Indianapolis Times, Indianapolis, Marion County, 23 June 1936 — Page 10

efinite Ideas Held Best for

Child Training ]

Mother, Father Should Confer on Problems, Writer Suggests.

(Dr. Morris Fishbein discusses infant health on Page 14).

BY OLIVE ROBERTS BARTON Parents really should agree as

wud: 2.4 possible on policy in raising

children. While it is natural, perhaps, for mothers and fathers to pull in different directions, yet they would find it more peaceful to have a conference once in a while and try to understand each other's point of view. Dad doesn’t realize that he is too critical of Betty. Mother resents any one saying that she babies Jimmy too much. Daddy has a fit every + time mother apologizes for Mark's laziness, but she does two fits every time he encourages Mark to take a hand at the wheel of the car. Childref! Are Puzzled

And so the days pass, each pulling in an opposite direction and the children taking sides with the one who humors them the most. Nothing is more fatal to obedience than for children to know that one parent is against and another for them. 1f they were consistent and both were the same about everything, then at least one parent would be obeyed. But when children are uncertain about which way the wind is going to blow they will almost invariably tempt fate. . Finding Solution for Problem One quiet evening Mr. Smith and

Mrs. Smith might have a symposium on Betty. “I think, John,” Mrs.

Smith could say calmly, and tact-|

fully, “that Betty is abnormally sensitive. If we understood her better I don’t believe she would cry so much. I have found that she tries terribly hard if I pretend not to see her mistakes at times, and encourage her all I can. When I scold her she gets like a rag and can’t do: anything.” Mr. Smith may have an idea about Betty, too, and declare that she will never get anywhere without some one behind her to push her on. Mrs. Smith never thought of this before, and pondering - it, much to her surprise finds she has to agree. Anyway, between them they can work out a general plan concerning Betty that will be much

better than the constant guesswork |

of the past. Betty never needs to know she is being .discussed. Formerly she has known she was a constant source of contention. Which was bad for a child of her makeup. Reconciling Divergent Views Mr. Smith may be made to understand that he expects too much of Jimmy. If he will wait a year or two to put the little fellow through some of the. jumps he demands now, Mrs. Smith tells him, she won't feel it so necessary to protest. As for Marcy, each of them may find discussion a revelation of relief. The growing boy, with ex.periment at its height, needs some very special understanding. Parents seldom. talk out their hearts, their ideas or reasons to one another. They wait until a crisis arises ‘and the children are present. This is about the : worst thing they can do, if they expect to get anywhere in a constructive way. Decisions made on impulse or in

Sorority Head | Is to Inspect Coast Groups

Mrs. Imogene Mullins Redell, recently elected national vice président of Delta Theta Tau Philanthropic Sorority, is to go to. California and Seattle, Wash, next month to visit sorority chapters. Mrs. Reddell has been national editor. for the sorority. She also is editor of the United Christian Missionary Society weekly bulletin and is a feature and short. story: writer for World Call, Front Rank and Junior World. ; Mrs. Reddell, De ‘Pauw .University graduate, is a member of the

recently completed a $1000 gift to the James Whitcomb Riley Hospital for Children. Last week the chapter presented $700 worth of motion

picture equipment. to .the Indiana

Daiversity Dental School children’s

anger are usually wrong anyway. (Copyright, 1836. NEA Service, Inc.)

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Iclosed is 15 bents in ooln tor j

local Alpha Epsilon Chapter, which’

Good to Eat

I WISH somebody would invent some new -and glamorous words to describe delicious food. Nothing is more overworked than that very word “delicious,” that old stand-by “excellent” and others of that general nature. Yet what can you say when you come across a remarkable (that’s a new one) recipe for a shortcake base ‘that’s uriequaled in any kitchen ‘or on any table? “This recipe for shortcake is something = (although ‘very little). of a baking powder biscuit and more of a French pastry crust. It's as easy to make as most. biscuits yet quite superior to any. This dough can best be described when I tell you that the pastry is full of air bubbles like the shortest, flaky pastry; should be nicely browned and crisp and is simply wonderful with any ‘fresh fruit. It should be particularly useful during the berry season.

KANSAS SHORTCAKE SERVING 3

15 cup flour. "3 + teaspoons shortening or lard

. % teaspoon baking powder

The. important ‘thing about these biscuits (for lack of a better name)

is that they must. be rolled - quite Lit

hin. - Sift the dry ‘ingredients, Tub’ in

‘|the rshortening or cut it in with

sharp knives, then slowly. add the milk.

Roll the dough about 1% inch thick on a slightly floured board, cut into 2 to: 3-inch. rounds, place on a greased pan, putting a good lump of

| butter between each two biscuits be-

fore baking. You will have 12 biscuits in #il, but that makes 6 shortcakes since you bake them in layers of two. This allows 2 small shortcakes per persons. Bake in a hot oven ‘about 8 to 10 minutes until nicely browned. Please don’t think this is just another shortcake recipe; it's not; 1's something unusually good. -

| MOOSE AUXILIARY

~TO INSTALL HEADS

“New officers are to be installed by

| Chapter 11, Women of the Moose,

at a public. ceremony Thursday night. at Moose’ Teniple. The elected officers include Mrs.

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BY MARJORIE BINFORD WOODS ‘Times Fashion Editor ETWEEN sets, Miss Catherine Bowsher takes. it easy on the country club terrace wearing a two-piece. pique play suit of cardinal red... She selected it to wear also on the courts at Camp Delight, where she is summer “eounselor and tennis instructor to the Camp. Fire Girls. :

Her game is top-notch and she sees to it that winding skirts and tight: sleeves are not present to deter her speed on the court. : When in action, the skirt'is cast aside and the . matching: shorts, attached to the short-sleeved blouse, come into their own. "82 8 HESE one-piece shorts outfits that can call. upon a wraparound skirt to cover them when necessary,: are in great favor with women tennis players. : Although banned for bicycling in Bermuda, when worn-with the skirt they are accepted for practically every sport, except golf, in this land of the free and home of the brave! Flocks * of winged white birds give this clever suit an airiness that is matched only by the flight of the wearer in action. Shorts are longer this year, and Pleats allow plenty of leg action. The sun visor is one of those knobby tie-on linen affairs, so in evidence everywhere now because they keep the hair trim and shade the eyes from the sun.

SISTER TO ATTEND CATHERINE DAVY

Miss Roseann Davy is to be maid of honor at the wedding of her sister, Miss Catherine Anne Davy, to Bernard W. Braun, son of Charles F. Braun Sr. Miss Davy’s father is Ds. Hugh J. Davy Sr. Miss Cecelia Davey, another sister, is to be bridesmaid. The wedding is to be performed by Msgr. John P. O’Connell July - 4 at St. Patrick's’ Church." Gerald F, Davey, brother of the bride-to-be, and Joseph Braun, brother of the bridegroom-to-be, are to be ushers. Leo Braun, another brother, is to be best man.

From Couple.

~ Jane Advises

{| Too Much Kindness May

Be Difficulty for Pair, She Says.

Write to Jane Jordan for more insight inte your problems. She will answer your letter in this column.

Dear Jane Jordan—My hfother married my husband's sister, He left her in a small place of business and came here and my husband got

him a job. : | started

drinking and going with a married woman, while my sister-in-law stayed in

: | their home town | to settle debts and sell

their

what they -had. When she came here she found him dead drunk: with ue girl. She o. ma a divorce, but he Jane Jordaw broke down and said he didn’t want this other ‘woman. One day the woman'’s husband came to our house looking for his wife. I told him never to come to our house. looking for her again, as I was sure she never would get a chance to come here. = My sister-in-law has one child and is expecting another. She is so nervous that the doctor said we must keep Her as quiet as we can. My husband doesn’t think as much of her because his mother gave her a fair start when she got married and did not give the same start to the other cihldren. But she is a sweet girl and easy to get along with. My husband said. “Don’t you ever be guilty of playing hero again for them.” Can you help this troubled woman? JUST A SISTER.

Answer—It is a very sad thing

but there is nothing that you or I

can ‘do to help your brother and his wife. While it sounds very heartless there is wisdom in your hus-

band’s order that you do not play hero for them again. It occurs to me that they may have had too much help already and that this is a part of their difficulty. For example you say that this girl received a better start when she married than any of her brothers and sisters, but did it help her to succeed? « This revelation suggests: that your sister-in-law was the favored child in her family and that she grew up expecting other people to do something for her. Now she comes to you in her trouble and lets you face her difficulties for her. The doctor says, she must be kept as quiet as posgible, shielded from reality. I do not mean that she is not sweet and helpless and appealing, but it is not real kindness to keep her that way. Every grown up person must learn fo. live without props. If you withdraw the props perhaps your brother and his wife will develop some backbone of their own, I wonder if your brother would 50 completely “disregard his responsibility for his wife and child if you were not there to give them yefuge. I wonder if your sister-in-law would not develop unexpected resources and courage if you were not present to keep her soft with your sympathy. Her problem is hard, distressing and cruel, but as common as the measles. She has not been singled out for a strange unknown experience. Hundreds and thousands of women have been through the same thing. The weak and overprotected go down to defeat, but sturdy souls triumph over the most hostile settings. It is -instructive -that your husband has scant sympathy for Lis sister, whereas you have scant sympathy for your brother. The one each of you knows best has long since forfeited any claim on your aid. Each of you feels sorry for the one who to live with the faults of the partner with whom you shared your childhood. To side with the mate who has tg put: up with the defects you know so well is to take subtle revenge on the offender. Let the pair alone to sink or swim on their own strength.

Miss Helen McLandress left today

for Oakland, Cal, where she is to]

visit her sister, Mrs. H. G. Tobey, Josmerly. of this city.

EXIT CARD SAVES GAME

Today’ s Contract Problem

North is playing the contract at four spades. He has ‘lost the first three tricks. Can he play the hand so as to avoid

| Sutaion to Previous Contract Problem

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Mrs. A. E. : , Renn , announces

Mrs. Kate E. Scott. The wedding 18 to take place July 12.

No Need for Dad’s Mortgaging Homestead to Pay Wedding Bill

BY MARIAN YOUNG NEA Service Staft Correspondent NEW YORK, June 23—This is the year of years for the bride who doesn’t want Dad to mortgage the family homestead in order to pay the costs of her wedding. -It is not only possible but really quite simple for her to find a stunning, appropriate, yet inexpensive gown for herself and equally lovely, reasonably priced ones for the attendants. Off shades of white are most popular, of course,. but certainly not obligatory. Lelong’s now famous wedding gown ef pale mauve chiffon has inspired many a spring bride to wear mauve and: to dress her. maids in shades of lilac and violet. Several famous New York couturiers are featuring pale yellow, soft blue and shell pink bridal dresses. For a budget wedding, the bride probably will pick starched lace, organdy, net or organza. In these fabrics, she can get the very best grade at a moderate price. It’s better to have a dress .of finest

FLAPPER FANNY SAYS:

Tossing money around requires expert juggling of finances.

shades until she has

starched lace or organdy than a satin one of mediocre quality. Carrying the idea of practicality to its logical conclusion, shes likely to choose a gown which, after the honeymoon, can be altered slightly to serve as evening or dinner cos-

‘fume.

All kinds of color combinations are possible, "and the bride whose wedding procession isn’t a thing of true beauty has only herself to blame. She shouldn't decid: definitely to put her matron of honor and the maids in pastel looked at deep, soft blues, aqua, coral pink, various greens and light tones of wine. If the bride wears white, the group picture around the altar is more effective if the matron of honor has on something dark. In this case, the maids wear lighter shades of the same color or entirely different shades that harmonize nicely.

Dinner Arranged for Mary Fargo to Be on Friday

Miss Jane Keel, Albine, Kan., who is to be one of Miss Mary Jewell Fargo’s attendants at her wedding Saturday to Berkley Wilson Duck Jr, is to atrive here Friday. She is to be a house guest of Mr. and ‘Mrs. Berkley ‘W. Duck Sr., parents of the bridegroom-to-be. A bridal dinner is to be ‘given Friday night at the Duck home. Among the guests jo attend are Mrs. Norman Baxter, sister of the bride-to-be: Mrs. Orien Fifer, Mrs George Elliott, Miss. Eleanor MeClintock, all bridesmaids; Donald Duck, brother of the bridegroomtobe, who is to be- best man; Hardey Adriance, Mr. Fifer, Charles Smith, Mr. Baxter, all to be ushers. The wedding is to be at the Second Presbyterian Church. Miss Fargo is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Chancellor .O. Fargo. Arthur and Mary ‘Alice - Baxter 3fe » be Tue vearsr aml flower

Buf pper Pleasant Way to Entertain Informality Enjoyed by

“Guests, Hostess on Warm Days. BY LAURA LOU BROOKMAN

NEA Service Staff Correspondent "NEW YORK, June 23.—So it's a

buffet supper you're planning.

Just ‘about the pleasantest form of - entertaining, too, on warm days. Guests like the informality of these suppers, like to make their own choice from tempting trays and bowls. And hostesses appear unflurried because there's no chance of / la‘ ‘-minute preparations going

Designers of tablewear have created new patterns that seem particularly suited to this informal sort of entertaining. Metal, wood, raffia, composition and cork are among the materials used. Metal wear is a practical ‘choice because it is nontarnishing and rust-proof. The designs are simple, depending on the dull, silvery texture and graceful lines for beauty. You may set your table entirely with metal ware or combine it with bowls and trays of pottery, china or wood. There are no rules that must be followed implicitly; the more" original your table the more guests are likely to admire it. And don’t bn afraid to use color. Bold primary hues set off the dull finish of the metals and woods.

Decorations Vary

The experts have thought u; new ways, too, to decorate the buffet table. Instead of flowers, try a border of green, leafy branches along three sides of the table. The effect is summery and cool-looking. Colorful fruits or vegetables, arranged in a bowl or on a tray, and figurines of porcelain, pottery or wood are appropriate. Candles add a touch of

bY. « A complete buffet service includes 2 coffee service, tea service, salad bowl, dressing bowl, chafing dish, hors d'oeuvres tray, plates, cups, saucers, beverage pitcher and glasses, nut and candy dishes. Of course, whether or not you need all these depends on what you are serving to your guests. - You may prefer one of the baking dishes that has its own tray and will remain hot after being brought to the table in place of the chafing dish.

STAFFORD-JESSEE WEDDING JULY 5

Miss Marguerite Jessee is tobe the

|only attendant at the wedding of

her sister, Miss Velma Laurina Jessee, to Harry H. Stafford, July 5, at the McKee Chapel, Tabernacle Presbyterian .Church. Morris Stafford, brother of the bridegroom-to-be, is tn be best man. . ° The bride is to be given in marriage by her brother, Harry Jessee, Syracuse, N. Y.

CHICAGO GIRL WEDS AT CROWN POINT

By United Press CHICAGO, June 23—Miss Josephine Medill Patterson, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Medill Patterson, was married yesterday to Jay Frederick Reeve, Chicago attorney, at Crown Point, Ind. The bride's father is publisher of the New York Dally News. She has been a reporter for a Chicago paper for the past two years.

Guests Are Entertained

Recent guests of: Mr. and Mrs. Charles Steinbruegge were Mr. and Mrs. Byron Fowler, New York; Lon ‘Furgason, Vergo Beach, Fla.; Mr. and Mrs. C. O. Fields, Tulsa Okla.; Mrs. Mary Park, Mrs. Alice Park, Ralph Park and Miss Genevieve Park, Kansas City and Mrs. Robert Scott, Harrisonville, Mo.

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Officially it is summer . . and more and more vacations are under wa what can I do to

Follow your friends across the sea . . . with a world of sentiment! For less than $5 they can wear in fresh flowers each morning. BERTERMANN'S will even telephone the

With the spirit of Texas ooo wild cactus springs up in in olors . . . even to milady’s handkerchiefs. Beiter have some, if you re going to the Fair!

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