Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 25 September 1936 — Page 23
Suitor Should Give Up After * Lady Has Rejected His Offer
of Marriage, Jordan Advises|
‘Pressing Case in Face of Refusal Only May
Lead to Acceptance Under Persuasion— And Then Regrets Later.
Jane Jordan will help you with your problems by her
answers to your questions in
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this column each day.
DEAR JANE JORDAN—I am writing to you because 1 would like to get a woman's viewpoint on my case. 1 care very much for a girl of 18 with whom 1 have been
going for over a year.
To begin with I just cared to run
around with her as a pal, but after six months it began to grow into a deeper friendship as far as I was concerned. It seems that the deeper friendship was all one-sided. 1 asked her one night if she cared enough for me to marry me as
soon as it was possible for me to support a wife.
was,
Her answer to this
“No, I like you but will never marry you.”
After she said this I felt that it would be easier to cease our friendship; so we split up. Now I have gone back with her because I can’t enjoy myself with other girls. She still says she doesn’t care for me and never will.
I would like
your opinion as to whether a fellow
of 21 should continue going with such a girl all the
time or quit and try to find another one.
Believe
it or not, I'm nuts about, her.
UNDECIDED.
ANSWER—In my opinion a suitor should give
Jane Jordan
up his suit upon the firm refusal of the lady to
marry him. Usually a refusal only spurs the lover
on to force the consent of the object of his desire.
The wound to his
pride can not be tolerated, and some even go so far as to threaten
Suicide if on and b
ession is withheld. Surely it is folly for a man to hang for fulfillment when he is not loved, consoling himself with
the doubtful theory that love will surely come to life after marriage. Sometimes a woman allows herself to be over-persuaded by the : intensity of a man’s passion and believe that she can be made % happy by the whole-hearted adoration of another. Such marriages are rarely successful, for the first no was instinctive and often
proves to be stronger than the second or third yes.
Moreover, the
man's interest frequently abates after the conquest, and in the sobering up process of ‘marriage he finds the woman less Intriguing
than he thought.
There may be exceptions to this rule: It is possible that hapa unions have resulted where the enamored lover beat down the resistance of the woman, but who wants to deal with exceptions? In a lottery such as marriage, where the risk of happiness is already so
great, why make the task harder
by incurring an even greater risk?
It 1s like depending for bread upon what one might win by investing
in a lottery such as the Irish sweepstakes.
Installation of Officers Set by Alumnae Group
An installation ceremony is sched- - uled for tomorrow at the luncheon meeting of the Indianapolis Alumnae Chapter of Alpha Delta Theta Sorority at the Colonial Tearoom. Mrs. Robert Thornton is to be inducted as president; Mrs. Herman ~ Pickard, vice president; Mrs. Earl Dieck, secretary, and Mrs. Laverne Ridlin, treasurer. The social committee includes Miss Adelaide Gastineau, chairman; Misses Beatrice Houze and MarJorie Wood. Bridge is to be played in the afternoon.
CHARLOTTE HOGLE WINS SCHOLARSHIP
Times Special RICHMOND, Ind, Sept. 25.— Miss Charlotte Hogle, daughter ot Mr. and Mrs. John E.. Hogle, Indianapolis, has been awarded one of the new merit scholarships to Earlham College, Dean M. O. Ross has announced. The award, offered for the first time this term, has a maximum _ value of $400 for dormitory students, payable $100 throughout the college course as long as the recipient maintains a high academic standard.
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Etiquette
By PATRICIA
AGGAGE—On any trip, be it long or short, take as little baggage as possible. After buying the ticket, go to the baggage room and present the ticket with the transfer check ,given you by the transfer company, and check. your trunk to its destination,
In practically all large cities, the baggage transfer companies have offices at the downtown ticket office, and arrangements for checking your baggage can be made at the time tickets are purchased. With this out of the way, you have only your hand baggage to care for.
The .experienced traveler takes very little of that. One suit case or bag should be ehough for a single traveler. Leave all valuables at home and do not carry too much currency with you. It is best to have your money in travelers’ checks. -
Warm Olive Oil Is Recommended for Fingernails
BY ALICIA HART NEA Service Staff Writer The best authorities .agree that any woman who uses liquid polish should oil her nails at least twice a week. Plain olive oil will do, or she can use one of the commercially prepared nail creams or oily lotions. Hot oil manicures are especially beneficial to cuticles that crack and nails which break easily. After you have used file and emery board, simply soak fingertips of both hands in warm olive oil. Wipe off the excess, then, in the regular manner, proceed to remove rough edges and
One good Fifth-av manicurist disagrees with the popular theory that polish will not adhere unless nails are absolutely dry and greaseless when it is applied. She oils each nail lightly before putting on colored lacquer. The thin coating of oil prevents nails from drying out while the polish is on. For women who groom their own nails, there .is a new manicure kit which contains several interesting preparations, including an oil to be during the manicure, a cuticle cream to be massaged on at night, rose lacquer, polish remover, emery boards and a new type of bleach which isn't The bleach comes in a diminutive tube. - ‘You simply squeeze a bit of it underneath each nail, leave on for a few moments, then remove
Incidentally, this would be a handy “kit for the college girl. of preparations for colege girls, why not give your favorite co-ed
the better.
Consider the closely fitted neckline of the black dress abeve. It has the wide shoulder line but is without any peaks or bumps to interfere with different .neckwear and jewelry. The huge rhinestone brooch gives a rich accent to the new neckliffe, and is a very, very smart fashion. This is only one of the many ways you can give new interest, to such an outfit. Gold with black is striking for daytime wear. This may be interpreted in ‘a double strand of gold beads for the neckline, a gold kid belt and a gold metal frame on a black suede bag. ® ‘a ‘8 EARLS on black satin give a note of luxury and are very flattering to -the complexion, as well. Five and six strand pieces are being used fo give you that coveted “picture” lopk. If you want to strug with the highest note of chic, (rape a fur scarf of three Japar¢ se martens around your shoulders, black suede shoes that are built up high over the instep and top it all off with one of the fetching antelope hats that point in some direction,’ preferably up.
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BUSINESS WOMEN
Professional Women's Club is to open its new club house fo the public from 3 to 6 p. m. Sunday. A housewarming for club riembers was held last night. Mrs. Marie Ferguson Thompson, president of the Clinton (Ind. club was a special guest. Mrs. Nell War-
ren, local president, he: arled the receiving line. The club is to hold its meetings | in the clubhouse starting Oct. 8 and is to rent meeting rooms to other organizations. Dinners are to be served to the ptblic upon: reservation within the next few weeks. Mrs. Anna Repass is hostesis-managear and Mrs. Mary Stubbs Mdoare, house: committee chairman.
SORORITY ALUMNAE SETS INSTALL ATION
‘Mrs. Robert Thornton is to be installed as president of liidianapolis Alumnae Chapter, Alpha Delta Theta Sorority, at a luntheon and bridge party tomorrow it the Colonial tearoom. Others who are to be take the oath of office include Mis. Herman Pickard, vice president: Mrs. Earl Dieck, secretary, and Misi La Verne Ridlen, treasurer, The social committee, with Miss Adelaide Gastineau asichairman, is
.| to be in charge,
Seeing Ourselves as 25 Othe: See Us
Ce Th rised,” honed an i} ater recently, “that you are so modé¢si in your claims for your: nawspaper. I had su small apartment in a iy location. Your: ad-taker persustied me to run a Times: Economy
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_ —Photo by Noble Bretzman.
BY MARJORIE BINFORD WOODS Times Fashion Editor
Ts a woman's prerogative to change her mind .
son to use that womanly privilege regarding accessories. For fashion’s sake, the more you change, harmonize, match, contrast or scramble them,
. and this is her sea-.
The simple black, basic frock which can be made to look different each time you wear it has loomed into great. Imporiance
CAMP FIRE GROUP NAMES OFFICERS
New officers of - the Shortridge High School Neta group, Camp Fire Girls, include Jane Wilcox, president; Barbara Sternfels, vice president; Edna Mae Lewis, secretary; Susan Alvis, treasurer; Mary Blackmore, scribe, and Helen Curry, Echo reporter. Miss Louise Reiter is guardian.
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11C1 en to » Think Fast, Parents Urged
“in Home, Writer Suggests.
BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON It is fast becoming a world of wits
¥ land yet I believe that failure to
g | teach the art of quick-thinking is
the weakest part of our whole educational system. . We have concentrated on ‘mem-
ory, on application, steadiness and
contemplation. But how often do teachers give exercises in instantaneous thought? Not often if ever. They are not to blame, of course, because our ponderous school pro-
“| grams permit of no extra crowding. ‘| Time enters into the teacher's day
more than most people dream and if she does anything not allowed for
‘lin the curriculum, those minutes
must be taken from some ‘other
: work, which will suffer.
. Parents Can Aid
However, we can’t expect the schools to do everything, And, in their turn, parents are busy also,
| and feel that they can not contrib-
ute outside help toward those matters for which there is no time in school. But there is one place and one time when it is possible to introduce: lessons unsuspected by the child—meal time. It is also the interlude . When families get . together. Riddles are always fun, but they
"| are more than that. They acceler-
CITES AWAKENED INTEREST IN CHILD Literature, art, education, medi‘cine law, philanthropy, psychology and social service reflect an awakened interest in childhood, Henry M. Dowling, attorney, told the Cheer Broadcasters at a President's Day meeting today at the D. A. R. chapter house." “The adult owes mich to the child ‘by ‘way of diversion and relxation as evidenced by child movie actors; by way of the child's confidence and
has’ developed, “by -his dependency, in: adults,” he said. . “These. benefits impose the duty of seeing that the child's chances. in. life are bettered. ”», y - Mrs. Wayne O. Hill presided. and extended grestings to, the guests.
~Today’s Contract Problem
South is playing, the contract at three no: trump. He can count six sure tricks and must develop three - more. What card does he play from dummy to the first lead? ;
(Blind) (Blind)
Dealer AK1096
CN. & S. val. Opener—¢ 5.
Solytion in next issue. 18
Solution to Previous Problem BY W. E. MKENNEY American Bridge League Secretary HE most exasperating of all bridge players as a partner is the one who gambles a sure game for the possibility of an extra trick. In today’s hand, South, the declarer, did just that. He threw his game out the window when.all he had to do was to play safe. His excuse was that, as he was playing duplidate, he was “shooting for a-top.”. In cold fact, he was “shooting a bottom, ». which he richly earned The opening lead of the diamond king was won by the declarer wit
the diamond ace. Then the ace. O Spades was Played.
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So-far everything was correct, but
when declarer stopped to" consider |’
that, with the king of hearts in the East hand ‘and the king of clubs in the West hand, seven could be made
decided to play for that distribution, in the hope that his .score would beat others, who played it safe. South. led the jack of clubs.and finessed, East won and. returned ‘a diamond, and West cashed two diamonds. Later, he won the king of hearts and South was down at an unbeatable contract. i
“In rubber bridge or: duplicate, South . should . have refused - the finesse. ‘He should have. gone. t up with the ace-and then discary a losing lub and. one of his losing diamonds on the king and the queen of spades, and, in this manner, five ‘odd would have been made... . Location of the- missing * ‘Kings was a matter of guess only, and a safe contract should not be sac-
rificed for a gamble. RE (Copyright. 1936, by NEA ‘Service, Inc).
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ate the mind and make the riddle-
| guessers delve into corners of rea-
son not usually exersised. So I suggest the riddle. ‘But this is not all. Father can save’ up stories of tight places that certain . individuals have been in: And after telling his tale, saving the answer, he ‘can ask, “What
2 would you do, Jerry, if that happened to you? Quick now.”
He can ask each child in turn and then give the right solution. But, in the meantime, the mental gymnastics have accomplished their pur-
Games Stimulate - Wits
~ Still another way may be tried. This is to announce almost any subject at rahdom—ear, new hat, vine, ‘bicycle, church, Congress or
television. Subjects should depend
on the general age of the children. Then let each child make a quick speech about the subject chosen. The practice, if continued for any length of time, helps to increase observation and influences children to fix in mind the things they see or read about. Talking about given subjects helps to co-ordinate SPegch with thought, too. Rapid number tests are excellent, also. Short cuts in computing are invented. - For instance, 25 times anything. What is that? Twentyfive times twelve? Take a fourth of twelve and add two naughts. Quick as lightning! Question and answer books are invaluable. - But too much time must not be allowed for answers. It is not advisable, in an exercise - for mental speed, to. give much time {= thinking, even at the cost of error. Gradually the children will
.|learn %o combine" accuracy with
agility. ‘Wits, wits, and still more wits.
1A good ‘old word we have pretty
well forgotten.” It. combines judg-
ment and alacrity, and dear only
knows, we need both.
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‘repeat ten times. The next figure
‘time in any semester. These stu-
‘scholarships - equaling ‘the full tui-
To flatten the ‘hollow in your back and to reduce your stomach, lie flat on the floor (top), draw knees up to chest and hug them firmly as illustrated. Relax and
shows a bending exercise to slenderize the ‘waistline and relax muscles of the neck. Sway slowly far to left, then to right. .. The figure . posed against the wall - is” straightening her backbone and learning to carry her hips forward: and‘ down. The seated model sits correctly with center of back touching ‘chair and shoulders thrown forward. At bottom is illustrated the correct way to do the simplest posture exercise. Note: hew the legs are drawn up and that backbone is flat “on the floor. Relax after holding ' position briefly and repeat ten times.
Studies Under Tworlinse Plan
T'imes Special SOUTH HADLEY, Mass., Sept. 25.—Miss Barbara Ann Prantz, daughter of Dr. and Mrs. George Arthur Frantz, Indianapolis, is one
of nine freshmen students at Mount
Holyoke College studying under the two-unit plan directed by Dr. Elizabeth Kimball. ‘ The plan, started ‘last year, permits girls showing particular aptitude to follow two units to which they give the major portion of their
dents and Dr. Kimball live in a charming old New England homestead on the edge of the campus. Miss Frantz won the all-eountry regional competitive scholarship to the : college. . Regional competitive
tion ‘fee are granted each year on the basis: of college entrance exams inations. They go to freshmen winning in - various sections of the country. Miss Frantz prepared at Tudor Hall. ‘In 1933 she won the Indianapolis Alliance . Francaise
Joseph Brewer,
eese Sticks Tasty With Most Drinks
Recipe Advanced for Preparing Tid-Bits Using Roquefort.
By NEA Service & Roquefort cheese sticks are pere fect to serve with any kind of drink, providing it is not sweet. They are just the right kind of “niblet” with cold beer, a cocktail or even coffee. Roquefort Cheese-Sticks 4 slices white bread cut 2-3 inch thick 1, cup -Roquefort cheese 2 tablespoons butter 2 tablespoons mayonnaise Remove the crusts from the bread slices and cut each slice into four strips. Mix the cheese, butter and mayonnaise thoroughly and spread on the strips thickly. ' Add a dash of paprika on top of each strip. Put in the oven to toast for 10 minutes. They should then be light brown... Roquefort- cheese can be bought in small ings and this size is adequate for the above recipe. Another’ ant tid-bit to serve with drinks is baked ham loaf. This is nothing but “sliced, cooked ham with grated cheese between the layers, baked 15 minutes and then cut into chunks for serving. This is par- - ticularly appetizing with cocktails, This loaf may also be served cut in slices hot or cold as. a supper dish. It will serve 6 this way. Sliced Ham Loaf 1 pound sliced boiled ham 1, teaspoon pepper 3 teaspoons prepared mustard - 2 tablespoons catsup 1 cup grated sharp cheese Combine the pepper, mustard, catsup and-cheese, making a paste. Have the ham cut thin but not so thin that it tears. Take a flat baking pan, grease it, place the first slice of ham on it, then spread this with the cheese paste, then put another slice of ham on top of that, fitting it on neatly and continue in this fashion until all the ham and cheese paste are used, leaving a slice of ham on top. It should be a tidy loaf, about the size and shape of a brick. Bake in a moderate (350 degrees) oven for 15 minutes. Serve it hot for dinner or put it in the refrigerator fo chill well and serve very cold. For cocktails, cut the loaf vertically into thick slices and then cut each slice into dainty sizes. Serve very cold, plain or on crackers.
ENTERTAIN HEADS OF GARDEN CLUBS
Officers of the National Council of State Garden Clubs who have been attending the North Central Regional Conference in French Lick, were guests at the opening meeting of the garden department of the Woman's Department Club today. Among invited guests were Mrs. Detroit, regional president; Mrs. Fae Huttenlocher, Des Moines, national council sece retary; Mrs. Harper Hale Muff, Richmond, state president, and local garden clubs presidents. ’ Willard N. Clute, Butler University, spoke on “Weeds and Flowers” rand ra flower arrangement exhibit was held. : Tea, followed.
Mrs. Lott to Be Hostess Mrs. Edith Lott, 1311 Reisner-st, is ‘to be hostess tonight for a party to be e_ given by the Story-A-Month
Medal for proficiency in French.
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From Irvington travels news of
an interesting millinery shop.. Inexpensive, yet exclusive—BILLIE'S BONNET SHOP, 5638 E.- Washington. St. Mrs. R. Marcy and Mrs. N. Hurt, the new mahagers, have hats ever so smart and new.
Clever. dresses, modestly priced, in-
cluding * junior ‘sizes ‘for school girls. Lingerie, hosiery, and even hand-made handkerchiefs from China: Such ‘a busy ‘place . . . why, ‘the ‘cozy 'CHAT-N-KNIT Shop has‘ even grown into larger
: 's, And Miss Betty Eder - invites all you - knitting enthus-
iasts to step just across the street
‘to. 5541 ' E. Washington now to
see the gorgeous new Tioga Yarns. Don’t miss: these. 2 friendly Httle
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Stockings with black heels
| give an especially smart: con-
gt to. sheer. hosiery.-
- It's our birthday! That's “the Anniversary we've been 80 eager to chirp. about! This column . . . this shopping service department « + this collection of chit-chat . . . ‘we're 2 years old! So, my dear readers, cut yourselves a, ‘slice of special” birthday news and celebrate with me. “Thanks a million” to each “and every person whose name has appeared ‘within these “columns and to each reader whom’ 1 know by sight ‘or sound. Just keep on writing. me or telephoning . Sa we'll observe another
Sun flowers and roses, elephants and donkeys . . . made of candy ..’. . rr ory novel favors for. your part
Sheer wool crepe dresses in {woe tone effects are sale-priced $5 at
THE COLLEGIATE SHOP. And
they're just, the things to put right on now for school and business wear. / In fact, this shop has ae special group of these sale dresses with values » . up to $15. Silks, wools, sheers . . . many styles, many colors , . . better enhance your fall wardrobe with an extra frock or two. I'm sure you hadn’t counted on paying such a little for fall apparel. Shop in the “COLLEGIATE” manner . . , and you'll l6ok the part of youth, (16 N. Meridian St.)
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Spaghetti as it should be made is again in season at the CLAYPOOL HOTEL. Its rich, unusual, full: fiavor . . ..its rare blend of choice . ingredients come- " bine to make 8 dish. that is ‘ex~ tremely appetizing these first brisk days of fail! CLAYPOOL chef understands metropolitan delicacy and makes it trom a select recipe procured Foon an old Italian family. It is served in true Italian style with Parmesan geese tha: is grated fresh daily. Ghrodse The Tavern, The Sandwich (-rill or The Atrium Dining Room . . . ana order spaghetti for lutcheqn, dine hase cll. coied En . . With peze sa -cooled glass of petreslte ing claret!
sa 8 | Send a gift basket of frit by telegraph. ru tell vou
more next week.’