Indianapolis Times, Volume 42, Number 135, Indianapolis, Marion County, 15 October 1930 — Page 7

OCT. 15, 1930.

Killing Love by Kindness Is Tragedy BY MARTHA LEE It has been said, and so truly that it hurt?, that most men kill the thing they love. Men, in this case, mean all human beings, no doubt, for women are as guilty as men along this score. Some kill with kindness, although T have a premonition that that way got so much publicity because it was so unusual. We always have had a flair for the unusual even in prehistoric times. . This wholesale slaughter of love does not seem to be confined to men and women. Mothers think nothing, apparently, of causing irreparable breaches between themselves and the affection of their chi.'dren. Brothers and sisters, in fact all human relationship, suffer from it at one time or another. Husbands kill the love of their wives so different ways. Sometimes through discourtesy, inattention, indifference, selfishness. It even can be through laziness, shiftlessness, too weak a character, a hundred different ways. Children’s Love Killed The same with a wife. There may not be anything in the world so important to her as keeping the love of her husband, yet she may kill it completely by unwarranted j fits of jealousy, displays of ill tern- j per. by being slovenly and careless, by whining, nagging, and a thou- j sand other traits peculiar to women j which have a way of cropping out after marriage. Mothers kill the love of their chili dren by demanding too much of j their lives;, So many mothers insist j upon living their own lives over ; again in the lives of their children, j Their inquisitiveness drives the chil- j dren to hide even the slightest thing , from them to save its being pulled j out to be viewed by the public eye. j Before the children are old enough to have a. philosophy that takes care of their mothers’ attitudes all their natural love and respect for her has gone. Fathers More Reasonable Fathers do this less. Perhaps It is because they usually are not as close to their children as mothers are. Perhaps it is because men, through their contact with the business world day after day, have discovered it is a fatal error. r*sar Miss Lee—Mv mother is a Rood kind woman to the outside world, and I j suppose she would die if I were to tell j her this, but really she has killed all the | love I ever had for her by her attitude j toward me. Unfortunately I am an only child. If there had been more T might not have had the lavish attention I have had to suffer throuqh all these years. She has watched me. hovered over me. protected me. in fact, smothered me until I almost die. .She thinks she Is eoodness and kindness itself. Asa matter of fact she Is cruel. Her attitude toward me Is more dominating than anything I ever have encountered. She never asks me what I think. She slmplv tells me what to do. to sav. how to act. where to go and all the rest. I have no more privacy than a gold fish in a shop window. She reads my letters before I have a chance to open them. She sits in the room with all mv callers. It's all supposed to he maternal interest at its best, but it's a pain in the neck to me and I can tell any mother vho is Interested that if she wants to bring her children up so that they hardly can bear it until they are old enough, and independent enough financially to break away for good. Just to act this wav. What can I do? It is almost more than I can bear. ONLY CHILD. Fails to Realize You do not say how old you are. Apparently you still are in school,

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LUNCHEON HELD BY AUXILIARY OF CLUB Eleven members of the Woman's Department Club auxiliary to the Public Health Nursing Association met for luncheon at the Cynthia Bell tearoom Tuesday Special guests were Mrs. Everett M. Schofield, president of the club; Mrs. Christian Olsen, chairman of the community welfare department; Miss Ruby Rogers, new educational director of the Public Health Nursing Association, and Mns. Stephen Bogart. Masquerade Slated A masquerade dance will be held in St. Ann’s parish hall, Mars Hill, at 9 Saturday night. Music will be played by the Captivators. Miss Margaret Schubert, chairman, will be assisted by a group of young people of the parish. Awards will be made for the two most attractive costumes. Sorority to Meet Alpha chapter, Chi Deltr. Chi sorority, will meet at 8:15 tonight at the home of Miss Helen Adams, 4810 East New York street. All members and pledges are asked l<3 attend. Guild Session Called McCrea Guild will hold a special meeting at 7:30 tonight at the home of Mrs. W. A. Hutchings. 1417 Ashland avenue. All members are asked to attend. or you would have broken away before this. However, if you are old enough to have such bitter resentment about the situation you probably are old enough to have a little responsibility. If I were you I would have a frank talk with my mother about the whole thing. So often we let things be ruined beyond repair by refraining from talking them over. Perhaps your mother does not realize just what she is doing to you. She probably loves you so dearly she is entirely wrapped up in her own attitude toward you, so much so that your resentment does not reach her at all.

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Mrs. Hicks Will Honor 1 Bride-Elect Mrs. Leon Hicks will entertain tonight at her home, 5221 North Pennsylvania street, with a bridge party and handkerchief shower in honor of Miss Suzanne Kolhoff, whose marriage to William Ralph Bockstahler will take place Saturday, Oct. 25. Appointments will follow out the Halloween motif. The hostess will be assisted by her mother, Mrs. C. E. Flora. Guests with Miss Kolhoff will be: Mesdames Thelma Merritt. Betty, Pruitt. Marianne Browne. Gilbert Small, Robert Schetter. Fred I. Willis Jr.. Robert Nipper Jr.. Glenn Kingham: Miss Dorothy Ryker. Monzclle Skelton and Marifrances Ogle. Buffet Supper Set Mrs. Walter Welch, 915 Drexel avenue, will have a buffet supper at 6:30 tonight at her home for members of Alpha chapter, lota Psi Omega sorority. Owl Club to Meet Mrs. Robert Doyal, 3919 East Eleventh street, will entertain members of the Owl Club at her home tonight. Miss Negley Hostess Members of Chi Tau sorority will meet at the home of Miss Mildred Negley, 2212 Ashland avenue, at 8:30 tonight. Initiation to Be Held Formal initiation, of pledges to the Danzarite Club will be held at 8 tonight at the Chamber of Commerce building. A swimming party at the Antlwers will follow. Meeting Arranged Sigma Phi Delta sorority will meet at 8:30 tonight at the home of Miss Leah Eltzroth, 1014 West Thirty-third street.

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BY MRS. WALTER FERGUSON

THE use of small boys as snoopers for the shadowing of suspected bootleggers was suggested at the prohibition school held recently for our thirty-four federal agents. It shows to what a depth of moral degradation we have sunk since we took up our noble experiment. It is obvious, after ten unsuccessful years of trying to enforce the Volstead act, that, if we hope to have officers able to handle the future situations, we shall have to take them young and train them down to it. For it appears to go against the grain of the average normal man to sneak about prying on his friends and his fellows. This is probably because he has not been brought up that way. Such be* havior does not tally with, the conception of honor that was taught him at home and in the school room. Doubtless his Sunday school instructor failed to stress this particular phase of godliness. There-

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ton. it has been hard for a good many of our agents who have been reared in the moral decency of a past generation to fit themselves into the role of spies and minor Judases necessary for this work. a m • BY taking boys very early, however, we may be able to do something. At 5 or 6 it should be easy to teach them to insinuate themselves into the good graces of the neighbors so that later they can locate exactly the hiding place of the family jug and report it. Thus they ought to grow into something truly marvelous in the way of officers. Anew kind of breed, as it were, of moralists. Probably we shall be able to evolve a distinct type of worker. Long nose, shifty eye, a sort of Uriah Heep who finally will manage to get us ah to his low level. This new Dlan, if it is tried out, presages a doubtful future for our children. I don’t know how you feel about it, but personally I’d rather have a pirate in the family than a graduate of the snoopers’ school.

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Founding of Sorority to Be Observed \ Alpha Delta chapter, Zeta Tau Alpha sorority, will observe Founder’s day at the sororoity house, 329 Hampton drive, tonight with a buffet supper. Miss Evelyn Henschen, president, will lead the candlelight service following supper. Letters from five living founders will be read. Zeta Tau Alpha was founded in 1898 at Virginia State Women’s college. Farmville, Va., and was incorporated by a special act of the state legislature, the only national sorority with this distinction. There are sixty-one active chapters in the United States and Canada. All members of the Indianapolis Alumnae Association -will attend the luncheon and exercises. Mias Lou jean Gullett Is chairman of the con\mittee in charge, assisted

by Miss Geraldine Kuntz, Miss Nina Bass, Miss Mildred Lawler and Miss Marylou Allen. CLUB WILL HOLD “TREASURE HUNT ’ Following a 6:30 dinner, groups of two couples each, armed with ■ clews” will set out from Avalon Country Club to search for “treasure." While the itinerary demands the use of cars it will not be unreasonably long or tedious. At the con-

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elusion of the hunt, the crowd will attend an informal dance at tha clubhouse. The committee asks that reservations be sent in early. , Church to Give Party 1 Meridian Heights Presbyterian! church will hold a Halloween masquerade party and steak fry Oct, 24 at 5, at the home of Mrs. John Huetter, Williams creek, for all members of the church. Reservations may be made at the office o£ the church.