Indianapolis Times, Volume 45, Number 166, Indianapolis, Marion County, 21 November 1933 — Page 11

NOV. 21, 1933_

Manners and Morals BY JANE JORDAN

Th* nw#r (a the tvn letters pnhfUhH h*l* should Mir up * host of mnfllrUnf opinion*. let n hare loiter* disrustinf th# problem presented for ill angles! a a a I>*ar Jan#* Jordan—Thr#*#* years ago I met the one man for me and he loves me dearly. Both of us are married I have two grown children while he has none. My husband Is willing to give me up to thl* man. But his wife refuses to give him up. due to the fact that she never has worked. She expert* him to continue living with h°r She has no pride whatever. Please believe me, our homes were both in a turmoil before we met. We are in our thirties and forties and know what we want. We are sincerely in love and feel perfectly justified in our actions. ANXIOUS. Dear Jane Jordan Sixteen years ago my husband left me and my son for his mistress. I let him go. I asked for no money and I reared our son alone. I have a good position, with travel,

apartment, car and small luxuries, but I get so lonely! Five years ago I met a man who was estranged from his neurotic, greedy wife. We fell in love. When she found out about us, she returned for roof and board and refuses a divorce. Are the clinging vines of wives always to be pitied?

' HEy *' m 2f.

Jane Jordan

They seem to get all the breaks. Here s hoping for a fair deal to the— OTHER WOMAN. Answer—There is no one who is held in greater contempt, even by intelligent people, than the woman who "comes between' 1 husband and wife. The fact that the marriage she disturbed already was undermined psychologically, carries no w'eight. She receives full blame for a situation which she did not create. She is thought to be a cause, when in reality she is an effect. I do not mean to idealize the ■ other woman.” nor to imply that she is always sincere. She may well he a selfish adventuress, who takes advantage of an unhappy situation for unworthy purposes. But I do contend that this is not universally the case. Thp opprobrium in which thp other woman is held is equaled only by the condemnation which descends on the head of the deserting husband. No name is too vile to be applied to him by popular vote. He is a cad, a weakling, a yellow-liv-ered so-and-so, a man totally lacking in honor, decency or self-control. He should be burned at the stake, shot at sunrise or hung from the limb of a tree. The only member of the triangle who completely escapes criticism is the injured wife. If she is a good woman, who has been faithful to her husband, who conscientiously has tended her home and her children. provided a good table, kept the family buttons sewed on, and managed the budget skilfully, her place in the sympathies of the populace Is unassailable. She may be dull mentally, sexually insipid, emotionally immature, but if she conforms to current customs, she is perfect. To my mind no woman has been everestimated so grossly as the great American housewife. On the surface she appears to be the most self-sacrificing of women, almost pathetically devoted to labor in her own sphere. But when she is subjected to critical examination, she often Is found to be more selfcentered (and certainly less exciting* than the most flagrant adventuress. Honest analysts reveals her as the

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most possessive of women. It is "my home, my husband and my children" whom she worships, and seeks to shape along lines which are ; acceptable to herself regardle.ss of I whether her particular design for j living is satisfactory to anybody else or not. Hpr ideas are absolutely sacrpd. and if an opposing opinion I rears its ugly head, the shock is j sufficient to send her into a decline. Such a woman has no separate | life of her own. Her virtue, which ! the mass adores, lies in the fact j that she lives solely in her husi band's achievements. If he writes 1 a book, it is "our book.” If hp | constructs a building, it is "our building.” She prefers to be apj predated for what her husband aci romplishes rather than make any : effort of her own. That her husband may feel a pro- : found need for the separateness j which she will not grant, never oc- | curs to her. She wraps him in the sw'addling clothes of her heavy devotion. and when he seeks to escape into an atmosphere less narrowly domestic, she conceals her desire to dominate behind the deceptive mask of injured innocence. Whenever a man bolts his marriage with a woman whom the world considers perfect, we may be sure he is driven by urgent psychological needs. Even if his sub.se- ; quent behavior is a little cheap, and his choice of another mate extremely ill-advised, I for one, refuse to sling mud at his head until I understand the forces which motivated his revolt. Neither will I excuse the woman whose presence he j fiees until I know wherein she failed :to make life bearable; nor will I call the woman who replaces the wife a craven creature before I have a clear-cut picture of the psychological setup. INTER NOS GROUP TO FETE GUESTS Mesdames Henry B. Ha wood. J. F. Edwards and C. E. Foltz wall be honor guests at the meeting of the Inter Nos Club tomorrow' at the home of Mrs. Ralph W. Showalter, 5601 North Meridian street. Assistant hostesses will include j Mesdames Chapin Wagner, Van P. Murphy, Harold Gossett, Anton Sehaekel and Dr. Edith Davis. Mrs. Ralph B. Clark will pour. The program will be presented by Mrs. Ines Samper, w’ho will sing songs of Old and New Mexico; Miss ! L°ora Wood, Spanish dances, and a review of "Caballeros,” by Senora | Bertita Leonarz de Harding. Sixty- | five members and guests are expected to attend. Church Slates Social Broadw'ay M. E. church will hold its regular social in the chapel tomorrow' afternoon with Mrs. A. F. I Teckmeyer in charge. Mrs. Mar- | garet Wilson will lead devotions; Mrs. Charles Muell°r of the Wheeler City Rescue Mission will be speaker, t and Miss Helen Louise Titus will sing.

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Fetes Honor Trio to Wed on Holiday Parties Given for Misses Insley, Quinn and Newman. Several parties this week honor brides-elect whose marriages will take place Thanksgiving day. Miss Jane Moore entertained this afternoon with a handkerchief shower and bridge partv at her home. 18 West Thirty-fourth street, for Miss Mary Insley. Miss Insley, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Robert B. Insley will become the bride of Harry F. Mayer, Schenectady. N. Y., son of Mrs. Fred W. Mayer. Indianapolis. The hostess was assisted by her mother, Mrs. Josephine Smith Moore, and appointments were white. Miss Margaret Branson, 5531 Central avenue, entertained last, night for Miss Margaret Quinn, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Quinn, who will be married to John Barton Griffith. Guests included Misses Louise Schmitt. Regina Fleury, Helen Geiger, Jane Sherer and Mary Frances Terry. Miss Schmitt will entertain at her home, 4229 Central avenue, tomorrow for Miss Quinn and other parties will be given Saturday night by Mrs. Thomas K. McCauley and Sunday afternoon with Dr. and Mrs. Carl Habich entertaining at tea at their home, 4335 Broadw'ay. Beta Beta Sigma sorority will entertain tonight at the home of Miss Claire Moorehead, 519 East Fortyninth street, for Miss Quinn. Decorations will be in blue and silver. Miss Mary Schwendenman, Elizabeth Pagels and Irene Butz will entertain tomorrow at their home, 2433 North Illinois street, for Miss Marjorie Newman, w'ho -Will become the bride of Walter Simmons of Monticello. R. p. w. GROUP TO HOLD PARTY Finance committtee. Indianapolis Business and Professional Women, will sponsor a card party at the Severin Friday night for the benefit of the education fund. Miss Fannie W. Paine, chairman. w T ill be assisted by Mrs. Margaret Marlowe, Mrs. Lucille Willa Proctor, Mrs. Anetta T. Wilson. Misses Sally Butler, Mae Judkins and Mildred Eckard. Scribblers Club Meets Scribblers Club of the Indianapolis Junior League met today with Mrs. Fisk Landers. 3644 Totem lane.

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‘Rebound’ to Be Occasion for Parties Several Groups to Be in Audience at Playhouse. Theater parties wall attend the opening performance of Rebound tomorrow- night at the Chic theater playhouse. 1847 North Alabama street. Mr. and Mrs. Harold Bland Tharp will entertain several guests as will Robert C. Winslow and Mr. and Mrs. Claus H. Best. Mr. and Mrs. Irving Fauvre will attend in a party of four, and Mrs. Raymond P. Van Camp and Miss Rosamond Van Camp will attend with a party of six. Herbert S. Wood and four guests will attend the second offering of the civic playhouse, and Governor and Mrs. Paul V. McNutt will be present. Mrs. Carl Eveleigh will attend with a party. ELKS CERVUS CLUB WILL HOLD PARTY Mrs. Martin Collins is chairman of the annual benefit card party to be held by the Elks Cervus Club at 2 Friday afternoon at the Antlers. Proceeds will be used for the club's Christmas relief fund Assisting Mrs. Collins will be Mesdames L. E. Eckhart, Abe Greenwald. Max Patton, Carl Neerman, Harry Wiedke, J. E. Miller and Clifford Richter. The public may attend.

Specialists say: “GIVE YOUR CHILDREN A LIQUID LAXATIVE”

You wouldn’t give your child a powerful headache powder; you shouldn't give children a violent cathartic. Did you know a laxative that works just right for you, can work havoc with a child? That the laxative habit can be contracted at the age of six? And that the wrong laxative can give children chronic constipation before their tenth birthday? Read this, Mothers! Doctors urge the use of a liquid laxative for children; preferably one with senna. A liquid laxative can be easily regulated to suit. The natural laxative action of senna does not weaken the bowels. Druggists report increasing

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demand for liquid laxatives. Mothers are rapidly discovering the advantage of the liquid form. Thousands of cases of ill-health —and half-health — in boys and girls are being cleared-up by stopping all use of laxatives of adult strength. This Treatment Safe! The preparation widely favored for child use is California Syrup of Figs. It is a fruity syrup with the right amount of senna for gentle stimulation of a child ’s bowels. It gives the right kind of help. If the bowels aren't moving regularly and thoroughly, don’t give any medicine that drains the system dry. Give a liquid senna preparation like

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California Syrup of Figs. A little even* day, and reduce the dose each day. At the end of one week stop. You’ll be surprised how long it will be before the bowels need any further help. It may be months . Re sure you get Ihe real California Syrup of Figs, with ‘’California” on the label. If you get the right preparation, and use it the right way, you can absolutely end all worry over constant sluggish spells, bilious attacks, constipation. Druggists all keep California Syrup of Figs, ready for use. It is highly recommended for regulating children, and to undo the mischief done by habit-forming laxatives.