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‘Jordan Tells Reader He Needs » Aid of Mentor or Psychiatrist in Bolstering Self-Confidence

~ Young ‘Man Traces Present Predicament to

Decisions Forced Upon Him as Lad by Aggressive Family.

Put Your problems in a letter to Jane Jordan, who will suggest a solution by her answers in this column,

n n = = = ” EAR JANE JORDAN—I am a young man 31 years old with a college education and average appearance. 1 come from a family of three children of which I am the only son. My family is all above average in ability to accomplish things. I alone have been left out when it comes to initiative. Ever since I was a child some one always made my decisions for me—when I should wear long trousers, whether or not I should play basketball, what college I should attend, what I liked to eat. My wishes always were considered, but some one else always decided for me. *.8 Now I find in myself a great lack of confidence. I don’t seem to be able to decide the smallest matters for myself —whether I should take a weekend trip, whether I should go by train or drive. I dislike meeting new people and although I am dissatisfied with my present employment I find it impossible to apply for new. I do not like to do new things. I dislike places of amusement and a feeling akin to terror comes over me at the prospect of meeting a new girl. My friends are all being > married and have homes, of their own. Jane Sordan ; 2 ; X I have known sereval friends of my sisters and cared fit a lot for 6ne or two. But it was impossible for me to tell them go. Consequently, I have been left out in the cold and the: girls “married other men, After I once know a person I get along very well and have many friends of long standing, but my world is very limited because I can not make new contacts. I realize my difficulty, but am powerless to help myself. Have you any suggestions? * ; CHARLES. ANSWER—What you need is a psychiatrist, not a newspaper columnist. It often happens that ong or more of the members of an aggressive and successful family bepormes too discouraged to compete with home talent. When the family also suffers from psychic myopia and can not see what it is doing to the discouraged member, a bad situation results, Your attitude toward living is still infantile. That is, you still want your life to be given to you without effort on your part. You can make friends if the circumstances are such that you are not obliged to make an effort. In other-words, if friends win you, it is fine, but you will not put forth the energy it takes to win friends for yourself. Of course, I do not know how hard you have tried to tie yourself to the outside yorld and the people init. Your letter indicates no welldev eloped interest in others, but only preoccupation with the self. The

fact that you hold a job even though you do not like it is encouraging

“and the fact that you hold your friends, if they take the trouble to

penetrate your wall of reserve, is hopeful. It “indicates that you can come out of your shell if you will, Therefore, you are not as powerless to help yourself as you think - you are. Nevertheless, a temporary mentor of support, reassure and even to issue commands would facilitate your adjustment consid-

erably. The best procedure I know would. be to reproduce the conditions ‘of your childhood with a temporary parent who was encouraging instead of discouraging, and who had the skill to succeed where your own parents failed, Your objective, of course, is to live without refuge, but

“+ re-education at the hands of an expert is the surest road to.accom-

plishment. : JANE JORDAN, SORORITY GROUPS TO MARK FOUNDING

Founders’ Day is to be observed by ' Alpha Upsilon and Alpha Nu Chapters of Alpha Zeta Beta Soror-

Louise Walpole, Miss Nellie Reilly and Mrs. G. W. Richter. Miss Georgia Dillon, Miss Louise Pflum and Mrs. Mildred Aufderheide are in charge of arrangements for Alpha Nu Chapter.

- . Yarn Used as Trim Yarn pompoms make a gay trimming for summer hats. A whole nosegay of them in a variety of gay colors has been selected by Barbara Pepper to trim a white straw hat.

the Lake Shore Country Club. The Alpha Upsilon Chapter com-

mittee is headed by Miss Rosemary Doyle. and includes Miss Mary

I] vo rece dresses will be important again this fall. This model (No. 8812), with buttons on the sleeves and stitched details, is especially high-styled. However, it is unusually easy to make. Use silk, jersey or lightweight wool. Patterns are sized 14 to 20 and 32 to 42. Size 3 requires 4% yards of 39-inch fabric. With long sleeves, you will need 7s yards. To secure a PATTERN and STEP-BY- STEP SEWING INSTRUCTIONS, fill out the coupon below. ‘The FALL AND WINTER PATTERN BOOK, with a complete selec tion of late dress designs, now is ready. It's 15 cents when purchased separately. Or, if you want to order it with the pattern above, send in Just an additional 10 cents with the coupon.

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New Fabrics and Colors Used for Junior Clothes

Batany wool and alpaca-like silk are new fabrics which Martha Gale, designer. of Cartwright clothes, has introduced this season.

The wool iis as sheer as can be and is fashioned into classroom and sports style frocks of deep, rich colors. The sleek, silk fabric has body and is used effectively in evening dresses as well as dressy afternoon and date frocks.

Fashion-conscious junior-misses assembled : vesterday at Block's to meet Miss Gale, and to see her collection of new clothes shown at an informal fashion review. The Spanish influence is conspicuous in her use of gay boleros and bold colors. Yarn trimmings are utilized In unique ways. Bright colored woolen balls adorn a navy blue | botany wool dress, called “Little Audrey.” Ingenious names, such as this, are used for all of Miss Gale's .designs. “Dapper Dan” is a black and white checked serge of one-piece : style trimmed with cartwheel buttons. “The | Informer” is of high style navy wool with bright green touches. “Rush. Party” is a dressy frock of navy with pipings of coronation red, while “Dude Rancher” goes sporty in a rust-colored wool onepiece dress with rows of bright feit rick-rack. Accessories are subdued because of the gay colors that, electrify these dark outfits. Black is enlivened by vivid yarn stripes, exemplifying the French peasant influence also apparent in this showing. A pep rhythm is brought out in the swing skirts and a. story-book inspiration asserts itself in the highwaisted princess lines. “Fitted and flared’! are the passwords of the season for style and Miss Gale introduces dashes of color to make junior clothes more exciting. (M. B. W)

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BY MARJORIE BINFORD WOODS Times Fashion Editor - :

UTLER co-eds ‘are to champion woolen culottes for active sports-

wear this semester!

Such was the straight-from-the-shoulder news gleaned from Miss Ann Burger, Butler sophomore, who is shown (above) taking her stance and calling her shots, in divided skirt.

Sweaters and tailored skirts Jong have been campus candidates for all-around wear. Now the newest version of the sports skirt bids fair to be elected for bicycle riding, golf-

ing, bowling on the green and gen- |

eral sports. Co-eds who have spent the summer in culottes (when they weren't in bathing suits) have found them necessary aids to a feminine wardrobe. They have found, too, that

Personals

Mrs. Elizabeth J. Smith is to leave Sept. 4 for San Diego, Cal, to visit her sister, Mrs. Sadie Kolb.

Dr. S. J. Copeland and son James have returned from a vacation in Canada. 3 : Miss Vivian McLaughlin has come from Chester, N. Y. to be

with her sister, Mrs. Thomas Kennedy, and Mr. Kennedy. Miss McLaughlin is to enter Butler University next month.

FASHION DECREES _ "EASY FOOTWEAR

Shoes that are easy on the eyes and on the feet, too, will head into freshening fall gales, come end of summer. For the era of foot pinching is past. Easy fitting, well styled shoes ‘will be' the apple of Fashion's eye this fall, and take milady hiking over country roads or tripping smartly along city pavgments when the leaves begin to turn. One-strap models and oxfords .of varying degree of dressiness take top honors for daytime wear . . . both comfortable fashions that are capable of great variety!

STYLES to Suit ecrvone!

Modern Glasses

. Come in and let us help vou select glasses: that will help your eves and enhance your personal appearance. We main(tain a trained staff of optical experts to assist you.

"HAVE YOUR EYES EXAMINED

Dr. Lon D. Sorey Registered Optometrist

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they must insist upon good tailoring in thess free Swings numbers,

HE favored models are cut like tidy skirts and hold the press

through all” the sports activities. The grass green diagonal tweed culotte skirt (above), was cut with cold genius, as you can see. When

not kicking up its heels it gives the |.

appearance of a well-fitted skirt of true academic lines. Miss Burger wears with it a soft knitted sweater of bright rust color, striped down the front with bands of brown. and matching green. Wooden knobs in rust tone button it up to the high round neckline. Sports shoes of brown buckskin hug the ground with their crepe soles. Ankle socks are the thing to wear with sports clothes of all descriptions.

Secret of Fine Cooking Is in + the Seasoning

Sweet Herbs Make Salads and Other Dishes Taste Better.

BY MARY E. DAGUE NEA Service Staff Writer Can't you spare a corner of your yard for a few of the old-time sweet herbs that hold the secret of grandmother’s tasty dishes? Some herbs, like thyme, sage, sweet marjoram and lavender, are perennial and when once established will come year after year. Borage, burnet, sweet basil, thyme, sage and savory are used only after drying. Chive, parsley, dill, chervil and mint

‘are good fresh as well as dried.

The secret of fine cooking lies in seasoning, and no French housewife ever makes a soup without a fagot of herbs—the kitchen bouquet. Usually -it contains sprigs of bay-leaf, pepperpod, carrot, parsley and chives. Soups and stews seasoned with ‘these herbs have 'a savoriness impossible to gain in any other way. Sage, thyme, savory and marjoram are used in stuffings for poultry and meats. Dill, caraway, fennel, mustard, burnet, horseradish

and mint are for sauces.

Give Salad Dressing Savor Herb vinegars are specially good in salad dressings. Basil, tarragon, garlic and parsley vinegars are easily made at home. Most fancy grocers also keep these vinegars on their shelves. Often it is vinegar that is the source of the indescribably agreeable taste found in the French dressings served in the fine hotels and restaurants. Tarragon vinegar should be made in August when the leaves are at their best, although the dried leaves always can be used. Four cups of hot vinegar are poured over one cup of fresh leaves and allowed to stand three weeks, stirring each day. The vinegar is then strained and bottled ready for use. - Basil vinegar is made by steeping the ves in vinegar. Fon two weeks the vinegar is heated each day poured over the leaves. The

infusion is strained and more basil

added until the desired strength is obtained. Garlic vinegar is unusually good with summer vegetable salads. Head lettuce, sliced tomatoes, cucumbers, new cabbage—ih fact any vegetable served with French dressing made with garlic vinegar gains a distinctive flavor. Garlic Vinegar Six cloves garlic, 8 leaves basil, 1% nutmeg, 3 lemons, 312 cups vinegar. Grate nutmeg, squeeze juice from lemons and heat vinegar to the boiling point. Combine all ingredients and bring ‘again to the- ‘boiling point. Bottle and let stand three weeks. Strain, bottle again and seal.

Party Held for Sons, Daughters at Meridian Hills

Approximately 40 sons and daughters of Meridian Hills Country Club members participated in the games and swimming contests held today at the clubhouse. The children’s entertainment committee directed the party which included a picnic luncheon served in the playgrounds at noon. , Mesdames Ben Cohee, C. F. Arensman, A. V. Stackhouse, H. E. Wilson, C. C. Binkley, Alex Taggart Jr. and Robert W. Clark were in charge. Children under 14 attended.

Club to Meet Inter Libros Club members are to meet tonight with Mrs. Silas Van

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relaxed. Exhale slowly.

Etiquette By PATRICIA

INGER FOODS—Bread, crackers, olives, celery, radishes, salted nuts, candy, corn on the cob, and raw fruits are called finger foods. Peaches and apples may be peeled and then eaten with the fingers. Bananas are peeled ‘into a plate and eaten with a fork. Grapes, piums| and cherries are eaten with the fingers and the seeds shouldbe removed from the mouth, one at a time between the thumb and forefinger. It is not good form to dispose of the bones or seeds on cne’s fork and then transfer them to the plate. Chicken legs may be. eaten with the fingers only at a very informal gathering or picnic, otherwise it is best ‘to forego the pleasure of the last bit of meat.

Easy Exercises Recommended tor Double Chin

BY ALICIA HART NEA Service Staff Writer ; The woman who plans and carries. out her own complexion treatments should avoid routines that involve slapping and rubbing. Both tend to break down delicate tissues. If a reliable, experienced facial expert massages your face, that is one thing; to try to go through these operations at home is quite a different matter. If you use a mask now and then be sure to cleanse your skin carefully before you smooth the mask on face and throat. If your skin is even slightly inclined to be dry, apply cream after you have rinsed off the mask. If you have a double chin, it is far better to reduce it with exercises than with massage. At night, after you have cleaned your face and throat, smooth on a bit of rich inhale

ward on your chest. The muscles should be absolutely Leaving your head in the downward. position, inhale and, at the same time, stiffen every muscle of the neck. Slowly raise your head and let it drop backward as far as possible. Exhale. Bring your head upright, then repeat from the beginning. Here is another good exercise for a flabby throat or a double chin: Make muscles of the throat very tense, inhale and hend the head sideways to the left, then breathe out... Come back to the starting position. Inhale again and bend head to the right as far as it will go. Repeat each movement five times. ‘The perfect exercise for head and neck postures can be done easily several times a day. Just put a heavy book flat on top of your head, then walk around the room. If you are standing correctly, the book will stay on your head.

SORORITY HONORS NEW I. U. STUDENTS

. Alpha Delta’ Pi Alumnae of In-

diana, University entertained , with |

an informal party last night at the home of Miss. Shirley Nelson for young women who are to enter the university this fall. Miss Ruth Merrifield assisted the hostess. were the following from out-of-town: Misses Jane Fix, Mary Ellen Cook and Betty Bender of Bloomington, . and Miss Mary Bess Owen, Anderson.

New Vogue Forecast Tiny white field daisies, handembroidered, trim one of the dainty period costumes, the early seventies, designed for Katharine Hepburn to wear in her new: starring picture, “Portrait of a Rebel.” The effect is so attractive it is sure to start a new vogue.

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Child’s Life Af _ ects School Work

Surroundings Should Be Peaceful, Writer Advises.

(This is the second of three are ticles on “Going to School”)

BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON

Home life and home attitude play a big part in the success of the chi at school. While it is best to let children work out their own salvation with as little interference as possible, the family background must be placid if the child js to do his best work. This is as true as it is of the busi. neses man or woman, Worries care

ried to the office or the store dee.

tract from attention and interest, Efficiency is the first thing to feel the effects of nagging unhappiness. The practical matters of living

count most of all with the child,

He needs sleep and lots of it. He nee proper and nicely cooked food. He has to be clean if he is to keep his self-respect. His body must be bathed often, his clothes mended ahd laundered, his hair cut and well-brushed and his teeth scrubbed. The decently groomed boy or girl, so most teach=ers have discovered, show more interest in other: pupils about them and in careful deportment.

Early Rising Best One of the greatest boosters of the child's success is getting up early, Not just on time, but early. whole family should get to bed at an hour that will permit long hours of sleep. Tempers will be smoother, breakfasts will - be digested ‘and

there won't be that breathless rac=

ing to get places that has. a reace tion of exhaustion and .depression. It is very hard sometimes for the busy mother to live up-to this letter

‘of the law. Many things in family

life interfere with her regular rest. But in this case, at least the chil« dren can turn in on time. And the parents must do the best they can, If there is homework to be done, the child will do better if he has the moral backing of his parents. If they see that he has a quiet core ner (or, better still, his own room), and turn the radio off, problems

won't take so long. And are more

likely to be right. See that there is a regular time allotted for home studies. Don’t allow Billy to talk about movies until they are out of the way. Put away his book of adventure stories and: say, “Get that work: done first.” If this sounds too heroic, heartless and unsympathetic, it ‘is

best to remember that he will feel

much better with his job off his mind. He will enjoy his book or his

movie far more with a clear con=-

science. However, if the family rises very early, morning is a grand time to dispatch lessons. The only trouble here is that something nay happen to interfere. . Parents’ Interest Aids ‘There should be a real interest in homework. Parents could surely take time off now and then to show the children that they are in close

touch with his progress and then he will not feel so completely re

'moved from them when he. is drilling away over quotients, Sivisn : 1 and multiplicands.

See that the child is not overworked now with home duties. He needs to play and romp outdoors. Life should be smooth as far as family relationships are concerned. The one who lives among quarrels or gloom will show it in his school life always. His background must be favorable if he is to be his own

man. (Copyright, 1936," NEA Service, Inc.)

Meter as hostess.

Hope I'm not too late with this “word to the wise.” You really

should be fitted in the proper foun-.

dation garment before selecting new fall clothes. MARTHA WHEELER'S Corset Shop advances the trend toward extreme lines: And forthwith presents the selected girdle and bra for every figure, Visit her adorable new little shop, 205 HumeMansur Bldg. and be smartly and comfortably fitted!

These transparent umbrellas and the coats or capes that fold ‘into tiny packets after showers . . . will brighten up any rainy day.

Tea-time topics to be dis- ~ cussed just between us! - Look well fo these paragraphs today for an up-to-the-hour review of the shops. Lots of | activity down in town these last days in August . . . every one ready to welcome a cooler season. And, oh, so many bits of news just ready to burst forth as soon as September arrives. I'll write again September Morn . . . with renewed interest in your shopping problems. Remember I'll even shop for you, if you give me instructions and say whether to charge or send C. 0. D. Just phone me a RI-5551 and ask for

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A feather in her hat . . . 8 the fashion “must” of the first autumn millinery.

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“College clbthes from a college shop’ . and: every-dress and coat pr J suit and sweater—a honey! Go . back to school in the smart~ est outfit you can find .

and be ready for the sports

events and the dances with costumes that snap approval when “boy meets girl.” : THE COLLEGIATE Hon I'm hoping you will visit, 16

N. Meridian-st. And if you

don’t already know the vouthful and unusual clothes that are assembled here . . . it’s

Clever dragons and chenills

dolls are novelties from t

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bit of fun for the children.

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