Indianapolis Times, Volume 42, Number 221, Indianapolis, Marion County, 23 January 1931 — Page 8

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DIVORCE ADVOCATED IF LOVE AND RESPECT ARE GONE

Absurd Laws Are Assailed by Novelist Should unhappy marriages be dissolved—or suffered In iltence? Striking view* on the subject are expressed in the following article which Faith Baldwin. noted American novelist, has written excluslvelv for The Times and MA Service. BY FAITH BALDWIN Written for XEA Service I can t for the life of me see how any thinking person can contend that a marriage from which love and respect have disappeared should continue. A home in which there is not mutual love and respect between husband and wife is no fit place for children—and that is true even though the parents refrain from throwing things at each other over the dinner table. Children feel ti ' atmosphere of dissension, and they take advantage of it. They play off the mother against the father, and the other way around. The young son says to his father, •'Mother says I can't go to the ball game. Can I go?" And the father says, “Sure." Such a home should be broken up. It is foolish to hold it together “for the sake of the children." I believe that a child should not, however. be shifted back and forth from his father to his mother when they are divorced. A boy or girl should remain with one parent until grown. Divorce Laws Absurd Our divorce laws arc, of course, Absurd, / especially in New York, where infidelityffs the only grounds admissablc. infidelity is not nearly as serious as many other matters. If I were a man. I would consider it reason for divorce, but as a woman I do not think it is. I have no patience with the argument that men and women gain ; in character by putting up with | marriages that do not make them happy. No one should be required—or i should require himself—to live with any one who, for instance, arcuses j a physical repulsion, for that means; becoming warped, bitter, or hys- ‘ terical . And let it be understood that I am not arguing for easily broken marriage ties. If a woman is thoughtful and decent, she will hesitate a long time before breaking them, for to do so is to confess j failure, and nobody wants to do that. - Four Grounds for Divorce Unhappy marriages used to be j suffered in silence because divorce was so looked down upon, and the result was that children became the compensating factors for the distraught parents. That error is passing. Now we have got away from the smothering of children in the love of possession. We realize that we owe our children other things, and that, sooner or later, they will set out to do their own living anyway, and no longer',, will compensate us for unhappiness. There arc, it seems to me. four j reasonable grounds for divorce. These are physical incompatibility, mental incompatibility, deliberate smallness of character, and absolute lack of love or affection. Most people marry because of physical attraction. That's all right. If that element is not present at the beginning, it never will be. On that foundation, the couple must build mutual interests and mutual respect. If those things are not built, there is no real marriage, and the spurious marriage might as well be dissolved. But not with an allowance of alimony. I think alimony is entirely unjustified unless there are children. or unless the marriage lias incapacitated the woman, through injury or age For a Woman to yap about her modernity and then go Victorian and demand support from a man from whom she is separated, is a sorry sight. It’s legal blackmail—and plenty of women marry for it. And one more thing: Let me pay my respects to the woman who tries to convince a man that he must respect her because she has borne his children. That is perfectly idiotic. Tire bearing of children is a simple natural function, unaccompanied by any prerogative of inspiring awe. Monday: G. K. Chesterton, worldfamous literary figure, will reply to Miss Baldwin in an interview written for The Times. An outstanding Catholic layman, he has engaged in recent poblic debates on the divorce question with Cosmo Hamilton and others. <

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Wedding Attendants Selected by Miss Beatrice Johnson

Miss Beatrice Johnson, whose marriage to Urbon Russell Stahl v ill take place Feb. 28, has chosen her sister, Mrs. Lawrence Ray, as ler matron of honor, and Miss Mary Brown as maid of honor. The bridesmaids will be Miss os Alberta Reep. Rosemary Bretzma.n,

/. U. Student Loan Fund Is Aided by Club Daughters of Indiana of Chicago have donated S2OO to the student loan fund at Indiana university, according to an announcement by President W. L. Bryan. The check was sent by Mrs. Eleanor W. Sayler, chairman of the organization's education fund, and will be used as a 'oan for worthy seniors. It will draw 3 per cent interest. A similar fund has been maintained by the club at Purdue university for several years. The recipient of the loan will be selected by the faculty. A total of seventy student loan funds are now being used by students at the university, with the above contribution of S2OO bringing the total up to $25,583. Os the total amount being used $4,261.28 has been raised by the State Federation of Clubs and forty-two of its subsidiary organizations over Indiana. The state educational committee of this organization has provided a loan fund of $1,047.51 and the remainder of the $4,261.28 has been raised by the forty-two clubs throughout the state. SHOWER IS GIVEN FOR MRS. WYSONG Mrs. A. P. Wysong, who before her recent marriage was Miss Lois Jacques Reeves, was honored on Thursday night at a linen shower given by Miss Esther Owens, at her home, 22 South Irvington avenue. The hostess was assisted by her mother, Mrs. Alvin Owens. Guests included: Mcsdames Emmett Thompson, Robert Gregg. Albert Heffner; Misses Peggy Parmer, Brucie Ridge, Helen Leiper. Helena Shoemaker. Pauline Heidt, Dorothy Nugent. Beulah O'Brien. Virginia Schey. Jo Mohr, OUie Lewis and Betty Hicks. MARY ELLEN EVANS TO BECOME BRIDE Mrs. William John Evans, Chicago, has issued invitations for the marriage of her daughter, Miss Mary Ellen Evans, and William M. Wadden Jr„ Boston and Hyannis, Mass., which will take place at 11, Feb. 7, at St. Ambrose church in Chicago. A reception at the South Shore Country Club will follow the ceremony. Miss Evans is a graduate of St. Mary's of the Woods college, Terre Haute, and has been a frequent visitor in Indianapolis. MONDAY CLUB WILL BE HONOR GUESTS Members of the Monday Club will be entertained with a program at the D. A. R. chapter house Monday afternoon. Mrs. W. H. Welsh, chairman of the fire arts committee, and Mrs. T. W. Engle, chairman of the music and January program committees, are in charge. Mrs. Ol!ah F. Toph will preside. Miss Geraldine Kuntz, soprano, will sing, accompanied by Miss Marjorie Lytle and Mrs. Welsh will lead a discussion of “American Art." CITY BRIDE-ELECT HONORED AT PARTY Miss Margaret Mary Evans, wivse marriage to Robert Spenser , Kersey, Muncie, will take place Feb. 7, was honor guest today at a luncheon bridge party given by Mrs. Roy Coats, at hei home, 3650 Central avenue. Mrs. Frank J. Hoke will entertain tonight with a dinner party at her home in Erendenwood in Mtss Evan’s honor. Am'ange Chili Suppet' Temple Rebekah degree staff. No. 591, will hold a chili supper tonight from 5:30 to 7:30 at the hall, 230 East Ohidfctreew

Mary Shanklin and Isabel Wilkinson. Miss Johnson is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Everett C. Johnson, C 505 Pleasant Run boulevard. Miss Wilkinson *will entertain for the bride-elect with a bridge party and linen showier Saturday night at her home, the Marott. Others who will entertain for Miss Johnson are: Miss Reep, Friday, Jan. 30; Misses Ruth Randall and Margaret Overman, Feb. 12; Miss Brown, Feb. 14. and Miss Bretzman, the date for which has not been set. Mr. and Mrs. Donald Boyd, Chicago, will entertain Saturday, Jan. 31, for Miss Johnson and Mr. Stahl.

Personals

Mrs. Everett C. Johnson, 5505 Pleasant Run boulevard, is spending several weeks in Florida. She will return the first of February. Mr. and Mrs. W. D. Hamer, 4044 Carrollton avenue, will leave Saturday- for a three-weeks’ motor trip to New Orleans, La., and Houston. Tex. WEDDING DATE IS SET FOR AUTUMN Mr. and Mrs. Harry Johnson, Bloomington, have announced the engagement of their daughter. Martha Eugenia, to William Milton Graham Jr. The wedding will take place in the autumn. Miss Johnson attended Stuart Hall, Stanton, Va„ and is now a student at Indiana university. She is a member of Alpha Theta. Mr. Graham attended Indiana and Illinois universities, and is a Sigma Chi, and a member of the Shrine. JOBLESS SURVEY BEGUN BY CLUBS Miss Mary Williams has been appointed to make an extensive survey of the unemployment situation of Indianapolis, in co-opera-tion with the National Federation of Business and Professional Women’s Club. She will be assisted by Mrs. Elizabeth Carter and Miss Katherine Zapp. The appointments were made by Mrs. Ada O. Frost, local club president. The committee has met and planned its activities. Questionnaires for all members of the local club are being prepared, and a report to the national headquarters will be submitted within a month TEACHER TO GIVE TALK ON KOREA “Korea" will be the subject of a talk to be given at the Children’s Museum story hour at 10:30 Saturday morning by Miss Belle Overman. Brazil, a teacher in a school at Hailjii. Korea. She will illustrate her talk by exhibiting native costumes and household articles. All school children are invited to attend. The junior board of directors of the museum will meet at 10, with Miss Hazel Ruske, sponsor. Members of the board are: Betty Jane Wangelin, school 57; Ruth Pierjont. school 33; Imogene Kirby, school 35; Mary Walker. Broad Ripple high school; Prances Bell, school 23; Ben fa ~er. school 76; Kaj’ Vonnegut, Orchard school, and Max Bear, school 47. NEW ORCHESTRA IS OBTAINED BY CLUB Dance committee of the Columbia club announces the introduction of an orchestra to be known as the j “Columbians’’ Saturday night. The commtitee includes L. 4 R. Thomas, chairman: F. D. Staley, assistant chairman; Maurice G. Butler, Leon Desautels, Dr. H. D. Leer, C. C. Matthews, Dr. D. H. Mottier, Joseph Neger and A. E. Weidner. Dancing and supper sendee, begins at 10:30. Tables are restricted to members of the club and their guests. • * ■ - - Theater Party Is Set Indianapolis Indorsers of Photoplays will sponsor a theater party at 11 Saturday at - the Lyric for more than two hundred members of the Indianapolis Boys’ Club. Junior Durkin, juvenile motion picture star who appeared irt- “Tom Sawyer,” will be host. 1

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Art Leaders Give Views on Education j Lorado Taft, sculptor, and Dr.' John Erskine. author and musician, pleaded for increased art appreciation in American colleges at the j annual dinner of the American As- j sociation of Colleges Thursday night at the Claypool. Taft expressed his “creed:” “We 1 live in a world of beauty that most: of us are missing. Heirs of the ; ages, we are unappreciative of our j heritage, which is dying for lack of sympathy and understanding, j “The average man is led to nature through art. Here is the service of the teacher—to point i out.” Sees Museum Need Taft outlined his dream of a museum for American children that j will show the continuity of civiliza-! tion through the ages. It would give the child the feeling of progress in the sequence of centuries. Trancepts would mark the great periods. He spoke of the tragedy of not believing in progress, which he defined as the record of past achievements. Achievements he defined as memorials of great emotions men have felt. And, he said, “all passes. | Art alone remains." Dr. Erskine, the musician, dis-1 cussed the importance of music in the cirriculum. “The university tradition has been altogether science, whether of religion, medicine, law or nature. The only vestige of the arts is the complaint that the young people fail to excell in the subjects we have refused to teach them." Urges Music Credits According to Dr. Erskine, the beginning is wrong. In the kindergarten and primary grades children are started with elementary training j in the arts, which is continued would! produce an elite group when time! came' for university training. Little attempt is made to instruct college students in the subtler arts of life, or performance in relation to society, he said. To manufacturers of musical instruments Dr. Erskin attributes the development of orchestras and choral groups in colleges during the last ten years. He decried the system of giving credit for knowledge and little actual performance, and urged that colleges make a place in the curriculum for daily music practice, with credit, expressing the wish that some day music would be introduced into college programs on an equality with other subjects. University Choir Sings The De Pauw university choir sang during the evening. Dean Luther P. Eisenhart of Princeton university presided. Mrs. Robert L. Kelly was chairman of the committee on social functions of the association in charge of the banquet. Other members of the committee are: Mesdames Robert J. Alejy Butler university; G. Bromley Oxnam. De Pauw university; William C. Dennis. Earlham college; Earl E. Harper, Evansville college; Homer P. Raines', Frinklffi college; A. H. Woodworth, Hanover college; I. J. Good, Indiana Central college; Otho Winger, Manchester college: J. C. Todd, Bloomington; H. O. Pritchard and H. H. Harmon, Indianapolis; Dean Agnes E. Wells, Indiana university, and Miss Marian McCandless, St. Mary’s of Notre Dame. With Dean Eisenhart at the speakers’ table were: Dr. Kathryn McHale, executive and ! educational secretary of the American j Association of University Women; Presi- I dent Lucia R. Briggs of Milwaukee-Doun-er college; Dr. Taft, Dr. Erskine, Dr. ! Robert L. Kelly, Professor H. V/. Tyler, general secretary of the American Asso- j ciation of University Presidents; Dr. i John McCracken, assistant director of the American Council on Education; Rob- | ert M. Lester, assistant to the president i of the Carnegie Corporation; Dr. David H. Stevens, General Education board: Dr. Stephen P. Duggan, director of the Institute of International Education; Dr. Walton C. John of the United States office of Education; President Donald J. Cowling, j Carleton college; President Frederick C. 1 Ferry, Hamilton college; President Guy E. ! Snavely, Birmingham-Southern college; \ President A. Lawrence Lowe, Harvard university; Archie M. Palmer and E. B. Wilson, president of the Social Science Research council.

Mrs. Sparks Is Entertained at Linen Shower " Miss Annabess Snodgrass. 3360 North Meridian street, was hostess Thursday night for a bridge party and handkerchief shower in honor of Mrs. John Sloane Sparks, formery Miss Virginia Dynes. She was assisted by her mother, Mrs. W. A. Snodgrass. A color scheme of pink and blue was used in decorating. At serving time blue tapers in pink crystal holders lighted the bridge tables. Guests with the bride and her mother, Mrs. Lee V. Dynes, were Misses Mary Louise Curran, Jeanne Winchel, Virginia Mowty, Catherine Krause, Mary Dyer, Jane Little and Mary Hewitt. SHOWER GIVEN FOR ESTHER M. ARNOLD Mrs. Louis Arnold, 607 East Twenty-fourth street, and Mrs. Ben Shine, Akron, 0., entertained with a luncheon bridge and miscellaneous shower at the Belle tearoom Wednesday in honor of their niece, 'Miss Esther M. Arnold whose marriage to Stanley Levinson, Anderson, will take place soon. Miss Arnold is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Samuel Arnold, 3851 Broadway. Twenty-six guests were seated at’ the luncheon table, which was decorated in the bridal colors, peach and green. A bowl of sweet peas formed the centerpiece, and was lighted by green tapers tied with peach tulle. Favors of miniature brides marked the places. The hostesses were assisted by Mrs. Ed Arnold and Miss Jeannette Arnold.

Card Parties

Capitol City Circle, No. 6, A. O. O. D., will hold a card party at 8:30 Saturday night at the hall, 116 H East Maryiied a^eet.

Child Study Club at School Hears Lecture by Dr. Carter

Mothers who attended the meeting of the Child Study Club of School No. 76 Thursday were given a better understanding of just how much freedom their children should have, after listening to a lecture by Dr. Ralph E. Carter of the Indiana extension university. Often a parent shows too much leniency toward his children because of the sternness of his own parents —‘making up for the things he wanted at their age,’ as Dr. Carter expressed it. And there always is prevalent the old beliefs that children all go through certain stages. During these stages, parents are apt to be too easy, when they should be putting forth efforts to prevent the forming of bad habits and making these so-called stages merely temporary and something to be forgotten quickly. On the other hand, he said, are fathers too interested in business to be pals to their boys, and mothers whose social activities prevent proper supervision, who acquire the habit of making up their children’s minds for them, abusing their authority by saying "yes” or “no" to all questions and requests, with no explanation. This is not development. Dr. Carter declared. The child has no opportunity to think and reason independently, to acquire social responsibility, attain originality, or learn the value of will power. “He must learn by doing, by deciding and through his own mistakes," said Dr. Carter. “Sympathy and understanding, properly directed when he makes mistakes, will aid in his development. Too much submission tends to lessen his chances for success—his respect for parental authority and later others. To learn to obey his conscience, he first must learn to obey someone else. But it is not necessary for the parent to domineer. “When onc-e a child has been told no, the incident is anew situation. To let a child have his way because he has pouted, cried, or in some way

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maneuvered the surrender of authority, is an unfair victory for both parent and child.. A parent never should retract a refusal unless he finds he is mistaken, then great tact should be used in making the child see why the refusal-is withdrawn. “Let your children enjoy their playtime—teach them to come immediately when you call, because you call, not because it is time to read, practice, or do home work, etc. This is very apt to create an intense dislike for these things, which should be pleasures.” Mrs. Walter Greenough will talk on “Answering Children's Questions" at the February meeting, Mrs. W. W. Hodley, president, announced.

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Avalon Club House Plans Are Drawn Tentative plans have been announced for the. new Avalon Country Club by the reconstruction committee, composed of Harry Gampf, chairman: Henry Ostrom, Claude Mick and Carleton Starkey. A radical departure from the arrangement and style of the former structure will be made. Plans call for a lower rambling building of Spanish architecture. Four good-sized floor areas will be added and furnished, and two wings added. One wing will house a separate dining room, storage space and

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living quarters for women employes. A woman's social room and card room will occupy the upper floor of the other wing, with the lower part occupied by an extension of the men’s second floor locker room and a men's grill. A private dining room will adjoin the lounge, near the kichen. The main lounge will have a hardwood floor, suitable for dancing, and the veranda and two wrings will be floored in diamond patterned tile. A concrete terrace for outside sendee will extend the length of the center unit, facing the golf course. Provisions for gay colored awnings have been made. Entertains With Tea Mrs. Charles E. Herin. 4040 Ruckle street entertained with a luncheon-bridge at the Ethelenn tearoom Thursday. Twenty-four guests were present.