent to November, 1916, by the State Department at Washington, this passport may be used as evidence of his American citizenship. Passports issued subsequent ~ to 1918 must be returned with application. A married woman must . submit evidence of her husband's ~ American citizenship. A widow or ~ divorcee is priviledged to retain the _ citizenship- of her husband, or may revert to her original citizenship. A person born abroad of native-born ts, must submit evidence of father's birth. It is mecessary to have two photographs of the aption showing the face clearly. must not be larger than 3 by es.
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Assume that the bidding has South, 1 spade; North, 3 spades; South, 4 clubs (the asking
bid). If North has the ace of clubs (or a club void) he bids five clubs: with a singleton or the king of clubs and an outside ace, he bids the ace (skipping, if it happens to be the ace of trumps); but with two or more small clubs he signs off by returning to four spades. In today's hand, any player who held South’s cards would entertain mild slam ambitions upon obtaining a double raise. But without the asking bids it would be impossible for him to find out that his partner has exactly the cards needed for the slam—the ace of diamonds and the Kking or a singleton club. In the Culbertson System, however, South's four club bid asks specifically for the king ‘of clubs or its short suit equivalent, a singleton. North also must yield information about his aces. South is prepared to play the hand at game, unless North shows exactly the cards that South needs for a slam. Since the four diamond response does that, South
bids the slam without hesitation. (Copyright, 1936. NEA Service, Inc.)
TEA IS TO HONOR MISS EDNA MUIR
Miss Edna L. Muir, a new Methodist deaconess, is to be honored at a tea following a meeting of the Woman's Auxiliary, City Council and Church Extension Society, Friday at the Fletcher Place Church. Miss Muir has come from Lincoln, Neb., where she served as yeligious education director at the First M. E. Church. : Mrs. H. D, Terry is to preside at the program, which is to include devotional service led by Mrs. L. T. Freeland; songs by Mrs. Frank Nelson and a talk by Mrs. John Benson on her experiences in Marseilles and Palma de Mallorca. Mrs. John F. Kerr is party chairman.
A ————————————— Anniversary Is Observed Twentieth anniversary of the Irvington Chautauqua Club was observed recently with a luncheon at Cifaldi’'s. Mesdames Katherine C. Payne, Mayam Findley, W. O, Terry and I L. Miller, founders, hon-
Top Hat, Til:
and White Tie
Fashionable for Formal Wear
—Times Photo by Wheeler.
BY MARJOEIE BINFORD WOODS
Times RUMPETS! Fanfare!
Enter . .
Fashion Editor
. the official fall season of top hat, tails and white tie!
Ushered in by Louis Lowe, popular ork leader (above) who is setting the pace for formal dress for the opening dance of the season at the Indianapolis Athletic Club Satiirday night. With feminine finery for evening taking on such an air of luxury this fall it behooves the men of the social world to dress “within an
inch of their lives” to keep apace,
“formal” nothing less than full dress is in order.
When an occasion is indicated as Dinner jackets are
not considered correct attire for formal occasions even though common usage has made them permissible in many circles.
Today’s Pattern
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inch fabric; No. 2 requires 1 yard of 39-inch fabric; No. 3 requires
1% yards of 39-inch fabric, and No.
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Midnight blue is the tyrant of the new evening clothes. Corded silk of the same™ color is being used for lapels and trouser stripes ing place of satin, in many instances. # un 3 ING collars are higher - this season but offer a wider wing spread for the comfort of men who object to evening clothes on the basis of stiff collars. Pearl studs and cuff links are favored by Mr. Lowe for dress wear and are always
| good, although jeweled studs are | also finding favor among men who | wish to vary their evening jewelry.
The return of gold watch chains for formal wear is seen this season. Mr. Lowe’s log chain is a family heirloom of which he is especially proud. , The collapsible opera hat is a perfect complement to the well-turned out ensemble. The corded silk topper follows the dictates of the season and is made with a low crown and narrow brim. Capes are the last word for cutting a real swath. This one is of midnight blue broadcloth with lining of luxurious wine-colored satin. White kid gloves and plain-toed black Russian calf shoes complete the picture of what the well-dressed man should wear to be above: reproach at the snootiest affair.
Club to Observe: 19th Anniversary
The Amica Club’s nineteenth anniversary is to be celebrated at a meeting tonight at Mrs, B. C. Everhart’'s home. Mrs. Frank Richards, a charter member, is to give a resunie of the club history. = = Also on the program are to be Mrs. Paul ‘Ameter, soloist; Elaine Everhart and Robin Sims, violinists, accompanied by Miss Geraldine Wright. : ’ " Mrs. Robert Shank is to be in charge of the study, and papers on the subject are to be read by Mesdames Don Stewart, Roy Egbert and Walter Enoch. Mrs. Martin Doaper is to assist at the social our. : .
amily Data Is Important,
Writer Says|
Special Box Suggested as| |B
Best, Place for Records. BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON
There should be a special book or box for saving family docu-
ments in every house. The old |
Bible with its carefully written records was, for centuries, a regular bureau of vital statistics. To this
day, half of us would know nothing about our forebears had not GreatGrandfather John laboriously penned the date of every birth, wedding and death. I say ‘“centuries” advisedly, because I have an cld Bible, several hundred years of age, that tells about the Jameses
and Elizabeths of an English fam- |
ily, and all their kin. Today, most parents depend on
‘| the recorder’s office or the Bureau of
Vital Statistics to keep account of births, deaths and marriages. They say complacently that any time they want information about a certain event, all they have to do, or their children after them, is to write to the capital or county seat and get the desired facts. 7g
How Facts Go Astray But while this is true enough in a way, there are some things to keep in mind. One is that parents may move to another state soon
after a child's birth, not mention
the town the child was born in and then die before the boy (or gir
becomes curious enough to inquire |,
about his own history. Then in later years he won't know where to apply for the information. He may
| be -able to follow it up easily from
hearsay and the information of friends. But suppose his birth has not been registered at all, as happens still in many place. never know his history then. And friends, in time, can forget. It is surprising how many times; in later life, and @&specially now, with ‘international lines tightening, a birth certificate is required, or
at least some authentic record of |
time and place. Particularly place. So I advise every mother and father to see that the baby is registered at birth and a duplicate certificate given to them. . Then, this copy should be either secured in an album or put away with other family papers in a metal box, labeled, and kept in a safe place.
Other Facts Interesting
It is a splendid idea to write down the names of as many rela-
tives, near and distant, as you can
remember. Some day your children will be intensely interested, if not now. Put in marriages and relatives by marriage, and of course, all deaths with dates and places. Such matters are the child's right. More material for your private safety box. All valuable papers, such as your wedding certificate, should be cherished. Also insurance papers, army discharge papers, titles to property and leases. Indeed, any and all papers that you need to put your hand on at a moment’s notice. I could gp on indefinitely, but every parent knows what he considers valuable. It never hurts to have: duplicates of everything, no matter where else they are recorded. Wills, above everything, should have a place and stay there. You won't live forever. Even if you do live to be a hundred, you may move a dozen times and it is better to take history. right with you. Your children will thank you some day for leaving your house in order and saving them perhaps embarrasment and a great deal of
trouble in years to come. ! (Copyright. 1936. NEA Service, Inc.) a
Peace Is Subject of Contest for Literary Society
The Indiana branch, National League of American Pen Women, is to feature a literary contest among its members throughout the state this year, Mrs. Blanche Graham Williams, contest chairman, has announced. Any member may compete with
any literary form of prose or verse |
on the subject “Peace.” Only one entry may be made. Manuscripts are limited to 1500 words. The contest opened Oct. 5 and is to close Jan. 9. Awards are fo be made at the regular meeting to be held Feb. 20. One cent a word is to be allowed for the first prize and one-half cent a word for the second prize. Three honorable mentions are to be made. Rules and regulations are to be printed on the back of the yearbook which is now being published. Mrs. Emma Sangernebo is local branch president.
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Irvington Church Women Schedule Tea for Monday
The Irvington Methodist Church Women's Association is to give an autumn tea Monday afternoon in the William H. Block Co. auditorium. : Mrs. Arthur Robinson is in charge of the musical program, to include selections by the Friml trio, vocal solos by Mrs. Mary Traub Busch and Victor Damascher. Mrs. Harry A. Weaver, general chairman, has arranged for a fashion showing of women’s and children’s apparel. Committee members assisting Mrs. Robinson are Mesdames - Edward Madinger, D. W. King, L. B. Jones, Carl Withner, Mrs. S. B. Walker, arrangements chairman, is to be aided by Mesdames Firman Sims, Ralph McKay, Alan Vestal and H. B. Morrow. Other Committees Named The ticket committee is composed of Mesdames George Buck, Irwin Ward, Grover Shimer, E. W. Clausing, John Muesing and S. C. Ging. Mrs. Robert Drun is candy chairman, assisted by Mesdames Waller Filson, W. F. King, C. B. DeTar, A. | C. Broecker, H. Hartsock, E. E. Antibus and Morace Boggy. Mrs. F. N. Daniels, service committee chairman, is to have as her assistants, Misses Mary Beard, Eva Mae Chaillie, Sara Ward, Ruth Campbell, Carol Sherman, Georgiana Smith, Alice Hankins, Dorothy Daniels, Kathryn Weaver, Mary Jane Smith, Jean Linsteadt and Betty Ward. 2
CLUB OBSERVES PRESIDENTS DAY
Dr. Rebecca Parrish talked on “Adventuring in Womanhood” at the New Century Club’s president's day luncheon today at Indianapolis Athletic Club. Mrs. Earl M. Spradley is president; Mrs. A. H. Off, first vice-president; Mrs. George H. Lehman, second vice president; Mrs. Presley J. L. Martin, recording secretary: Mrs. Charles Graul, corresponding secretary, and Mrs. M. T. Scudder, treasurer. - Other honor guests were Mrs. B. B. McDonald, Indianapolis Council of Women president, and Mrs. David Ross, Indiana Indorsers of Photoplays’ president. Mrs. Ernest E. Owen sang.
Riding Club Sets Date for Outing
Algonquin Riding Club members are to hold their annual fall crosscountry outing Oct, 24 and 25 in Brown County. On the first night the members are to entertain with a costume: party at Abe Martin Lodge. The club recently re-elected Russel S. Williams, president, and Dudley Williston, vice president. New officers are J. R. McNutt, secretarytreasurer; Miss Emma Moore, assistant secretary; August C. Bohlen and Frank Haight, board members.
Gloves in Colors
" Beige or nutria-colored gloves are shown for black costumes.
Use Eggplant as Substitute
for Fall Meat
Stuffed, This Vegetable Is ~ Succulent and Easy to Prepare.
By NEA Service A good fall meat substitute is baked, stuffed eggplant. What a wonderful vegetable eggplant is— meaty and succulent and so delie cately flavored. It seems a pity that in some homes it is served so infrequently. This recipe for stuffed eggplant will please you because it is easy to prepare and so handsome a dish when it appears on the table.
Eggplant Hampshire for 4 One large eggplant, 2 tablespoons butter or fat, 1 onion cut fine, 2 tablespoons bread crumbs. 1 egg yolk. Parboil the eggplant until tender (but not soft) in boiling, salted water. Cut in half, sharp knife. Scrape out the inside break the skin. :
lengthwise, with a but do not
TOMORROW'S MENU
Breakfast—Orange juice, cereal popovers, broiled Canadian bacon, coffee. Luncheon—Ham salad, watercress sandwiches, pineapple tapioca pudding, milk, tea. Dinner—Fruit cup, baked eggplant Hampshire, creamed carrots and peas, tomatoes filled ‘with marinated cucumber slices, Danish lemon pudding, coffee.
Heat 1 tablespoon of the fat or butter, add the onion and brown it, then add the meat you scraped out of the eggplant, bread crumbs (dried or toasted crumbs are best) salt and pepper to taste and the beaten egg yolk. Mix well together, refill the shells, place on a greased pan in a mode erate oven (350 degrees) and sprine kle more bread crumbs on top with bits: of remaining butter. Brown nicely. It will take about 20 minutes. This stuffed eggplant makes an ideal main vegetable for a vegetable plate dinner. With it you could have tomatoes filled with marinated cucumber slices and creamed carrots and peas. For dessert, try this recipe for lemon pudding called Sitronfromace, This recipe comes from a Danish woman who explains that it is a favorite dessert in her homeland.
Miss Maris and Dr. Beggs to Wed at Oakland, Cal.
Miss Jeanne Maris was to leave today for Oakland, Cal, where she is to be married to Dr. Lowell Frederick Beggs, Oct. 18. The ceremony is to be read at 4 p. m. in the Chapel of the Flowers. Homer Maris Sr., Oakland, is to give his niece in marriage and Mr. and Mrs. Homer Maris Jr. are to be attendants. Miss Maris, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Claude A. Maris, attended Indiana University, where she was a member of Pi Beta Phi Sorority, Dr. Beggs, a son of Mr. and Mrs, J. Fred Beggs, Scottsburg, also ate tended Indiana and is a member of Lambda Chi Alpha Fraternity. After a wedding trip, they are to make their home in San Frane cisco.
President Is Installed Mrs. J. C. Schade has taken ‘up her duties as the Monday Afternoon Reading Club president. A Iluncheon ands program was held recently to install the year’s officers. Mrs, J. C. Teegarden was in charge of
the program.
Yout should see the clever boutonnieres made of cellophane straws and sealing wax . +. ver, ver dainty favors they are.
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INES te THE: LINCOLN are « always inspired.: For, with the thought of each dining room come memories of pleasant interludes. The Lincoln Mirabar and Lounge for its gaiety and informality . . . the Tuscany Room with its quiet dignity . . . and The Coffee Shop with its brightness and early hours of cheer! I've watched banquet plates being served for hundreds of guests . . . and I promise you that care and attention are given these
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You can establish for your‘self a variety program, if you will but plan several enjoy- _ able meals away from home each week . . . and several party-like meals in your own home. If you've read one of the popular new books about “solitary refinement” . .. you will have gained several choice ideas on the subject of entertaining easily and delightfully even in the one-woman menage. And I'm here to apply the case to Indianapolis shopping. Buying unusual foods . . . ordering unusual dishes . . . and pointing out people and places who specialize in one thing or the other. Please call just ‘any-. time, RI-5551, and ask for
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Chocolate mint sticks are a variation in candies. And, Jordan Almonds dipped in fall colors are much ine proved.
| Dili of all, the food is prepared and served to such perfection— in AYRES’ TEA ROOM, Luncheon or afternoon tea in this charming atmosphere soothes one's weary nerves. . . at the same time giving such a lift to a busy day in town. Exciting sojourns to the shops are much more pleasant when AYRES’ TRAY SHOP is on your list, And partjcularly tempting is this informal corner for those persons of limited time and money. Service is from to which you can always add one of the unusually satisfying desserts. And always a second cup of delicious coffee is yours for asking. Meet your friends in AYRES’ Peacock Alley” . .. 8th floor.
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Learn how to make the new Button Trees for nevel centerpiecé for party tables. Later these will be ideas for Christmas gifts. =
Tomorrow I bring you exotic news :