Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 27 July 1936 — Page 6
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For years we have been he that the sensitive people of the _ world give the most to art and heauty, and that creative genius ;long
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ing if it were rot for them, 1 think another sentence needs to be added, though: that the too-sen-sitive and hyper-emotional person is pmo useless of mortals, unless ! & goodly proportion of the practical in him, and an ability to put behind him his
> unfitted for any kind of work otherwise. ~ This brings us to the matter of the child. Is he to be standardized, and all his sensitiveness discouraged, Or are we doing him a favor to let love and sympathy alone rule his life and his happiness?
Child Faces Agony, Too _Here I am speaking of extreines,
of course, as love and sympathy can
not be questioned in any ordinary sense. On the other hand, when ~ the child's roots are buried too deeply in an emotional life, he can suffer as terribly through them as he can enjoy their benefits. All feeling has this double feactiort. As we reach the very peak of happiness through an emotion, just 80 can we descend to thé depths of agony through it. Each summit has its counterpart in the depths. I think we should remember this. It is natural for a mother to wiap her children tenderly (in her love. Natural to protect the child who is “high strung” as she! calls it, or deeply imaginative, Natural for her to take a certain pride in saying that Jim feels more deeply than the rest. She takes pride in remarking that some day he will do great things and, through his finer fee¢l- ‘ ings, be a master of sorts. He Is Dreanter
He is a dreamer, naturally. He has moods, naturally. He suffers at times from vague apprehension, naturally. He needs understanding and humoring, and she is the ore to do it because she is the only ore who does understand him, so she thinks. She not only protects hin from the crudities and musts cf daily life, but by her motherly tactics deepsn the “finer emotions” by exaggerated demonstrations. It does not occur to her that this highly sensitized boy need not bg fed more emotion. He néeds under. standing and sympathetic handling, but what he needs also is a bedrock: of will and determination and con trol, if his gifts are to be of the least use to him, or any one else, ir the future. Can’t Use Force
Forcing can not be used. But his whole life can be filled with activity to displace some of the dreaming ~ This activity should be attractive enough to get him interested. Sports and games and outdcor exercise. Cultivate hobbies. See that he has friends and does not withdraw iAto himself too much. A normal . amount of movies and books, but not to the exclusion of other things. Toughen him gradually to real life. He will keep his dream world and seek his escapes; but at
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‘BY MARJORIE BINFORD WOODS = == | («5 Times Fashion Editor x ARY has’a Persian lamb! It is sure to prove a pet when the snow flies and will: certainly follow her everywhere she goes . . . if winter curaes! ‘Its fleece is silvery gray and as snugly warm and chic
in style wus zero 1937 will permit. With 1lpval stores pushing their winter wires before us so soon, we are forced to stop and look ahead. Furs were never so alluring and it is the come-early buyers who will walk away’ with the best values in ‘style and duality, for -newer, more exciting fur fashions are brought ‘out early as bidders for your business. Interesting silhouettes, such as the one above, are to be seen in the new coats, Face-framing, saucer collars, tunic styles and swaggers in new lengths are among the more gifted numbers.
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RAY is leading by a wide margin in fur coats, with brown and black following next in line. Deep armholes, with high-standing padded shoulders, appear toc advantage. Flared contours will be the thing when cold breezes blow. This Persian lamb is slimly fitted at waist and hipline, held by a leather belt and flaring ‘like a bell at the bottom. May wine, bright green and black are the leading accessory colors to be worn witli gray. Spiral swaggers are said to be especially good in Japanese anil China minks, seal, lapin and raccoon. Let-out backs, worked in sunburst effect, swirled sleevis are new notes also. You need only an instinct for luxury to corjipletely lose your head
over these utyles and silky furs. With so many of them going into}
the lay-away departments every day now, it behoiives us all to protect Surseives from being left out in the
Tt is better ti) have one's full name on the card. Bi wee ‘A widow conilinues to use her hus{band’s name on her cards.
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Personals
Mrs. John E. Messick, 3525 Wash-ington-blvd, and children, Betty and Jack, are spending the remainder of the summer at the Ponshewaing, Alanson, Mich. Mr. Messick is to join them the middle of August for a two weeks’ vacation.
Mr. and Mrs. Louis S. Hensley, 602 E. 56th-st, and children, Charlotte and Louis Jr., were the weekend guests of Mr. and Mrs. Qrien Pifer at their summer cottage at Lake Magxinkuckee. :
Wedding Date Set
The marriage of Miss Charlotte Pasho and Edward L. Hansen is to be solemnized Aug. 29 in St. Msie's Pasho is a daughter of Mr. sand Mrs. William Pasho. Pret
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.Pifteen guests are fo be entertained by Mrs. Garth R. Marine ard
Mrs. Earl J. Thurber tonight at the linen shower they are fo give in honor of Miss Mary Miller. Miss Miller is to be married to the hostesses’ brother, Robert H. Thomas, at 8:30 p. m. Saturday in
the Third Christian Church, Mrs. R. C. Marine is to assist the hostesses
The guests with Miss Miller and her mother, Mrs. Henry B. Miller, are to include Misses June Miller, Mary K. Dyer, Rosalyn Reed and Mary Paxton Young; Mesdames Chester C. Ridge, Howard L. Kiser, J.D. Sparks, Richard G. Foltz, How land Crawford, Thomas P. Maloy Robert Gardner, William M, For syth and R. M. Armer,
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Mrs. John M. Scott (above) was Miss Florence Renn, daughter of Mrs. A. E. Renn, before her marriage here recently. Mr. and Mrs, Scott are to live at Grand Rapids, Mich, following their wedding D. ’
CHURCH WEDDING SET FOR AUG. 17
St. Anthony's Catholic Church is to be the scene of the wedding of Miss Rosemary Usher to Frank Johns, son of Mr. and Mrs. Frank H. Johns, Aug. 17. Miss Usher is the daughter of
1 Mr, and Mrs. George W. Usher.
‘Hats On’ Movement Arouses Ire of ‘Old-Fashioned’ Writer
BY HELEN WELSHIMER NEA Service Writer
I don’t care who his grandfather was . .. if a man doesn’t take off his hat in an elevator, I don’t like it! The elevator may in the senatorial building or a dime store, but I don’t think a hat has any business on a man’s jead when a woman is taking a ride, too. Old-fashioned? Outmoded? Extravagant waste of time? Of course it is. Maybe that's why I like it. After all, there has to be some foolish memento of the days when were accorded special privileges, Those men who gat together down in Washington recently and decided to add another alphabetical society to the New Deal list were serious about the right hand movement which removes a hat when a woman enters an elevator. The newspaper men and congressmen, who are the society’s organizers, are calling themselves the Association for the Prevention of Taking Off Hats in Elevators. lots of women are saying it’s a good thing because they have had their eyes blackened when a derby or a slouch hat came off. I like men who open doors: for ‘women, too. I like men who seat women at ithe table. I even like to hear men ask if they may smoke, although they know, of course, they may. And I'm very, very fond of men who give up their seats in the subway fo strange women. I don’t know of any men like that, though. I could like them, I mean, if I ever met any..
Women may say that they want
with all the advantages that men have, and then supplied with another full set because they are women. Most of us don’t admit it until
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steps together and looking for a job, one of these days.’ But that matter of hats! There is no earthly reason why a man should uncover his head, ever, in the presence of a woman. She is just another human being, and goodness knows, she has tried hard enough to jump down from her pedestal and play some real tennis. The trouble is that she wants to keep the ball in her own court all the time. She feels as though she something special when a man, even a bald-headed, grandfatherly man whom she never will see again in any elevator removes his hat jus because she is going along on the elevator journey. Women want to be placed on a parity with men, they say. Yet thes resent it when they are. What they really desire is to be given a place on an upper platform. Anyway, I like men who remove their hats in elevators. I hope the association gets tangled in its own Jesters, a not taking off my hat
N ew Heel Stays on Ground When Steps Are Taken
Skeptics who claim there’s nothing new under the sun fail to reckon with the ingenuity of heel designers. Scarcely a month goes by without the appearance of a new heel style or a striking variation of a classic heel. ; Foremost among the latest mod‘els 1s a heel which remains on the ground while the rest of the shoe
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as much or even more than ever. He had the theory that people could guide their loves but says le hss found out now that they can i, She does not want him as a h band and is not trying to wir aviay from me, and he says she is as safe with him as would be. She says she saine feeling tor me as hin, but realizes
marry. | he has had several opportunities to marry but they did not appeal My husband's love for he* has been so ‘intense that I hava been almost to the point of hating: het. She hns no other grea friends and her people have no grea; love for her. 3he lives in a littl town and now she wants to come to the city to get a job. My husbanc: wants to let her stay with us. Hu says I will not lose by it but gain. Things will not be pleasant foi’ any of us unless I overcome my: Jealousy. He says if there was &. young man: worthy of her he would do everything in his power to help her fall in love and marry. But 1 am afraid she would be so contenied she couldn’t see any one else, It I let her come here would it make him care for me more? . PUZZLED WIFE. ~ Answer—Your ~ own instinctive “no” is the only guide you need in this! situation. You've had the good sense to keep ycur husband’s affec< tior| during a trying period but that * does not mean that you have to tak: your rival right into the bosom of your family to tempt your huse band, disturb your peace of mind and. threaten the welfare of your children. Let her compete with single women for the love of a single man according to the rules. Your husband has discovered that he is not monogamous and he is trying to rationalize the uprising of greedy, primitive ime pulses by putting a noble interpretation on ignoble motives. He is perfectly sincere in his twisting of the facts: he simply isn't on to himself yet. When an emotionally - mature and psychologically healthy man finds himself attracted to two women, he makes a choice between them and sticks to it. If he finds it worth while to guard his relation ship with his wife and childre; froma danger, he inhibits his for an intruder. : ; Coinmon sense fells him he can’t have two women in our culture: thereilore he méeti; the demands of reality instead of trying to make a reality of his own. This is the test of a normal.person, that he cam choose between tw pressing and cleave to the one which gives the most promise of a socially ree sponsible and useful life. oy Th: motives of the Iady ppen, = guestion, If she courage tp ; sponsibilities and of mare riage, she wouldn't the issue by choosing sn unavailable man, and i! she really was fond of you she vould clear out of ' your territory. It is possible that she is so fond of you thal she feels even closer to you when permitted to share your husband’s affection. In that case the situation is sicker
over, ¥ Shag 5 you have a right to insist that whatever is done be in harmony with things ss they -actually are and not as your husband would like them to be. How would he feel if the case were reversed and you wanted another man you loved to live in the house? wives
BETHOTHED COUPLE FETED AT DINNER
Mr. and Mrs. For<l Kaufman ene net with dinner party ‘Sature