Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 26 September 1936 — Page 4
Jane Advises Divorcee Who Cares for Man Seven Years
Younger to Consider Facts
Difference th Ages No Barrier to Friendship
but Often Handicap in Marriage, She Warns ‘Wondering.’
Jane Jordan will hélp you see the truth about your problems by her replies to your letters in this column.
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DEAR JANE JORDAN—I job, have been married
EJ am 30 years old, have a ol but live alone now. I have
been separated from my husband four” years and have never found any one 1 care for until now. I have had lots
of dates but they never meant a thing. Now I have met a fellow whom I like very much but he is seven years younger than
I/am. wonderful times together. without him.
I know he doesn’t go with any one but me, and we have He means so much to me I would be lost I am quite sure he could have other
dates, but he says he doesn’t want any. Do you think I am too old for him? . Should I give him up, or
go on? have known.
It seems as it heartaches are all 1 ever Do you think this will be just one
more?—WONDERING.
ANSWER—A difference of seven years in ages is no barrier to friendship although it often constitutes a handicap in marriage when the woman is
the one who is older.
In the. beginning the differ-
ence is not noticed so much; it is later, when the
Jane Jordan freshness of the
union has worn off, that the danger
is most apparent. : Already you feel apprehension where you should feel security. Twice in your letter you assure me, and yourself, that the young
man does not have other dates.
It is evident that fear lies just
beneath the surface, ready to burst forth in a storm of Jealousy at
the first provocation.
1 do not say that you should give the young man up, but only that
you should be prepared to do so if you must.
simply of facing the facts instead romantic fancy.
This preparation consists, of concealing them in a cloud of
The facts are these: Most young men are at one time or another
enamoured of an older woman.
Her experience and attitude toward them is reminiscent of the mother relationship, and this makes it easier °
for them to transfer their filial feelings to’ her than to compete for a girl who represents more responsibility. As they grow older in years and self-confidence, they often come to need quite a different relationship. Meanwhile the older woman's fears of a rival have caused her to
become too possessive.
As she struggles for control, her resemblance to
the ruling mother is more irritating than attractive.
Now for a few words about you. You doubt your ability to attract an
has bitten into your self-esteem.
The failure of your marriage
equal and can succeed only in a relationship which gives you the superior position. You feel more assured of your worth in accepting the admiration of a very young man who looks up to your judgment and trusts you more than he trusts a frivolous girl. If only you will face the fact that a few more years may bring a
different set of circumstances, you change, nor too discouraged to try
won't be so devastated by possible for another partner. Try to enjoy
whatever gives you pleasure, but don’t invest too much in a relationship which holds small promise of permanence.
. JANE JORDAN.
Calendar of
MONDAY
Present Day Club. Marott. President's Day luncheon. Mrs. James A.
* Baird, “Piracy in Early American’
History.” Executive committee |
members, hostesses. TUESDAY
Hoosier Tourist Club. Mrs. Dwight Murphy, 3053 Broadway, hostess. “The Land of Dreams,” Mrs. D. T. Brownlee; “Pan American Airways,” Mrs. Murphy; “The Boston of South America,”| Mrs. T. B. Davis. ‘ Newman's Mother Club of Butler University. 2 p. m. | Newman Hall, 4610 N. Illinois-st. Mothers of new students, guests. Irvington Tuesday | Club. TLunch- . gon. President's Day.
WEDNESDAY
Woman's Advance Club. Mrs. J. A. Hood, hostess, “Geographical Introduction and Early History of Ireand,” Mrs. W. E. Call. Responses, . current events. THURSDAY
~ Ladies Federal Club. Mrs. J. F. Matthews, 3326 N. Capitol-av, hos- . tess. Beta Delphian Club. Indiana National Bank directors’ room. President's Day. Committee, officers. Aftermath Club. Mrs. John A. Simmons, hostess. Mrs. C. 8S. Rhoads, “The Future Home Influenced by Present Day Conditions.”
FRIDAY
Culture Club. Mrs. W. A. Rowland, hostess. Mrs. William H. Remy, “Present Day American Messiahs.” Indianapolis Woman's Club. Pro-
Etiquette
By PATRICIA
ARDROBE—Do not take too many clothes on a trip— they are in the way. Women should dress quietly and inconspicuously when traveling. A dark tailored suit, with light blouses, is in excellent taste. In summer, a simple dress of silk or crepe de chine is in good taste. "In the woman's wardrobe should be smart frocks for the afternoon, an evening gown, fresh blouse, and perhaps a sport outfit or two. An abundant supply of fresh linis essential. but can be replenon the trin, so it is better to her too little than too much. ~The wardrobe of a man also should be as small as possible, although it
REPUBLICAN CLUB ~ TO GIVE LUNCHEON
The Wayne Township Women's Republican Club is to entertain with a covered dish luncheon at
retiring |’
Club Events
pvlaeum Club, President's Day. Mrs. ‘Fletcher Hodges, chairman; Mesdames Christopher B. Coleman, Paul H. White and William M. Taylor and Miss Sue Howe, committee. La Phyllis Club. Mrs, F.- P., Delks, hostess. Weiner roast with guests at Christian Park.
SATURDAY
Magazine Club. Lincoln. President’s Day. Music, Mrs. J. B. Vandaworker. “Vacation Echoes,” members. Hostesses, Mesdames J. Baline Hoffman, W. C. Bartholomew, Louis Bland, G. W. Workman, Paul Talbott, D. O. Wilmeth, H. W. Dragoo, J. L. Hodges, Miss Margaret Huston and Mrs. Vandaworker. Saturday Afternoon Literary Club. D. A. R. Chapter House. President’s Day. “Kipling in Prose, Poetry and Song,” Mrs. Demarchus Brown and Virgil Phemister. Hostesses, club officers, and assistants, program committee members.
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OLD filigree jewelry. is right for wear with this gown, with a halo of tiny gold leaves, as a headdress. There is tremendous variety in the fall formal program. You can go about in slim things that have to be slit to enable you to walk, or in full-skirted bodice types. You can go in for extreme decolletage or built-up treatments; you can go in for brilliants, flowers, jewels, feathers or just color contrast as elaboration.
Personals
Mrs. Wilbur Johtison has returned from New York.
Miss Ada Bicking, director of the Arthur Jordan Conservatory, is to return tomorrow evening from Chicago, where she has been attending sessions of the executive committee of the music educators’ national conference. Miss Bicking is national conference vice president.
ALL ACCESSORIES NEED NOT MATCH
It’s time to shatter .the illusion that all accessories should raatch.
Bag, gloves and helt—scarf, loves and bag—Dblouse, gloves and hit may be alike. Switch them around any way you choose, but don’t liz ve any more than three the same color. Keep your shoes neutral, bi:ck or brown, and you can't go vrrong. Black lis the one gxceptioni in the rule. With a black outfit all rccessories may be black. But don’t look too much like the bereaved widow—liave a touch of color somewhere, sich as a clip, a string of of beads or a bracelet
GIVES PARTY FOR SORORITY CHAP ER
Miss Marjorie Willsey, 51% 1)rexelav, entertained recently vith a supper and lotto party for m:mbers of the V. S. chapter, ‘Verus (Jordis Sorority. Eden,
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‘Kingham and Misses Louise ‘(ientry, "| Marjorie
Scudder, Mary Anna Perry, Janetta Von Staden, Phyllis Thompson, Helen Setterquist, Jean Gough and Ruth 'Warriner.
MISS NORMA JAY FETED AT SHOWER Miss Norma Jai, whose jptirage take place tomorrow at White Sul-
phur Springs, W. Va. was guest of honor recently at & dinner and mis.
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BY MARJORIE BINFORD WOODS Times Fashion Editor N the heyday of its dynasty is the glamorous Chinese brocade fabric which fashions this fascinating dinner gown. damask printed satins, gold and silver brocades and fine silks of stunning patterns seen such a success as they are promised this season. Formal fashions always are exciting, but styles are so flattering this year that women scarcely will be able to wait until dark to wear them.
Never before have
Persian Night to Be Held at Columbia Club
The National Association of Women is to present a Persian Night at
8:15 p. m. Wednesday in the Co-|
lumbia Club auditorium. A feature is to be Liza Lehmann’s “In a Persian Garden,” written for a mixed quartet. A string. quintet is to play the accompaniment.
Mrs. Demarchus Brown is to give |
the “Life and Philosophy of Omar Khayyam,” Fitzgerald's translation. Mrs. W. S. Shirley is general chairman, .assisted by Miss Mary Hardesty; ticket Grace Ridgely Flaugher, and Mary Traub Busch, program director. Proceeds are to be added to the association lecture fund. Tickets are on sale at 8 E. Market-st. Officers are Mrs. Ida S. Broo, president; Miss Katherine Kaercher, recording secretary; Mrs. Mabel Simpson, corresponding secretary, and MiSs Alta: Thompson, treasurer. A “get-acquainted” program is to be presented at 7:15 p. m. Monday at the Washington Hotel. Dinner is to be served at 6 p. m.
CONTINUES STUDIES AT CONSERVATORY
Miss Jeanne.Edwards, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. William Edwards, has returned to the Cincinnati Conservatory of Music to continue her studies. Miss Edwards won a competive scholarship in violin and was awarded a scholarship in viola. She is violinist of the Pro Arte trio. She is rush captain of the Delta Omicron, national musical sorority.
MAYFLOWER GROUP BOARD TO MEET
The Rev. George S. Southworth, Society of Mayflower Descendants’ governor, has called a meeting of the board of assistants for noon Wednesday. Luncheon is to be
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Barton Holds Children Get ‘Even Break’ Should Be Taught to Know Parents’ Viewpoint, She Believes.
BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON The other day my sister and I
written in her stories many of the things that made her sad as a child. And the whole rigid tenor of the times: in which we lived. Parents were strict to the point of fanaticism. Religion had none of its softér aspects. People were cruel in their judgments and children got the brunt of it. Yes, we had much to talk about. The punishments we felt were unjust. She
ther brought her from New York, as though her own heart-break after discovering the result of her fall were not punishment enough, By Way of Contrast I, too, had’ my memories. There was the time I was punished for crying about getting into a boat, being scared into convulsions almost. And once I was ‘punished for forgetting my overshoes and spoiling a new pair of shoes. We compared today’s parents and their new understanding with those of the 80's and 90's. And then 1 said, “Mary, but you were brought a doll from New York, bigger and better than any other child near us had. And I was taken away to the lovely resort for the summer. We had everything. We had a lovely home and our parents were simply grand.” “Certainly they were. And we loved them and they adored us. They worked and sacrificed and did sverything in their power to make us happy,” she said. “When we look back, there wasn’t much we missed. Isn't it astonishing how children remember the things they resented and forget the rest? Why don’t you write about it?” Parents Are Less Strict Today's: parents are not nearly so strict as those of yesteryear. The children will be very likely to recall all ‘the unpleasant crisis while the blessings bestowed will be taken as a matter of course. I don’t exactly know what can be done about it. You may not be here to set them right and explain that you spent the trip-money you were counting on to buy Mabel her new fur coat. Nor here to remind Bob that you could have bought a new little home for yourself in your old age had it not been for those years he wanted to study medicine. Not here to tell how the doctor bills
nurses and hospitals, cost Dad all his insurance. No. They will remember that they were deprivéd of something, a new hat, maybe; or punished for some trifle they were sure they didn’t deserve. The best thing is to try to incorporate in the growing child the fact that he breaks more than even in this business of being your child. And to try to turn his eyes to your side of the matter of raising a family, He should look on you, his parents, as people; not benignant gods to tolerate, sacrifice and forgive him eternally, but people entitled to run their domain according to their best ability and convictions. ° (Copyright, 1936, by NEA Service, Ine.)
Bride at Home
—Photo by Voorhis. Mr. and Mrs. Joe Merklin are at home at 1646 Carrollton-av. Before her marriage Mrs. Merklin (above) was Miss Vivian Ross.
Van Duyn Club Speaker
Grover Van Duyn, Democratic state speakers’ bureau member, spoke before the Perry Township
today at Mrs. Oscar D. Ludwig’s home, 5433 Madison-av. Assistant hostesses were Mesdames Carl Kegley, Charles Hagerty, James Norwood and Lucy Benjamin. Mrs. Hugh Studder, presided. HOUSE
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Anita Colby, Hollywood star, sticks a feather in her cap and fol-
lows the season’s fashion. side of a navy blue felt beret.
It is a scarlet eagle quill perched on the
THE-USE OF A TEN-SPOT
Today’s Contract Problem After’ South had opened bidding with one club, North responded with one diamond and South bid one heart. North eventually becomes declarer at a contract of three no trump.
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Solution to Previous Problem BY W. E.'M’KENNEY
American Bridge League Secretary FTEN a defending player's “blind” opening lead at contract gives declarer the chance to make his game-going trick, because as a matter of course, most opening leads are made away from strength. Thus with such a holding as the 10 and two small cards in a suit in dummy, and ace and king and one small card in the closed hand the ten should be played to che first trick, for, if it does not take a trick, then it never will take one. Today’s hand illustrates a situation which frequently arises, particularly when the bidding of the declaring side has been of the noninformative nature that occurred here. : When the opening lead was made, South as declarer could count that ) card which would beat the card led, if the opening lead was, as it appeared to be. the fourth best. South held two sure tricks in diamonds, three in spades, and one in clubs. This was only six tricks, and he must develop three more. . There was a chance that the lead
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was from the queen and the jack and that, accordingly, the ten might win if played now. Thus reasoning, he played the ten and was pleased to see it hold the trick. With an additional entry in dumJy, declarer now led a heart and the jack held the trick.’ The return of the ten of spades was covered with the jack by West and the ace was played from dummy. . Another heart was led and East won with the ace and returned a Diamond, but South won with the king. Declarer later conceded the spade queen and the club king to West. Play of the diamond 10 to the first trick gave South full control of the timing of the play. (Copyright, 1936, by NEA Service, Inc.)
SHOWER HONORS MRS. C. R. CARTER
Miss Caroline Packer, assisted by her mother, Mrs. E. J, Packer, and
| her sister, Miss Cornelia Packer,
entertained . recently with a miscellaneous shower in honor of Mrs. Chester Ray Carter, formerly Miss Virginia Harris. Guests: included Misses Mary, Helen and Betty Harris, the bride’s sisters; Misses Mary Whismand, Gwendolyn Beard, Mesdames R. L. Johnson, H. O. Cork, L. E. Suits, Ward Storm, R. G. Davis and A. C. Anderson.
[Lamb Ragont Is Good Dinner for September
Rice Border Recommended for This Inexpensive and Delicious Dish.
BY LOLA WYMAN Lamb ragout in a rice border makes a delicious September dinner. It is inexpensive, too. Although the price of meat fluctuates almost daily, the recipe, serving six. was made recently using 34 pounds of shoulder lamb (including bones and all) which made 12 pounds of clear meat. The lamb cost 92 cents. Lamb Ragout for Six 12 pounds lean shoulder lamb . 2 cups canned tomatoes 1 small onion 3 tablespoons flour 2 teaspoons salt 12 teaspoon pepper 11% cups cold water The meat should be trimmed neatly and, when cut into small cubes about one inch square, there should be 1%: pounds.
TOMORROW’S MENU
Breakfast—Baked apple, uncooked cereal with cream, whole wheat toast, broiled bacon, coffee. Luncheon—Poached egg on toast squares with cheese sauce, broiled tomato slices, apple sauce, spice cookies, tea, milk. Dinner—Consomme, lamb ragout in rice border, string beans, lettuce with vinaigrette dressing, peach tart, coffee.
~~ Put bones and trimmings into a large saucepan, add cold water to cover and let stand for 30 minutes. Then bring it slowly to the boiling point and simmer for 30 minutes. Strain. Brown meat cubes in hot; well. greased frying pan and then place meat in a large baking dish. Add tomatoes, onion, minced, salt, pepper and broth in which bones were cooked, to the meat. Cover the dish and cook for about 112 hours in a moderate (350) oven, While meat is baking, prepare rice for the ring.
War Mothers Will Observe Gold Star Day
Marion County Chapter, Amers ican War Mothers, is to observe national Gold Star Mothers’ Day with a reception from 3 to 5 p. m. tomorrow at Mrs. M. E. Costin's home. The Gold Star mothers of this chapter to be honored are Mesdames Ralph E. Kennington, J. E. Barcus, Hilton U. Brown, Henry Eisenbarth, Martha Felts, Ida Harvey, Margaret Hensley, John LaVelle Mary Mitchell, Getta Socwell, Rose Ringer, Sophia Lutz, John Fislar, Lenora Hall, Anna McClain, Ella Armstrong, Nettie Edmonds, Julia Woodard and T, P. Pumphrey. Baskets of autumn flowers are to be used through the house. The dining room appointments are to be in gold and white. A centerpiece of yellow and white flowers and seven=branch candelabra are to decorate the table. Mrs. Clara May Pohlman and Mrs. Mary Gifford are to pour. Pasquale Montani, harpist, is to play. Assistant hostesses with Mrs, Cose tin are to be Mesdames A. E. Berry, H. F. Reynolds, Robert L. Fitch, M. D. Didway and Augusta Siersdale,
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