Indianapolis Times, Volume 42, Number 131, Indianapolis, Marion County, 10 October 1930 — Page 11

OCT. 10. 1930.

Concealing of Crudity Is Difficult BY MARTHA LEE It takes superhuman Uct and diplomacy to inform the girl or boy you are going with that their manners are not all they might be. Many a man goes through life believing sincerely he is a living image of Lord Chesterfield when, as a matter of fact, he is rougher than the proverbial uncut diamond. And it takes some woman, especially a woman who has taken a personal interest, to set a man straight on a lot of things. Sometimes the woman is able to accomplish this difficult feat with the least amount of hurt feelings and trample pride possible. But most of the time the methods employed are only a trifle less crude than the manners themselves, which makes the whole situation entirely inexcusable. Distinction Is Sharp 'There is such a distinct line of demarcation between crudity and what we commonly term "cuteness.” The line is drawn, first, by the person making the remark; second, by the crowd of people to whom the remark is addressed, and third, the inflection of the voice. One person can say exactly the same thing as another and have it sound entirely different. From one person it sounds clever, smart. From the other it sounds crude and obnoxious. The same with set rules of manners. The most beautifully mannered people in the world are those whose natural instincts make them polite, refined and courteous. Pretense Is Futile All the Emily Post books in the world can’t make a gentleman out of a fellow who isn’t one in the first place. He may know just which fork to use, just how to stand and what to say. You may not be able to trip him on a single rule of etiquette, but still he may be the crudest fellow in the world. Another chap may never have heard of the fact that there are oyster forks and desert spoons. He may not know the first rudiments of manners as they are recorded in the books after generations of mulling over. But he may be chivalry itself to all women with whom he comes in contact. The outward signs of politenese and culture are nice to know. In a way, they are important in this day and age. Crudity Is Repulsive Table manners; for instance. Nothing is more repulsive than to have to sit across from a man or woman who behaves much more like a pig at a pen than a human being at table. Innately refined people make their own table manners inoffensive by instinct, even though they have never learned from a book just how it should be done. The "diamond in the rough” stuff is all very well, but there’s no use keeping the brilliance of the stone concealed forever. Dear Miss Lee—ls there any possible way of makine a man over? I am in my late twenties. I have met a man I like very much. He Is a sood. sensible fellow. But he bores me to deatr. with his table manners. He also says things In the presence of my friends that are not exactly cultured. I often have wanted to tell him about this, but I don’t have the nerve, as I am afraid he will be offended. DAISY. Diplomacy Required The only way you can do the thing diplomatically is to make him realize his shortcomings for himself, without actually telling him you notice them. When you are out with others, where he can observe situations for himself, you might call attention to the way other men act and talk. Perhaps you can make him realize in that indirect sort of way, that ha is not up to par on some things. It would be hard for you to come right out and tell him his table manners annoy you, but if you watch for an opportunity you may be able to let him get light on the subject himself, as though it were his own discovery. MANY WILL ATTEND NOTRE DAME GAME Among the Indianapolis folk who are going to South Bend, Saturday, to attend the Navy-Notre Dame football game, are: Mr. and Mrs. Irving Fauvre, Mr. and Mrs. Jeremiah Cadick, Mr. and Mrs. John aioane Kittle, Mr. and Mrs. Robert Winslow, Mr. and Mrs. William Morrison, Miss Mary Louise Minnick, Reginald Garstang and William Kothe. Mr. and Mrs. John K. Ruckelshaus, Lebanon, will join a party of friends tor the game.

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World Evils Are Laid to Dumb Men BY MRS. WALTER FERGUSON Do you know it's a fact that you can trace all our present evils to the bone-headedness of men. They won’t admit this, as you easily may guess. But getting right down to the bottom of most world problems, you can see that men have had it in their power to avert nearly all of them. A good many people right now are saying that the main reason for our unemployment situation is because so many married women are working. Who’s responsible for that, pray? Nobody but the men. They would go and have a fine, expensive war when nobody really wanted it, and after the males had been sent off to battle they were obliged to call upon women to help carry on industry and business. Then after it was all over and they tried to shoo us back home again, they found it- could not be done. The women liked their new work so well they did not want to return to domesticity. Then, too, they’re howling all the

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Mildred Rounds Wed in Rites at Christ Church Miss Mildred Rounds, daughter of Mrs. Emma R. Rounds, 220 Bast Nineteenth street, became the bride of Comight Stephenson, son of Mr. and Mrs. Harvey Stephenson, Bloomington, at 2:30 Thursday in Christ church, the Rev, Floyd Van Keuren officiating. Miss Margaret Jane Stephenson, Bloomington, was maid of honor. She toore black chiffon with accessories to match and a corsage of roses and delphinium. Dale Smith, Bloomington, was best man. The bride wore brown chiffon and brown accessories and a pearl necklace, the gift of the bridegroom. She wore a corsage of Johanna Hill roses and lilies of the valley. Mr. and Mrs. Stephenson have

gone on a motor trip through the east, the bride traveling in a Burgundy tweed suit with slippers, hat and accessoorles to match. They will be at home after Nov. 1 in Bloomington.

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