Indianapolis Times, Volume 40, Number 45, Indianapolis, Marion County, 13 July 1928 — Page 14
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‘Most Unhappy Wives’ Had Opportunity Before Marriage to Judge Men BY MARTHA LEE <4T AM the most unhappy wife in the world!” X A much too often heard phrase to make young folk matrimonially-minded, if they are young folk who pay attention to the experience of their elders. What is the trouble ? Is it an increasing dissatisfaction with the burdens and responsibilities of marriage? Is it an undefinable restlessness that is slowly making happy marriages
impossible ? I would say it was none of these things. It is a failure of the contracting parties to take into consideration the fact that there simply has to be companionship, like tastes, mutual points of interest. And the time to find those things out is before marriage—not after. Os course, persons change with time. The things that interest and amuse young boys and girls seldom hold charm for matured people. Tastes change, due to added responsibility, maturity, and much too often sheer ennui. But why not try to change together? Why not suit your tastes to one another? If they have been tested thoroughly before marriage and have not been found wanting, surely the adjustments can be easily made. Today I have a letter from one of these women who honestly believe themselves the "most unhappy wife in the world.” Do you know why she is that most desolate creature? Because her husband wants to stay home all of the time! That sounds cruel and unsympathetic. I do not mean it that way. I know it must be difficult for a pleasure-loving young wife to sit at home every evening. But how many women would given ten years of their lives for a husband who would just once a week do the thing that makes this woman so unhappy! How many women are there who long for the “pre-matrimonial” companionship of their life mates? Many, many more than there are women who are unhappy because of the home-loving instincts of their husbands. Here is the letter: Dear Miss Lee: I am the most unhappy Wife in the world. My husband never wants to go any place. *lf I ask him to take me out, he flies into a rage. He tells mei.that I ought to be satisfied. I realize thatxhe works hard, but I'm young. I want a little recreation. He never takes me any place and if I suggest going alone he tells me that I am going out to meet a man. We have a nice car and I would be content to Just go out for a ride In the evenings. I know that you will tell me I ought to be satisfied with a man that likes to stay home, but I do get so lonesome. PAT. Your husband apparently is, from your letter, a man who does tiring work. He perhaps needs his rest badly. Why not suggest, as a sort of compromise, that he take you out one Saturday night a month. If it is Saturday night he will have a chance to sleep Sunday morning. There won’t be any grouch to contend with the next day, then, to spoil the memory of a nice evening. Keep yourself attractive, so that he will be proud to take you out, my dear. Try, slowly and gently, to make him a sociable fellow. Give it to him in small doses so that he won’t mind it too much.
MAR YE and ‘MOM’ * m THEIR LETTERS Dear Mom: I am no glutton for punishment. Consequently, the little invitation you suggested I extend to my ancient cousins is out. A little of my life might do them good, but a little of their life would finish me. Here is one point where I disagree with you. I don’t believe in inviting people to visit you in a spirit of obligation or of charity. If I ask anyone to visit me, it means I really want them, and that I expect them to be good, congenial company. I seem to remember both of these cousins rather painfully from my childhood —women who always, sat around and waited for someone else to start something. Should they ever come to visit me of their own accord—that’s a different matter. I’ll do right by them. But I’m not a philanthropist, spreading joy and sunshine. I’m a selfish, modern woman, who is going to escape everything unpleasant every time she gets a chance. Anyhow, life is quite exciting now that I have ceased, temporarily, to be a careerist, and am being just a dangerous female. Fortunately, Alan is taking quite an interest in Alice Carver, and so he doesn’t notice that Mr. Shelton is taking quite an interest in me. You know, I have decided that I love intrigue for its own sake. Mr. Shelton has a tremendous interest in me just now, because, by all the conventions, he shouldn’t. If I were free and unattached, I’m perfectly sure that I wouldn’t think of him twice. When I see him and Alan together—and those two really like each other—l realize that Alan is much handsomer and younger, and much more my ideal of a man. But I like the idea of interesting him. For I have a feeling that I do it slightly against his will. I am sure he was violently in love with this girl whom I am supposed to resemble. It would be so easy for me to reduce him to a state of abject slavery—since it is all in the cards—that at times I feel I ought to resist the impulse and fight my own case where there is some wholesome competition. But other times, when Alan wants to play bridge, while the moon is out on the water, and I catch a certain far-away look in Brother Shelton’s eyes, I feel quite sure that there is no point in not facing the inevitable. All my love, mom, darling. MARYE. Missionary Returns Miss Marie Adams, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Henry Adams, Noblesville, for six years a missionary in China, will arrive home July 20 and will study in Boston, Mass., during her year’s furlough.
Home Scene of Evening Nuptial Rite The home of Mr. and Mrs. H. C. Winders, 341 N. Robton St., was the scene of the marriage at 7 Thursday evening of his sister, Misss Nelle Marie Winders, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. J. G. Winders, Arcadia, and Clarence W. Ryan, son of C. J. Ryan, 4316 E. Washington St. The Rev. Audrey H. Moore, pastor of the Seventh Christian Church, officiated before an improvised altar of garden flowers. Only members of the immediate families were present. Miss Gladys Cox, the bride’s only attendant, wore a white georgette dress with white hat and carried pink roses and sweet peas. The bride wore a white ensemble of georgette and a white felt hat. Her shower bouquet was of bride’s roses and lilies of the valley. After a motor trip through the east, Mr. and Mrs. Ryan will be at home at 111 E. Sixteenth St.
THE CONNOISSEUR
With a superhuman effort to arise and He had thought that he alone had missed In alarm he sees another in a jersey suit Here's another early 'riser in a suit of see the dawn, his early morning doze, of blue brown and tan Mr. Van de View has left his bed, sup- But discovers here another in a dreamy Which has fallen off the shoulders— Which is quite enough to dazzle the adpressing every yawn, sort of pose shocking Mr. Van de View— miring Mr. Van And although he’s rather sleepy, he’s re- Who is wearing a bewitching bathing But it's really not an accident—the back Who is taking quite a notion to arising warded with the sight, suit of crepe de chine is just undone. with the sun Feeling totally esthetic—an emotion of Whose confetti colored dots are gay ad- To expose the bather’s shoulders to the And discovering the way in which the delight. ditions to the scene. burning of the sun. mornings are begun.
Dinner Bridge to Be Tendered Bride of Aug. 1 Mr. and Mrs. John K. Goodwin and Dr. and Mrs. Oliver W. Greer, will entertain at the Goodwin home, 3601 Guilford Ave., Saturday, with a dinner bridge party in honor of Miss Sarah Elizabeth Shriber, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. R. G. Shriber, 2936 Broadway, whose marriage to Dr. Arthur G. Funkhouser will take place Aug. 1. Thursday the bride-elect will be honor guest at the Columbia Club, when Mrs. Rice Hambert and Mrs. Howard D. Wright entertain at a luncheon bridge party. Thursday Mrs. Haney E. Berry, 2521 Park Ave., entertained with a luncheon bridge party and linen shower in honor of Miss Shriber. The luncheon table was lighted with pink tapers and arranged with ferns and daisies. With Mrs. Berry and Miss Shriber were Mesdames Elmer Funkhouser, Ralph Funkhouser-, Howard D. Wright, Herbert Heckman, Adrian Aikman, Clifford Kearby, Rice Lambert, Williard Stevens, Dana Mobley, Jerome Turnkey, Harold Trusler, Edmund Haggard, Wallace French, John K. Goodwin, George Davidson, Levens Cady, Robert St. Pierre and Miss Florence Schwankhaus. Bunco, Birthday Party Miss Pauline Howard, 3615 College Ave., entertained Thursday evening with a bunco party in honor of the birthday anniversary of Stuart Strauss. The hostess was assisted by her mother. Mrs. E. Howard, and Mrs. L. Strauss. The guests were Misses Goldie Bernstein, Mary K. Campbell, Maxine Gwinn, Mary Carrier, Mary Buehler, Dr. T. M. Leonard, Messrs. Ben Levine, William Cookingham, Ralph Hawecutte, Ferdinand Cox and Mr. and Mrs. R. H. Aufderheide and Mr. and Mrs. Douglas Cooke. Informal Dinner Mr. and Mrs. James Woods. 3555 Evergreen Ave., entertained Thursday evening with an informal dinner in honor of Miss Margaret Finneran and Charles Dana Rollings whose marriage will take place Wednesday. Roses and delphinium were used on the tables. Covers were laid for Mr. and Mrs. Woods and son, James, Miss Finneran, her mother, Mrs. Thomas J. Finneran; Mr. Rollings, Mr. and Mrs. W. S. Rollings, Mrs. Rose Rollings, and Miss Marion Whitney. Honors Visitors Mrs. E. F. Raschig, 3504 Evergreen Ave., entertained with a luncheon bridge party, Thursday for the following out-of-town guests: Mrs. L. V. Bedell, Philadelphia, Pa.', Mrs. Charles Humphreys? Passaic, N. J.; Mrs. Edward Holstein. Grand Rapids, Mich., and Miss Helen Roeloff, Philadelphia. Pink roses and orchid sweet neaa carried cut the color scheme cm the luncheon tables.
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The jacket with this outfit is of white velvet, with modernistic black design. The skirt is alpaca.
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A COMFORTABLE SUIT FOR A SMALL BOY. 6211. Cotton broadcloth in blue or tan would be good for this development. The collar and facing*' may be in white or other contrasting color. The smock is buttoned under the shaped facing at the neck below a comfortable collar. Short sleeves, and “shorts” trousers make this style just right for warm weather. A convenient pocket trims the front of the smock, and real boy pockets are fitted into the trousers at the side opening. The trousers also have a fly. This pattern is cut in four sizes. 2,3, 4 and 5 years. To make the suit for a 3-year size will require one and seven-eighths of thirty-six-inch material. For facings on collar, cuffs, overlap and pocket of contrasting material one-fourth yard is required thirty-six inches wide. Card Party Catherine Merrill Tent No. 9, Daughters of Union Veterans, will . give a card*par.y ll r .n;’".v evening at Ft. Friendly, 512 N. Illinois St.
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Worth Uses Jewels The importance which jewelled ornaments play in the evening mode is indicated by a gown which Worth ha, just designed for a well known Parisian. This is of pale pink satin on most simple lines, the distinctive feature of which is the jewelled shoulder straps. The straps alone are worth S4OO and were designed by M. Worth himself and the stones cut under his direction. A large oblong imitation diamond rests on the shoulder and from it are two narrow strands of eight diamonds cut on the old fashioned rose pattern. Then comes a large emerald, then the double row of diamonds and so on, terminating in a twobranched ornament, combining emeralds and diamonds. M. Worth lately expressed his opinion that jewels will continue to be used extensively on evening gowns and worked in as a part of the frock design. Republicans at Frankfort The July meeting of the Indiana Women’s Republican Club will be held July 26, at the Frankfort Country Club, it was decided at a luncheon meeting of the board of directors at the Columbia Club Thursday for which Mrs. Margaret Dietrich, Lawrenceburg, vice president, was hostess. Mrs. Scott Shesnf this city and Mrs. Arthur McKenie, Frankfort, are In charge.
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City Nurses Visit 6,181 During June At the monthly meeting of the board of directors of the Public Health Nursing Association, held Thursday in the directors’ room of the Fletcher Savings and Trust Company, Miss Winkler, assistant superintendent, reported that 6,181 visits had been made to 1,683 patients during June; 3,117 of these visits were made on maternity cases, and a total of 149 new born babies was reported to the association for nursing care during the month; 610 visits were made to crippled children, nine of these reported by the Indiana University Social Service Riley Hospital. Four clinics were held at the American Settlement with an attendance of thirty-eight patients. The Jewish Federation is conducting a nutrition camp again this year and the Public Health Nursing Asssociation nurse did routine preliminary work before any child was allowed to go to camp and 101 visits were made to these children. Miss Edna L. Hamilton, superintendent of nurses, is at Teachers’ College, Columbia University, New York, for the summer session. She is studying further along public health lines in the nursing and health department. Those present at the meeting included Mrs. Ethel P. Clarke, president, and Mesdames William H. Insley, Benjamin T. Hitz, Robert Dorsey, Wm. A. Eshbach, M. C. Furscott, B. J. Terrell and Philander C. Lewis. Chiffon Flounce A long cape of black chiffon velvet has an eight-inch circular flounce around its lower edge of black chiffon. Its collar is chiffon, too. *
Sunrise On The Southampton Beach
Thomas Skeyhill, Lecturer, to Be on Program Here Thomas Skeyhill, nationally known lecturer, will fill two return engagements in Indianapolis in November, Mrs. S. E. Perkins, president of the Woman's Department Club, has announced. “Mussolini and the Black Shirts’’ is the subject on which he will talk at an evening meeting Nov. 13 in some large auditorium in order that guests of the club may hear him. At an afternoon meeting, Nov. 14, Mr. Skeyhill will address the club on “The Trojan Way.” Mrs. William Dobson will continue as program chairman for the coming year. Sorority Parties A Japanese ( garden and bridge oarty was given by the active Chapter of Delta Sigma of Indiana State, Terre Haute, Wednesday eve- ; ning, at the home of Miss Alberta ! Schnell. The committee in charge I consisted of Mildred Sleight, Shoals, president of the chapter; Alice Kepner, Rushville; Dorothy Soeder, Terre Haute: Louise Hall, Greercastle, and Martha Ritenour, Bloomington. Guests of honor were Misses Alva Hall, Clinton; Paula Pfeiffer, Terre Haute; Aline Callahan,- Brazil;
Bridal Party Dinner Set for Tonight Mr. and Mrs. Ward Hunt Dean, 3825 N. New Jersey St., will entertain this evening with a bridal dinner at Woodstock Club in honor of their daughter, Miss Martha Helen, and George Maynard Halverson, son of Mr. and Mrs. George F. Halverson, Madison, Wis., whose marriage will take place Saturday afternoon in the garden at the home of Miss Dean’s aunt, Mrs. Stuart H. Dean. The bridal colors, rose and green, will predominate in the decorations. With Mr. and Mrs. Dean, Miss Dean and Mr. Halverson will be Misses Emily Brossman, Betty Dean, Lorena McComb, Eleanor Allison, of Ft. Thomas, Ky., and Jeannette Halverson of Milwaukee, Wis.; Messrs. Arthur Loftin, James Glorn, H. H. Humphries, Luther Brooks and Dr. J. M. Collins. WOMEN ENTERTAINED AT BAR CONVENTION Women who are attending the meetings of the Indiana Bar Association in Ft. Wayne are being especially honored with social events. Thursday afternoon they were guests of the literature department of the Woman’s Club and this evening they will be guests at a dinner at which Judge Florence Allen, of the Ohio Supreme Court, will speak. They joined with the men at a luncheon today at the Country Club. Mrs. Arthur W. Parry is chairman in charge of plans for the women, assisted by, Mrs. Martin Luecke, Mrs. John Hoffman, Mrs. Ben Heaton and Mrs. Elwin Hulse. Bananas, oranges and canned cocoanut make a simple and very good dessert, especially when chilled a little before serving.
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Mary Leadler, Jasonville, and Josephine Swope, Terre Haute. The chapter will entertain with its annual boatride dance the evening of July 19. Miss Lillian Maxam, Terre Haute, is in charge.
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PERSONALS
Mrs. R. H. Sherwood, Sr., and granddaughter, Miss Alexander, will sail this week to visit Mrs. Sherwood’s daughter, Mrs. A. N. Connett, Jr., in France. Mrs. Richard Nording Stout, 29 W. Forty-Second St., and Miss Charlotte Gilman, 4360 College Ave., who sailed July 6 for Europe, were scheduled to arrive in Glasgow, Scotland, today. They will spend two months abroad. Mrs. Arthur L. Schmidt, 3115 Central Ave., left Thursday for Chicago and Milwaukee. , Bridge, Shower for Miss Wagnon, to Wed Aug. 1 Miss Alice Carter, 65 S. Audubon Rd., will entertain this evening with a bridge party and hosiery shower honoring Miss Marie Wagnon, whose marriage to George M. Hoster will take place Aug. 1. Appointments will be in shades of pink with gladioli and garden flowers used throughout the rooms. The hostess will be assisted by her mother, Mrs. A. B. Carter, and her sister, Miss Hope Carter. With Miss Wagnon, her mother, Mrs. A. B. Wagnon, and Mrs. J. Perry Hoster, the guests will be Misses Alice Wagnon, Mildred Cooke, Dortha Weaver, Rebecca Jones, Jean Davis, Ruth McKenzie, Marie Eiler, Margaret Finneran, Gladys Hackleman, Eleanor Dunn, Marion Whitey, Frances Thorp, Alice Ball, Jane Messick and Lenore Brandt. School Reunion Sixty-flve teachers and former pupils of No. 13 school in Hamilton County attended the annual school reunion Thursday. Zachariah Wells and Hiram Wells, teachers there flfty-one and fifty-two years ago, told of early experiences. Mrs) Lil-lian-'Smith, Miss Ruby Harden, Indianapolis; Miss Mabel Nichols, Zionsville, and Frank Stultz, Los Angeles, Cal., were on the program. New officers elected were Willard Hopkins, president; Emerson Conrad, vice president, and Mrs. Cora Hinshaw, secretary.
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.JULY 13, 1928
Proclaiming Woman as Mans Equal By United Press NEW ORLEANS, La., July 13. Feminine business leaders of America flung a challenge to their brother toilers in every field of human endeavor here at the tenth annual convention of the National Federation of Business and Professional Women’s Clubs. They not only proclaimed womeni the equal of men in any capacity from undertaker to financier, butj they warned that in the future men may find big business closed to them as it was closed to women a few years ago “My business is no man’s land/' said Miss Margaret Stewart, Ogden, Utah, head of a million dollar a year corporation and the woman—of Scotch birth and lineage—who introduced to America the idea of a local Dunn and Bradstreet. Miss Alice Englehardt, Detroit* Mich., whose income is between $50,000 and $60,000 annually, said: ‘“Three things have built my success : A firm determination to get ahead; an utter lack of fear of work, and an unmitigated conviction that women are as well and sometimes better able to direct big things as men.” Starting as a shoe clerk at $5 a week when she was 14 years old and with two years in high school. Miss Englehardt has risen to the place of secretary-treasurer of the corporation. “From the president down to the last office girl, every one of the employes are women,” she said. “I wouldn’t have anyone else ** said Miss Francis Gray, who conducts a dressmaking business in St. Louis, Mo. Miss Helen Havener, editor of The Independent Woman, official journal of the organization, had one comment to make on the inequality of men and women in any field: “If women do not have precisely the same chance as men—in any business or profession whatever—it is because they are soft and want softer fare than men feed on.” Miss Lena Madesin Phillips, New York, for two years president of the federation and identified with the organization since its birth, will be named as president for a third term at the annual election to be held here late today.