Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 14 August 1936 — Page 21

Perhaps Young Man's Excuses Merely Hide Waning Interest, Jordan Suggests to ‘Anxious’

However, His Plaint of “Yoir're Too Good for

Me* May Only, Reflect Pessimism of Discouraged Person.

Write to Jane Sardan for more light on your problems. She will answer your letters in this column.

2 f J » i 8 ” ad : EAR JANE JORDAN—I was engaged to a man 28 years old for ‘about six months. Now as time goes on he sees less of me and I finally asked what the trouble :was., The reason he gave for his actions was that he thought I was too good for him. He says he loves me, but - thinks that he only can offer me trouble, as that is all he has had in his life. He made an unfortunate marriage, lost his only child and had 1llness. : ) He has a steady job, but it just seems that he can not get out of the rut, although he tries very hard and I do want to help him. He is very stubborn and won't see things my way. I would marry him and work right with him to make something out of his life. I love him very much and have told *~him so, but he thinks that I haven't lived long enough to understand life as he sees it and would only marry him through pity. I am 24 years old and believe I understand life, but I haven't loved any one before like this. He treats me with all the respect of a gentleman. What I can’t understand is how I can make him see things my way I can't do that and I would like ANXIOUS.

| Jane Jordan

without pushing myself on him, your help.

ANSWER—What you will have to determine is whether or not the |

young man’s behavior is born of self-pity in which he wishes you to Join, or whether it’ is a cover-up to conceal a growing indifference. It is a little bit suspicious when a young man-‘begins to let a girl down by playing up her virtues and representing himself as a worm by comparison. This device has been used so many times by tired but kindhearted young men who wish to withdraw without hurting ‘a girl's feelings that he should not be surprised it you interpret his conduct as a dodge. * After all, there has been no external ange: in his life since he became engaged to you. What is true now was true then, but it did not prevent his proposal. What then does he hope to gain by these sick assertions that he is “born for trouble” and has nothing else to bring to a marriage? Does he want you to quit or break down and cry? In either case you should point gut to him that pessimism is the retreat of a discouraged person. He doesn’t feel equal to. the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune and excuses his failure by blaming the eomplications of existence. If he stays in a rut it is because he likes the rut and prefers it to the effort required to get out. What docs he mean by “good?” There is something uncom- . plimentary in the way he uses the word. No man really thinks .& woman is too good for him providing he admires her brand of goodness. It must be that he finds your brand “of virtue a little tedious or he would not hesitate to make it a part of his’ life. You can't sweeten a viewpoint gone sour unless. the individual wants a more cheerful outlook. You may enjoy. being helpful to the man you love at first but if you have to drag a dead weighit of gloom after, you all your life you won't find it particularly pleasant, If he doesn’t wish to join you in a courageous meeting of the problems of "life there isn’t anything you can do about it except to leave him crying in his rut, JANE JORDAN

HUNTER-MUNCHHOF RITES TOMORROW

The marriage ~of Mrs. Edwina Munchhof, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. J. BE. Nichols, to Robert E. Hunter, . + Anderson, is to take place tomorrow. - After an extended trip -through the Bast they are to be at home in Anderson. Mrs. Munchhof is a Young Demo-

~rats’ national committeewoman. Prior to her position as a secretary

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{n the Governor's office she was prominent in American Legion Auxiliary work.

CLUB SCHEDULES ANOTHER DANCE The Hillcrest Club is to have an- | other of its summer dances tomorrow night. Grayson’s six-piece orchestra is to provide music. Mr. and Mrs. Forrest ‘Teel, Mr. and Mrs. ¥: L. Smithers Jr. and Mr. and Mrs. L. E. Black are in charge of arrangements.

Shower Tonight Is to Be ‘Given’ for Miss Usher

Friends of Miss Rosemary Usher, a bride-to-be, are to present her with gifts of linen at a shower to be given tonight by Mrs. Carl Pretzinger. Miss Usher's marriage to Frank

Johns is to-take place Monday at St. Anthony’s Church. Guests tonight are to include Mesdames George W. Usher, Frank H. Johns, Edward Berning, Hugh Gauhan, Bert Cool, John Dugan, John Gansman, John Collins, 3. Grande, Ormel Chesebrough, Emil Mertz, John Roach, Marie Zapp, O. E. Schilling, Leslie Warren, Richard Hanley, Thomas Wolfla, P. J. Hamlon, Harold Entwistle, J. J. Hamlon, Margaret Wolf, Carl Bernhardt and Misses Kathleen Usher, Elfrieda Grande, Norma Zapp, Rita and Bernice Johns and Eileen Kaufman. Mr. and Mrs. Usher are to entertain the bridal party at dinner Sunday at their home.

. Stuck Reunion Sehetluled

NOM Ton hot days and style, no. matter v aed We eae of ‘this dress, No. 882 its two-button closing forms = -panel in the F Sontitiued down. inte she skirt Trimet o pln

' The fifth annual reiinion of the

Stuck ' family is. to-be held Sun-

day at the Janitz farm, -Shelby-st. Calvin Stuck is president and Miss

Esther Jenkins, secretary.

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—Photo by Noble Bretzman.

" BY r MARJORIE BINFORD WOODSTimes Fashion Editor ,

ITH dear ol’ ‘golden rule days hovering ‘near, the. smallest boy and girl: in: the household soon will be setting out for nursery

school.

deep-toned cottons. Betty and Bobby (above) have

alike. Just as bites of the rosy red apple are divided equally between them, so do they share the same colors and styles in their school togs. Dubonnet is the vibrant shade of pique in these clothes, accented with glistening off-white pipings, emblems and neckes, Little American princesses take to princess styles so fashionable again and little boys’ suits are. trim and smart in. their tailored brevity.

You know perfectly well that| ‘they’ll: most likely climb a tree be-

fore they get out of your sight, so you might 5 as gel put your dimpled darlings in sturdy washable clothes that will “take Toughing- -it with aplomb! ; 8 8 8 COTCH plaids and vivid colors in cottons are taking the lead for autumn in mite’s clothes. Puffed sleeves, vari-colored rick-rack trimmings, jumper styles with separate ‘ | blouses, broad shoulders and double breasted buttenings all are highlights of back-to-school duds.

The . classic shirtwaist frock ‘is a |

borrowed ‘trend . from mother’s wardrobe for: little daughter. Now. father is the only member of the

family who hasn't one, but he'll be.

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‘Keep ‘them: twin-like as’ long as possible in brother and sister suits of

Your youngsters soon will be’ beg-.

ging for reefer . coats when they see their playmates wearing them this season. They are British and smart with fitted lines, wide notched lapels and plenty of warmth for all except the chilliest days.’

Shower Arranged for Miss. Kuntz

Rainbow colors’ are aL the

linen shower and bunco party which

Miss Louise Calvélage and Mrs. Thomas Hankins are to give tonight at the home of Miss Calvelage’s sister, Mrs. ‘Kenneth Rogers, 551 W. 31st-st. : The party is to honor Miss Geraldine Kuntz, daughter of Mr. and

Mrs. Milton H. Kuntz, whose marriage to. Orlando H. Dunn, son of

been taught. io share and. share next for ‘brotheg already 5 edging

Fake Advantage of C

portunity

to Broaden Child's Experience-

- Despite Apathy, Parents Told is Museums, Historical Spots, Cultural

Exhibits Remembered With Pride in Later Years, Writer Observes.

, BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON

“Vacation time is just right for the world about him.

expanding the child's knowledge of

This time I am not speaking of nature Pasticulasly, although it goes

without saying that summer days are the time to

absorb its beauties.

What comes to mind at the moment is the neglected opportunity for widening the child's fund of facts about art, architecture, science and

history.

|Brown Latest

Makeup Color for Fall Wear

There’s a dark outlook for faces

this fall. Brown tones are being|;3

introduced in new autumn makeup, to compliment the wearing: of copper, rust and green, according to Miss Lucille Whisnant, New York and -Chicago cosmetitian, who is

spending a few days here. * Summer pinks and rose tones in

‘| rouges and powders won't harmon-

Sorority Names Representatives for Convention

The local Chi Chi Chapter, Alpha Sigma Alpha sorority, is. to be represented at the organization’s fourteenth biennial convention at Big Pelican Lake, Pequot, Minn. . Monday through Friday. Mrs. Wililam Kingdon, president; ‘| Mrs. 0. K. Gaskins, vice president; Mrs. B. F..Leib, Misses Adelaide McCarty, Eloise Proctor and Helen Selvage’ are to be delegates. Mrs. L. H, Whitcraft, Muncie, advisor for the new Ball State Teachers’ College chapter, and Miss June Wilkinson, Muncie, are to attend. They are to be initiated during a model ceremony. Their chapter is to be installed this fall. Mrs. Leib, editor of the sorority’s national publication, The Phoenix, is convention publicity chairman. Mr. Gaskins is the convention's alphabet luncheon chairman; Miss Proctor, local exhibit chairman, and Miss Selvage has composed several songs to be sung by local delegates

at a ‘song fest. ”

J. O. Dunn, is to take place Aug. 29. |

The ceremony is to be read at bie West Washington Church.

‘Thirty guests are to be entertained |

at tonight's party.

Russian styles, tunics, short skirts with a flare . . . you'll see all these

THE COLLEGIATE SHOP. . They're the topmost styles for fall, too.

ize with cool “weather clothes of «darker shades, she says. - All makeup, to keep ‘up . with fashion’s promptings, ‘is, taking on’ tangerine tones, and powders have a brownish cast that give the face a fresh glow and are more flattering than the lighter, flesh shades. Miss Whisnant believes that women should “try on” their makeup before they buy, always bearing in mind the color of clothes with which certain shades are to be worn, and whether it is for daytime or evening.

Eye Shades Are New

Jeweled eyes are the latest fad. There is a sparkling new eye shadow that does flattering things when applied in the correct shade. Star dust, a silver paste, is one of the most popular of the new tones, especially for evening wear. Gold stone, amethyst, turquoise and aquamarine .are all soft shades that enhance blonds and brunets alike. Green faces are about to make their appearances .at New York

{1 fashionable night spots, Miss Whis1 nant reports.

It sounds weird enough, but according to this cosmetitian, the effect of. a. delicate pistachio green - makeup is quite charming when worn on the pale type of woman and with .the right gown,

Etiquette By PATRICIA

NFORMAL NOTE INVITATIONS —Informal notes may be written to close friends as invitations to informal parties, although the telephone largely. has taken their place. For example: a Dear Mrs. Jones: Will you and Mr. Jones join with us on ‘Tuesday, the sixth .of June, at seven o'clock?

Hoping to have the pleasure

of. seeing. you, Very sincerely, ‘Mary Brown. The informal note is answered in like form. If, because of illness, or for other reasons, an invitation i) be recalled, the following form may be used: ‘Owing to sudden illmess, Mr. and Mrs. John Carter are id to recall their invitations for Tuesday the sixth of June.

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Luncheon Is Given Mrs. Albert Ricketts entertained with a luncheon yesterday for Miss

Irene Duncan, Mrs. Harry Nugent and her sons, Edwid and Richard

‘Nugent.

.| something

Families drive rapidly through cities and towns without much more thought of what they may contain other than an ice-cream cone or a toy at the nearest flvesand-ten.

Is time so scarce? Is-it so ime

‘portant to get there? And then ‘wonder later what the rush was.

Children hate to stop.” They usudlly don’t care a ‘whoop what great man painted those “yellow pictures, or why a certain building famous for something or other, or that a statue is oue of the greatest in the world.

Children Eager to Reach Goal

Once inside a museum of natural history, they will possibly ‘discover more things to their: liking; and museums housing the examples of progress will probably. fascinate the boys. But in all likelihgod they will protest, “We don’t want to stop here. We want to get there and go swimming.” : Once in a while, ‘Howevet, the very greatest favor we can do them is to march the small rebels straight up to experience.’ Whether they love it or no, in 10 years listen to them say proudly, “Oh, I was there once. You ought to see it.” "The real traveler always learns as he goes. It is not provincial ta “look” one’s way. Quite the reverse, The complacent know-enough is shouting his failirig from ‘the house tops. Once T had almost’to be Thuzzled, thrown and dragged’ to see ‘Sarah ‘Bernhardt play “L’Aiglon,” ‘about the Eaglet, who was Napoleon's sickly son and the youthful King of Rome. The world’s greatest actress was then over 50. She spoke in French as, did -all the artists in. the company. I did not know the story at all when I went and less when I left. ‘I was- bored ‘to death. The boy (Sarah) was-dead: on the stage of something that: ailed-him, and I never wanted to hear any French again, Still Is Treasured Memory

I've spent 30.0dd.years bragging about having seen that “show,” and

{the divine. Sarah ‘in her. greatest

play. I gradually. became .aware, as I grew older, of the privilege I'd had. Not only that, but I wrack my brains even-:today in: & desperate attempt fo salvage a gesture or to recall the “boy's” voice and emotions amidst the cabal that surrounded him. I have learned the detailed facts, long- since, of that tragic history, but I still try to add tangible orice touched and not quite lost, .. So. will it be with all ‘the things and places we show qur children now. They will relive them. some day and translate them with their books. They will. have been, and seen and known. So please .do not scorn art. gal= leries or memorials, historic landmarks or famous buildings. Spend an hour when you can on great music or a great musician—if you have the opportunity. Do as the

| Italians did whom I sat behind at

“Il Trovatore” one time, They held the babies on their knees and the other curly-heads Fhe ih a! row beside them. Vacation is the time of times to learn what the world is all about. (Copyright, 1936, NEA Service, Inc.)

Broad Ripple. If you haven't ready discovered this “rendezvous for collectors” ., . you have no idea what you're missing. For that birthday gift, that bridge or the pursuit of your favorite ven this shop will soon become a haunt of yours. Before you go on.vaca-