Indianapolis Times, Volume 40, Number 3, Indianapolis, Marion County, 15 May 1928 — Page 6

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Indianapolis Girl Being Smothered With Love of Parents Who Ban Dates BY MARTHA LEE TABLOID newspapers blazoned forth the story of a murder the other day. A woman had shot her husband with the unerring aim peculiar to infuriated females. “I did it because I loved him,” the tabloids quoted her as saying the next day. That was about the only defense she had when her case came to trial. She was convicted and now is waiting for the

slow wheels of justice to take their last turn. Today in Indianapolis a mother and father slowly are murdering their daughter. “We are doing it because we love her,’’ they say. The girl is 18 years old and naturally wants to have social contact with boys of her own set. But her mother and father forbid her to have dates with anyone under any circumstances and the girl with her life stunted, is rebelling against the imposition. The girl points out that her parents were married when they were 19 years old and then complains “and they won’t even let me see a fellow and I’m eighteen.” No doubt the parents’ marriage at such an early age was filled with difficulties. Probably they had to battle hard for an even break. Life was not good to them. And now they are making an effort to protect their daughter from life. They are sheltering her. She is being smothered to death with their love. That is not fair. Although a reasonable amount of protection and advice is essential—even a necessity—they should not try to live their daughter’s life for her. but should give her a chance to enjoy freedom. Perhaps she will bump into trouble occasionally. Who doesn’t? But each encounter will leave the daughter better able to go on living and coping with the problems of life. Under the present system of “paternalism” tne child is narrow and cramped. Give her freedom; she will expand and gain knowledge and she will be able to enjoy the fullness and richness of life. There is a law under which that wife in the first case was prosecuted; there is no law under which these parents can be brought to account. There should be. Here is the letter from the daughter; Dear Martha Lee: lam hoping you will answer this letter in your column. I believe I am the most discontented girl in Indianapolis. I soon will be eighteen years old and I'm not even allowed to have dates with fellows. It’s not because I don’t want to, occause I do. I'm not even allowed to speak to a boy. That's not right, because mother and dad were married when they were nineteen years old. There is a boy who comes by our street every day and we have become good friends. He asked me for a date not long ago. but I didn’t give it to him. How could 19 Lately he stops every morning and talks to me. I believe he understands. Miss Lee, really I do care for him. I could have dates, but if I have to be sneaking about it to mother and dad, I don’t want any dates at all. Miss Lee, I do all the cooking and house work and get my brother and sister ofT to school every day. At night I stay home with the young ones when mother and dad are out. , , . And after all the work is done, mother doesn’t seem to think I have done anything at all. Father sides in with her, and the children don’t even take my side either. I get nervous then and can't even talk. I just have to stand by myselr. If things don’t change shortly, I’m going some place where no one will know me, and I’m never coming back I’ll be happy then. LONESOME PAT. In the first place, Lonesome Pat. don’t run away from home. I did once and got as fay; as grandmother’s home seven bl*ks away. I was mighty glad to get back home again after one day. Obviously, my dear Pat, your parents are unfair, but you must remember that you are very young yet. It is true that they are smothering you with their love, but it won’t be long until they will give you more freedom. Be philosophical; cultivate a sense of humor. You know that your parents are wrong, but don’t fight with them about it. And you know, too, that this vigilance can’t last forever. The boy to whom you refer in your letter must be a fine young man. Keep his friendship, but don’t wind any silly romantic notions about his head. He isn’t young Lochinvar riding out of the west come to deliver you from the castle of the ogre. He is just that nice fellow from down the street. Take him for just that and nothing more. I admire your stand on sneaking out for dates without your parents’ permission. That is a marvelous attitude. Any girl with such a code of honor will be happy some day in spite of everything. Here is a girl who “spoke out of turn.” Dear Martha Lee: I am a girl twenty years old. There is a young fellow who works In this same building with me. He spoke to me once on the street and I snubbed him. . . _ I have regretted this since, but I can think of no way to let him know how

THE CONNOISSEUR An Evening Is Devoted To Ch arades At His House Party

Mr. Van de View is famous as an entertaining host. (He admits the fact himself although he doesn’t mean to boast) And this evening he has thought of an amusing thing to do With charades, depicting fashions that are popular and we w,

I feel. He has spoken to me once since then and I spoke. Since then he passes through the room in which I work without even glancin gat me. Cap you help me in any way? REGRETFUL. It is always the woman’s place to speak first and you should do that from now on. It wouldn’t be wise for your to go directly to the fellow and tell him you are sorry. That just wouldn’t work. I believe that in your own mind you are exaggerating the importance of the case. I’ll bet the fellow doesn’t even remember the incident on the street. Be nice to him and show him through your actions of friendship and courtesy that you are sorry. Here is a letter of comment on the case recently published in this column about the man who loved a girl in another town, but was forced to marry a girl in his own city. Dear Martha Lee: I am very much interested in a case similar to the one you published in The Times recently involving the man who thought he loved one girl, but duty demanded that he marry another. He could not have made such a mistake if he truly loved the out-of-toWn girl; no sacrice would have been too great to win her. But since he did make the mistake, there is no need adding insult to injury. He should stay with his wife and be the kind of a father he should be. even though he doesn’t love the mother. The child needs him and he must share the resopnsibllity of raising him. It is the only honorable means to erase a dishonorable act. He should tell the first girl the entire truth. Os course, it will hurt her, but the other Injury would be worse. (UNSIGNED.) - Here are expressions from readers on the “Nice Boy Feud.” The song goes “Let’s Talk About My Baby,” but this girt wants the tune changed to “Let’s Talk About ME, Baby.” Dear Martha Lee: I am writing in answer to the blonde, good-looking boy of eighteen. I am a brunette and nineteen. Maybe he thinks he is good looking, but modern girls do not prefer boys who praise themselves. We like %oys who praise us. They shouldn’t waste the praise on themselves. All girls don’t prefer dancing. All a nice girl demands is that you be a sport. Boys should be fair with girls and flatter them. I don’t smoke, nor drink, nor swear, and I’m fond of golf, swimming, tennis and enjoy picnics and fishing. I will not tolerate a girl or boy who has no respect. MISS BRUNETTE. Young People's Rally Four hundred young people attended the rally Monday night at Roberts Park M. E. Church, sponsored by the Marion County Yohng People’s Union. Paul Reid, toastmaster, introduced officersrof Marion County Council of Religious Education and State young people’s work, who spoke. . “ Talks on Orient “The more I see of millions of black and brown men in the Orient, the more I am led to wonder about the ultimate fate of the whites in the Occident,” Mrs. Demarchus C. Brown said in her lecture talk Monday night at Hollenbeck Hall. The lecture was under the auspices of the Indianapolis alumnae of Phi Beta Sorority, of which Mrs. Brown is a member. For Dentists' Wives Wives of Indianapolis members of the Indiana Dental Association will be hostesses for luncheon May 22 at the Columbia Club for wives of out-state members and wives of representatives from dental associations in Illinois, Kentucky, Michigan, Wisconsin and Ohio. Mrs. E. E. Voyles is chairman. Cards and Bunco The Altar Society of St. Anthony’s Parish will entertain with cards and bunco Wednesday afternoon and evening in the hall at 379 N. Warman Ave. Card Party Ladies of the Altar Society of St. Philip Neri Church will give a card party Wednesday at 2:30 p. m. in the auditorium on Eastern Ave. Mrs. Herman Zietlow is chairman. To JVed Soon Mr. and Mrs. Will Limes, Bridgeport, announce the engagement of their daughter, Linda, to Charles H. Crone, son of Mr. and Mrs. Leroy Crone, 1026 S. Pershing Ave. The wedding will take place soon. Mauve Underwear The blue vogue this spring for ensembles and suits has caused a new shade of underwear—mauve. A certain dull purply blue trims it.

First of all he does a weeping act in manner very tragic With a quantity of tears that overflow as if by magic, And the girls are quick to recognize the fashion he portrays— It is “tiers” and Mr. Van de View deserves a lot of praise. a

IN SHAKESPEARIAN RECITAL

Left to right, Miss Mary Elizabeth Cook, Mrs. Fred Miller, Miss Katherine Reiser.

These students of Mrs. Claude J. Stephenson’s School of Expression will take part in its fourth annual Shakespearian costume recital at the First Baptist Church Wednesday at 8 p. m. under auspices of the Other’s Bible Study

Lamps andLigh ts for Home Town Lecturer’s Topic Miss Helen G. McKinlay of the General Electric Edison Lamp Works gave the second of a series of talks on lamps and lights in the home this afternoon at the Woman’s Department Club under auspices of the American home department of the club. This morning Miss McKinlay spoke at Technical High School and at 1 this afternoon at Teachers’ College. Tonight she will broadcast a talk on lighting in the home over WFBM. Thursday evening she will speak at the meeting of the Business and Professional Women’s Club at the Woman’s Department Club. SLEUTHS RETREAT IN WOMAN'S CLUB ROW Bn United Press ATLANTA, Ga., May 15—Political affairs in the Atlanta Woman’s Club reach a crisis today. Club politics boiled over at the annual election of officers Monday when Mrs. Charles Goodman, the nominating committee’s choice, was “elected” and the president formally closed the meeting. But the dissenters, who had been clamoring for recognition and failed to get it, immediately went into session and elected Mrs. John R. Hornaday. Two city detectives were summoned in an attempt to restore order, but they left almost immediately, declaring the job “impossible.” The courst may be called to decide the question, former club officials declare. Meantime someone has put a big, Black padlock on the door of the President's office and noby can get in. Entertain Mothers Members of the Fidelis Club entertained their mothers with a theater party at English’s Monday evening. A framed mother motto was given to each mother and honor guest. Mothers who attended were Mesdames J. F. Ambuhl, F. W. Baker, G. B. Bushnell, B. C. Davis, Anna Shipp, T. H. Helsley, W. L. Hoy, J. S. Lofton, W. C. Mann. E. P. Mutch, G. Sanders, D. N. Swartz, Mary Watt and H. C. Wilson. Mesdames R. N. Allen, D. T. Noonan, K. Richardson and W. F. Swope were honor guests. Members present were Edythe Ambuhl, Nemlow Baker, La Verne Bushnell, Esther Davis, Jane Duddy, Katherine Hawk, Hazel Helsley Dorothy Hoy, Orlena Lofton, Evelyn Mann, Eleanor Mutch, Ruth Sanders, Marie Swartz, Carrie and Florence Wilson. Announce Wedding Announcement, is made of the marriage of Mrs. E. M. Cook and Amos M. Davis, 22 N. Keystone Ave., which took place in Greenfield last January. The couple is at home at 22 N. Keystone. Bridge Benefit Miss Kathleen Davison and Miss Maude Dollens, pledges of Beta chapter of Sigma Epsilon sorority, are in charge of a benefit bridge party to be given at the Marott tonight. Patriotic Societies The Federated Patriotic Societies of the G. A. R. will have a business meeting at 7:30 p. m. Wednesday followed by a card party at 8 p. m. at the Grand Army League, 512 N. Illinois St. Davis-Parsons The marriage of Miss Martha Parsons, daughter of Lester W. Part sons, Camby, and Cortland W. Davis will take place Thursday at the home of the Rev. Marion Jessup, MooresvHle.

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Then a friend he calls upon to come and help him play the dandy With some formal clothes and flowers and a box apiece of candy, Their appearance makes it easy to imagine what is meant— It’s the vogue for “bows” that Vandie and his helper represent.

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Class. They are, left to right, Mary Elizabeth Cook as “Helena” (“A Midsummer Night’s Dream”) ' Mrs. Fred Miller as “Caesar,” and Miss Katherine Keiser as “Celia” (“As You Like It”).

MARYE and ‘MOM’ nun THEIR LETTERS

DEAREST MOM: Just time for a word or two before I dash off to the office on an errand for Alan. He asked Florence to go but I don’t want to take her time for things like that when she’s leaving so soon. Besides, I really think I ought to drop a hint down there about the nuisance of telephone calls. Tha# girl, Alan’s new stenographer, must do her work with a typewriter in one hand and a telephone in the other. I told Alan I , thought she must be too emotional to be able to concentrate and he just grinned at me. Why is it that a wife can’t suggest anything about business to a husband without having him jump to the conclusion that her remark is prompted by jealousy? I haven’t seen this new girl, sa how could I be jealous of her? Anyway I’ve never been jealous, but I suppose I would if Alan gave me any cause for it. If I were of a jealous disposition I wouldn’t be willing for Norm? and Florence to trot around together, would I? Because even if I have no right to a share in Norman’s affections I feel that one never entirely closes the door that was open to a sweetheart or a lover. I might hear of Norman's marrying, and not turn a hair, but I must confess that I’d prefer not to come in direct contact with his happiness. Now I suppose I’ll call down a shocked torrent of criticism on my head for saying that. But it is the truth. It’s a mean little streak, but I think it’s in all of us who are honest enough to face it. Nothing but a matter of ego. And certainly if a person has no ego he has no personality. Who wants the definite proof of his ejection from a favored place in life, or another person’s heart, thrust upon him? For instance, no one, I presume, would want or expect to stay in the White House all his life, but don’t tell me that anyone could leave that beautiful place without regret. That’s what I mean about old lovers. You don’t want them and you wouldn’t want to keep them from finding a successor to you, but darned* if you would like to sit on the sidelines and watch your own eviction. Even if Florence hasn’t done so well with her boy friend she’s an attractive girl and far be it for me to say that Norman wouldn’t fall in love with her. So, with that possibility to face, I think I’m of a very magnanimous nature to permit her to “ghost” for me. Devotedly, MARYE. Party for Mothers Kodimo Club entertertained with a mother and daughter party Sunday at the Kirshbaum Community Center, 2413 N. Meridian St. A large tiered cake formed the centerpiece with tapers in the club colors of gold and blue at eacn end of the table. Gold and blue ribbons extending from the centerpiece led to each place card. Souvenirs to mothers were potted plants. The program included songs, poems, musical selections and quotations pertaining to Mother’s day. At Mothers' Class Dr. O. N. Torian will speak at the child study class for mothers of young children at the Teachers College Wednesday at 2:40 p. m. Dr. Torian will discuss the physical development of the child. Club Hostess Miss Alma Day, 4923 E. New York St., will be hostess for the Alpha chapter of So Fra Club this evening. Party Wednesday The Wednesday Afternoon Club will give a card party at Druid’s hall, 29 Vi S. Delaware St., Wednesday at 2:15 p. m. Mrs. Gertrude Kinnick is chairman.

Miss Dunlop Is Bride in Church Rite The Seventh Presbyterian Church was the scene Monday at 8:30 p. m. of the wedding of Miss Geraldine Dunlop, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. William Dunlop, 807 Lexington Ave., and Charles E. Fagin, son of Mrs. Mary Fagin. The Rev. Thomas Hunt performed the ceremony before an altar which was banked with ferns and palms. Preceding the ceremony, Raymond Forbes and Miss Ethel Foresee sang. Mrs. Robert Lentz, as matron of honor, wore green chiffon with hat to match and carried Ophelia roses. The bridesmaids were Miss Hattie Belle Shirley, who wore yellow crepe and Miss Roberta Land, wearing pink taffeta. Both carried bouquets of pink roses. The bride wore a gown of white taffeta fashioned with tight waist and full skirt. The skirt was completely covered with small ruffles. Her veil was caught with a band at the back of the head. She carried a shower of white roses. Robert Lentz was best man and the ushers were James Huffman and Wallace Slaughter. A reception at the home of the bride's sister, Mrs. L. W. Morris, 3022 E. Washington St., followed the service. The color scheme in the appointments were yellow, green and pink. The couple left on a wedding trip East and will be at home at 510 N. LaSalle St., after May 21.

GIRL ABOUT TOWN BY MARILYN

Believe it or not, the Tudor Hall bridge party at the Propylaeum a week from Wednesday has a couple of efficiency exeprts behind it—the chairman, Mrs. Morris Floyd and committeeman, Pat Hall Boone. Lilan Floyd has already coralled six tables and Pat—hold everything—has eleven. I have four to dispose of and if you know anybody, oh Lord, who wants to go places and do things tell them to call me up. That SIO,OOO Fredonia Allen Scholarship Fund is getting closer and closer to fulfillment. Did you notice our Propylaeum was mentioned in The Times last week as the place where Mrs. Benjamin Harrison stayed when she was in town? I think half my friends were running for precinct committeemen at the last election. After voting for Conrad Ruckelshaus, Dick Mcßride, Amelia Henderson and Francis Brosnan, I got tired and went home. Mrs. Jack Harding has discovered a perfect solution to that ghastly problem—spirng housecleaning. Putting young Jane in Tudor and tucking her husband gently but firmly under her arm, she went down to the Spink Arms for two weeks and turned the entire house and its responsibilities over to prof’ - sionals. The amazing ingenuity of the modern woman! Mrs. Alfred Allfring of Scarsdale, N. Y., is visiting her mother, Mrs. H. C. Gilchrist at the Spink Arms, and Mrs. Gilchrist will return to New York with her daughter. Mr. Foltz told me that Mr. and Mrs. Elliot Smith—Bertina, you know—are going abroad next month. And Mary Rose Himler leaves next week. Mrs. Louis Levey is going East Friday to her summer home at Bolton, Conn., to smell apple blossoms and eat asparagus steadily for two weeks and then she’s coming home again to enjoy her own garden. I hope the February thaw will have set in by that time. Bridge for Alumnae Alpha Gamma chapter of Delta Sigma Epsilon sorority of Teachers’ College will entertain tonight with a bridge party at the chapter house in honor of alumnae. The decorations will be in yellow, orchid and green. Miss Frances Jenkins is in charge. Alumnae who will attend are Misses Violet Grabhom, Jerry Koffee, Gwynne Wagner, Katherine Tacoma, Catherine Carson, Virginia Sutphin and Margaret Gertz. From California Mr. and Mrs. Burt Wright. Jr., have returned to their home, 301 E. Twenty-Fifth St., after a wedding trip to Hollywood, Cal., and Tia Juana, Mexico. Ih Hollywood they were guests of Mr. and Mrs. Roy Hatch, formerly of Indianapolis. Mrs. Wright was formerly Miss Ann Boyd. Social Club Party Winema Social Club will give a card parcy at Red Men’s Hall, Roosevelt Ave. and Sixteenth St., this evening.

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YOUNG PIANIST ON PROGRAM

Helen Starast, 13-year-old pianist, will play Thursday evening at the dinner of the Internatio n a l Travel and Study Club, She is a Shortrid g e High School student. Her parents name from Finland. When Paderew ski was here recently, Helen played for him, and he pronounced her exceptionally talented and predicted a great future for her. She will include his “Minuet" in her group of numbers.

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Pi Phi Mothers' Officers Officers elected for the Pi Beta Phi Mothers’ Club at the luncheon meeting Monday at the chapter house are: Mesdames S. J. Carr, president; R. A. Barnard, first vice president; D. R. Batty, second vice president; J. W. Thompson, corresponding secretry; Lew Hill, recording secretary; F. S. Chiles, treasurer, and H. C. Ryker, publicity chairman. Discuss Working Hours The Wednesday noon luncheon group of the Indianapolis Business and Professional Women, meeting in the green dining room at the Y. W. C. A., from 12 to 1 p. m„ will have an informal discussion of the limitation of hours for women in industry. Representative industrial and business women will present various points of view.

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Bridge Tea for Sister Mrs. J. G. Brannum, 3551 Washington Blvd., entertained with a bridge tea Monday afternoon honoring her sister, Mrs. Erwin Coburn, who will motor to New York Thursday to sail May 26 for Europe. The guests were: Mesdames Morris Floyd, Alta Pruitt, Lela Huey, J. C. Jackson, Paul Brown Edward Beggs, Owen Pickens, Albert Hurst and Miss Bereniece Reagan. Speaks at Knightstown Miss Annie Moore Daughtry, Y. W. C. A. Girl Reserve secretary, spoke Monday evennig at the Girl Reserve mother and daughter banquet in Knightstownon “The Work of Girl Reserves.” Ladies of the Gatling Gun Club will give a bunco party at the club house, 709 N. Illinois St., Friday evening.

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Holdlndiana Session Here Sorority Will Kappa Kappa Sigma sorority will open its eighth annual State convention Saturday afternoon afi Hotel Lincoln with Alpha chapter of Indianapolis, as hostess. Following the meeting a banquet will be served in the Travertine room, where places will be laid for 100 guests. Speakers will be Howe Landers, and patrons and presidents of each chapter. Following the banquet each chapter will give a stunt which will be followed by bridge. Chapters attending the convention will be Alpha, Indianapolis; Beta, Chalmers; Epsilon, Martinsville; Zeta, Connersville; Eta, Rushville; Theta, Columbus; lota, Bloomington, and Kappa, Mooresville. Members of Alpha chapter in charge of convention arrangements, are Misses Florence Wilson, Helen Wiebke. Mary Shelby, Eleanor Mutch. Margaret Yutmeyer, Clarissa. Robertson, Mabel Cox, Naomi Wurgler, Thelma Sawyerfi, Alvcna Held and Mrs. Alice R. Ball. Patrons and patronesses will be Mr. and Mrs. Earl Weise, Mr. and Mrs. A. A- Glokzin, Connersville, and Mr. and Mrs. George P. Reed, Indianapolis. CLUB PLANS PROGRAM FOR MOTHER'S I)AY\ The Arnica Club will meet Wednesday evening with Mrs. Roy Egbert, 2601 Roosevelt Ave., when a Mother’s day program will be givenMrs. Bert Everhart will read a paper on “Mothers of Yesterday;” Mrs. Egbert on “Mothers of Today," and Mrs. Earl Spiegle, “Mothers of Tomorrow.” Miss Daisy Harmening will give a group of Mother's day readings, and Miss Mary Elizabeth Coulter will sing about Mother’s day. Responses to roll call will be "Memories.” Dinner, Theater Party Mrs. Linneas C. Boyd, Woodstock Dr., will entertain at dinner Friday evening at the University Club, followed by a theater party in honor of Mr. and Mrs. Philip Boyd, Palm Springs, Cal., her house guests.