Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 30 September 1936 — Page 16

r DEAR.

All Mothers Not Blessing,

Jane Asserts

No Peace in Home

When Personalities War, Says Writer.

Please join in all which interest you! be published.

the discussions Your opinions will

Note—A short time ago “A

+ Mother” wrote that her family

had been happy until her 71-year-old mother came to live at the house. Not malicious, but tedious, thé old lady unwittingly drove the family away from home for its good times. “Another Mother” wrote accusing the first mother of heartlessness and said that if her family could recall the grandmother who ‘had passed away they would enthrone her. Now we have a third letter:

JANE JORDAN-—I

would like for “Another

' Mother” to know that she has * been fortunate and can not

" endure.

: . She tells my daughter that I do

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realize what some folks must When my mother was younger she was very flirtatious with men. After my father died people slighted me because of it. When I married she told me that she could have married my husband easier than I did if it had not been for the small amount of money 1 had coming to me. Once she tried to ; choke me till I could not utter a word or loosen her/ fingers on my throat. When she is with us she nags about something all the time. If I answer the door she will place herself in front of me and take the conversation on herself. If any one calls to see my husband or son on business she

Jane Jordan

¢ rushes in the living room to hear.

hot work; that she is the one who

XN? Ls overworked; .yet..when she is at 1 home she sets about putting cold %'eream on her face, manicures her = nails, makes herself new dresses and Eleven razzes my daughters about " having feet larger than grandmother’s. She is carefully dressed at all times and her hair is always curled and set. There are lots of other things that I could tell you that are even worse. I want to know if you think I am justified in not wanting my mother to live with AN AGGRAVATED MOTHER. ANSWER—Where such strong © © rivalry exists between mother and . daughter it is folly for them to try living together. They regard each | other as ~ competitors instead of companions and the tension be- | tween them is communicated to the whole family. There can be no peace in a home where two strong : personalities war for the leading position. It is difficult for some people to accept the fact that all mothers are not a blessing in the home. Those of us who have had. good mothers are inclined to deify them. The widespread appeal of “Mother's Day” shows how deeply rooted is the idealism which clusters around the idea’ of mother.’ She

was our first love and we can not _

bear to have her shortcomings mentioned even in a general fashion. It is not uncommon for: intense rivalry to exist between mothers and

_ daughters though it is usually more:

subtle and less easily detected than ‘in the case which Aggravated

Mother describes. We have only to |

study an exaggerated case such as this to understand others which are not so obvious.- Every one has seen a vivacious mother with daughters who never were able to equal her in charm. . We wonder why such an attractive mother should have such awkward girls without realizing that the mother unconsciously outshone the girls at all times. Instead of effacing herself to give the daughters a chance, she always claimed | the limelight for herself to the pro- ~ found discouragement of‘the young.

Other experiences of daughters

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Butler Students Set Pace ° \ V ith F cotball

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ability throughout the season. Frank Cassell (left) is putting

Etiquette By PATRICIA

N THE DINING CAR—When a man meets a woman acquaintance on the train and Invi her |. to the dining edr, she umé | that he wishes to be host, and that he would be offended if she refused to allow him to pay for the meal. However, women who travel alone must be extremely careful about accepting favors from men, It is better to ask the waiter to bring separate bills. Should a lady accept an invitation from a man, it should be for once only. CHILDREN ON THE TRAIN— The mother must see that her children do not disturb otner passengers; It is wise to take along some toys: to amuse the child. It is very wrong for the ‘child to be allowed to race up and down the aisle, play noisy games and eat continually. If

:l courtesies are extended to children

on the train they should be accepted graciously by the mother and the f.child, but the mother never should allow the child to be petted ahd indulged by strangers. The child should be made as comfortable as possible and one of the

‘best. ways to do this is to keep him

clean.

'DAVIS-SKINNER ~ WEDDING FRIDAY

Miss Eula Skinner and Robert Davis are to be attendants at the wedding of Miss Margaret Davis and Ronald E. Simpson, which is to be solemnized Friday night at the

and Mrs. Arthur Simpson. Mrs. Pleasant Davis, mother of the bride-to-be, is to entertain: with a party tonight. The hostess is to be assisted by Mrs. Edna ‘McCoy.

with their mothers, favorable or unfavorable, will be read with interest and. published ' for the benefit of other readers. If you have something to add, write your letter now.

JANE JORDAN.

Precision in’ Eye Glasses and

Butler football uniforms, as exhibited by Charles O’Connor. juniors at the university, are quick to recognize good colleize material |

| saying to this quarferback

home of Mr. Simpson’s parents, Mr.

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—Times Photo hy Wheeler.

BY MARJORIE BINFORD WOODS . © Times Fashion Editor T'S the “first down, with ten to go” for football clothes that will make touchdowns both on the field and in the grandstand. That's the reason “big game” apparel is being selected with an eye

0 its wear-

his Siamp of approval on the ‘new Both men,

when they see it. “The team is bound t< score high ‘wearing such royal blu: and gold silk uniforms,” Prank probably is “Chuck” returns the compliment. no doubt, as to spectator sports iogs, as he glimpses the natty outiii typical of utlers, } best dressed rcoters. ‘Glen™ Plaid trousers and belted sports.coats are the hacklone of any college man’s wardrobe Fawn brown is the color tone of the outfit pictured, worn with ‘a bumble stitched slip-over sweater of white with) brown and yellow stripes at the neckline. A dot -and-dash patterned tie and: tan buckskin shoes complete the outfit, which is representative of any appropriately dressed student heading for the college stadium any Saturday afternoon early this fall.

FEENEYS TO TAKE WEBSTER-AV HOME

Mr. and Mrs. Lawrence B. Feeney are ‘to make ‘their homie at 7 N. Webster-av. The marriage of Miss Mary Noreen Brooks, daughter of

Mr. and Mrs. Harry W. Brooks, and Mr. Feeney, son of Mr. and Mrs.

urday in Martinsville. = The Rev. Francis Kull officiated. ‘Miss Thelma Brdoks and Francis M. Feeney attended the couple.

Martin T. Feeney, took place Sat-

Weber-Robinson Wedding to Be in Christ Church

The Rev. E. Ainger Powell, rector of Christ Episcopal Church, is to officiate at the exchange of vows by Miss Margaretgrace Robinson and Frederick Ernest Weber at 8:30 p.m. today at Christ Church. Cheston Heath, organist, is to present a program of bridal music and direct the boys’ and men’s choir. Palms, chrysanthemums,; gladioli with - tapers burning in branched candelabra, are to form a background for the service. William B. Robinson, brother of the bride, is to be best man. Norman Robinson and Robert Pock are to usher. The bride is to enver with her father. lace, to be’ worn over ivory satin, is fashioned in Queen Ann style. Her tulle veil is to fall from a lace cap and she is to carry Joanna Hill roses. Mrs. Robert Pock, matron of honor, is to be gowned in crimson taffeta fashioned on Princess lines and carry Talishan roses. :: Following the ceremony a reception is-to be held: for immediate families at the home of the bride's parents, Mr. and Mrs. John B. Robinson, 2515 E. Riverside-dr. Mr. Weber is a son’ of Mrs. Elizabeth Weber.

Garden Club to Meet The Indianapolis Council of Garden Clubs is to hold its quarterly meeting at 2 p. m. tomorrow in Mayer Chapel, Norwood and Weststs. a ;

Soup

Her gown of imported Irish

Lentils Good

for Luncheon

Menu Is Complete With

Cornbread And - Dessert.

By NEA Service

Have you ever made lentil soup? |

Lentils are the seeds from an herblike plagt called vetch, produced in the nt. You can buy them at any good grocery, however, and usually they ‘are quite cheap. The flavor of lentils is somewhat like peas and beans combined. They

are tiny brown seeds, very hard be-

fore cooking but,.oh, so delicious in a steaming hot soup!

An excellent luncheon menu for a cold fall day is lentil soup, rye | bread or cornbread and a {fruit |’

Bont] Soup for Six.

Here is the recipe for lentil

soup: One cup lentils, 7 cups cold water, 1% pounds of brisket beef or % pound smoked sausage- or a ham bone or 6 slices of bacon, % cup

‘diced celery, 1 small onion, salt)

pepper, 1 tablespoon flour, 3% cup catsup or tomato sauce or tomato ‘soup, croutons or cooked frankfurters. Pick over and wash the lentils. Soak them in cold water over night. Drain them, place in. a large kettle with any of the meats (or the ham. bone) you desire. Add the 7 cups of cold water and let it boil slowly but steadily 2 hours if you use the -bacon:or sau-

‘| sage, longer, about 3 hours, for the

brisket or bone.

‘| Add the celery at the end of 1:

hours. Then remove the meat, bacon or bone, whichever you use. Add salt and pepper to taste. Skim Off Fat Skim off any fat that floats on the top of the soup. *

Heat 2 tablespoons of the fat (or |

if there was no fat use 2 tablespoons of any other fat) and brown the onion, chopped fine. Then add

1 tablespoon of flour and gradually ,.

1 cup of the hot soup. Add this mixture to the soup kettle, stirring well. Add the catsup or tomato and serve piping hot with croutons floating on top of the soup. You may prefer to cut Vienna sausage (the cooked variety) in thin slices and add them to the soup instead of croutons. meal-in-one dish.

SORORITY TO HOLD TREASURE HUNT

The Psi Chi Phi Sorority is to entertain members and guests tonight with a treasure hunt and wiener roast at the home of Miss Margaret Strother, Cold Springs-rd. : Miss Mildred Pavy is to assist the hostess. Guests are to include Misses Betty Larrimore, Aureta and Sayda Stephenson, Betty Clark, Helen Kassenbrock, Erma Crume, Alis Marquette. Mary Evelyn Pigg, Mary Ellen Modglin, Miriam Woods, Dorothy Biehl, Esther Springman, Leanore Moessmer, Betty Speth, Flora Schott and Mrs. Robert Dickon

Ely Culbertson to Lecture Here

Ely Culbertson, contract bridge authority, is to present two bridge lectures ‘at 10 a. m. and 8 p. m. Monday at the William H. Block Co. auditorium. His appearance is to feature the opening of the new Bridge ‘Forum, to be conducted by Mrs. Kay Coffin. A dinner for Mr. Culbertson is to be held preceding the night lecture

in the Terrace room. Reservations |

may be made. : ~ Registration for Mrs. Coffin’s

forum may be made, starting Mon-

day, at Mrs. J. R. Farrell's office. Classes are to be formed for begin-

ners, advanced players and dupli-

tate players. The classes, free of charge, are to be conducted daily at 10 a. m. except Saturday in the au-

-ditorium. One morning a week’ is

to be open for discussion of other

bridge systems.

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EA-TIME at AYRES is deliciously quiet and restfull But enjoy the bewildering assortment of toasted

and as many more choice tidbits - from which to select your favorite ‘accompaniment for afternoon tea. “You may be sure it will be served -as_daintily as possible. Step into _ the luxury of AYRES’ TEA ROOM . and escape the flurries of too much “fall shopping. You will enjoy to he fullest these few golden min-

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“Meet the ‘kid brother.

up the plain neckline.

He's just 6 today,” says smartly dressed Master Ten to his collegiate-looking 14-year-old pal on the right. Kid brother is wearing his new collarless suit with an Eton collar dressing Master Ten. in the center wears the. popular montrose suit in herringbone tweed. The popular herringbone is also seen in the cheviot suit of the big fellow, who sports a snap brim felt hat and a topcoat of reversible tweed and gabardine.

PARTNER HELPS OUT

Today’s Contract Problem - |

South has opened the bidding with one diamond. West has passed. Should North, with his lone trick, keep the bidding. open or pass? : A863 VA52 $943 #10532

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(Blind) ‘E

Dealer ANOT42 | Avi ®AKQJ10 H*Q74 None vul. Opener—?

Solution in next issue. 23

~ SOLUTION TO PREVIOUS PROBLEM

‘BY W. E. KENNEY American Bridze League Secretary

HE value of any high card you - hold depends largely upon what cards your partner holds in that suit.

For example, it would be impossible

to count a queen as one honor trick; but give your partner the -ace-king of the same suit, and that queen is worth one full trick. In his new book, Ely Culbertson. explains the extent to which a high card in-

Dealer

AT2 ¥K108762 483 HSKES

Rubber—N. & S. vul,

South West North East Pass 1 Double Pass 1¢ Pass 39 Pass 5¢ Pass 6V Pass

. Opening lead—# K. 23

creases in value wheh you can depend upon your partner for other high cards in the suit. High cards grow in value when a

player has made an informatory double of an opponent’s opening bid. This shows strength which is distributed among the- three unbid suits, and any high card held in one of these three suits may be counted at twice its usual value. In today’s hand the South player knew enough to double the value of his high. cards, and. therefore made a slam try which many players would’ never. dream of| making.

Writer Warns.

Excess Praise Is Inadvisable

Sees Children Harmed by Commendation for Poor Work. ,

BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON A mother said to me: “Why do you recommend ‘praise’ so strongly? I think the trouble with most chile dren is that they are praised too much for things they only half do.” And right she is.- This ‘matter

of buzzing over the half-efforts of kids who should be shaken for their carelessness is ruining a lot of them, But—here we come again-—praise is like sugar. Too much of “it, or

if taken at the wrong time, can do

damage. But sugar we need. Without carbohydrates, we would die. If gives us strength, energy and fat to cover our nerves. Sugar is almost the first thing we feel the lack of if deprived of it. Yes, we nesd sugar,

‘children need sugar, and they. need

praise. Encourage Good Traits It depends, however, on {ime, place, effort and character: Just how to dispense it must remain a matter of good judgment with the child's parents and teachers. 7° The little child, the pre-school tot, as I have repeated so many times, is in the stage of development. At this period certain traits need encouraging. And others need discouraging. But it should be remembered that the encouragements of fundamental character should overtop the discouragements. When he is growing and has more judgment, then begins the reversal, generally speaking. After the pre-school years the little tricks of gentle approbation for effort of any kind, must be more

| genuinely earned. We must take it

for granted that his self esteem has been established. We must take if for granted that he knows now what is really good work and what is poor. ‘He can distinguish between praise that is false and praise that has been won by digging. : Where we make 50 many mistakes, I think, is in holding back earned compliments because the result has not produced. much. If our school child tries.and tries to. the utmost of his ability, why should we not: give credit for that, even though he fails to get marks? We sing applause of the child who can be at the top of his class without half trying, while we harp and nag at the poor struggler who- works twice as hard. (Copyright. 1936. NEA Service, Inc.) _

which was the king of spades, - but the contract was made - without difficulty. After the ace of spades won the first trick, South ‘established the diamond suit and then drew trumps, discarding his losing spade on one of the dummy’s good diamonds. The only trick lost was the ace of clubs. (Copyright, 1936. NEA Service, Inc.)

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