Indianapolis Times, Volume 45, Number 252, Indianapolis, Marion County, 1 March 1934 — Page 9
MARCH 1, 1934.
Skepticism Makes Woe for Child Father Admits Lying to Son; Defends Action as Best Course. BY GRETTA PALMER Timm Sp*<-ial Writer NEW YORK. March I.—" Fathers Are Liars" Is the arresting title of an article crisply signed "By One of Them” and appearing in the current Scribner’s. It expresses a dilemma which, I imagine, troubles a great many parents in an age of confusion, turmoil and a general
mood of "Idon't - know - how - it - is-all-coming-out.” "I have my own creed,” says this mendacious parent. "There can be no question of Its orthodoxy. It has none. I have spent the past twenty-six years of my life and a deal of agony in unlearning most of what I knew' so surely
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at 20. I have reached that stage of mental development or deterioration when I am wholly certain of very little. There is no missionary zeal in me. I am willing to play my hand my own w T ay and let others play theirs. But I have a son to train.” And so he is giving his son a faith in such eternal verities as the superiority of Jeffersonian liberty, the existence of a God who is a tangible, white-bearded divinity the belief that the United States always has been benevolent and above board in its dealings with the Indians and in its methods of obtaining, say, lower California. Yet he believes in none of these things himself. There has probably always been a bit of hypocrisy involved in the job of being a parent. The truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth as a disillusioned adult sees it seems rather alarming fodder on which to nourish the growing brain. Yet it is evident that our parents and our grandparents could, without mental reservations, Pfk th?ir children to subscribe to many things which most parents doubt today. This is a remarkably agnostic age. Some Lying Advisable How much lying is advisable? Well, quite a lot in our belief—less to protect the child from the harsh aspect of life than to protect him from his schoolmates. The little boy who has learned at home that there have been dark chapters in his country’s history which are left out of his text book is going to make himself exceedingly unpopular with his teachers, and will probably get a beautiful trouncing from his patriotic little classmates. Such a small child, who is made to feel an outsider, is paying a very high price for his father's intellectual integrity. The ideas a child receives outside the home are essentially conservative, because most of the people with whom he associates are conservative. To ask him to be a martyr to advanced opinions before he has had a taste of the other kind and made his choice seems, essentially unfair. Standards to Outgrow And don’t forget that it is the immemorial right of the young man in his late ’teens to pass through a period of doubt and revolt. Isn’t it unkind to rob a youngsters of the usual excitement of casting of! his intellectual swaddling clothes and discovering for himself the fun of smashing idols? Recently a New York literary couple moved to tire suburbs and left their rather sophisticated friends far behind. Their explanation was an illuminating one: “We want our children to grow up among the most conservative group we can find.” they said, "so that at adolescence they will have standards to jump away from.” MRS. SHAKE TO BE CHAPTER HOSTESS Mrs. B. B. Shake will entertain members of the Egyptian chapter. International Travel-Study Club, Inc., at her home. 313 North Grant street, at 1 Tuesday. Mesdames J. A. Carr. E. H. Cook and John Lee will assist. Pledges to He Honored A dinner will hooor initiates of Phi Sigma Theta sorority tonight at the Rose of Sharon tearoom, 2241 North Delaware street. Pledges to become members are Misses Ann Miller. Dorothy Abel. Helen Lammers and Mrs. Eugene Munson. O. E. S. Meeting Set Prospect auxiliary, o. E. S.. will hold a dinner at noon tomorrow at the hall, followed by a business meeting at 2. The public may attend. Fayette Club to Meet Fayette Club will meet at 2 tomorrow ■ with Mrs. Ador Krueger 2249 North Illinois street. Guests will attend. t Miss Dorothy Zorniger. Twentyeighth and Harding streets, will be hostess tonight for a meeting of Rho Zeta sorority.
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Manners and Morals BY JANE JORDAN
Would you like help with your problems? Write to Jane Jordan who will answer your questions in this column. Readers are invited to exchange experiences and to hdp each other with friendly counsel. 1 ALWAYS have a number of letters asking me what to do about the problem of self-consciousness. One girl who admits that she is attractive, simply can not look people in the eye when she meets them, although she has a clear conscience. A mother with an inferiority complex herself fears for her daughter
who is out of step with everything for no obvious reason other than the fact that she is too large for her age. A boy describes himself as an average fellow except that he can't make friends with ease, and is too quiet when thrown, with a crowd. His few contacts
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are pleasant, but if he loses them he has trouble in forming more friendships. A girl complains that although her lover is heavenly when they are alone, he is painfully bashful in company. She doesn’t know how to carry on a conversation with him when they meet in a crowd. Another is deeply in love with an excellent man who is so shy that he had been dropped by all of her friends whom she formerly enjoyed. A boy pleads for aid in expressing his emotion for the girl he loves. He knows that he loves her. but simply can not show his affection. He doesn't know how to pull this "cave man stuff.” And so it goes. Every day some troubled young person writes who is a victim of such a deep seated sense of inadequacy that it interferes with his pleasure in life. a a a S' ELF-CONSCIOUSNESS arises front a variety of causes. Usually it has its inception in a faulty up-bringing, particularly where social contacts are concerned. Some of the young people, no doubt, were over-protected in childhood. They were kept too closely in the shelter of the mother's care until now they feel unable to meet the social situation unaided. Others had their initiative crushed by over-strict parents who insisted on implicit obedience, and who never permitted their children to make a major decision for themselves. It is injurious to the child either to love the parents too well or to look upon them with fear and distrust. Either attitude prevents a happy transference of the love life to eligible persons of the opposite sex. Such parents are responsible for the long line of dateless girls and tongue,:ed boys. Many of the over-shy young people have taken refuge in the cavern of dreams. Normally reality should give access to a fuller, richer life, but where the fear of social contacts is too great, the young person substitutes fantasies for facts While day dreams are a satisfaction in themselves, they paralyze active endeavor and ir.terefer with the ability to face reality. ‘But now that you have told what is wrong, what can we do about it.” they say. Well, for one thing, they must be willing to make an earnest effort to meet the situation. Happiness is not a state of mind; it is an achievement. They must arouse themselves from futile reveries and harness their interests to the outside world He who is profoundly interested in something outside himself is bound to interest others. Any effect a shy person makes at self-expres-sion. and deed, any act that pulls him outside of himself, is a step in the right direction. If it is nothing more than a cheerful how-do-you-do to a_neighbor. he should practice it unt\l it comes as easily and naturally as breathing.
I KNOW one self-conscious woman who made it a point, w’hen ! throwm with strangers, to single out the one who scared her the most for conversation. She tried to discover what it was about this particular person which made her feel inferior. Her discovery was quite interesting. If the person was really superior, she was encouraged and made to feel at ease almost at once. If the one she sought to know was only a pretender to superiority, she learned to save her effort for those more worthwhile. Practice, practice, practice where social contacts are concerned, and the constant cultivation of fresh interests is the answer to the problems of the timid. They must manage to succeed at something, for success begets self-confidence. No effort is too small for a beginning. The cultivation of a hobby is one of the seasiest ways to succeed in some little comer of life of one’s own. To raise the best geraniums, to play the best hand at bridge, to be the best connoisseur of wines, to bake the best cakes, to be an authirity on first editions, to breed the best dogs, or take the best pictures—any of the multiple interests to be found in the outside world will help the timid to forget the tender ego ! which shrinks from the rebuffs of reality. There follows a letter from a S | woman who "snapped out of it,” written in response to a letter signed “Melancholy.” It contains excellent advice for the self-conscious and moody. n tt Dear Jane Jordan—Perhaps my experience will be of some help to Melancholy. The first six years of my marred life I felt it to be my duty to spend Sunday with my parents. Each week I returned heme with just a little more to worry about. I heard I how near tne poor house they i were, how unappreciative the i other children were, and all sorts ! of sad stories to keep me upset ; through the week. Soon I found myself in the | same frame of mind as Melanj choly. After nearly a year of this, my husband forced me to
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New Judge Eligibility Rule Urged Welfare Leader Opposes Age, Parent Clause for Juvenile Post. Striking at the present requirements of juvenile court judges, who must be at least 40 and a parent,” Miss Emma Puschner said that qualifications in training, experience, personality and character should be substituted, at the luncheon meeting, sponsored yesterday by the child welfare of the Indianapolis League of Women Voters. Miss Puschner is director of the child welfare committee of the American Legion. Mrs. Louis Haerle presided at the meeting where Solon Vial and Francis D. McCabe also spoke. The meeting, arranged by Mrs. William Ray Adams, closed the committee's discussion series. Favors Probation. Mr. Vial, chief probation officer of the municipal court, emphasized his conviction that probation is more helpful to the delinquent than custodial care. Mr. McCabe, director of the state probation committee, announced his committee’s sponsorshrip of probation week from May 6 to 12. His subject was the “New State Organization.” Discussion groups leading up to the league’s candidate meeting in April at the American Central Life Insurance Company building will be sponsored by the efficiency in government committee, according to announcement of Mrs. Smiley Chambers. Governor to Speak At the series in the Rauh Memorial library, emphasis will be laid on the structure of government, including nominating methods. Governor Paul V. McNutt and Miss Florence Kirlin will be speakers at the candidate meeting, which candidates of both parties will be invited to attend. Mrs. William Allen Moore discussed the concert by Lawrence Tibbets, who W’ill be presented by the league March 25 at the Murat. Among the eighty-eight attending the luncheon w'ere Judge John F. Geckler and Professor Charles R. Metzger. Alumnae to Be Hostesses for Skating Party Misses Mary Rosalie Beck and Betty Naughton are co-chairmen of the skating party to be held tomorr row night at the Riverside rink under the auspices of the St. Agnes Academy Alumnae Association. Proceeds from the entertainment will be used for the alumnae benefit fund for the academy. Miss Virginia Ittenbach, ticket chairman, will be assisted by Misses Dorothy Keene, Mary Dean, Jane O. Flaherty, Catherine Leppert, Dorothy Minta, Marie Huse. Gretchen Mary Yeazel, Margaret Patrick and Betty Quinn. PARTY TONIGHT TO HONOR BRIDE-ELECT Mrs. William C. McCrory and Mrs. Julius Caesar will entertain tonight at the home of Mrs. McCrary, 3360 North Meridian street, in honor of Miss Augusta Bowerman. The marriage of Miss Bowerman and J. Wilson Cull will take place Sunday. Bridge will be played. Guests with Miss Bowerman will be Mrs. Herman Hendren and Misses Florence and Doris Whelan, Gladys Anthony, Dorothy Brouhard. Etta Mauzy, Elsie Reid and Mrs. Earl Stucky. Directors to Meet Board of directors of the Florence Crittenton home will hold its monthly luncheon tomorrow at the home, 2044 North Illinois street. Mrs. E. I. Wagner will preside. make outside friends and to enjoy the things that other people enjoy. Now I find I am not different from others at all, and it isn’t just natural for me to be unhappy. If Melancholy can only find a job, make friends and go places with them instead of living a routine life, she will find the depressed feeling will fade away, and she will know’ how good it is to be happy once more. MRS. W. H. D.
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M'NUTTFORCES ISSUE WEEKLY TO HELPPARTY Keith Jones, Secretary of Democrats, Is Editor of New Paper. Hoosier Democracy < McNutt brand) today has its own newspaper. It is called “The Hoosier Sentinel” and the editor and publisher is Keither Johns, secretary of the Democratic state committee. Huge bundles of the first issue, under the "new deal” ownership, were brought to the statehouse yesterday for distribution to paid-up members of the Hoosier Democratic Club. Subscriptions from that club (2 per cent) will be one of the means of financing the organ, Mr. Johns said. Other means of raising revenues are disclosed in the first issue. There are display advertisements from primary candidates and a long legal advertisement from the state highway commission. An advertisement for the paper itself appears, setting out that the state administration has cut expenses, reduced taxes and kept the schools open. These things only can be learned by taking this paper, it contends. Mr. Johns said that the claimed circulation of 11.000 w’ill include all precinct committeemen and that it was boosted at the various district meetings as a paper full of Democratic facts “that have been perverted by the Republican partisan press.’’ Editorial office of the paper is that of Mr. Johns at the Democratic state headquarters at the Claypool hotel, it wall be published weekly. In the Air Weather conditions at 9 a. m.: South wind, 12 miles an hour; temperature, 32; barometric pressure, 30.41; general conditions, scattered clouds, hazy; ceiling unlimited; visibility, 5 miles.
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Kate Smith at her desk. Secretaries are not relied upon to handle the thousands of fan mail which Kate Smith receives weekly. Each day she takes time out to answer personally as many letters as possible Miss Smith brings her own stage show to the Indiana starting tomorrow.
I. W. A. DROPS THREEWORKERS Four Employes Retained Here After Loss of Mail Contracts. Four of the seven employes of Transcontinental-Western Air will remain in the service, it w r as announced today, the date scheduled for furloughing half the air line's personnel because of schedule curtailment following loss of air mail contracts. Tw’o junior radio operators and the night transportation agent for the company at municipal airport were furloughed today. Employes retained w’ere C. A. McCollum, district traffic representative; C. A. Williams, field manager, and two senior radio operators. Mr. McCollum said arrangements
were being made by the company to provide work for a large part of those given temporary furloughs, some being given jobs in the Douglas Aircraft Company plant at Santa Monica, Cal. Only two flights daily, one east and the other west, are being made by T. W. A. pending action of the government in awarding new mail contracts. TAIL-LESS AIRPLANE FLIES SUCCESSFULLY Strange Looking Craft Built by California Inventor. Bit United Presn LOS ANGELES, March I.—Waldo Waterman, local inventor, offered to the world today a tail-less airplane which he claims will and does fly. The strange looking craft, weighing only 1,100 pounds, performed creditably in its first public test. The wings, which have a thirtyfoot spread, slope backwards at a 25-degree angle and on each wing tip is a stabilizer. A 100 horsepower motor powers the plane.
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NATURE STUDY CLUB TO HOLD HIKE SATURDAY Series of Program Outlined by State Society for March. The Nature Study Club of Indiana has planned a series of programs for March, the first to be a hike Saturday afternoon. The group will be led by Bernice Hussey and Otis P. Herreman. It will meet at Sixtythird street and College avenue, and hike for two or ihree miles along White river and Williams creek. On Sunday, open house will be observed at the club's cabin. Mr. and Mrs. Ora C. Pierson will be host and hostess. Members of the geology section of the club will inspect the William W. Borden collection of minerals from southern Indiana Wednesday night, at the the Children's Museum. Saturday. March 10, Dr. A. W. Butler will lecture in the state museum at the statehouse on “Indiana Hawks," using the stuffed specimens at the museum to illustrate his talk. WIDER EDUCATION FOR FARM YOUTH IS URGED Vocational Agriculture and Home Economics Courses Asked. Education in vocational agriculture and home economics tor the farm youth w r as urged in resolutions adopted at the fourth annual conference of the Indiana farm bureau, brought to a close yesterday at the Claypool. Wider use of milk and butter in homes, schools and institutions of the state was recommended in another resolution adopted by the group. Assurance that there w’ould be no new’ adoption of school books, except in cases of absolute necessity, w’as given by Lieutenant-Governor M. Clifford Townsend in a talk at the session. The books selected will be taken at the lowest possible bid, he said.